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Are you using discipline towards yourself as a motivator? Or at least hoping that it will motivate you? So many of us have been using that motivational "stick" for years... maybe even decades... without really being successful. We keep trying and say to ourselves: If I can be tougher on myself, it would work..." Or "I'm just too soft... if only I could be tougher"… and we keep trying. We keep shaming ourselves, beating ourselves up or punishing ourselves for "bad" behaviors in the hopes that it will finally work. Where did we learn this concept? That harsh discipline is the best behavioral change method... likely how we were raised, right? Is that the way you were taught to be a good girl? Let's be real honest here... How's that "being tough" on yourself working for ya? Not so good right... so, what can we do instead? In this episode I discuss  What self-loathing and self-criticism really do to you Where the belief  "I need to be tougher on myself" come from How your parents or caregivers impact the way you

Back Pain: Game-Changing Approach Chances are you are one of the 31 million Americans experience low back pain at any given time. Low back pain is the single leading cause of disability worldwide, according to the Global Burden of Disease 2010. When I asked my community members what the top reasons were why they eat beyond hunger, chronic pain came in second. That feedback motivated me to share my own journey with pain in episode 138 "Things I'm afraid to tell you" but I hadn’t share with you how I healed my low back... that's what I'm going to tell you in today's episode. Steven Ozanich, author of The Great Pain Deception will share with us the work of Dr. Sarno and TMS approach to pain... particularly, low back pain. Here's the thing... this approach to healing pain requires no surgery, medication or expensive treatment. The solution is within you right now... In this episode I discuss  What TMS is and how it could possibly change the way you interact with chronic pain Why TMS is not public as a method of

"I just want to be able to eat a damn piece of cake of my B-day without feeling like I'm going to die!" How to get over a lot of the food fear we have developed over the years of dieting or partaking in nutrition education or food philosophy diet? What about fructose and fruit... should I feel like I'm killing myself by eating an orange? Or what about eating a croissant with white flour... why do I feel so terrible about myself for wanting one? Today, we answer Kacie's question about food anxiety by looking at how we create the food anxiety and what we could do instead to still care for our health via our nutrition but not stress about it!  In this episode, I discuss  What is food anxiety and how do we solve it? The root cause of food anxiety What role does perfectionism play in your life? What is the 80-20 rule and where can you apply it? The different ways to look beyond food anxiety   Read More: Find Freedom from Food Cravings for Good: A 4-Step Solution   Last episode was a vulnerable one. I shared with

There are some things I'm afraid to tell you... things I know I have to share with you but have been afraid to do so. Afraid of your rejection... being afraid of losing you. This is my left brain fighting my right brain. I know sharing will be nothing but positive and will make us closer. You, the listener, the reader, the follower... but at the same time, my left brain is telling me: Are you crazy?... You can't tell them that! What are they going to think of you!... NO! So, I have been having this internal battle for some time now and I took a leap a few weeks ago in show 135 and share with you my body image challenges and publicly shared a picture of me in a bathing suit... and I survived. Actually, I thrived. Your support, feedback, comments were awesome. Not one negative word... I love you guys! So, today's episode is a continuity of this... fueled by you and your reaction to my sharing my body image challenges. The impact that me sharing my truth had on some of you... the while #bodyneutrality movement w

Finding Time for Self-Care Problem One of the most common objections I face with new clients and patients is "I just don’t have the time to xxxx". Fill in the xxx with any activity that is exclusively focused on you or your well-being. You feel like you don’t have the time to get IT all done let alone self-care... seems so far-fetched. How to find time for self-care, movement, and relationship and improve yourself. Here's the thing... if you, just like me years ago, you think you don’t have the time to care for yourself and health, think again because it’s not a question of having the time; it’s a question of making it. This one single realization could be the key to finding the time to care for yourself and maybe, just maybe have the time for self-improvement.   In this episode I discuss  The 4 important concepts to help you reframe your relationship to time so that you can self-care Why shouldn't you be really proud of having the "busy badge" - Is this you? The real reason why you're not making time for se

If you think that being perfect is still the best strategy in your attempt to reach your goal, you need to listen to this audio. If you have been trying to be perfect and are tired of striving for perfection... You too need to listen to this audio.  For years, I've attempted to be perfect in all parts of my life... work, relationship and weight. Did it work? Well in part: Work: yes; Home: yes... Relationship: no;  Weight: no    And then one day, I realized via a lot of self-development work that I was perfect as I was right then and there... now. It was a journey to unlearn the thinking pattern but it worked.   That’s what I'll share with you today: Why being perfect shouldn’t be your goal and what to aim for instead. And lastly, the 3-step process to overcome the need to be perfect!  In this episode I discuss  Who must give you permission to be imperfect? What to do when you feel fear of being found out? Where the feeling of fear of being imperfect come from and how they impact our relationship to food and

I posted this photo of myself in a bathing suit on Instagram last week and wrote a short post on my thoughts... Never expecting what happens next.  Body Neutrality is a concept we teach in the Going Beyond the Food Academy. It’s a liberating new concept in which you accept your body for what it is without judgment and hoping for better. Not good, aka body positivity; NOT bad, body shaming. In the middle. Neutral. Grateful for what your body does for you without wanting to brag about it. For most women, body shaming is what they have learned from their own mothers or families and what they are being told by social media so that's all they know. That's all I knew.  I used to swim with a big t-shirt and shorts because I accepted that my body was ugly and I needed to hide it.  Body neutrality is wearing the bathing suit in which you feel comfortable going swimming and having fun. Living your life without feeling shame for your body. It's acceptance without judgment.  Today, we are going to break down this concept

Why do I continue to do things when I know they’re going to cause me grief?  I 've asked myself this question for years and thought something was deeply wrong with me. I wasn't able to stop eating chips... It's like my mind was possessed by someone else. I would do it knowingly I was to regret it after and wished I didn’t do it. Why is that?  I found the answer to my question and I felt so relieved that it wasn’t actually something wrong with me but instead it was because of my subconscious mind and that I could fix it! That’s the same question Rain sent me... Ready? Let's dive into why we do things we know will not help us achieve our goals and what we can do about it. In this episode I discuss  The powerful role your subconscious mind plays in all your food decisions How your current situation is serving you in some way – Is it the ‘more’ beneficial way? How important is self-love in decision-making towards doing things that can cause you grief? Why your “Why” is so important   Read More: Self-Sabotage: W

Night time eating is real. You aren't alone! Night time cravings are something that most of us had experienced if not experiencing right now! Night time eating is such a problem these days that it's actually been made into a disease: The Night Eating Syndrome (NES).  Crazy, right?!  How do we stop it, prevent it and cope with night time eating desire (aka cravings)?   With anything we need to "heal", I apply the same formula... Find the root cause(s) (the reason why IT is occurring) and find a solution to address the cause(s) in this case of night time eating.  If you are looking for x tips to suppress your nighttime cravings... this is not what this is going to be about.  We are going to understand what causes night time eating and then help you "heal" that so that nighttime eating is not an "issue" anymore.  Ready?  In this episode I discuss  Why night time eating is classified as a disease How resisting your physical hunger will only worsen your night time eating The importance of respecting and listening

How many times have you tried making a promise to yourself to change an old behavior in some way, and then didn't follow through?   From the bottom of your heart, you want to make a change. You are really tired of X and enough is enough. You make the decision to change X negative habit and start doing X instead.    In our world it maybe about stopping overeating… or eating at night. You want it so bad but after a couple days it gets harder and harder... And then, you don't follow thru.   Are you aware that not doing what you say you want to do is generally due to what I call Self-Sabotage?     In this episode I discuss  The 5 Steps on How to Follow Through and Make You Stick with It Understand that it’s normal to not follow through at first. It’s self-sabotage! Accept and be Compassionate - to not fall in the downward spiral of shame and guilt Understand the Intention behind what you’re trying to change that needs follow through. Is it from a place of lack or abundance? Recognizing yourself when you actually

"I can’t figure out why I overeat and it's so frustrating". This question of Emma is a very common question. The answer is easy and it's inside of you. There are tools to help you find this answer... Most women have a good handle on food. More often than not, we make the best choices possible in selecting food and determining how much we should eat. Yet, we still overeat despite knowing the reason why we do it. But, is the reason that we are thinking the real cause of our overeating? You are probably thinking, “If it’s not the real reason, then how do I figure out why I overeat?” In this coaching episode, you will learn how to find the root cause of overeating. This is very important because only you can know what they truly are. In this episode I discuss  What is overeating and how to find the reason why we overeat? What are the four bodies of a human being and which ones are often neglected when it comes to overeating? The reasons why we only look at our physical body when dealing with food The technique t

If I say that there is a close link between your cravings and love, every lady would agree... but what about our sexuality? Dr. Meuth explains why the level of satisfaction and pleasure we find in our sexual life has a direct impact on our desire for food... at least for emotional eaters which most of us are. Dr. Meuth will teach us a process to raise our feminine essence that will lead to a more fulfilling sex life and less cravings... for chocolate!  In this episode I discuss  The relationship between sexuality and emotional eating The importance of sexual pleasure and intimacy to women What is feminine essence and why women try to suppress it The reason to reconnect with our sexual feminine selves and how to do it Why our relationship to food should not dictate our sexuality Last episode , I had a very insightful conversation with Dr. Kari Anderson. We talked about food insecurity and how it directly affects our relationship to food. She also explained how the simple thought of deprivation can set a cha

Food insecurity is the state of being without reliable access to food not just lack of quantity but also of choices and nutrition. It doesn’t have to be real... the simple thought of deprivation can set a chain reaction in your brain that will drive cravings, binging or overeating. Dr. Kari Anderson is taking us through step by step how this happens into our mind and provide one of the most efficient solutions to not only prevent but heal food insecurities. In this episode I discuss  Brain & Eating: The neurological and biological reasons why we turn to binge eating Food Insecurity and how it affects our relationship with food How we can solve overeating and binging by Mindful Eating The best source of motivation for a lasting sense of accomplishment What is Body Neutrality and how it will make a positive impact on your personal goals Last episode is a live coaching session with Dana, a high performing lady in most areas of her life, but food and body. That area of her life is filled with ups and downs

This coaching call is about understanding what triggers your individual ups and downs so you can better manage these situations. Many women who struggle with their relationship to food and body are high performers in most areas of their lives but food and body. That area of their lives is filled with ups and downs. Through self-awareness and intuition, Dana will discover her own solution but starting with getting clear on your intention behind the choice you make is key in understanding your triggers. In this episode I discuss  Learning the method of achieving balance with life's highs and lows and enjoy life more How reconnecting physically to your body is key in achieving balance in life How you can use the highs and lows to your advantage Why you should treat your relationship to food as if it's your relationship to a person Practical tools to stop going down the negative spiral and how to use them Last episode, I talked about solving the overeating problem and the solution that many find too easy to be

Solving the overeating problem comes down to one thing and one thing only: Feeling. Feeling the emotions that are present in us and resisting the urge to fight the emotions. I know it seems too simple to be true..., but it is... In this episode I discuss  The real reason why we binge, overeat and crave What is the real solution to overeating The key element behind your solution to overeating What creates the spark of transformation with our food behaviors How the "feel don't fight" method make emotions go away The 4-step process on how to recognize the sensations and get acquainted with your body to finally eliminate craving, binging and overeating Last episode , I had a live coaching session with Karen and we find a solution for her question, "How do I handle people who seem to purposely sabotage me?" I highly recommend you listen in because this can also be the solution to your problem with dealing with people around you who don't seem to understand what you're working on and seem to sabotage your effort

Do you feel like the world has a mission to sabotage you? Just like your partner does it on purpose to bring home this ice cream cake… Karen had this same question for me: How do I handle the people around me who either A: don’t seem to understand what I’m working on or B: seem to purposely sabotage. I talked it through with Karen and find the easiest solution for her… In this episode I discuss  Perception… and how it can make a dramatic change in every aspect of your life How you should treat difficult life experiences and people rather than as an enemy Understanding self-compassion versus people-pleasing and how they can impact your behavior and how to handle people around you The reason why you need to ditch the “good little girl” syndrome Powerful tools on how to handle people who seem to sabotage you How to practically use the tools to shift your actions towards achieving your goals Last episode , I taught you how to differentiate emotional hunger from physical hunger. This episode is truly essential