Beyond Burnout - Life Management For Working Moms

Show BB011 Quick Guide This is a fun episode designed to give you several ideas on great ways to spend time as a family.  You’re bound to hear something you haven’t heard before and that your family will love.   HELP ME SPREAD THE WORD! I would love it if you shared Beyond Burnout Podcast with your fellow working moms on twitter.  Click here to tweet some love!  Also pass this on to a friend.   Show notes  http://beyondburnout.com/11     Want me to answer a question?  Call the show at 404-465-2399 or email me at drmarks@beyondburnout.com  

Show BB010 Quick Guide Fish oil is gaining popularity as a supplement.  You probably have heard a lot about taking it, but why do you need it?   This podcast answers this questions as well as other such as: Why is flaxseed not the best source of it? Why should you avoid using cod liver oil? What should you look for in choosing the right brand?   HELP ME SPREAD THE WORD! I would love it if you shared Beyond Burnout Podcast with your fellow working moms on twitter.  Click here to tweet some love!  Also pass this on to a friend.   Show notes  http://beyondburnout.com/10     Want me to answer a question?  Call the show at 404-465-2399 or email me at drmarks@beyondburnout.com  

Show BB009 Quick Guide This episode is based on a listener question about a 15 year old girl who is withdrawing from her parents.  Her father is concerned that she no longer wants to spend much time with them.  He also wants to know when he should be concerned that she has a more serious problem.   Normal Adolescent Development It is a normal part of development for adolescents to distance themselves from their parents as part of a process of separation and individuation.  At this time your child needs to establish his own identity and decrease his dependence on you for his self-esteem and standards of conduct.  Up until know, children learn by watching and imitating.  But at this stage it’s about doing what I want to do and not just do what my parents do.  So internally they question the things they have learned and make an active decision to internalize it or not.   Teenage Depression A depressed teen may look different from a depressed adult.  They may sleep for longer periods, engage in cutting behaviors,

Show BB008 Quick Guide Waving your kids off to college is undoubtedly a bittersweet moment. You're proud that your children are on their way to adulthood. Nevertheless, you're saddened by the fact that they'll soon be off in a dorm room with strangers rather than home in their beds.   Even though the moment isn't here yet and you're trying to soak up every second available with your children, it's important to plan for what is to come rather than simply ignoring it. Your kids will be in college soon. Therefore, now is the time to develop a plan to help you cope with the sadness of the separation.   Here are three techniques to help you prepare for the empty nest: 1. Look forward to enjoying your newfound freedom. While your kids are enjoying their freedom away at college, you too can rejoice in your newfound freedom away from the kids and their limiting schedules.    2. Reconnect with your spouse. After raising the children for so many years, living alone with your spouse is something that may feel new to you

Show BB007 Quick Guide In the life of a busy mom it’s very easy for your relationship with your husband to become very lackluster because of the years of putting so much focus on the family logistics.  How do you get that excitement back when you’re still busy?   The answer is to make small changes in how you show love that make big differences in how you and your spouse feel about each other.  These tips are based on a book by Gary Chapman called The 5 Love Languages.   He proposes that there are five ways in which people feel love: Words of Affirmation  Acts of Service Receiving gifts Quality Time Physical touch We all have a tendency to show our spouse love the way we need to be loved.  Many times, this is not the way he needs to be loved and vice versa.  If you can correctly identify each other’s love languages, you can better meet each other’s needs and bring back that spark to keep the excitement flowing.   Listen to the podcast for an explanation of the love languages and how you can get your needs m

Show notes  http://beyondburnout.com/6 Want me to answer a question?  Call the show at 404-465-2399 or email me at drmarks@beyondburnout.com Show BB006 Quick Guide How often should you see your primary care doctor and what should he/she be doing with you? When should you start getting screened for breast and cervical cancer? What makes you at higher risk for colon cancer? When should you get your first colonoscopy? What are the substitute tests for a colonoscopy? How often should you get your skin examined? How often should you see your dentist?   I answer all of these questions for you.  I also have a handy guide that you can download in the show notes.  HELP ME SPREAD THE WORD! I would love it if you shared Beyond Burnout Podcast with your fellow working moms on twitter.  Click here to tweet some love!  Also pass this on to a friend. If you don’t already have it, get your copy of my Busy Working Mom’s Organization Guide.

This episode discussed the common problem of having a busy mind that keeps you stressed.   Dr. Marks teaches you three strategies: 1. Use a Problem Solving worksheet 2. Slow your breathing 3. Listen to binaural beats music   Dr. Marks also answers a listener question about who should and should not take medication for ADHD.   Go to the show notes at http://beyondburnout.com/5 for a free copy of a problem solving worksheet to get started.

There is a popular Dolly Parton song from the '80s called "Working 9 to 5." At the time the concept of working 9 to 5 seemed standard. Today, you may not be able to keep your job if you expect to only work 9 to 5.  With the Internet, smart phones and tablets, you can work from anywhere at any time. Even if you are not working, you can take in new information, read articles, etc., in the 30 seconds you are stopped at a traffic light. Even though surfing the Internet and keeping up with friends on facebook may be fun, it does have the net effect of producing too much mental stimulation, which can wreak havoc on your body.  Let's look at Lisa. Lisa is a 38-year-old project manager who is on target to become a director at her company. She loves her work, but complains about having trouble keeping up with her responsibilities since the recent reorganization that left her team one person short. She has trouble completing tasks and usually needs to bring work home in the evening. In response to her complaint of "not

Anyone that has to deal with negative people on a regular basis knows just how challenging it can be. All the complaining and ‘doom and gloom’ talk can really sap your energy and patience. At the conclusion of a mere 15-minute conversation, it can feel like the life has been sucked right out of you. The good news is you can lessen the effects of their negativity by coming up with a plan to deal with this challenge. Try these strategies:  1.     Be objective. It’s important not to take the negative person’s comments personally. Recognize that they’re pessimistic most of the time and take an unhelpful perspective of most things. They can be so absorbed by their negative thoughts that they have a difficult time being tactful. ·      In reality, you might feel a little sorry for them. Aren’t you glad that you don’t carry the same negative attitude about life? It’s difficult to be upset with someone when you feel sorry for them. 2.     Keep the conversation light. It can be very helpful to steer the conversation

Burnout can manifest physically and mentally Mental symptoms can manifest as the following: feeling uninspired in your work   irritability cynicism boredom losing focus easily overwhelmed like everything is hard Physical symptoms can be: utter exhaustion slogging through the day achy muscles heavy limbs People have researched burnout and published on it and one of the popular researchers is Dr. Christina Maslach.  She’s a sociology professor at University of California, Berkeley. She came up with a construct of 6 factors that contribute to workplace burnout. work overload lack of control of your work insufficient rewards workplace community problems lack of fairness (ex. Unequal pay/workload) conflict between personal values and job requirements   Dr. Maslach is particularly focused on workplace burnout which is a huge player in how people can get burned out.  But I’m proposing that as a working mom, even if you don’t have these these things going on in your workplace, you can still get burned out just

As a working mom, we all have at least two jobs – the one you get paid money for and then your family  where it’s a different kind of payment.  With these two jobs it’s easy to overextend yourself and get burned out. Sometimes the answer is you need to cut back on some things.  But what if you can’t just quit your job or tell your boss you’re only going to work 8 hours?  What if you don’t have those options?  I strongly believe with careful attention to your physical and mental health, you work your two jobs with maximum efficiency and still feel good.  With this podcast, I plan to teach you how to care for yourself in way that you can operate at your best.  The way you think really impacts how you feel and act.  The mind is powerful and you can really think yourself into hole.  At the end of each episode, I plan to give your positive affirming thoughts that you can rely upon for the rest of your week.