Divorce Conversations For Women

In this episode of Disrupting Divorce, Rhonda sits down with Brett Ward, a nationally recognized family law attorney and litigation leader at Blank Rome, to unpack a topic that many people have never heard of: alienation of affection. But this conversation goes far beyond one legal concept. Together, Rhonda and Brett explore when mediation works, when it does not, and why so many people find themselves stuck in divorce processes that are not actually serving them. They talk candidly about power imbalances, lack of financial transparency, the importance of legal strategy, and what clients should be looking for in the professionals guiding them through divorce. They also dive into how social media is shaping modern family law cases and why public humiliation can intensify already painful situations. This is a grounded, insightful conversation for anyone navigating divorce and trying to understand their options more clearly. In This Episode, We Cover: What "alienation of affection" means and why it still exists

In this eye-opening conversation, Rhonda sits down with Al Huntoon — a former custody mediator and co-parenting coach — to uncover what most people (and professionals) miss when it comes to high-conflict custody battles. Al shares the blind spot he discovered after working with thousands of families: in many high-conflict custody cases, one parent is driving the conflict, while the other is simply responding to it. This dynamic is often misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or overlooked entirely — and it's costing families time, money, and peace. Together, Rhonda and Al explore: How to identify asymmetric conflict in custody and co-parenting Why one-size-fits-all solutions like "parallel parenting" can backfire The role of emotional literacy and intentionality in navigating custody conflict Why assertiveness is a learned skill — and critical for collaboration How vague custody agreements create loopholes for high-conflict behavior Tools and tech to help you respond strategically instead of reactively Wh

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Rhonda sits down with therapist and author Oona Metz to talk about the emotional journey of divorce — and how to move through it with clarity and compassion. Oona shares her five-phase model for navigating divorce grief, built from decades of work with women in group therapy settings. Whether you're newly separated or deep in the healing process, this conversation will help you name what you're feeling, understand what's normal, and take the next right step with confidence. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why heartbreak is the starting point of every divorce journey — even if you initiated it What it really means to "feel it to heal it" (and why it's not optional) The difference between therapy groups and coaching groups — and why facilitation skills matter How to move from grief to growth in Oona's 5-phase model: Heartbreak Emotional Rollercoaster Mending Letting Go Moving On How group support reduces isolation and accelerates emotional healing

In this insightful episode, Rhonda sits down with Georgia-based attorney and author Bree Sullivan-Howell to unpack the emotional and legal realities of navigating divorce. From keeping your strategy private to the power of preparation, this conversation offers clear, actionable guidance for women in the thick of the process. Bree shares hard-earned wisdom on: Why empowering clients with homework is key to long-term confidence How oversharing—even with friends—can hurt your case The emotional traps to avoid when communicating with your ex How to prepare for court with clarity, calm, and compelling evidence Why being "the voice of reason" in court is often your best legal strategy How to build and protect your inner circle during this pivotal time The underestimated power of silence—and when to use it You'll also hear faith-based encouragement and a few of Bree's favorite quotes and verses that have carried her—and her clients—through the toughest chapters.

This week's episode is powerful, personal, and packed with resources. Rhonda sits down with Heather Kutz, a wireless industry expert with nearly two decades of experience, to explore how mobile phones can either empower or control—especially for women navigating domestic abuse. What You'll Learn: The red flags that your phone may be used to surveil or control you How shared phone plans can lead to financial and tech entanglement What the Safe Connections Act is—and how it helps survivors regain privacy Signs your phone may have spyware or tracking software installed Simple steps to protect your digital privacy

In this episode of Disrupting Divorce, Rhonda sits down with Dyna Vink, a Certified Integrated Health Practitioner and expert in perimenopause and menopause support. They dive into a critical but often overlooked topic: how hormonal shifts intersect with the emotional rollercoaster of divorce. If you’re navigating the end of a marriage while also feeling off—emotionally, physically, or mentally—this episode will give you clarity, validation, and practical next steps. What You'll Learn: Why so many women hit perimenopause right as marital stress peaks The 4 major symptoms that could be derailing your progress (and how to fix them) Why traditional medical tests often miss the mark What functional medicine can reveal about your hormones, gut health, and more Practical strategies to improve sleep, energy, mood, and metabolism How mindset—and the words you say to yourself—can change your experience Why now is the perfect time to start putting yourself first

What does it really take to “disrupt divorce”? In this episode, Rhonda sits down with Jordan Rosenberg, a family law attorney from the Chicago area who believes the attorney–client relationship should be a true partnership — built on open communication, trust, and collaboration. Together, they pull back the curtain on what most attorneys wish their clients knew and how women can take a more empowered role in the process. You’ll hear insights on: Why viewing your lawyer as a partner — not just a service provider — changes everything The power of organization (and how small clues, like a $5 savings account, can reveal much bigger financial issues) Why “the smartest people know when to ask for help” — and how that applies directly to divorce The importance of building the right team: legal, financial, and emotional support How to set realistic expectations — without slipping into worst-case-scenario thinking Why “trusting the process” doesn’t mean handing over control, but staying actively engaged Jordan also

Prenups aren’t romantic, but they are powerful. In this episode, NY matrimonial attorney Evan Schein explains what a prenup can and cannot do, why early conversations matter, and how precise drafting prevents costly fights later. We talk disclosure, fairness, and how to keep agreements current as life changes. What you’ll learn What a prenup is, and isn’t: A financial agreement signed before marriage that can cover assets, debt, and spousal support. In New York, it cannot set child support, kid expenses, custody, or parenting terms. Disclosure that holds up: Why both partners should list assets, accounts, businesses, and premarital property with as much detail as possible. Separate vs. marital property: How to define each, and why you must specify how income from a separate business is treated during marriage. Fairness and enforceability: Factors courts look at later, including independent counsel, full disclosure, and whether terms were unconscionable then or now. Avoiding the “muddy middle”: Clear drafting

Divorce makes college planning more complex. In this episode, Vicki explains the 2024 FAFSA changes, student loan rules, and how to find scholarships that actually make a difference. She also shares client stories where strategic planning saved families thousands—even hundreds of thousands—on college costs. What you’ll learn Why the parent providing more financial support (not the custodial parent) now files the FAFSA  How CSS Profile schools may require financial info from both households Student loan basics: limits, subsidized vs. unsubsidized, and upcoming changes for parents Smart scholarship strategies—what to prioritize, what to skip, and how to avoid wasted effort The impact of remarriage on financial aid and why timing matters With the right strategy, you can lower college costs, protect your retirement, and reduce conflict during and after divorce. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

Vocational assessments can shape spousal support and earning-capacity debates. Rhonda and Dan unpack what credible reports look like, how to prepare, and how to challenge numbers that don’t match reality. What you’ll learn in this episode: ✨ Purpose & scope: Employability, realistic job options, training needs, and reasonable earnings. ✨ Data that matters: Social Security earnings, medical narratives, education, work history, and daily commitments.  ✨ Prep moves: What to bring, how to show up, and how to keep the interview factual and respectful.  ✨ Quality standards: Current labor data, paid databases, and transparent methodology—not a Google job search.  ✨ Retraining reality: Timelines (PT vs. FT), tuition costs, entry pay, and wage progression. ✨ After the report: Red flags to spot and when to seek a second opinion. 

In this episode, Rhonda sits down with Stacey Wynn, MDiv, PCC to talk about the intersection of ✝️ faith,

Divorce mediation doesn’t have to feel confusing. In this episode, Rhonda sits down with her friend Rebecca Stern, owner of Pearl Mediation, to break down the different types of mediation and how to know which one is the best fit for your divorce journey. Whether you’re in a high-conflict situation

In this solo episode, Rhonda Noordyk, CDFA®, unpacks the psychology behind the "Disney Dad" and why his extravagant gestures aren’t really about the kids. If you’ve ever felt frustrated, exhausted, or even questioned your worth as a parent while your ex showers the kids with trips, gifts, and treats—this episode is for you. Rhonda reveals how Disney Dad tactics often mask deeper issues like guilt, ego, or financial manipulation, and how those behaviors can quietly erode your financial future if left unchecked. She shares the tools and mindset shifts you need to reclaim your power, protect your financial stability, and create a safe, consistent environment for your kids. What you’ll learn in this episode: The psychology driving Disney Dad behavior—and why it’s not about the kids How financial control and guilt are used as manipulation tools in divorce The real cost of staying silent during negotiations (including the 41% lifestyle drop women often face post-divorce) Practical steps to advocate for your

In this powerful episode, Tracy Malone returns to discuss what most lawyers don’t tell you about parenting plans — the money. From major expenses like cars and tech, to everyday costs like school supplies, Tracy breaks down how to build financial protection directly into your parenting plan. She and Rhonda explore real client scenarios, highlight common pitfalls in legal agreements, and share practical strategies to help you avoid future conflict, legal fees, and emotional burnout. If you're navigating divorce or co-parenting, this episode will give you the clarity and confidence to stand your ground — and plan for your future. Key Topics Covered: Why financial clauses are critical in parenting plans Specific costs you must define (phones, insurance, travel, etc.) The power of a noncompliance clause — and why you need one How financial ambiguity leads to conflict (and how to prevent it) What lawyers often overlook in divorce agreements A walkthrough of Tracy’s Parenting Plan Course: 52 lessons for every kin

In this empowering episode of Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for Women, Rhonda sits down with Energy & Empowerment Coach Aimee Carlson to explore the overlooked but critical role of energy in the divorce process. Aimee shares practical strategies to help women stop running on empty and start tuning into their inner strength—even in the middle of major life transitions. They dive deep into what it means to track your energy, manage stress, and build the kind of connections that sustain you through change. Aimee’s approach is clear, accessible, and deeply compassionate. Whether you’re trying to hold it all together or rediscover what lights you up, this episode gives you the tools to start where you are. Key Topics Covered: How low energy sabotages decision-making during divorce The power of tracking sleep, food, mood, and productivity—without judgment Paper vs. app: How to track your energy in a way that actually works The role of gut health in clarity and resilience Why a deep breath can change your w

In this insightful episode of Divorce Conversations for Women, Rhonda Noordyk welcomes mortgage expert and CDLP® trailblazer Jody Bruns for a heartfelt and eye-opening conversation about a critical—but often overlooked—component of divorce: mortgage planning. Together, they unpack the unique financial, legal, and emotional challenges women face when trying to keep, refinance, or buy a home during divorce. Jody shares cautionary tales, real-life case studies, and empowering advice designed to help women avoid common missteps and build a more stable financial future. This episode is more than just numbers—it's about protecting your future, understanding your options, and ensuring your divorce settlement truly supports your next chapter.  

In this transformative episode, Rhonda Noordyk sits down with Dr. Lisa Fox to explore the complex realities women face in the midst of divorce, especially when coercive control, abuse, and financial manipulation are involved. Drawing from her personal journey as a trauma coach and surgeon—and her experience navigating a high-conflict divorce—Dr. Fox shares candid insights and practical strategies for women to reclaim their power, protect themselves, and advocate for their rights. Together, Rhonda and Dr. Fox dive into the emotional, legal, and financial dynamics of leaving a toxic relationship while prioritizing safety and self-worth.   Key Discussion Points:

In this powerful and deeply insightful episode of Breaking the Trauma Bond with Lisa Happ , Rhonda Noordyk, CDFA®, sits down with divorce coach and survivor Lisa Happ to unpack the layered realities of high-conflict divorce—especially when narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and parental alienation are in play. Together, they offer transformational strategies for women navigating these emotionally charged separations, empowering them to recognize abuse, reclaim their voice, and create a safe, healing home environment for themselves and their children. Whether you're in the midst of a difficult divorce or supporting someone who is, this episode sheds light on both the pain—and the path to peace.     Key Discussion Points:

In this feel-good and refreshingly honest episode, Rhonda cozies up with Amy Slate—aka The Breakup Broker—a Boston-based real estate pro with a big heart, sharp instincts, and a passion for helping women through one of life's biggest transitions: divorce. Amy shares her own journey (yes, she's walking this path too!) and how she turned her personal experience into purpose, guiding clients through the wild world of post-breakup housing with empathy, clarity, and a sprinkle of humor. From "landlord" to "landlord whisperer," Amy chats with Rhonda about everything from emotional detachment when selling the family home, to the must-knows of working with divorcing couples in high-stakes deals. Spoiler: being neutral and transparent isn't just nice—it's non-negotiable. Whether you're knee-deep in a breakup, supporting clients who are, or just curious about how real estate fits into the divorce puzzle, this episode serves up smart tips, emotional insights, and a few giggles along the way.

When the legal system becomes a weapon, how do you protect yourself—and your children? In this compelling conversation, Rhonda is joined by Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There, Got Out, to expose the realities of legal abuse, coercive control, and the hidden challenges self-represented litigants face in high-conflict divorce and custody battles. Lisa shares both her lived experience and professional insights to equip listeners with tools for survival and success in the courtroom. From navigating manipulative exes to choosing the right attorney and crafting a rock-solid parenting plan, this episode is packed with strategy, strength, and solidarity for anyone who feels like the system is stacked against them.