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Show Notes – Colton Personal definition of resilience – get back up and see that there is always a positive even when everything around you is negative.  It is not what knocks you down but how you respond to it is what resilience is. Did not have a stable home life.  His parents weren't in great situations themselves.  His Mum was a high school drop out.  His Dad was a trucker so he wasn't always around.  He wasn't good at making child support payments.  Constant arguments. His step father didn't know how to raise children.  He was very demanding and hard on him.  He taught him how to work hard but when they lived together he couldn't stand it.  He tried to find solace with his Dad but he was never really around. Around this time he started to get really depressed.  His father remarried and dropped out of his life for the next six years. He completely stopped doing all school work entirely.  He had this expectation that nobody really expected anything of

Show Notes – Sam O'Sullivan Two paths that led him to where he is now.  The personal path – struggling with his own problems with anxiety.  He was bullied a lot in high school and developed social anxiety and panic attacks.  He discovered a huge range to tools through his studies in psychology.  He wanted to go out there and give those tools to others.  He was a psychologist working in an inpatient mental health unit where he was working with mostly men.  The women that were there were the victims of men – usually sexually.  It became apparent that there was something social going on with men in New Zealand.  He worked in private practice and worked with a lot of men.  They often didn't want to talk about their feelings in order to process their trauma.  He didn't choose to work with men but it kind of chose him.  He felt very limited working in the health system so went out on his own. Men often want to appear tough – they are also socially taught to.&nb

Show Notes – Di Riddell It was the death of her husband 15 years ago that sent her back to face her past.  She had a violent alcoholic father.   She had no self-esteem, no self-confidence or self-worth.  At the age of 15 she was the victim of a pack rape.  A pregnancy and adoption came out of that.  She was told she was a disgrace and that she should go nursing and get out of societies way.  So she did.  She did eventually marry and ha 31 amazing years together. In dealing with the grief at the death of husband it brought up her past.  She burned out 12 months later. She joined Al-Anon which is for the family and friends on alcoholics.  It is an amazing self-development tool.  Learned to take responsibility for herself.  Started journaling.  As a member of Toast Masters she was used to speaking but as she started telling her story it developed to the point where she became an "accidental author."  Original book in 2006 was her story and the

Show Notes – Steph McKee Used to be a hard-core sportsperson.  Worked late at night.  Did triathlons.  Until she broke herself – burnt out and got adrenal fatigue.  Also put on weight.  Even though she increased her exercise and ate less and kept gaining weight.  So she started researching the issue. When you are in a state of stress the body chooses to store reserves. Signs of that our body is under stress – sleep disturbance, heart palpitations, regular illness, not as resilience as you used to be.  Sleep – diet can impact.  If you under eat carbohydrates your blood sugar might be too low to get to sleep.  If you eat too many carbs before sleep your blood sugar will spike and your insulin will spike and you are likely to wake early.    Try to get to bed 9.30 – 10 pm rather than later.  Deep belly breaths can help to calm the system.  Get off your screens and devices a couple of hours before hand. Certain diets all work for different peopl

Our focus today was to talk about the importance of joy.  Kathy encourages us to schedule play dates with ourselves and others.  We discussed how mindfulness helps us to notice moments of joy.  Kathy gave examples of companies who believe that play and fun contribute to productivity in the workplace.  We had fun talking about The Swedish Chef from the muppets, the sound of ping pong balls and what fun you can have with a rubber band.

Lisa Tamati – Show Notes If you have an identity as something you are more likely to do it.  It is more than just will power.  Will power will eventually run out on you.  But when it is a part of who you are that is where you will get the momentum to build the habit.  All those limiting beliefs disappear – "this is the new me, I am an athlete, and this is who I am".  Then you delve deep then into the sport that you have chosen.  Then you start to take on that identity.  The next phase is understanding your why.  Look deep into your motivations.  The importance of goal setting.  Set a motivational stick in the sand.  The brain is a goal orientated mechanism.  It should also have a deadline for achievement. Then you need to develop the habit by regularly getting out there. Within three months you will become a fully formed runner.  When you start to see changes in your own body that increases your motivation.  Becomes self-propelling. Usually

Amy Lyle – Show Notes Going through a lot of failures and choosing to get up one more day; keep moving forward. Amy thinks that things are harder for her but that is okay.  She looks at other people and it seems so easy.  She doesn't see that in herself; she sees a lot of struggles.  She thinks she gets in her own way a lot.  Was a salesperson for 20 years and everything was organised on a computer.  It was very regimented and clear what you had to do next.  She is just a little scatter brained sometimes. The journey of the book demonstrates resilience.  She was told by an entertainment attorney that she was referred to.  "I won't work with you.  You are nobody, you don't have any money and you don't know anyone.  You can't just walk into Hollywood; you have to get on the map.  He told her to write a book and told her to write what you know.  She immediately thought "I have had a lot of failures."  She started writing the book that day. Her favo

Jessica Zonneveld – Show Notes Growth mindset – Carol S Dweck, coined the term growth mindset along with fixed mindset.  We have both of them.  We all have moments when we get stuck.  A growth mindset is a mindset aimed at growth – it is getting beyond the "I can't do this" "I'm not a math student".  We all have the ability to go beyond where we are now, we can all improve.  Our brain is like a muscle. Adults often have beliefs that they haven't challenged themselves on and they don't know where they have come from.  You can stretch yourself a little bit outside your comfort zone but don't go too far or else you won't be in the right place for learning.  Take small steps.  Build on the skills you already have and go from there.  We are all born to be resilient.  Resilience is about bouncing back from life's challenges.  Limiting beliefs can stop us from being resilient. Jessica is drawn to work with children because children needs allies.  It takes a

Rochelle Sanchez – Show Notes Personal definition of resilience – stand up for what you really want, and don't give up on yourself, because what you really want is important. Held back by shyness for a long time.  As a child she thought she was just the shy girl.  Which is fine but the real struggle for her was that while she was quiet she was very unhappy.  Not being able to make those connections with those people.  Listening to conversations and not knowing how to speak her mind; over thinking it, and assuming no one would care. It following her and she didn't nip in the bud until college when she talked to a counsellor about it. She started in the self-help section in the book stores.  How to make friends.  There were a lot of different experiments that she did with herself.  Even though she was shy, other people were quite talkative, and she could use it to her advantage.  She could start the conversation and the other person would keep talking.  Turns into a

Sunni VonMutius – Show Notes Personal definition of resilience – calls it anti-survival mode.  Proactively intentionally designing your world and that comes from a desire to not bounce from one thing to another.  Movie – The Waking Life Home schooled.  Started school early and finished early.  Leap frogged her way through a corporate career. She made good financial choices and was able to retire at 32 but soon became bored and began other projects as well as travelling and living as a nomad. There is always an adventure with Sunni. Home schooling was wonderful for Sunni – her Mum was born for it.  Learned through play a lot.  She taught them to be ever curious.  She put us in classroom environments where they had social circles.  Played with other home-schooled kids.  Being retired means her long-term future is taken care of.  She still has to take care of the life she wants today.  She had worked for a long time, she had a good amount of savings and she

Show Notes – Julie Moreno Degree in environmental science – friends working in environmental fields.  Heard they were having some problems coming to terms with their jobs.  You are trying, and are so passionate about it, and people don't share that passion, and don't back you up.  It can make you feel a bit down about the future. As a teacher she has to be careful that the kids don't get too down about things.  After some lessons you can see their faces, like there is no hope.  So now she tries to end each lesson with solutions, something more positive. The more you know about the problems, the more you see the statistics, it can be scary to think about the future.  A lot of the social media information about the environment is provoking feelings of powerlessness.  The pollution in Jakarta is so bad that you have to put it out of your mind sometimes otherwise it can become overwhelming. The growth of ethical investments. Ubud Writers Festival – talk by Tim Flannery.  Ca

Ginny Branden – Show Notes Personal definition of resilience – take what happens to you and adapt and overcome. Became an animal communicator after becoming frustrated in working with her horse.  Mentor introduced her to an animal communicator and she began studying it.  She didn't grow up with animals but she was always drawn to them.  Sketched animals, read books about animals.  Always wanted to be around them.  Started with one dog, then two dogs, her horse, now two cats and a chinchilla.  Always had an innate burning need to be around animals. Our connection with animals goes back to something very primary.  There is a way that they are that we are missing in our lives.  Get back to ways of being that are much better than the ways we are now.  Bring us back to the here and now.  Animals always forgive you so they are truly the embodiment of unconditional love.  There is no greater gift than that. Our energy contributes so much to our animals' wellbein

Inna Neal – Show Notes Personal definition of resilience – having the ability to pause, to reflect, and to take 100% responsibility.  Not from the place of finding fault in yourself but more from a place of "how can I make this better, how can I find a solution?" She used to look at life as if it was happening to her.  Adversities, sadness, depression.  Woke up thinking "is this it?" Three years ago, "I just can't do this anymore" and remember hearing her own voice which came from deep inside "what if you're doing this all wrong?"  Wayne Dyer – You'll See It When You Believe It She had not read the book but she knew what it meant.  You must start to believe what you want, you must start to ask yourself open ended questions – "how can I find solutions, what do I want from my life?" The mind is a beautiful machine.  It loves to stay in the comfort zone.  She began to get uncomfortable and ask herself "what is my purpose here?"  From the smaller perspective "how do I want

Show Notes – Teri Gosselin Personal definition – being able to take a really challenging situation and to be able to carry on, to bounce back, to be able to take what you've learned from that situation and be able to turn it into something that can help others or share something in a bigger light.  It sometimes starts with smaller acts of resilience. She believes resilience is a part of our innate character.  10 years ago she was planning her wedding to her college sweetheart and learned that her brother had died suddenly in his sleep.  This was tragic and completely unexpected and three weeks before her wedding day.  She had never experienced death before or tragedy.  It was a really challenging time.  Her first step of resiliency was to go ahead with her wedding as planned. There was a huge void on the day but she looks back and there were parts of day when he was there looking down on her.  It was time to just be in the moment to celebrate, live life and embrace it. She h

Show Notes – Emma Gibbs-Ng Her mantra – everything happens for a reason.  In any situation there is feedback that helps you become who you want to be.  That statement has helped her to overcome a lot in her life. She has always been interested in people.  She believes everyone has a story and that intrigues her.  She had an amazing upbringing.  She was very high up in sport.  Had an amazing family.  Her first love became quite violent with her.  She ended up having a domestic violence relationship but also one where he was very unfaithful.  This was her first experience of relationships.  She also went on to suffer sexual abuse by someone he knew.  It was the start of her journey to where she is right now.  It has given her an understanding, a drive and an inner strength she didn't know she had.  She had a strong desire to never let anyone feel the same way that she has felt.  She wants to protect people from feeling alone, lost or dirty.&n

Danielle Smith – Show Notes Personal definition of resilience – bounce back.  Being strong as well being able to bounce back from any situation. Book – Yesterday's Tomorrow.  Her life story written in fiction format.  Talking about how she made it through child hood abuse and neglect at the hands of her mother and her step father.  There were a lot of times where she was sent to bed without a meal as a form of punishment.  Her Mum taught her to read at a very early age.  So Danielle would dive into her book and become the character in that book.  Goldilocks and the Three Bears was one of her favourites because she would go into that book and eat porridge.  She wanted to give her readers a chance to get away.  Although the story has so many emotions but it is a nice little roller coaster; going into the world of Aliyx.  It was hard for her to develop relationships with friends and also dating was hard in beginning; just trusting people.  Triggers are real.

Show Notes – Lucy Hone Personal definition of resilience – Professor Karen Reivich – resilience is how we cope and how we steer through challenges and adversity but it's also about learning from them.  She has removed the words bounced back from the definition as she hasn't felt bouncy in the last few years. The capacity for resilience thankfully resides in all of us.  It isn't a fixed trait.  It is a combination of the way we choose to think and act and the way we can use our strengths and skills and relationships to support us in times of need.  Resilience is built by how you deal with what happens to you.  There is an ideal number of events that happen to you before it becomes detrimental.  Talked about the impact of the earthquakes on the Christchurch community. The education sector in Christchurch has changed for the better in many ways.  Part of a MOE funded community of practice with secondary schools in Christchurch at the moment.  This is a yearlong pilot proje

Show Notes – Natalie Hormann Personal resilience – the ability to cope with stressors, to cope with events that are potentially unpleasant.  Community resilience – coloured and varied, tight knit, able to meet its own needs from within.  Being resourceful and being able to put yourself in a resourceful state.  Important to be able to manage our state. Pre-traumatic stress – stress in anticipation of what is to happen – as relates to the environment.  One component is grief – a feeling of loss in anticipation.  Fear for our children.  What sort of planet are we going to leave behind? An underlying level of distress; a certain level of overwhelm, an inability to grasp what is going on, an inability to address it.  Issues are on such a huge scale that we can feel powerless. Burnout amongst environmental activists.  Very passionate, taking action on the ground, changing their own lifestyle, being engaged in their communities, as well as working full time.  It can get i

Show Notes – Bree Stedman Personal definition of resilience – being able to bounce back from adversity. Even from childhood she could always get past things that might pull her down.  She doesn't like to feel disempowered.  In 2012 she was at the end of a long journey of personal development but things came to a head when her head talk and the lack of control she felt in the role of being a mother was really starting to show up in the way she treated her kids.  Had two masks that she wore.  Behind closed doors feeling like a very different person from the professional face.  Her relationship with her youngest child was violent.  She felt like walking out.  Both of her children have challenges ADHD, and severe learning difficulties.  The turning point was when she walked up behind her son and he flinched.  That was like a slap in the face for her.  Her son, who is only 4 years old, was clearly very scared of her.  She decided to stop blaming him and his ch

Show Notes – Lisa Robbin Young Resilience – owning your truth and standing in that space. Creative entrepreneurship is cyclical – there are times you need to push and times where you need space. Know yourself, own your truth and be fully who you are.  Don't live in a box that someone has painted for you.  Do it your way because your way is going to be what is best for you. Who are you really here to reach?  There are people out there who need exactly what you have in the way that you are offering it.  Are there enough of those people to keep you afloat? Who are the people who are going to most connect with your message and how are you going to get in front of that audience? Show up consistently; as authentically and genuinely as possible.  Walk the line of being authentic and sharing your personal stories.  It is legitimate to have private you and business you.  There are things you never share publicly.  Consistency is the key to building trust and this what people wil