Inside Knowledge

Lauren Selfridge – Show Notes Lauren is an associate marriage and family therapist. She works with couples and individuals in California using Imago Relationship Therapy. Her personal definition – "resilience is when I can take what is happening and make a beautiful story out of it." She was a very spiritually connected being from a very early age.  She describes herself as having a little bit of fierceness to her.  She also had things happen to her that have made her strong where she wasn't strong.  They shed light in the areas where she needed to grow. The concept of building beloved community was inspired by a colleague Shirley Strong.  How can we build competencies as a community towards social justice while keeping the connection to the spiritual world present?  We want both the wisdom and compassion.  For her it is about bringing consciousness to the areas where she has privilege.  Bringing her heart to the work so that she is not blaming or shaming herself or others b

Yanina Purcell – Show Notes Resilience is the ability to bounce back from things and also learn and grow. Yanina talked about her experience of immigrating to New Zealand.  They moved because she felt she had to rather than wanting too.  The culture looked the same but it was not.  She talked about trying to replant herself into the soil of a new country.  It helped to keep reminding herself why she had immigrated.  Making friends and developing a support system is important. Part of resilience is being vulnerable and being prepared to ask for help. It took three years before Yanina felt she belonged.  Everything that is difficult makes you stronger.  Falling to pieces is not an option. Her husband had previously been ill but towards the end of the first year that they were in NZ he was diagnosed with another brain tumour.  18 months after their arrival he died. Even though things around her were falling down she wouldn't let herself fall down. Friends helped during thi

Lisa Avery – Show Notes Originally from England but has been living in Spain for the last 12 years. Resilience – the ability to bounce back from adversity emotionally psychologically and physically.   It is also possible to experience post traumatic growth. Just completed a three-year master's degree in Positive Psychology and Coaching.  Positive psychology is the study of human flourishing and coaching is about giving the person the space in which to reflect on their narrative so they are able to create the lives they want to create.  They work very well together. When it comes to happiness approximately 50% is genetic, 40% is within our control and 10% is circumstances.  This is a very empowering statistic.  We can learn how to be more resilient, we can learn how to manage our emotions, we can learn how to be more optimistic.  Positive psychology is not to be mistaken with positive thinking.  It is great to embrace all emotional states.  By letting each and every

Show Notes – Linzi Band Linzi teaches as the Australian Independent School – Jakarta, Indonesia.  Grade 7 – 12.  160 students.  Mixed cultures throughout the world. Started as an EAL teacher.  Felt there was something missing among pastoral care.  Had a background as a Youth and Community Development worker in some very deprived areas or the UK.  Had a conversation with the principal about putting in a programme to support the students' needs holistically.  If students are socially and emotionally ready then they will learn but they need support to manage the intensity of their emotions.  The principal gave her a trial period to develop a programme. She created her own curriculum which gives her the freedom to create.  The proramme is not only proactive but it can also be managed reactively as well to deal with issues that might occur within the student body.  Reports of bullying reports are going down.  There is a significant increase in positive by stan

Show Notes – Marina Darlow Resilience is the ability to come back from a crisis, from a failure, from a bad set of circumstances and is based on the faith on yourself and the world too.  It is based on the belief that you can come back. Trained as an industrial engineer.  Moved to the States 11 years ago.  Found a job which was really above and beyond what she had been trained for.  Thrown into the water of managing huge multi million-dollar projects across three continents.  Got burnt out and publicly went in Facebook to say the project management part of her life was over. Did an interior design degree.  Felt very unsure and lost; did not know what she wanted to do with her life and career.  Worked with a business coach who dragged her by the ear into entrepreneurship.  Helped a friend set up systems in her therapy business.  That person told other people and that was how her business was born.  Within five months had a full practice. But then moved to Bosto

Show Notes – Evelyn Asher Personal definition of resilience – the ability to go forward by looking in the rear-view mirror and seeing how the situation was handled, the personal choices made and people who have helped along the way. Her role as a global community coach is about broadening people's perspectives. Helping women in technology pitch their products. Two big loves are writing and social justice. Resilience is involved in these fields.  She had three brothers growing up and they challenged her to be able to participate more.  She now tries to bring those qualities out in others.  She has also worked with many non-profits.  Her parents modelled this and showed how committed they were to the community. Her grandparents immigrated from Russia and Hungary. They never talked about their experiences but they modelled resilience in the way they started their new lives in the US. Evelyn journals every day. She also carries her journal with her and if she has to wait during the day she wi

Melissa Turner – Podcast Interview 2 ·         Personal definition of resilience being accepting where you are at, but taking forward steps and acknowledging those steps. ·         There is no certificate of resilience.  Life will continue to test you. ·         Melissa's personal journey began with a diagnosis of state 4 Endometriosis at the age of 19.  She pursued every conventional treatment, including seven surgeries.  She was living on painkillers and hormone treatments.  Seven years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, she decided to explore natural treatments. ·         She began a blog in 2010 to record her journey and started to attract followers.  She now has a community of 10,000 women.  Leading a community created a feeling of pressure to find solutions.  Melissa had no mentor to inspire her or to follow. ·

·         Christina has a Phd in Psychology but it not a registered clinical psychologist.  ·         Talked about her interest in resilience stemming from her personal experience of infertility and endometriosis.  She also became interested through her work supporting aid and development workers.  She noticed different people could come back from the same place with totally different views of their experience.  What made those who coped well different from those who did not? ·         Christina gave her favourite definition of resilience. ·         Resilience is a process that can be learned. ·         Your level of resilience varies at different stages in your life. ·         You need to develop your own resiliency practice. ·    &n