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As we approach the frosty cold and near the end of the year, we often use this time to reflect on our past — and in this Fifi After Dark (FAD), the "Adult-ish" host does just that. In this new episode, host Afiya goes it alone for another liquor-fueled moment of self-reflection as she laments over the words of relationship coach, Alison Wellington of Align with Alison. Doing a call back to S4, Ep. 27, the podcaster speaks to her own experience with boomerang dating and follow-up situationships and what she's learned from her failed dating trials. Managing expectations in a relationship is hard, but listen on as she talks (and maybe even slurs?) through how she was able to overcome some of her anxiety on the topic and make demands in her relationships — whether she actually got them is another story. Listen on for her slightly less-than-sober thoughts and as always, make sure to share, comment, like, and rate!Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alj

In this episode "Adult-ish", host Afiya A. is joined by co-host Vincent Bernard to do a call back to 'Ep. 25: FAD #22 — Giving Yourself Time to Grieve Relationships Like an Adult-ish' and our dear Vincent takes the reins to talk about his experience with grief and mourning. Dubbing this episode an "Adult-ish Quickie," Vincent speaks to a recent loss of his and the thoughts behind having to grieve a loss in its entirety — from the physical loss to the emotional gap that death and/or the end of a relationship brings. In this moment of pure vulnerability, Vincent takes listeners on a transitive journey as he processes the death of a loved one, talks to the respect of allowing individuals time to process a loss, and then learning how to move on. Relationships may end, either through death or change of circumstance, but it's always important to take the time to grieve the situation. While a bit somber, we hope this quickie makes you a little more thankful for all those around you and all those you carry with you —

The 2020 Election season has come but it's not-so-quiet gone...In this (mildly delayed) episode of "Adul-tish," host Afiya is joined by co-host Vincent Bernard to discuss their feels about President-Elect Joe Biden, Vice President-Elect Kamala Harris, and the Don's attempts to keep them out of the office. The two mull over the relief that's been washed over, simmering rage that's bubbling over, and what it will mean to have things "go back to normal," once Trump and all his shenanigans have finally removed from the White House. What's next for us? Be sure to take a listen to this episode — and tell us all your feels, too!Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214Co-Host: Vincent Bernardhttps://www.facebook.com/vincent.bernard.543http://instagram.com/vincentbernard_83http://www.twitter.com/vincebernardAdult-ish Podcast http://twitter.com/adultishp0dcasthttp://instagram.com/adultishp0dcasthttp://facebook.com/adultishp0dcastHow are you feeling abo

*Note: This episode of "Adult-ish" was recorded a week before the Election Day results* The 2020 Election season has been one filled with bigotry, racism, social injustice, and just plain ol' stupidity — and we're getting into it. In this overdue episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya and co-host Vincent Bernard get together to discuss the circus that our democracy has turned into and the drive to vote more than ever before. Between tackling the current sitting President, to discuss the "gift of whiteness" given to many of the ethnic groups as seen in the current iteration of "Fargo," the duo speak on the divided country we're all living in as well as the real reason Trump supports are waving their banners high in his name. Take a listen — and be sure to return when Part 2 is up and running following the Election results!Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214Co-Host: Vincent Bernardhttps://www.facebook.com/vincent.bernard.543http://instagram.com

You've heard talk about investing in your mental health, your physical health, but what about having a healthy, meaningful relationship? Just like you can seek out a therapist and physical trainer for the former, there are relationship coaches for the latter — and "Adult-ish" snagged one! For this episode of "Adult-ish" host Afiya is joined by fellow Brooklyn College alum and relationship coach Alison Wellington of Align With Alison to discuss her budding venture as a Relationship Coach and to dish some of the tips and things to avoid as we head out in to the world of dating. Having a hard time finding the partner you deserve? Looking to move on from a bad break-up? Well, tune in and pick up some of the gems Alison is putting down! Links Mentioned: Host, Afiya A. http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214 Special Guest, Alison Wellington of Align With Alisonhttp://www.alignwithalison.comhttp://instagram.com/alignwithalisonhttp://twitter.com/alignwithalisonhttp://facebook.com/alignwalisonhtt

There are many reasons to consider a person a friend, but are looks one of them? For some, this may actually be the case! In this episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya tackles the topic of an Insta meme with friend and fellow Aquarian, Jen aka the original Hot Mess Mom. The two HS friends mull over the idea of maintaining friendships due to a physical — and possibly romantic — attraction. Do you hang on to friends because you're attracted to them? Do you often find yourself becoming attracted to your friends? And can you maintain a friendship once you've passed the point of attraction and something else has happened? The duo attempt to tackle all these questions as well as dive into the dating pitfalls that may come up when looking at friends in a new light. With a topic so loaded, don't be surprised if this conversation continues in another episode! Links Mentioned: Host, Afiya A. http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214 Special Guest, Jen the Original Hot Mess Momhttp://instagram.com/tepin

In this latest episode, "Adult-ish" host Afiya A. brings back the true feel of her "Fifi After Dark" segments with a liquored-up lesson on grief and mourning. In these somber times where death and devastation is all around us due to COVID-19 and racial injustice, host Afiya reminds everyone that we can mourn more than just the loss of someone in the physical space — but in the emotional space, too. While reminiscing on her own recent grieving process, the pseudo adult expresses the hurt and pain one feels when a relationship (be it familial, friendly, or romantic) is over and how society never really allows us to run the gamut of emotions in that respect. Listen on for her slightly less-than-sober thoughts and as always, make sure to share, comment, like, and rate!Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214Adult-ish Podcast http://twitter.com/adultishp0dcasthttp://instagram.com/adultishp0dcastHow do you grieve lost relationships? Email us your ra

Host Afiya A. and co-host Vincent Bernard may have talked about 'Avatar: The Last Airbender' and 'Legend of Korra,' but never like this! In this episode of 'Adult-ish,' the duo are joined by none other than voice actor, Janet Varney aka the Korra herself, and they get a chance to geek out like ever before.While getting an opportunity to fan and fawn over Janet, the trio discuss Legend of Korra's migration to Netflix, the impact that show has had on generations, and its ability to be relatable in today's world. From Korra's queerness to Janet's animation crush, the three gab like old friends and celebrate having their first MAJOR guest, as well as a few other serendipitous milestones. Be sure to take a listen! Links mentioned below: Special Guest Janet Varney:http://twitter.com/janetvarneyhttps://www.instagram.com/thejvclub/www.janetvarney.comHost: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoetahttp://instagram.com/alja0214Co-Host: Vincent Bernardhttps://www.facebook.com/vincent.bernard.543http://instagram.com/vincent

And we're back with another episode of "Adult-ish," and the conversation regarding the levels to sex continues... With her co-host, Vincent Bernard, in tow, host Afiya talk over the concept of how there are levels to the kind of sex a person may have dependant on the partner and impression they are trying to impart. While going through multiple scenarios, the conversational couplet discusses how they define their levels, what kind of partner triggers a new level, what kind of emotional state can alter a level, and lastly, where sex acts lie on the scale. Oh yeah — it's time to learn there are quite a few levels to this thing... It's one titillating conversation that is sure to resurface. Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214Co-Host: Vincent Bernardhttps://www.facebook.com/vincent.bernard.543http://instagram.com/vincentbernard_83http://www.twitter.com/vincebernardAdult-ish Podcast http://twitter.com/adultishp0dcasthttp://instagram.com/adul

We know there are levels to the kinds of relationship with have with our friends and loved ones, and we even acknowledge there are loves to how we love, but can there also be levels to this sex thing? After hearing one woman's discussion on how she breaks down the kind of sex she gives to a partner, ranking the love-making by his role in her life, "Adult-ish" host Afiya got to thinking... and drinking... (or maybe not). In this new episode of "Adult-ish Presents Fifi After Dark," we find our favorite host talking through the levels of this sex thing. Going through the multiple variables (i.e. relationship status, dating status, connection), she takes us on a ride on how she comes to her ultimate feeling on the subject — and why maybe many should consider her view. Tune in to the fun on this episode, which is sure to be a multi-part convo! Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214Adult-ish Podcast http://twitter.com/adultishp0dcasthttp://instagr

The world was met with quite a shock this past weekend when it was announced and confirmed actor, producer, and writer Chadwick Boseman passed away at the age of 43 from stage IV colon cancer. The actor, who is known for playing historical figures in the African American community, is best known for his portrayal of T'Challa in the mega Marvel movie, "Black Panther." In this episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya A. is joined by co-host, Vincent Bernard, to reel over the news of Chadwick's passing and mull over his life, legacy, and the others like him who passed in their prime this year and in the years prior. Listen on as the duo pay their respects to the King of Wakanda and take a moment to reflect on the sudden news of his death, as well as think through what his passing has taught them about themselves. Be sure to tune in and show some love. #WakandaForeverLinks mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214Co-Host: Vincent Bernardhttps://www.facebook.c

Being an adult is the pits — and being a responsible one takes a lot out of you. Unfortunately, there isn't any training to teach you and Afiya is really digging her heels in the sand about it. In this episode of "Adult-ish Presents: Fifi After Dark," our host Afiya has a solo conversation on the pitfalls of not being taught how to be a responsible adult, and how it's a MAJOR responsibility to be responsible.In recounting how she's been living it all by herself, the podcast host talks about the need for everyone to be as self-sufficient as they can be and how people can be suckered into losing money and their lives by not being knowledgeable of how to take care of themselves and their surroundings. From her desire to bring back Home Economics so we can learn how to cook, to how she wishes she knew more about cars to not be railroaded by shoddy mechanics, she chats on the importance of being a well-rounded adult — and how we should be passing this on to the next generation. It's hard being an adult, and being

If it's one thing that quarantining during the Corona Pandemic has done, it's made those who are lonely just a little more aware of their loneliness. In this episode of "Adult-ish Presents: Fifi After Dark," our host Afiya goes it alone to talk about the side of effects of being not only alone, but SINGLE during a time when touching a person can be a matter of life or death. This solo conversation touches on everything: the anxiety a single person has about making a connection during a time where it's not so simple to reach out and connect; the pain of working from home (or not) and having to go the stresses of the world alone; and self-awareness that being by one's self during a time where companionship really is a luxury that not many have. The solitary lady gives an account like not other about living alone in the time of 'Rona and asks folk to take a listen as this thing is hitting them — and hard. Be sure to take a listen! Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http

With everything going on in the world, a little entertainment isn't bad to keep the worries away. And now the time has come to acknowledge the shows and movies that got us through the first half of the year with the Emmys 2020! In this episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya is joined by co-host Vincent Bernard to talk through the nominations, fave picks, and terrible snub. Listen on as the duo picks apart the shady roasting by the ladies of "Pose," to work through why this latest season of "Insecure" just might be its best. The two take on the shows that made them cry, sigh, and say "Buh-bye." Be sure to tune in! Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214Co-Host: Vincent Bernardhttps://www.facebook.com/vincent.bernard.543http://instagram.com/vincentbernard_83http://www.twitter.com/vincebernardAdult-ish Podcast http://twitter.com/adultishp0dcasthttp://instagram.com/adultishp0dcastHow are you feeling about the picks and snubs of the 2020 Emmy Award Se

Did the demand for justice go too far when it crossed the line of animated cartoons? Over the past few weeks, several actors and noted voice actors stepped down from their respective TV shows in an effort to allow for people of color to voice the 'minority' characters they'd been playing. Question is, was it really necessary? In this episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya is joined by recurring co-host Vincent Bernard to discuss the pros and cons of this cartoon world shakeup. The two cartoon fans point out the slippery slope people of color may fall prey to when agreeing to keep characters of color to being played by people who look like then. Afiya dishes on the implications of voice acting being defined by a person's ethnicity over ability, and speaks to the impacts of making voice acting roles race-based. Meanwhile, Vincent dishes on his favorite voice actors in the biz and speaks to the number of coins that can leave many POC voice actors' pockets. Take a listen as these two cartoon fans dish their feels on

It's been a rough two weeks, but we're BACK and bringing re-enforcements! While the media coverage of worldwide protests has taken dip, we haven't stopped noticing and the widespread demand for justice for BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color). In this long-awaited episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya and co-host Vincent Bernard are joined by the ever-shady, but always accurate, Gary. The Detroit native joins the duo for a chat on the recent spread of acceptance and accountability shared by major corporations the world over and discuss whether it comes from a place of White Guilt or actual accountability. Next, the trio steers the chat into a new direction: how the voice of Gen Z is the real G behind a lot of the protests. Mobilizing social media to point others due north in morality, the crew weighs the pros and cons to the generation being staunch and steadfast in their quest for justice and how it all boils down to being accountable to make sure a movement is not just a moment. Take a listen!Links ment

Father's Day is just around the corner (Sunday, June 21), and it seems like dads get the short end of the stick — or do they? In this episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya A. is joined by her social media pen pal, musician, and trainer Kwaku aka Super Osei to discuss the highs and lows of being a dad and all the shortcomings of the lack-luster Father's Day celebration. Listen on as they discuss the disparity between Mother's Day/Father's Day gifts, the struggles of being a co-parenting dad, and what it means to be a Father (particularly a Black Father) in this day and age. Do fathers get a bad rap? Are they valued more for doing the bare minimum OR are they not valued enough in a society that doesn't expect much out of them? Tune in to hear Osei's take as well as his breakdown on the things that only a Father can teach their children in this ever-evolving world. Links mentioned in this episode:Host: Afiya A.http://twitter.com/lajoliepoeta http://instagram.com/alja0214Special Guest Co-Host: Kwaku aka Super Oseiht

It's our centennial episode of Adult-ish — and boy, does it feel great! In this landmark episode, we're going to talk about: dating.Dating is hard to do — and it keeps getting harder. But now our landscape has changed double over in the past few months with both COVID-19 and The Black Lives Matter movement. We've already had to acclimate to dating in a world without touch, however, the BLM movement again police brutality has brought a new factor to re-consider: How do you date in a hyper-aware racial world? In this episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya is joined by her co-host, Vincent, to discuss the reality of interracial dating during a time where the injustices around race have been brought again to the forefront of our day-to-day. Vincent gives his two-cents on being in an interracial relationship, while host Afiya unravels her thoughts regarding the nuances of dating not only a white person but a non-white POC who are targeted differently than Black people. How do you handle dating someone who doesn't unde

Disclaimer: this episode of "Fifi After Dark," speaks heavily to the ongoing #BlackLivesMatter protests going on globally. If you are tired of protesting talk, we HIGHLY advise you to give yourself a break and skip this episode. In this co-opted return of 'Fifi After Dark," host Afiya gives a sober and somber monologue regarding the on-going protests rocking the nation over police brutality and #BlackLives Matter. Why she does her best to NOT judge how anyone should protest, she does give the options available as well as her honest opinion on what protesting may look like for her; a thought that sorely needs to be considered by everything looking to make a change. She also tackles the idea of racism (which some may find controversial), how Black people in America — and worldwide for that matter — should combat the disease, and does her best to purge herself of lingering feelings about how to increase the quality of Black lives. This conversation is not for the faint of hearts, nor is it meant to incite divisi

What does it mean to be a "good" protestor? It's 2020 and the world is continuing to go to hell in a handbasket: first with Corona, and now with another senseless death of an unarmed Black man at the hands of white police officers, caught on tape. The now-viral death has sparked civil unrest and once more, Black people are hitting the streets to march in protest, with some unsavory side effects. In this episode of "Adult-ish," host Afiya is joined by co-host Vincent Bernard to question how does one protest? What does it mean to be a good protestor? Is it being a marcher or a person who donates funds? Or, just maybe there's another way... Listen on as Afiya gives her not-so-conflicting take on what it can mean to protest on her terms, while Vincent makes it very clear all those marching out there aren't really marching for the clause. And the two both wrangle with the question: will protests ever really ignite change if all we're doing is using our bodies instead of our minds? Tune in and let these voices be h