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It can be overwhelming... conflicting, complicated and all consuming.  Conflicting - Exciting and terrifying Complicated - We are not just making decisions for ourselves, it effects my kids... potentially my ex. All consuming - Making room to do this means I am sacrificing another area and I am already spread thin. NOT TO MENTION finding a mate /or not is probably the biggest decision we will have to make. 3 elements to factor in as we consider dating again. 1. Identify where I am - self awareness Name you fears, it brings freedom - with awareness brings healing Name your feeling - its ok to be excited as much as afraid Who am I - am I someone that someone would want to date? What work do I still need to do? What are scars - Replace the word 'baggage' with 'bonus' What are hopes? Give lots of grace - see this is not a one shot chance 2. Define what you are looking for, what we need and where you want to go First of all when thinking about this don’t envision a specific person. Create a check list - Wr

It can be overwhelming... conflicting, complicated and all consuming.  Conflicting - Exciting and terrifying Complicated - We are not just making decisions for ourselves, it effects my kids... potentially my ex. All consuming - Making room to do this means I am sacrificing another area and I am already spread thin. NOT TO MENTION finding a mate /or not is probably the biggest decision we will have to make. 3 elements to factor in as we consider dating again. 1. Identify where I am - self awareness Name you fears, it brings freedom - with awareness brings healing Name your feeling - its ok to be excited as much as afraid Who am I - am I someone that someone would want to date? What work do I still need to do? What are scars - Replace the word 'baggage' with 'bonus' What are hopes? Give lots of grace - see this is not a one shot chance 2. Define what you are looking for, what we need and where you want to go First of all when thinking about this don't envision a specific person. Create a check list - Wr

We all want to love our kids well. Loving them while we are in a position of feeling broken and vulnerable can create problems - blind-spots. Sometimes we tend to spoil them, shielding them from life’s natural consequences because they have already had so much trauma. Or we can be triggered by seeing our ex in their behavior and inadvertently withdraw. Coming out of a relationship that leaves us with scars can leave us with blind-spots related to how we see and give healthy love to our family. Ultimately, we should parent our kids as God parents us. God parents us by investing in long term character over short term gratification. Even with all good intentions, we can develop blind-spots in 3 primary areas. -Overcompensating Making sure our kids have the latest and greatest. -Not giving consequences Not holding them accountable for their behavior or choices. -Crossing emotional boundaries We can become either become dependent or the opposite we withdraw. Not addressing any and/or all of these blind-spots can

We all want to love our kids well. Loving them while we are in a position of feeling broken and vulnerable can create problems - blind-spots. Sometimes we tend to spoil them, shielding them from life's natural consequences because they have already had so much trauma. Or we can be triggered by seeing our ex in their behavior and inadvertently withdraw. Coming out of a relationship that leaves us with scars can leave us with  blind-spots related to how we see and give healthy love to our family. Ultimately, we should parent our kids as God parents us. God parents us by investing in long term character over short term gratification. Even with all good intentions, we can develop blind-spots in 3 primary areas. -Overcompensating Making sure our kids have the latest and greatest. -Not giving consequences Not holding them accountable for their behavior or choices. -Crossing emotional boundaries We can become either become dependent or the opposite we withdraw. Not addressing any and/or all of these blind-spots

We all want to love our kids well. Loving them while we are in a position of feeling broken and vulnerable can create problems - blind-spots. Sometimes we tend to spoil them, shielding them from life's natural consequences because they have already had so much trauma. Or we can be triggered by seeing our ex in their behavior and inadvertently withdraw. Coming out of a relationship that leaves us with scars can leave us with blind-spots related to how we see and give healthy love to our family. Ultimately, we should parent our kids as God parents us. God parents us by investing in long term character over short term gratification. Even with all good intentions, we can develop blind-spots in 3 primary areas. -Overcompensating Making sure our kids have the latest and greatest. -Not giving consequences Not holding them accountable for their behavior or choices. -Crossing emotional boundaries We can become either become dependent or the opposite we withdraw. Not addressing any and/or all of these blind-spots can

Some of us think that self love is only self serving. An incorrect belief that in order to parent well, our kid's needs come before our needs, and often we over compensate. The problem is, we can't give what we don't have. Often we spend so much time focusing on other people we don't spend enough time loving and caring for ourselves. Self Love if often viewed as a reward or a special treat we give to ourselves... but it goes far beyond that. Love is an activity not a quality. Loving yourself requires more than just a mindset, it requires action. 3 keys to practicing self love can be broken into the following steps. 1. Mindset Reset We have to start resetting how we view self love. Understanding that loving ourselves well brings value to how we love our kids. Self love = loving our kids It requires committing to making this a priority Give grace, not putting so much pressure on ourselves - be patient - a mind reset wont happen overnight TRY THIS - Right notes on bathroom mirror - reminding of who we are

Some of us think that self love is only self serving. An incorrect belief that in order to parent well, our kid’s needs come before our needs, and often we over compensate. The problem is, we can’t give what we don’t have. Often we spend so much time focusing on other people we don’t spend enough time loving and caring for ourselves. Self Love if often viewed as a reward or a special treat we give to ourselves... but it goes far beyond that. Love is an activity not a quality. Loving yourself requires more than just a mindset, it requires action. 3 keys to practicing self love can be broken into the following steps. 1. Mindset Reset We have to start resetting how we view self love. Understanding that loving ourselves well brings value to how we love our kids. Self love = loving our kids It requires committing to making this a priority Give grace, not putting so much pressure on ourselves - be patient - a mind reset wont happen overnight TRY THIS - Right notes on bathroom mirror - reminding of who we are / our

Some of us think that self love is only self serving. An incorrect belief that in order to parent well, our kid's needs come before our needs, and often we over compensate. The problem is, we can't give what we don't have. Often we spend so much time focusing on other people we don't spend enough time loving and caring for ourselves. Self Love if often viewed as a reward or a special treat we give to ourselves... but it goes far beyond that. Love is an activity not a quality. Loving yourself requires more than just a mindset, it requires action. 3 keys to practicing self love can be broken into the following steps. 1. Mindset Reset We have to start resetting how we view self love. Understanding that loving ourselves well brings value to how we love our kids. Self love = loving our kids It requires committing to making this a priority Give grace, not putting so much pressure on ourselves - be patient - a mind reset wont happen overnight TRY THIS - Right notes on bathroom mirror - reminding of who we are / our

As single parents, sometimes our schedules and all the tactical things we have to get done can eat up our time and suddenly we find that we don’t have time for God. We can get disconnected from a sense of spiritual balance and lose our sense of belonging. Often, we may not feel connected to anything, which can make us isolate even more. There are many things that can create a disconnection from God. Sometimes we go to other people or things for our security and connection point. We can create idols without even realizing it. Sometimes we feel forgotten, broken and end up feeling nothing. We can feel so damaged that we wonder so why would anyone want us and that we are a disappointment to God. So we wonder where we do we even fit anymore.  So how do we get back to the place of finding true spiritual balance or alignment – for some of us maybe for the first time. Spiritual balance isn’t just about memorizing Bible verses. It’s about true connection. This comes from embracing two components: Spiritual ident

As single parents, sometimes our schedules and all the tactical things we have to get done can eat up our time and suddenly we find that we don't have time for God. We can get disconnected from a sense of spiritual balance and lose our sense of belonging. Often, we may not feel connected to anything, which can make us isolate even more. There are many things that can create a disconnection from God. Sometimes we go to other people or things for our security and connection point. We can create idols without even realizing it. Sometimes we feel forgotten, broken and end up feeling nothing. We can feel so damaged that we wonder so why would anyone want us and that we are a disappointment to God. So we wonder where we do we even fit anymore.  So how do we get back to the place of finding true spiritual balance or alignment - for some of us maybe for the first time. Spiritual balance isn't just about memorizing Bible verses. It's about true connection. This comes from embracing two components: Spiritual ide

As single parents, sometimes our schedules and all the tactical things we have to get done can eat up our time and suddenly we find that we don't have time for God. We can get disconnected from a sense of spiritual balance and lose our sense of belonging. Often, we may not feel connected to anything, which can make us isolate even more. There are many things that can create a disconnection from God. Sometimes we go to other people or things for our security and connection point. We can create idols without even realizing it. Sometimes we feel forgotten, broken and end up feeling nothing. We can feel so damaged that we wonder so why would anyone want us and that we are a disappointment to God. So we wonder where we do we even fit anymore.  So how do we get back to the place of finding true spiritual balance or alignment - for some of us maybe for the first time. Spiritual balance isn't just about memorizing Bible verses. It's about true connection. This comes from embracing two components: Spiritual ident

With all the demands of raising kids on our own with less than optimal resources, money and time it is VERY easy to become mentally overwhelmed. To work towards emotional / mental balance it is important to identify two categories to focus on. * Things we have control over  * Things we don't have control over When we face unpleasant situations it is natural to react with anger, worry, fear, anxiety etc. Finding emotional balance helps us to attain flexibility and promotes stabilization between our mind and body. In other words, emotional balance teaches us how to respond to negative emotions and thoughts without just getting stuck in them. The most important component to mental or emotional health we have complete control over - our perspective. Defining the correct perspective dictates our quality of life and is the root what we model for our kids, of how we communicate and experience every encounter and thought It starts and ends with this - God is in control - nothing has caught him off guard. We are

With all the demands of raising kids on our own with less than optimal resources, money and time it is VERY easy to become mentally overwhelmed. To work towards emotional / mental balance it is important to identify two categories to focus on. • Things we have control over • Things we don’t have control over When we face unpleasant situations it is natural to react with anger, worry, fear, anxiety etc. Finding emotional balance helps us to attain flexibility and promotes stabilization between our mind and body. In other words, emotional balance teaches us how to respond to negative emotions and thoughts without just getting stuck in them. The most important component to mental or emotional health we have complete control over - our perspective. Defining the correct perspective dictates our quality of life and is the root what we model for our kids, of how we communicate and experience every encounter and thought It starts and ends with this - God is in control - nothing has caught him off guard. We are consta

With all the demands of raising kids on our own with less than optimal resources, money and time it is VERY easy to become mentally overwhelmed. To work towards emotional / mental balance it is important to identify two categories to focus on. * Things we have control over * Things we don't have control over When we face unpleasant situations it is natural to react with anger, worry, fear, anxiety etc. Finding emotional balance helps us to attain flexibility and promotes stabilization between our mind and body. In other words, emotional balance teaches us how to respond to negative emotions and thoughts without just getting stuck in them. The most important component to mental or emotional health we have complete control over - our perspective. Defining the correct perspective dictates our quality of life and is the root what we model for our kids, of how we communicate and experience every encounter and thought It starts and ends with this - God is in control - nothing has caught him off guard. We are consta

The idea of 'having balance' seems impossible as a single parent. Typically our physical needs are at the bottom of the list of priorities. The problem with that is that is not sustainable - and just like a car that we never get serviced or the oil changed, inevitably we will find eventually ourselves in crisis. Small maintenence steps can equal longer, healthier outcomes. Physical balance effects everything else ion our lives - we must move towards wellness before we hit physical crisis. It's more than just working out or eating right, we want to look at this a little more holistically so we have broken physical balance into 3 very simple categories: Fuel / What we put in our body Rest - recharging Activity  The idea is if we can just start taking even one (or by all means more) simple, proactive steps in each one of these categories we will move towards balance. Here are some simple ideas to move towards physical balance: FUEL / WHAT WE PUT IN OUR BODIES Stay away from late night snack Dr

The idea of ‘having balance’ seems impossible as a single parent. Typically our physical needs are at the bottom of the list of priorities. The problem with that is that is not sustainable - and just like a car that we never get serviced or the oil changed, inevitably we will find eventually ourselves in crisis. Small maintenance steps can equal longer, healthier outcomes. Physical balance effects everything else ion our lives - we must move towards wellness before we hit physical crisis.

The idea of 'having balance' seems impossible as a single parent. Typically our physical needs are at the bottom of the list of priorities. The problem with that is that is not sustainable - and just like a car that we never get serviced or the oil changed, inevitably we will find eventually ourselves in crisis. Small maintenance steps can equal longer, healthier outcomes. Physical balance effects everything else ion our lives - we must move towards wellness before we hit physical crisis.

As a single parent, life can seem completely out of balance. Too much of everything else... Not enough of you.  Today - best selling author, certified business coach, speaker, Dave Ramsey personality and daughter of a single mom, Christy Wright walks us through transformational steps we can take to find balance when everything seems out of control. Find out more about Christy here - https://www.businessboutique.com

As single parents, we walk around with a lot of wounds. Wounds from things people have said to or about us... in court, in arguments. Not to mention feeling 'less than' as a single parent juggling so many properties alone. Add to that, the voices in our head that remind us of regretful things we might have done. All of this can drain us of a sense of self-confidence. Today hosts Robert Beeson and Kimberley Mitchell discuss the struggle of suffering from a lack of self-confidence and offer a few 'hacks' that helped them walk through feeling the same way.

As uncomfortable as it can be to talk about it, it is essential to talk about OUR money - (or lack thereof). When we lose our financial partner through a divorce or death, it can feel isolating and overwhelming to figure out our finances alone. Today hosts Robert Beeson, and Marissa Lee discuss Solo Parent hacks related to managing our finances.