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How to Help Someone with Social Anxiety   Social anxiety is a big problem around the world. Many people with social anxiety often keep it to themselves and they suffer in silence.  In this episode John talks about how to help someone with social anxiety and things you should never do. If you are one of the millions who suffer from social anxiety John offers you support and encouragement as well. There is help and hope for you if you live with social phobia. It's not easy, it can be scary, and often lonely, but social anxiety is treatable. You can get help if you are ready to ask for it. One of the worst things you can do is allow your social anxiety to win each and every day. This episode is to honor all of you who are affected by social anxiety. To learn more about Keep Calm Academy and more about John, visit www.johncordray.com *** Thank you for listening to my show. It would mean a lot to me if you took a few seconds to leave a honest and kind review. This will help me be able to reach more people with

Are Panic Attacks Real? Some may say no, others may say maybe. This question has been around for years from people who don't understand anxiety and panic attacks. People who don't experience anxiety, or at least their unwilling to admit they have anxiety, are likely to assume that panic attacks are simply all in someone's head.  Perhaps people who are overly sensitive and dramatic say their having a panic attack, but it's just overblown worry. For the person who questions the legitimacy I want to let you know, yes, panic attacks are real. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), 2.7% of the U.S. population have panic attacks.  Panic attacks are a real, and they are a real problem for millions of people. Don't take panic attacks lightly and please, don't judge someone who experiences panic attacks. If you are one of the millions of people who suffer from panic attacks I want to encourage you to tell someone whom you trust. Don't suffer in silence and alone. Anxie

Overcoming Entrepreneurial Burnout with Chris Ducker In this episode I talk with Chris Ducker, a serial entrepreneur, author, business owner, keynote speaker, and founder of Youpreneur. If you are a business owner or an online entrepreneur you know doubt have experienced burnout. If you haven't yet, you will. Stress is a major cause of physical problems that can not only ruin your business, but it can send you to the hospital. That's exactly what happened with Chris. Chris goes deep and is not afraid to tell everyone his personal bouts with stress and burnout. Chris owns a large company in the Philippines with over 400 employees, he is a highly sought after keynote speaker, an author, a podcaster with a very large following, the host of Tropical Think Tank and the founder of Youpreneur mastermind group. Chris is one busy and successful entrepreneur. Chris is all about working hard and smart, but he also knows his limits. He learned the hard way. Now Chris Ducker talks about how his lesson of not taki

Depression Sucks, You Can't Just Snap Out of It   Depression affects millions of people all over the world, yet so many live in isolation and shame because of it. Even worse, people in their lives tell them to just snap out of it. Depression does not work like that. You can't simply wish it away or turn off a switch. Depression is a miserable leech that won't go away easily. To tell someone to just "snap out of it" makes the depression worse and only makes the person with depression feel like even more of a loser. This episode is for those who suffer from depression as well as those who don't understand what depression does to someone. John talks about the number 1 key that we all need to do to make it better for every one.  We all must be in agreement with this if we want to break the stigma of mental illness. Depression does not make you weak, weird or stupid, but people can. *** This episode is brought to you by Keep Calm Academy. Keep Calm Academy is an 8 week online course to help

What Panic Attacks Feel Like   Am I Having A Heart Attack? Yes, it’s possible that what you think is a heart attack is actually a very intense and out of control emotion. Often, panic attacks feel like something much more ominous than what it really is. Panic attacks (also called anxiety attacks) can feel very scary and are often confused with heart attacks. It’s true that the symptoms of a panic attacks can mimic a heart attack, but the two are very different. One is emotional the other is physical. I want to be very clear here. If you think you’re having a heart attack please go to the hospital right away. Don’t try to convince yourself that it’s nothing. It’s something.  Don’t ignore it. PANIC ATTACKS FEEL LIKE YOU’RE DYINGIt’s far better to go to the hospital thinking you’re having a heart attack (but you’re experiencing a panic attack instead) than the other way around. Panic attacks can feel very scary and a natural thought is  – you’re dying! Many people who have panic attacks think they are going to d

The Most Common Mental Illness in the US   In this episode John reveals the most common mental illness in the United States. John thinks that this is the most common mental illness in the world. What do you think it is? Here is a list of potential disorders: 1. Depression 2. Stress 3. Anxiety 4. ADHD One of these mental illnesses attributes to 40 million adults in the US. These numbers are staggering, but the good news is that this mental illness is highly treatable.   This episode of The John Cordray Show is sponsored by KeepCalmAcademy.com Keep Calm Academy is an 8 week online course designed to help you learn to keep calm from imbalanced emotions.   To learn more about John Cordray visit www.johncordray.com or at www.twitter.com/johnpcordray     Smells Like Humans Like listening to funny friends discuss curious human behavior. Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Support the showRate the show: If you enjoyed this episode, please consider providing an honest rating of the show here www.mentalhealthtodayshow.

Stop Complaining About Your Hot Mess And Do Something About It This is #RealTalk about your hot mess. John challenges you to stop complaining about your hot mess and start doing something about it in this episode. There's a time and place to be down and depressed about your hot mess, but you can't stay there forever. You are the only one that can get you out of the negative thinking and stuck feeling, and it's about time you did something about it. John talks about 5 Action Points that you can do to start doing something about your hot mess. Do Something: 1. Talk to a close friend. Don't lean on them too heavily though. 2. Read a book. 3. Listen to podcasts. 4. Go to a therapist. 5. Join KeepCalmAcademy.com The point is, there comes a time when enough is enough and you just need to do something. It's time to get off of your butt and start working on yourself. Contest: John is offering a contest to purchase Keep Calm Academy for $1.00. Rules: 1. Use your smart phone to record a short video

Developing The Right Mindset With Anxiety If you live with anxiety you know how hard it can be just to get through the day. Wouldn't be nice if there was a "switch" that you could turn off your anxiety? If you struggle with anxiety it's critical to learn and understand how to develop the right mindset on how to think and live with it. It's possible to bring emotional balance back to your life and learn how to keep calm, but it's hard work and will take a lot of determination and motivation to keep going when you want to give up. Developing the right mindset with anxiety starts with your belief system. What do you believe about yourself in the midst of your anxiety? Do you tend to give into the lies of your inner critic that tells you that you are not good enough, a loser, a failure? Or can you refuse to believe the lies and choose to focus on the positives in your life instead? John talks about why it's so important to start developing the right mindset with your anxiety and how to

How to Overcome Self-Doubt   Self-Doubt is one of the most common emotional barriers people from all walks of life encounter. It's a given that you'll have some self-doubt, but what you do with that doubt will determine your outcome. Self-doubt creeps in and robs you of reaching your full potential and therefore achieving your dreams. Don't allow your self-doubt to keep you from reaching your dreams. In this episode, John will walk you through what you can start working on and give you the inspiration and motivation you need to keep moving forward, even with self-doubt. It's far better to fail at trying, than failing to try. If you never try, you will always have regret.  Learn what you can do to work on overcoming your self-doubt. This episode was brought to you by Keep Calm Academy. Keep Calm Academy is an 8 module course loaded with helpful lessons and resources to help you keep calm right from your mobile device. To learn more visit www.KeepCalmAcademy.com *** You can learn more about John

The 4 Rules of Emotional Engagement Okay, so you struggle with an emotional issue. Maybe anxiety, depression, fear, anger, or some other emotional struggle. What are you going to do about it? Many people lose hope, give up, and live a defeated life. But, that's not you! You don't want to live in defeat and give up on life. You need to work on the 4 Rules of Emotional Engagement: Rule 1. Don't Be Naive.  Learn and understand your struggle. Know thy enemy and do something about it. Rule 2. Don't Give Up.  Don't allow your struggle to defeat you. Rule 3. Don't Give In. Don't listen to your negative thoughts any longer. Rule 4. Don't Lose Hope. Don't think help is not available. You need to look for help and be willing to ask for help.   This episode is sponsored by Keep Calm Academy. Keep Calm Academy is a membership site designed to help people like you learn to keep calm from emotional struggles. To learn more visit www.keepcalmacademy.com   Check out John's website at w

Stress: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly How much stress do you have in your life? Listen to this episode to know where to start bringing calm back to your life. Stress is a major reason for many physical problems including heart attacks, burn out and high blood pressure. A certain amount of stress is good, but most people have an over abundance of stress in their life. The are four main stressors in our lives: 1. Relationships 2. Finances 3. Situation 4. Health Do you know where your stress is coming from? If so, what are you doing about it to make a lasting life change? Listen to what John has to say about stress and what the first thing you should be doing is.   This episode is brought to you by: KEEP CALM ACADEMY The only membership site designed to help you keep calm from anxiety, stress, anger, and fear all from your mobile device. To learn more visit www.keepcalmacademy.com   To visit John's website go to www.johncordray.com   Smells Like Humans Like listening to funny friends discuss curious human beha

Why You Hate Crowds And What To Do About It When you're in a place with a lot of people and you freak out inside, your heart beats fast, your mind races, than you have social anxiety.  If you hate crowds and if you have social anxiety you're not crazy.  In this episode John talks about why you need to accept the fact you have social anxiety, but not like it. John offers some practical action steps that you can take to face your fear of crowds. Don't let the invisible anxiety leach suck the life out of you. Find out what you can do to start to face and fight your fear of crowds. You have more power than you realize, and John wants to help you discover that power so you can gain the confidence you need to be in a crowd without freaking out. This episode is brought to you by the FREE Keep Calm Survival Kit. The only survival kit to help bring emotional balance back to your life. The Keep Calm Survival Kit contains 4 video & audio lessons plus printable worksheets that follow each lesson. Take adv

If You Want to Get Along With That Difficult Person DON'T Do These 3 Things Do you have a difficult person in your life? John wants to help you respond to that person in a healthy way. We all have had a difficult person in our life at one time or another. The disapproving look or the condescending tone just set's you off. Here are 3 things not to do with the difficult person in your life: 1. Don't Take It Personal.  2. Don't Fight Back. 3. Don't Be Unprepared. Listen to this episode as John explains each of the three things not to do and why. This episode was brought to you by The Anger Management Course: Learn how to control your anger right from your phone. 8 Lessons (video & audio). Access The Anger Management Course and start getting control of you anger today! The Anger Management Course Support the showRate the show: If you enjoyed this episode, please consider providing an honest rating of the show here www.mentalhealthtodayshow.com/reviews/new . Disclaimer: The Mental Health

If You Want To Have Less Holiday Stress You MUST Do These 2 Things Is stress taking over your happiness this holiday season? Find out what 2 things you need to do to have less holiday stress this year. The Christmas season is supposed to be full of joy and happiness, but sometime too much stress can rob us of that joy. John talks about 2 specific ways you can stop doing right now to help lessen your holiday stress. 1. Learn to say "no". Stop saying yes all the time. Every time you say "yes" to someone you are really saying "no" to yourself. And if you say "yes" all the time then you will burn out. It's okay to say "no" at times. 2. Get your head on straight. Stop allowing unproductive and negative thoughts to invade your mind. Focus on the here and now and stop allowing worry and fear take over. If you are not looking forward to the holiday season then chances are you are over stressed. Learn to practice the two things above and start making changes in your attitude

All I Want For Christmas Is To Just Feel Happy Again   The Christmas season is supposed to be full of happiness and cheer. But, for many it's fully of misery and depression. The pressure to "keep it together" for the holidays can bring even more depression and shame. What's making you unhappy this Christmas? Many people are depressed and sorrowful around Christmas for many different reasons: Loss of a loved one Loss of a job Financial stress Broken relationships Loneliness Did your reason for being depressed make the list above? If not, feel free to tell me what I should add. In this episode I get real personal as I share my story that resonates with this topic. **Live Coaching Opportunity** I have recently opened the doors for a live coaching call. I am currently accepting a small group of no more than 15 people.  Hurry, though, this exclusive coaching session will fill up fast. To learn more and to put your name on the list use this link johncordray.com/coaching   Your Chief Encouragement O

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If Fear Is Just An Emotion Why Is It So Controlling? What do you fear? Is your fear controlling your actions? Listen to John talk about fear and what steps you can take to overcome your fear. Fear can be very controlling, can't it? Fear can prevent you from doing things like going to work, attending school or flying in an airplane. Fear can zap the enjoyment and hope right out of your heart. So, what can you do when fear seems so huge and controlling in your life? 1. Learn to accept the things that you can not control. This simple shift in your thinking can help you readjust to your circumstance.  2. Learn to face your fear. When you can do something about the thing your are afraid of then it's time to take action. Write this down: On one list, write down everything that you cannot control.  On a different list, write down everything that you can control. How are the lists different? Learn to accept the things that you cannot control and learn what you need to do to take action on the things you can c

Don't Let Your Anger Turn You Into A Monster Has anyone ever said you have an anger problem? Do you tend to blame other's for your anger? If so, please listen to this episode and learn how to not let your anger turn you into a monster. Three Steps to Control Your Anger: 1. Admit that you have an anger problem. Admit to yourself first, and then to others. 2. Take responsibility for your actions. Don't blame other's for your temper. 3. Do something about it. Good intentions are not enough. your must make a plan to get the help you need and then take action. Most angry people regret what was said or done out of anger. Most angry people don't like being so angry, but they don't know what to do about it. Get the help that you need. You may need to talk with a therapist for a few sessions to learn what you need to do to control your anger.  Working on your anger is not the same thing as having good intentions. Good intentions won't help you keep calm. Good intentions alone will result in

When Thanksgiving Is Not So Happy Do you find it hard to be happy on Thanksgiving? If so, you're not alone. Many people experience every emotion except happiness around Thanksgiving. Here are 8 reasons why Thanksgiving is not so happy for many: 1. Divorce 2. Loneliness 3. Family Conflict 4. Death of a loved one 5. Family pain / secrets 6. Break-up  7. Work 8. Anxiety You may have a different reason why Thanksgiving is not so happy. Whatever reason why your Thanksgiving is not so happy, I want to encourage you with a few tips that I hope will help you. Tip 1: Make a plan. Write down everything you need or want to do for Thanksgiving. Write down what you're going to say, what you'll do, etc. This will give you a sense of control. Tip 2: Smile on purpose. Research shows that when you smile the muscles in your face send "happy" signals to your brain.  Tip 3: Laugh out loud. Similar to smiling on purpose, when you laugh out loud it will trigger the happy part of your brain.  Watch a funny movie

We Really Need To Talk About Your Fear Of What Other People Think!   Do you struggle with what other's think about you? Listen to this episode and listen to John talk about how you can start to become more confident with who you are. If you struggle with the opinions of other's than chances are you have that nagging inner critic that constantly tells yourself that you are not worthy. Negative thoughts and feelings can really begin to ware you down. Thoughts like: You're not good enough... You're broken... You don't have anything good to contribute... You're boring... You're insignificant... You're a loser... Often fill your head don't they? If you allow these negative thoughts to become a belief then your fear of what people think of you will only get worse. Here is what I want to encourage you to do. Start believing this one thing about yourself: YOU ARE WORTHY! Write this down on a 3x5 card and remind yourself every time your inner critic rears its ugly head. Keep tellin