Peace Talk

Beautiful work today with questioning beliefs about tax amendments, invasive people, those who are getting away with something, personal needs, mates. Listen and follow along with your own self-inquiry. Who are you without your story?

Beautiful work today with questioning beliefs about unexpected guests, estranged daughters, getting laid off, co-workers who waste our time, no reply from a text. What happens when we believe stories that feel painful and stressful? Who are we without our stories? 

Who are we without our stories of whatever those other people need to do, in order for us to be happy?

A group of sincere inquirers do The Work together. 

What Is Awareness? (And Why It Matters) | Understanding Consciousness Here's a strange question: Who's watching your thoughts right now? You're thinking—thoughts are moving through your mind. But something is aware of those thoughts. What is that? Today we're exploring awareness—the part of you that never changes. This might sound abstract, but it's actually the most practical thing I can share with you. Because when you realize you're not your thoughts, everything shifts.

Today's Grace Note is about making inquiry accessible—because you don't need perfect conditions to question your thoughts. Someone once asked me: "How long does The Work take? I don't have time to journal for an hour every time I'm upset." Here's the truth: you can question a thought in under five minutes. In the car. While making coffee. While your kid is getting their shoes on. The point isn't to do it perfectly. The point is to do it.

"I Can't Stop" - Is It True? | Client Story Using The Work "I can't stop eating." or I can't stop drinking or I can't stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend. If you've ever thought this and felt completely defeated by it, this video is for you. Today I'm sharing a common client story about what happens when we question this thought using Byron Katie's inquiry process. 

I started Grace Notes, my newsletter to readers, in 2011. My first note began with "LIVE! From the New Year's Cleanse!" In 2011, about 6 years into using The Work of Byron Katie to question my stressful stories, I was amazed to realize how much calmer and more peaceful I was in my life in general. I felt nothing like I once had felt. It was like a door had opened....permanently for the better.  

What if the part of you that does crazy or unwanted behaviors, like emotionally eating, isn't your enemy? What if it's actually trying to protect you? In this video, I share the way I love to work with compulsions: first, to bring curiosity to the conversation. The Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective on binge eating and emotional eating is one modality that holds this view. You can completely changed how you view your compulsive behaviors. Instead of fighting the urge, what if you listened to it?