Divorce Conversations For Women

Divorce is never easy, but what if you could take steps to help your kids navigate the process?   Rhonda's guest today is Sarah Armstrong, author of The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce. They discuss ways to make things easier, especially if you’ve got kids.    Pay attention to small changes that the children will be affected by - kids are observant! Take the high road - easier said than done, but worth it. Set a goal to never pack a bag. Set the intention to delay your emotions   Sarah gives us some amazing real-life examples you won’t want to miss!   Buy Sarah’s book HERE.   About Sarah:   Sarah Armstrong, good divorce proponent and author of The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce, is vice-president, global marketing operations, at Google and proud mom of Grace, who graduated from high school in 2021 and is in her sophomore year of college. Sarah is a mentor to other women in business and longtime volunteer at various nonprofit organizations, including the Jack & Jill Late Stage Cancer Foundation, Ge

Rhonda’s guest today is Life Mastery Coach, Donna Tashjian. They discuss ways to move past the pain of divorce to a place of peace and empowerment. We know you will be inspired and encouraged! They cover:  Choose joy - joy is not happiness You can find healing through trauma - forgiveness is not an emotion Look for the gifts - gratitude can change everything   About today’s guest: Donna Tashjian is the founder of Vibrant Living International, a non-profit organization. She is a Life Mastery Coach, an ordained minister, a podcaster, and an author. She helps bring accelerated transformation to people across the world. She empowers you to master life, spirit, soul, and body.  Donna has been speaking and coaching for over 25 years. She has developed powerful programs and workshops to help you through life's transitions and pain to achieve your goals or dreams. She also produces a podcast called “You Were Designed for Greatness” and has written 3 books. Her clients say she has a knack for turning fear into

Don’t miss this episode if you’re contemplating keeping your house in your divorce. Join Rhonda and Jeff Landers for this in depth conversation on keeping the house - is it a good idea? What factors should you consider? Learn what the 6-36 rule is and how it plays a pivotal part in planning for your future.  Gather all of the information. Evaluate your particular situation (things are not black and white!). Get to a place where you can move forward. Do not fall for a false sense of financial security!  Jeff’s new book: Divorce House Sense ........ About today’s guest: Jeff Landers is a seasoned real estate/mortgage and divorce expert with over 40 years of combined experience. Jeff earned his BA degree in psychology from Columbia University and studied law at Pace University School of Law before becoming a divorce financial advisor. He is also a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA™), Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP™) and licensed real estate and mortgage broker. In 2010, Jeff founded

Rhonda and Clinical Therapist, Jennifer Parker discuss a topic we’ve been addressing a lot recently: Coercive Control. Today’s episode covers: Ways to recognize you are being controlled How to get the help and support you need Why isolation is your worst enemy Grab a copy of Jennifer’s book: Coercive Relationships: Find the Answers you Seek   About today’s guest: Jennifer Parker obtained her Masters degree in Social Work at Wisconsin-Madison.She has over 35 years of mental health therapy experience and specials in intimate partner abuse survivors. Jennifer’s work with victims builds resiliency by helping understand who is responsible and address issues that interfere with creating the lives they want.  Jennifer’s book, Coercive Relationships: Find the Answers You Seek, includes knowledge from her training and research, as well as insights she gained from survivors on their healing journeys. Her accomplishments include a curriculum for IPV group work, workshops, professional newsletter articles, exper

  Budgeting. No one wants to talk about it, but it's essential - especially if you're contemplating divorce. Rhonda sits down with Chuck Howard, Assistant Professor at Texas A&M University to discuss the importance of creating a budget and then establishing a routine to continuously track and re-evaluate it.  Listen in as Chuck gives us 5 easy steps to move to successful budgeting:  Set your budget - look at what’s coming in and going out of your bank account. Set aside time to track your spending against the budget. Think about atypical expenses that creep up and make a plan for those. Take in an outside view - ask for help from someone who can give you an objective, broader perspective. Don’t be too hard on yourself! Do you have questions about setting up a budget? Reach out and let us know! We have resources that can help.  Contact us HERE.   About today’s guest:  Ray Charles “Chuck” Howard is an Assistant Professor of Marketing at Texas A&M University. In his research, Chuck asks quest

Rhonda sits down with Dr. Melissa Kalt to discuss practical things to implement when dealing with a narcissist: Examine your motives Be aware of the narcissist’s behavior patterns Give narcissistic supply for the purpose of negotiating Extracting the trauma They delve into each of these steps in a way that will make you feel empowered and encouraged. You won’t want to miss a minute of this one - get ready to take notes! About today’s guest: Dr Melissa, a Trauma Expert and Master Healer helps Soul-driven leaders solve their "unsolvable" problems. She helps brilliant, creative, empaths identify the hidden narcissists impacting their lives, identify the impact they have on their lives, then rise above the trauma and chaos, becoming antifragile. Grab your free Clarity Guide here: narclesslife.com Connect with Dr. Melissa: Website: https://melissakaltmd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissakaltmd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissakaltmd/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrMelissaKaltM

False Sense Series False Sense of... Amicability It is far wiser to judge people by their deeds than their speech – judge their track record rather than their talk. -Rasheed Ogunlaru Do you find yourself believing what your spouse says rather than believing their actions?  This is what I call creating a false sense of amicability.  What is a false sense of amicability and how does it play out for some people in the divorce process?  It is where one person believes it is possible to avoid all conflict throughout the divorce process even though the previous track record proves otherwise. There is more emphasis on words than actions.  You want to believe that you can avoid conflict. You want your divorce to be amicable. I mean, who doesn’t, right? However, avoiding conflict may not be the answer. Avoidance is often fueled by fear of feeling uncomfortable, fear of being bullied or fear of being perceived as selfish or unreasonable. Let’s be honest, being passive is exhausting. You work tirelessly to please others

Did you know that according to a Forbes article nearly half of the women surveyed said they had “financial surprises” during the divorce? Say what?! Here is a short list of the things I have seen with my clients (changing life insurance beneficiaries, setting up separate business entities, establishing private bank accounts, transferring money to another family member, taking loans from 401ks and more!).  Furthermore, here are a few comments women may hear from their spouse in hopes to keep things “amicable”. You will be well taken care of.  You don’t need to have the business valued. It isn’t worth anything.  You can keep the house – and I will keep my pension. This is what I call creating a false sense of financial security.  Learn more over on our blog! Want more info on our Bridge Group Experience? click HERE.   Your host is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA®, CEO of The Women’s Financial Wellness Center Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial st

Rhonda sits down with Trauma-Informed Coach and author, Houa Utech to discuss covert narcissism and what it’s like to move through the divorce process when you feel like you have no control. They discuss:   What can you do to build your team? Ways the court system is broken. How to end up with what you deserve. Tips to deal with the trauma you carry.   And be sure to check out Houa’s Book:  The Unseen Wounds of Women  About today’s guest:    Houa Utech is an International Trauma-Informed Coach, advocate, and author who specializes in helping women recover and reclaim their lives from Betrayal Trauma, Covert Narcissistic Abuse, Complex PTSD, Divorce, and Post-Separation Abuse.   Houa has personally experienced covert narcissistic abuse and trauma from infidelity and betrayal which led to her developing anxiety, panic attacks, and complex PTSD.    In her search to find understanding and healing, she discovered a whole community of women dealing with similar experiences of intimate partner abuse, po

Recently, Rhonda sat down with Divorce Mortgage Planner, Tami Wollensak, on her YouTube video series, Peaceful Divide.  We are pleased to be able to share that conversation with you here! Tami and Rhonda discuss strategy, finding the right team, and moving the needle to enable women to walk away empowered.    Have you ever wondered how Rhonda approaches her strategy? Listen in!     About our Guests today: Tami Wollensak is a Senior Mortgage Loan Originator and a Certified Divorce Lending Professional NMLS 1963450 at Oak Leaf Community Mortgage, A Division of Mutual Federal Bank. An Equal Housing Lender insured by FDIC.     Check out Tami’s Website! Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA®, CEO of The Women’s Financial Wellness Center   Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial strategies can impact their personal and professional success. Her work has shown women going through a divorce how to have a voice, be assertive, get results, be driven, and move forwar

If you’re contemplating divorce, or in the middle of the process, you may not see what your life can look like moving forward. Our guest, Laura Ericson believes in new beginnings! Laura and Rhonda talk about how you can prioritize travel - even if it’s just a weekend away. Taking time for yourself can be an important part of the healing process.  About today’s guest:    Laura Ericson is a travel expert and guide - ready to help you plan your next trip.    Although Laura has always loved travel, it wasn’t until she got divorced in 2017 that her desire to see the world was truly ignited. She had wasted a decade of her life being unhappy, and decided then and there to make travel a priority. After spending 2020 cooped up and unable to travel, Laura realized how much she not only wanted but needed travel in her life. So she decided to do something about it.   Laura offers group travel to places all over the world! Be sure to check out her site for more information:   Website   Instagram   Travel Facebook Group

Are you contemplating divorce? Do you feel unsettled and can’t quite answer the question, “What do I really want?”    Today’s episode is a special one. Rhonda is joined by Certified Energy & Performance Coach, Nicole Isler as they honor and remember a mutual client who lived out her next best move to the fullest. You’ll be encouraged and inspired as you hear the story of how she worked through her emotions and found her true, authentic self.    Our hope is that as you listen, you’ll realize that you can be just as empowered to make your life what you want right now. About today’s guest:   Nicole Isler, “The Energy Coach” has been an ardent advocate for health and wellness for over 30 years. She helps high-achieving coaches and wellness professionals rekindle their passion to get back their energy so their life + business becomes enjoyable again and feels like the ultimate party.   Through Nicole’s proprietary methods and techniques, her clients master their emotional responses to stress, increase produc

“Don’t be afraid to be your own advocate.” Attorney Brian Blitz and Rhonda have an eye opening conversation about the divorce process, how it affects women, and ways to get the support you need. Spoiler: it takes a team; one that will provide the strategy you need to come out ahead.  About today’s guest:    Brian says:   You do better for people when you do better with people. That’s not only my approach to matrimonial law, it’s my approach to life. Working with clients through some of the most difficult periods of their lives, I approach my work as a Principal at the Berger Schatz law firm with a combination of optimism, empowerment, and lightheartedness because I’m out to change the image of a stereotypical divorce lawyer.   I am an experienced and highly respected family law attorney, often praised for my compassion and holistic approach to solving family law problems. I've represented professional athletes and other celebrities, business owners, C-suite executives, medical professionals, and their spous

Rhonda’s guest today is AJ Grossman, owner of Leap Frog Divorce.  AJ is a master at navigating tough conversations in divorce.   How do you respond? Is a response required? How to engage in a difficult conversation with a learning mindset.   Establishing good boundaries Neutralize the emotion Determine how to protect yourself if a civil conversation isn't possible.  Breathe! You’ll be ok   WEBSITE LinkedIN Facebook YouTube   About today’s guest:  A.J. Grossman graduated from San Jose State University with a degree in business administration and at the top of his Florida law school class. He immediately went on to achieve his Master of Laws degree in Dispute Resolution from The Straus Institute at Pepperdine University Law School in California, which is the #1 ranked Dispute Resolution program in the country. As the son of a Navy Officer and the founder of several businesses, he learned quickly about service to others. A.J.’s goal is to help people solve problems, plain and simple. Being in the right place

Rhonda’s guest today is Paulette Rigo from Better Divorce Academy. If you are contemplating divorce or in the midst of going through it, it’s important to stay educated! Finding the right experts to walk with you in the process is instrumental to the success of the outcome.   About today’s guest:   As a Credentialed Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach and Director of Divorce Coaching and Management for Divorce Operations for Divorce Right Inc. Paulette Rigo specializes in mediating and coaching clients through high conflict, domestic violence, parental alienation, estrangement and narcissistic divorce cases.   Better Divorce Academy educates and encourages those who are considering or in the midst of the divorce to process thrive in the midst of the heartache and challenges. Connect with Paulette:   Company Website   Facebook   LinkedIn   Twitter   Instagram   YouTube Your host is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA®, CEO of The Women’s Financial Wellness Center   Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advoca

Britt Baker, Dow Janes co-founder and money mindset coach, sits down with Rhonda to delve into the mindset of money. Who do you want to be with your money?  How do you go about rewriting your story? If you’re feeling discouraged, you aren’t alone - and this episode will give you the tools you need to make some real changes.   Learn what a weekly money ritual is and how it’s actually self-care! Check out Britt’s free resource:    https://try.dowjanes.com/ritual/ About today’s guest:   Britt Williams Baker (she/her) is a Harvard Business School graduate, an expert investor with 10+ years of experience, and money mindset coach. She is on a mission to serve those who have traditionally been left out of the financial world, and she does so by bringing a step-by-step approach to   saving and investing. Through her company, Dow Janes, she and her co- founder Laurie-Anne have helped hundreds of women+ pay off debt fast, set up  long-lasting money systems, and invest for the first time. Britt believes everyone deser

Today’s episode tackles the difficult subject of Coercive Control and the various ways your spouse could be controlling you. Rhonda and Lisa discuss some trends and offer suggestions on how to set boundaries and fight back.  About today’s guest:    Lisa Fontes, PhD, is an internationally known expert on child abuse, intimate partner abuse, and sexual violence. As a researcher, activist, expert witness, and author, she works to protect the most vulnerable people from violence. She has written many journal articles and the books: Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship, Interviewing Clients Across Cultures Child Abuse and Culture: Working with Diverse Families She is a Senior Lecturer II at the University of Massachusetts Amherst in the Department of Interdisciplinary Studies. She has worked as a family, individual, and group psychotherapist. She has conducted research in Santiago, Chile, and with diverse people in the United States.  Dr. Fontes is a popular conferenc

Have you ever felt like something is “off” in regard to your spouse and your finances? The warning sides of fraud could be right in front of you. Tracy and Rhonda discuss the red flags to look out for and how to trust your gut. Be sure to connect with Tracy and access her Divorce Money Guide!   About today’s guest:   Tracy Coenen is a Forensic Accountant  with Sequence Inc. Forensic Accounting   Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn’t always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree, but added accounting and economics courses so she could sit for the CPA exam… and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans.    She has created a new resource, The

Rhonda sits down with Philip Segal to discuss the role of an investigator as you go through the divorce process. Learn how to ask the right questions, surround yourself with the right people and uncover things that can help you at settlement time. You may know more than you think you know!   About today’s guest: Philip Segal is a Managing Member with Charles Griffin Intelligence.    Philip has been a lawyer and investigator since 2007. Prior to that, he was a journalist for 19 years in five countries with a specialization in finance. His most recent job was Finance Editor at the Asian Wall Street Journal in Hong Kong.    Find out more at Philip’s website: Charlesgriffinllc.com   Blog: The Divorce Asset Hunter    Your host is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA®, CEO of The Women’s Financial Wellness Center   Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial strategies can impact their personal and professional success. Her work has shown women going through a divorce ho

Rhonda sits down with Christian speaker and author, Laura Sandretti to discuss all the ways women stay stuck in guilt and shame by the way they talk to themselves. It is possible to reprogram your mind to break free from what is holding you back.  Pay attention to how you talk to yourself and work to change the conversation going on in your own head. Most importantly, give yourself grace.    About today’s guest:   Laura Sandretti has been a Christian speaker, blogger, and author for over ten years. She has her master's degree in Theological Studies and is a former high school teacher and women's ministry director.    Connect with Laura:   Website   Facebook   LinkedIn   Instagram   YouTube Your host is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA®, CEO of The Women’s Financial Wellness Center   Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial strategies can impact their personal and professional success. Her work has shown women going through a divorce how to have a voice, b