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This is a common situation: you make a sex or intimacy-related request of your partner; they seem to agree to it, but never actually follow through. You find yourself feeling frustrated, dismissed, and dissatisfied. In this episode, Dr. Valeria looks at some reasons why your sexual requests are going unfulfilled, and what you can do to improve the situation. 

When we talk about intimacy, we often talk about physical attractiveness and beauty as important factors for good sex. But just how important are our looks when it comes to creating fulfilling sex lives? Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin weigh in. 

Many of us struggle with feelings of distance and disconnect in our sexual relationships. Keeping the spark of passion and intimacy alive gets especially harder in long-term relationships. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Jeanson Benoit discuss five tips for creating a stronger sexual connection with your partner that will help you revitalize and strengthen your intimate relationship.

Faking orgasms is a well known phenomenon that has become part of popular culture over the years. But is it a good idea to fake? In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin reveal who fakes orgasms (surprise: it's not just women); why we fake; what to do if you are the one faking; and what to do if you discover that your partner has been faking.  EPISODE NOTES: 2017 Faking Orgasms Study: https://www.entitymag.com/faking-orgasms-study/

Today, Dr. Valeria and her guest, sex coach Jeanson Benoit discuss the five things women secretly wish men did differently in sex. We talk about performance pressure; pleasure; sexual skills; pornography; what men absolutely need to focus on; ways in which men themselves - and the rest of us - need to give men a break; tips and strategies for better sex; and much more.  EPISODE NOTES: The Guide for Getting It On - book available on Amazon Dr. Valeria's Digital Sex Ed DVD Store: http://drvaleriachuba.com/store Jeanson Benoit's Website: https://www.thesexmechanic.com

A lot of dating advice being given these days also deals with sex and intimacy. And while some of it is accurate and well-intentioned, a lot of it is based on myths, false assumptions, and general sex-negativity. In today's episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin take a look at five types of dating advice that not only won't help you have good sex now but can also have very negative consequences for your sexual relationship long-term. 

We often focus on the skills of the partner who is giving oral sex. But how we receive oral sex has a huge impact on our enjoyment of the act. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss five common mistakes that women make when receiving oral sex, which prevent them from experience the full range of pleasure and fulfillment. 

Dr. Valeria chats with relationship coach Valerie Greene about how balancing our male and female energies can help us create better relationships; how to become more magnetic to the masculine; and how to communicate your feelings in an authentic way.  EPISODE NOTES: Valerie Greene's free e-guide to Man-ifesting lasting love: http://www.coachvaleriegreene.com/eguide/

Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin are back with another anal sex episode. Today, we're sharing 5 advanced tips and techniques for taking anal sex to the next level. (Make sure to check out Episode 47, our first anal sex episode, which is a must-listen for anyone interested in exploring anal pleasure!) Sarah's website: www.goodsexlifestyle.com Dr. Valeria's website: www.drvaleriachuba.com Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com    

Dr. Valeria and sexual empowerment coach and Tantra master Elise Carr discuss how the power of the yoni - heart - mind connection can heal women's sexuality and empower them for more creativity and happier lives. This episode is the last one in our 6 part series on sexuality and spirituality.  EPISODE NOTES Elise Carr's website: http://stellamuse.com Previous episode in this series:  Episode 1: http://bit.ly/2elj8pA Episode 2: http://bit.ly/2gcdq8I Episode 3: http://bit.ly/2qzLTqK Episode 4: http://bit.ly/2pFz8a3 Episode 5: http://bit.ly/2ngpAUL Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Dr. Valeria and her guest, sexologist and sex coach Jeanson Benoit, talk about some of the sexual behaviors and attitudes of women that men secretly hope women could change. This includes men wanting women to initiate sex more often; have more sexual desire; more body confidence; speak out about their sexual needs and desires; and be more open to experimentation. Dr. Valeria and Jeanson share their perspectives and give tips on how to create positive change that will benefit both men and women. Jeanson's website: www.thesexmechanic.com Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com   

Mona Darling, professional dominatrix and adventure coach, shares her story of becoming a dominatrix; the secrets of professional sexual domination; the truths, myths, and misconceptions about domination and BDSM; and how her work today is helping empower women's sexuality.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

According to a recently published - and widely discussed - study, Americans are having less sex today than 20 years ago. In this mini episode, Dr. Valeria takes a look at why we may be having less sex today  - and what it means for our sex lives.  EPISODE NOTES: Original study Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

In this fun and irreverent episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin chat about the often unromantic reality of sex; embarrassing body functions and weird sexual situations; and what to do if something embarrassing happens to you during sex.  Register for Dr. Valeria's free masterclass for women:  http://getsexsmart.com/webinar HYSTERICAL LITERATURE  Sarah Martin's website Dr. Valeria's website Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com     

Most of us struggle with negative body image, and have a critical relationship with our bodies. Negative body image has a devastating effect on our sexual lives and intimate relationships. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and her guest, sexual empowerment coach and Tantra master Elise Carr talk about healing the body image. Elise shares her incredible life story and experiences as a model, and the hard-earned wisdom she learned about loving her body and bringing it into alignment with her heart and spirit. This Episode #5 in our Sexuality & Spirituality series.  EPISODE NOTES:  Elise Carr's article about body image and body love Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Anal sex is everywhere: on the internet; in porn; and in our bedrooms. In this first episode dedicated to the art and science of anal sex, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin share tips and strategies on how to do anal sex right and have fun in the process. This is a great primer episode that everyone who wants to play with butts needs to listen to.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

In this second episode of the Get Sex-Smart: Oral Sex series, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss the five common mistakes women make when it comes to orally pleasuring men. They also discuss strategies for resolving these mistakes and for creating a successful and pleasure-focused foundation for oral sex with your male partner.  EPISODE NOTES: Sexual anatomy from a pleasure perspective  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com   

In the realm of human sexuality, there are many professionals, from therapists to coaches to researchers, that help people improve their sex lives. But for people looking for professional help with their sexual concerns, choosing the right professional can be overwhelming. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin give an overview of the available sexuality niches and specialities and give tips for choosing the right professional for you.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Erectile dysfunction is one of the top sexual concerns for men. Dealing with ED doesn't just mean finding the right treatment; it also involves healing a man's self esteem and sense of self; not allowing ED to disrupt his intimate relationship; and finding ways to have a great sex life while dealing with ED. Dr. Valeria shares her tips and guidance.  EPISODE NOTES: Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute (for finding a somatic therapist) Support forum for men dealing with ED (FrankTalk) Massage for Lovers educational DVD Dr. Valeria's website Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com   

In this fourth episode of our Conscious Sexuality series, Dr. Valeria and guest Elise Carr of StellaMuse.com talk about the way internet technology and social media are affecting our sex lives and intimate relationships. While technology can be incredibly useful and fascinating, it can also create distractions and a become a way to disconnect from our lives and loved ones. Dr. Valeria and Elise give their perspectives and advice on how to best navigate today's digital reality while also staying connected in your intimate relationship.  Elise Carr's website Dr. Valeria's website Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com