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People often ask sexologists about the one thing that is absolutely essential for great sex. In this episode, Dr. Valeria discusses the importance of the right sexual mindset and the #1 key ingredient that is necessary for fulfilling and pleasurable sex. Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com

In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin of goodsexlifestyle.com  talk about a fascinating and controversial topic: sex robots. Are they really the future of sex? First with the very realistic sex dolls, and through today's evolution of those dolls into animated robots and beyond, into true artificial intelligence - what does this technological advancement mean for our sex lives?  Will we suffer, or will we benefit - or maybe both? Tune in and find out.  EPISODE NOTES: US based sex doll and sex robot manufacturers: Real Doll and True Companion The Truth About Sex Robots (BBC article) Is This the Dawn of the Sex Bots? (Vanity Fair) How This Guy Fell in Love With a Sex Robot (Men's Health) Lars & The Real Girl (film about a man and his sex doll) Ex-Machina (film about realistic artificial intelligence and sexuality) Find more at getsexsmart.com Find Sarah Martin at goodsexlifestyle.com Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlif

Many couples find communication challenging. Talking about sex is especially difficult for a lot of people. In this episode, Dr. Valeria lays out three essential rules that will work as a solid foundation for positive and productive sexual communication in your relationship.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com

In this episode, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin discuss the top five mistakes women often make when dating; share their own life experience and stories; and give some practical advice to women on how to increase their confidence and improve their dating experience. EPISODE NOTES: Dr. Valeria mentions Episode 11 of this podcast (Online Strategies That Set You Up for Success) as good supplemental listening to this episode. Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com

We often assume that sex is easy for men; that they're always ready, willing, and excited to have sex. But is that really true? In this episode, Dr. Valeria looks at 5 reasons why sex may be difficult, challenging, or frustrating for men; discusses some surprising recent research findings and client experiences; and gives ideas on how we can make men's sexual experience more fulfilling. Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com    

How much do you know about fetishes? You may be surprised to learn just how many of us have some sort of sexual fetish. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin talk about how common fetishes truly are, and delve into some fascinating and fun fetishes, including diaper wearing; sexual attraction to cars; desire to be swallowed whole; and many more!  EPISODE NOTES Journal of Sex Research article on paraphelias Men's Health: Extreme Fetishes Man who had sex with 700 cars Strange Love (documentary on men who love cars) Woman who married the Eiffel Tower Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Do you wonder why women don't seem to be as interested in casual sex or one night stands as men? In this episode, Dr. Valeria talks about three reasons why women aren't engaging in casual sex as much as men - and these reasons may surprise you.  Do you have a sex & relationship question or a topic you want Get Sex-Smart to cover? Visit getsexsmart.com and fill out the question form on our home page. 

Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin share their expert tips on how to be an awesome lover and have great sex, no matter who your parter is.  EPISODE NOTES: Instructional sex DVDs: Alexander Institute Sarah Martin's website Dr. Valeria's website Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

In this episode, Dr. Valeria discusses the three common types of low confidence and insecurity and the ways they sabotage our sexual relationships.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

In this sequel to Episode 11, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin share tips and advice on how to have a great first date. This includes: where to have the date; how to dress and present yourself; what to say and how to behave to make a great first impression; safety tips; and other do's and don'ts.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Sexual assault and rape are shockingly common, but we are never taught how to react and what to say when someone comes to us with their own story of sexual assault or rape. In this episode, Dr. Valeria shares tips on what to say in this sensitive situation; how to react in a respectful and compassionate way; as well as some things to avoid.  EPISODE NOTES: Dr. Valeria's blog post addressing the Dear Abby response to a teenage rape survivor  Short video explaining sexual consent (simplified but makes important points) A list of helpful resources for victims of sexual assault, rape and domestic violence  RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network) Planned Parenthood on Consent and Sexual Assault Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com   

In this episode, Dr. Valeria and guest contributor Sarah Martin discuss how to get started successfully in online dating (or dating in general). They talk about creating a successful dating mindset; attracting the right people; and a few dating do's and don'ts. They also share some personal dating stories and experiences. EPISODE NOTES Sarah Martin's website Dr. Valeria's website

In this episode, Dr. Valeria gives a quick primer on consensual non-monogamy: what it is; the various types of CNM relationships; and some tips if you're considering trying consensual non-monogamy in your own relationship.  EPISODE NOTES Recommended books: Opening Up More Than Two The Ethical Slut Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com  

Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin give the definitive and honest answer to the question of whether size really matters; share some fun and interesting facts about the penis; and discuss what makes a man a great lover. This is a must listen for all penis owners and penis lovers! PS important note: when we talk about penis size, we mean erect penises! EPISODE NOTES About Jonah Falcon More about hypospadias  Dr. Valeria's website Sarah Martin's website  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Dr. Valeria talks about the key strategies for keeping sexual passion alive in committed long-term relationships. She discusses the findings of a study recently published in the Journal of Sex Research (the study can be found here) that sheds light on the secrets of people who successfully maintain desire and sexual vibrancy in their relationships.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin talk about the many attempts by the pharmaceutical industry to find medical cures for women's sexual problems; why Viagra for women doesn't exist and never will; why drugs are the wrong approach to "fixing" women's sexuality; and what solutions actually do work in helping women experience higher desire and greater pleasure.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Guest Sarah Martin talks about creating the pioneering practice of Orgasmic Running and her new book, "Orgasmic Running: A Feminine Practice for Pleasurable Wellbeing", available exclusively on Amazon. Visit her website, Good Sex Lifestyle, for more information.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

In this episode, guest Sarah Martin, sex coach extraordinaire, tells us how sex toys can spice up our sexual experience. You will learn about why many of us are resistant to try sex toys; the best ways to incorporate sex toys into your play; tips on how to pick the best toy for you; toy care; and new and exciting innovations in the field of sex toys that can transform your relationship.  EPISODE LINKS & RESOURCES: Sex toy stores (online and retail) Good Vibrations  Ann Summers  Babeland  Adam & Eve    Budget or Mid-Range Toys: ABS hard plastic vibrating bullet + lube (found in any sex toy store) Ultimate O by Ann Summers  Toys by Fun Factory    High End Toy Brands Crave Lelo   Toys for Women: Moregasm range by Ann Summers  Womanizer & Womanizer Pro  Vesper by Crave    Toys for Men: Pulse by Hot Octopuss  Cock rings Fleshlight Onyx by Kiiroo   Toys for Couples: Moregasm Ears by Ann Summers Teledildonics / long distance toys: Onyx & Pearl couple sets    Information about sex toy care    Contac

Dr. Valeria answers the question of whether or not women actually like sex; what it means; and how we can help women reconnect to their love of sex. Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com 

Dr. Valeria talks about the nature of sexual fantasy, the most common sexual fantasies for men and women, as well as how sexual fantasies can enhance your sex life.  Need to recharge your sex life? Get Dr. Valeria's FREE 5-Day Sex Life Reboot video course here: www.sexlifereboot.com