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Many Christian leaders struggle silently with various sexual temptations and sin. And too many never get the help they need to heal and grow in their personal sexual integrity. Today our guest is Jorge Suarez, co-founder of CCI Counseling, a counseling ministry that provides therapy to couples as they overcome infidelity, sexual addiction, a lack of intimacy, betrayal trauma, and intimacy disorders. Jorge especially has a heart for leaders and helping them live out their God-given purpose. In our conversation, we talk about the four key areas where leaders (and anyone, really) need health in order to thrive: EmotionalSpiritualRelationalSexual If you are a leader or want to help Christian leaders in your life, this conversation will inspire and encourage you toward greater health and wholeness. To connect with Jorge for further help, visit CCICounseling.com.More Resources:Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveThe Christian Response to Moral Failure in the Chu

In the best of circumstances, marriage is hard work. But when a couple has histories of brokenness and unresolved pain, it’s even more challenging. Today’s guests are Travis and Adelle Graham, founders of The Noble Marriage, a ministry dedicated to helping struggling marriages discover true intimacy. Travis and Adelle share their broken pasts (even though raised in Christian homes) and how that affected their marriage; how it led them both to build false images about themselves and their relationship. Eventually, their masks were removed in favor of pursuing an authentic relationship with Christ and each other. This is their story and a message of hope for couples wondering if their struggling relationship can be redeemed. To learn more about Travis and Adelle and their marriage resources, visit TheNobleMarriage.com.More Resources:Online Marriage AcademyGenesis Christian Mediation40 Days of Oneness by Stephen Cervantes (paid link)Related Podcasts:The Recovery Process for CouplesGod, Sex, and Your MarriageRebu

We all have a story. And stories are one of the things we value greatly in our ministry. Why? Because it is through our stories that we connect and discover and learn. Today’s guest is Neil Getzlow and he has quite a story to tell. He was raised in a Jewish home but eventually left his family tradition in preference of atheism. Along the way, he developed a porn and sex addiction, which made him miserable. Eventually, God chased him down and invited him to stop running and instead find rest and freedom in Christ. Neil shares his experience of needing to learn how to be alone as a kid, how he was introduced to porn, the effect of his parent’s divorce, and how he came to believe that love and sex were basically the same things. He also shares the radical way in which God broke him out of his secret addiction and led him to a place of truth, grace, and hope.To learn more about Neil and get his book, visit NeilGetzlow.com. More Resources:Unmasked (book)Unmasked Podcast with NeilBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:Ke

For couples who want to pursue reconciliation and restoration after sexual betrayal, what does the process of recovery look like?Today’s guest is Cat Etherington, Director of Recovery at Naked Truth Project. She helps us understand the key principles and practices that allow for the best possible results for couples wanting to heal and grow after betrayal.There is hope for recovery in your marriage.To learn more about Cat and her work and resources, visit http://NakedTruthProject.com. Retreats by Naked Truth Project:US Grief retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-retreat-TexasUS Couples retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/couples-retreat-texasAustralia Grief Retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-grief-retreat-AustraliaPrevious episode (#872) with Cat: The Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma - https://youtu.be/WuUexC7Ucc8More Resources: DisclosureHope.comHelp for HusbandsHelp for WivesRelated Podcasts:Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual BetrayalR

A man recently shared, “I don’t want to live the next 20 years of my life the way I have lived the past 20 years.” This is a man who wants to get on a mission of growth and change.In today’s episode, Stephen shares the journey of this man who wants to finish better than he started. We unpack many of the fundamental issues and principles that must be examined and worked on if long-term transformation is going to happen. If you are a man who wants to finish life better than you started it, this episode will give you encouragement and insights to help you experience deep contentment and freedom.More Resources:40 Days of Training for Your SoulGateway to Freedom 3-Day WorkshopBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:8 Comments from Men Struggling to Pursue IntegrityHow Long Does Change Take? Struggling to Come Clean and Find Rest----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

This is our 900th episode! And it’s such a delight to release this milestone episode on my birthday. I hope it blesses you as much to listen as it did for me to record it. Today’s episode is getting back to the basics of living a life of sexual integrity. Stephen Cervantes and I have been working with men desiring greater integrity for over 20 years, and we know that a life of integrity is not static. You must be on a daily growth mission to mature. In our conversation, we share some of our personal growth tips and many other insights we have seen that help men get on a growth mission and discover their God-sized purpose in life.A great next step in your pursuit of greater integrity is our Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. This Friday-Sunday event will help you get down to the roots of your unwanted sexual behaviors and provide practical, powerful direction for living each day with integrity and purpose. Learn more about Gateway to Freedom and how to register at Bebroken.org/gtf.More Resources:FREE

Sexual betrayal in marriage is more common than most of us would like to admit. But this terrible fracture is not incurable for couples who choose to go on a journey of healing and restoration.Our guest today is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed professional counselor, ordained minister, professor, and founder of Building Intimate Marriages. In our conversation, Michael answers questions about the “why” of affairs, the impact of past trauma, the myth of affairs only occurring in “bad” marriages, how to know if restoration is possible, what is required for restoration, and more. To learn more about Michael and Building Intimate Marriages, visit IntimateMarriage.org.More Resources:Secrets of Sex and Marriage (book)Gateway to Freedom for MenWives Care GroupsRelated Podcasts:Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalAffair Recovery Through a Trauma LensHelping Husbands and Wives Go All In----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://r

Sex education isn’t what it used to be. But the need for good, godly sex education is at an all-time high. Our guest on today’s program is Kristen Miele. Kristen has been educating youth on the topic of sex for 12 years and is the founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, a training organization that specializes in God-honoring accessible sex ed for children 3 to 18 years old. In our conversation, Kristen answers questions around the importance of sex education, what needs to be taught in sex ed, how to teach it, and various obstacles that confront parents and kids alike when learning God’s good design for sex.To learn more about Kristen and their curriculum, visit SexEdReclaimed.com. More Resources: Critical Conversations Webinar for Parents7 Tips for Parents (free download)Honest Talk by John FortRelated Podcasts:Helping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityExplaining God's Design for Sex to Your KidsHoly Sexuality with Dr. Juli Slattery----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe

Everyone has experienced various emotional and mental challenges over the last three years since the Covid-19 pandemic swept the globe. Many men have faced significant mental health struggles as a result. In today’s bonus episode, our guest is Steve Dulaney. He is a counselor in the Pacific Northwest and the director of Prodigals International, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on helping men, women and families find healing, hope, and redemption from the impact of sexual brokenness.Our conversation is focusing on all the effects of these mental health challenges men are facing today and what hope there is for better health and relationships. To learn more about Prodigals and their resources, visit ProdigalsInternational.org. More Resources: HigherGroundMen.com RestoringHeartsConference.org (for wives)Gateway to FreedomBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:Understanding Your "Flipped-Out" BrainDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?Healing Your Brain----------Please rate an

Everyone has a core fear that gets woven into their soul from childhood. It tends to drive everything, from thoughts to behaviors. But God created us in His image, and He is love. His Word tells us that “perfect (mature) love drives out fear.” (1 John 4:18) So, how can we move from being fear-driven to being love-driven?In this episode, we unpack this question and provide insights and tips to understand your fears and respond to them in healthy, redemptive ways that benefit you and your relationships.More Resources: Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithGrace-Based Recovery Find a CounselorRelated Podcasts:Overcoming the Fear that Lives in My Head50 Things to Do When Your Core Fear Gets TriggeredFinding Rest by Speaking Out Your Deepest Fear----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

What does our sexual sin cost us? Do we take time to evaluate the losses and how they are affecting our lives today?In this episode, we share a story of a man who had a terrifying nightmare that vividly illustrates what it’s like to be confronted with how evil steals innocence and peace from our inner child. We then explore what this man discovered from this dream and how to respond to your own losses of innocence and peace, and what the journey back to protecting your innocence can look like. For help with understanding how the inner child impacts sexual acting out, visit InnerChild-SexAddiction.com.More Resources:Going Deeper by Dr. Eddie Capparucci40 Days of Purity Online CourseFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex AddictionUnderstanding Fear and SadnessWhy Your Family of Origin Matters----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Why are boundaries necessary for marriage restoration after sexual betrayal? And how does a couple navigate establishing and enforcing such boundaries in a redemptive way?Today we have back with us Karla Downing to help us answer these important questions. Karla is the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She offers Christian marriage help and Christian relationship help as a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible study teacher. As one who has walked her own path of relationship struggles, she can speak to these matters with both experience and empathy. In this conversation, Karla defines what boundaries are, why they are necessary to rebuild a broken marriage, how they are enforced, various pitfalls to boundary-setting and boundary-keeping, and what the real “goal” is of restoration. To learn more about Karla and her relationship resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.More Resources:Help for HusbandsHelp for WivesGod, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli SlatteryRelated Podcasts:Helping Wives "Detach wit

Why does most “accountability” not work in recovery from unwanted behaviors? Is there a better way to engage others in recovery that does work?My guest today is Chandler Rogers. He is the creator of Relay, an online platform that helps you discover a team of support. It is built on two key principles that are foundational to recovery:ConnectionTeamworkIn our conversation, Chandler shares his own story and struggle with porn and the keys to his healing journey. We also talk about the importance of authentic community in recovery and how the Relay app can help in that quest.To learn more about Relay, visit JoinRelay.app.More Resources:Be Broken Support Group NetworkFirst 7 Days for MenIntegrity Webinar for MenRelated Podcasts:Recovery Discovery 024: Community & Accountability (Part 1: Defining It)Recovery Discovery 025: Community & Accountability (Part 2: Living It)Porn, Technology, and Self-Control----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this

“Most married Christians cannot answer the question, ‘What does God say a good sex life is supposed to look like?’”This statement is made by our special guest, Dr. Juli Slattery. Juli is an author, speaker, and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to reclaiming God’s design for sexuality. In our conversation we discuss how Juli answers this question about a good sex life from her latest book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage. We first cover why there is a disconnect between God and sex, even in the church. Then we unpack the four pillars of a great sex life: FaithfulnessIntimate KnowingSacrificial LovePassionate CelebrationTo learn more about Juli and her ministry and resources, visit AuthenticIntimacy.com.More Resources: Java with Juli podcast40 Days to Oneness devotionalMade for Purity online courseRelated Podcasts:The EPIC Challenge for a Great MarriageWhat are Your Sexpectations? What is Intimacy?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Supp

Is all fighting in marriage bad? Don’t most of us hate conflict and try to avoid it at all costs? What if, however, there is good to be found in conflict and disagreement?In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to unpack the positive dynamics of fighting in marriage. Discover what anger often means, how conflict is revealing what your spouse truly wants, and how to develop gratitude for the passion of differences.For helpful resources, visit Bebroken.org.More Resources:40 Days to Oneness by Stephen CervantesNot All Stress is BadMarriage RestoredRelated Podcasts:Finding Rest for Your Marriage4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Originally Aired on February 22, 2022View this episode on YoutubeIn this episode, Stephen and I unpack what we are calling the 3 Levels of Sobriety, especially focusing on the third level. These categories are broken down into 1) real people, 2) media, and 3) thoughts. If that doesn’t quite make sense to you, that’s exactly why you need to listen to this episode.If you are a man who wants to grow in integrity by digging deep into what goes on between your ears, listen closely because true sobriety goes beyond just eliminating unhealthy behaviors. You must work on your thoughts and this episode will help you with practical ideas for thought sobriety.A resource that will help you retrain your mind toward a life of sexual integrity is our 40 Days of Purity online course. Learn more and enroll at 40days.PureLifeAcademy.org.More Resources:Grace-Based Recovery by Jonathan DaughertyUnwanted by Jay StringerGateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for menRelated Podcasts:Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingReplacing Escapi

Originally Aired on March 8, 2022View episode on YoutubeLAST WEEK to make your generous year-end donation at Bebroken.org/give. Thank you for your partnership!Today’s guest is Matt Cline, the Director of Restored Ministries in Edmonton, Alberta. He is a speaker and coach who considers it an honor to tackle the epidemic of pornography and help individuals and marriages be restored from the destruction caused by sexual sin and shame. In this episode, Matt shares some of his story and key principles and insights that are proven to lead people from brokenness to wholeness. Our conversation addresses taking a serious view of sin, combating shame, understanding your true identity, and reclaiming a godly perspective on the body.Learn more about Matt and his ministry’s resources at RestoredMinistries.ca.More Resources:Help for Men: Men.Bebroken.comHelp for Women: Women.Bebroken.comHelp for Families: Family.Bebroken.comRelated Podcasts & Media:Recovery Discovery: IdentityRecovery Discovery: No More ShameHow Identi

Make your generous year-end donation today at Bebroken.org/give!How does brokenness fit with wholeness in Christ? Are these contradictory or might they be explained as a paradox that actually unlocks the door to experiencing God’s grace and transformative work in our lives?On today’s episode, I’m flying solo to help unpack this amazing paradox between brokenness and wholeness. I will share three “types” of brokenness and three contexts for wholeness and how this all fits together on our journey of transformation in Christ. You may download my outline for today’s episode at Bebroken.org/paradox. More Resources:Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher WestHumility by Andrew MurrayGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:The Immanuel Approach in RecoveryThe 7 (or More) Pillars of Emotional GrowthWhat Can We Learn from Lust? ----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Pastors are not immune to sexual temptations and sexual strongholds. But many pastors feel isolated and “trapped” from reaching out for help with their private sexual struggles. On today’s episode, we have Mark Denison join us to share with us some key principles from his new book, Broken Vessels, on how pastors can get help to break free from sexual strongholds and even still be used by God for kingdom work. To learn more about Mark and his ministry, visit TheresStillHope.org.More Resources: Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveRecovery MinuteRelated Podcasts:A Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual SinPastors on PornReframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today’s guests are Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. They are the directors of The Raabsmith Team, coaches and therapists that love to help individuals, couples, and families create life-giving change in themselves and in their relationships.In today’s episode, Matthew and Joanna will help couples understand the ins and outs of rebuilding a healthy marriage after betrayal. There is hope and thriving intimacy is possible even after betrayal. This conversation will be especially beneficial for couples who are wanting restoration. For more information about Matthew and Joanna and their resources, visit RaabsmithTeam.com.More Resources:Intimacy Pyramid Training (virtual workshop)Online Care Groups for WivesFirst 7 Days programs (for men and wives)Related Podcasts:Affair Recovery Through a Trauma LensRebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual BetrayalHope After Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/