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$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------Sometimes it takes a lifetime to gain the deepest riches of wisdom. And yet, in much of the Western world, the aged are considered useless and expendable. In today’s episode, Stephen shares words of wisdom from an older friend who continues to be on a journey of learning and growth. He offers simple but deep insights into the struggle within, faith in God, the value of humility, the truth of identity, the true treasures of peace and joy, and a fresh desire to pursue a life of integrity and purpose. No matter your age, this episode will give you encouragement, insight, and hope in your personal pursuit of a life well lived. More Resources: Grace-Based Transformation bookIntegrity Webinar for MenWhy Slow Growth is Better than Quick FixesRelated Podcasts:T

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------Over the past 20 years, I have heard countless stories of sexual brokenness. Many of these individuals held these stories in secret for years, even decades. They all believed the lie that no one would love them if their secrets came out. But healing and discovering one’s true identity and worth only exist in the light.In today’s bonus episode, we have Randy and Cynthia Lail here to share a very powerful story of abuse, addiction, satanic strongholds, infidelity, and the matchless power and grace of Jesus Christ. If you think no one could understand your brokenness or that you would be utterly rejected if the truth came out, please listen to this episode. There is no one whose story is beyond the reach of God’s rescue and transforming power. Learn more a

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------For parents today it is difficult and even scary raising children in our hyper-sexualized culture. And there can be many different ways to respond to these challenges and fears. In today’s episode, John Fort will introduce our 30-week curriculum for families, entitled God’s Design for Emotional Growth and Sexuality. John is our Director of Training and has developed many of our Family Care resources. This curriculum is designed for families with kids ages 5-18. If you are a parent desiring to help your child navigate a world awash in sex, this episode will help you gain clarity and confidence. To learn more about the God’s Design curriculum, visit Bebroken.org/store.More Resources:God's Design curriculum outline Honest Talk bookCritical Conversation

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------We learn and grow best in community. This is why we encourage and enjoy feedback from men as they travel along in their transformation journey. Today’s episode is a collection of honest thoughts and ideas and insights from men who are wanting to break free from unwanted sexual behaviors and live as the men God created them to be. If you’re a man on a similar journey, we hope and trust that today’s episode will encourage and challenge you to keep pressing on in pursuit of greater integrity and emotional maturity. More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop for MenGrowth Map by Stephen CervantesFind a Men's GroupRelated Podcasts:Why Don't Men Go Deeper?Guy Thoughts on Emotional AwarenessInsights from a Brother in Recovery----------Please rate

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------Do you live your life with intentionality and purpose or merely as a reaction to your moods or circumstances? How does the answer to this question affect your pursuit of sexual integrity?My guest today is Michael Warren. He is a land surveyor by trade but has written a book entitled Live Deliberately. In our conversation, we unpack some insights from the book that will help you address wounds and brokenness from your past and live the full, abundant life Jesus offers.  To learn more about Michael and get a copy of his book, visit MWarrenAuthor.com.More Resources:Going Deeper by Eddie CapparucciGrace-Based RecoveryFind a CounselorFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:Connecting Theology to SexualityHow Does Faith Fit into Recovery?How Do You Know if You are Chang

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------Women struggle with porn, too. This is not just a man’s problem. We have known this for quite a while but there are still far fewer resources and environments for women to get help than there are for men.This is why I’m so glad to have Jessica Harris back on the program today. She has been a pioneer for women seeking safe places and help for breaking free from the stronghold of porn and lust. In our conversation, she shares a bit of her own story, where a woman must start their journey toward wholeness, and practical insights for discovering true fulfillment and freedom in the abundant grace of God.For more information about Jessica and her resources, visit BeggarsDaughter.com. More Resources:Quenched by Jessica HarrisResources for Women Who Struggle wi

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------My guest today is Brandon Showalter. He is a journalist and podcaster with the Christian Post and has co-authored the excellent ebook, Exposing The Gender Lie, with Dr. Jeff Myers. In his role at the Christian Post, he has written extensively on topics of theological interest in the Church, including developments of the “gender identity” movement and transgender ideology.  In our conversation, we discuss how Brandon got into writing on this topic, some of the history and roots of the current transgender movement, the truth about real gender confusion, the war over language, and how Christians can respond to those struggling with the cultural narrative as well as true gender confusion.  To learn more about Brandon and to get a copy of his book, visit Chr

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------What do you do when your child says they are gay or is exploring a gay identity? How can you respond with grace and truth?In this episode, we have Danisa Suarez back with us. She is a licensed counselor and sex therapist who has a passion for teaching and coaching others on God’s good design for sex. This includes helping parents navigate the difficulty of a child pursuing a gay identity.If you, or a parent you know, is facing such a challenge, this episode will give you hope and practical ideas. To learn more about Danisa and her counseling services, visit CCICounseling.com.More Resources:What Does the Bible Really Teach About Homosexuality?Embracing the JourneyThe Center for Faith, Sexuality, and GenderRelated Podcasts:God Made Boys and GirlsExplainin

How can a man who has sexually betrayed his partner understand her grief process and why is this important for the potential restoration of the relationship?Today’s guest is Karla Downing. Karla has been on the podcast multiple times and provides a wealth of wisdom and practical advice for couples navigating difficult challenges in their relationship. In this episode, she helps men understand the grief process of a woman healing from betrayal trauma by highlighting each stage: DenialAngerBargainingDepressionAcceptanceHOPEMen, if you want to better love and serve your wife in her healing journey, this podcast will give you practical insights. To learn more about Karla and her resources for couples, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.More Resources:Bebroken.org/menBebroken.org/wivesUntangling Emotions by Grove and SmithRelated Podcasts:The Recovery Process for Couples4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe t

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------Our guest today is Sam Black. Sam is the director of recovery education at CovenantEyes and the author of the new book, The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It.In our conversation, Sam shares who he wrote this book for (pastors and ministry leaders) and why he wrote it (to help them better understand why people get stuck, why they often stay stuck, and how the church holds the answers for freedom, not just for individuals but for families and leaders, too).To learn more about Sam and get a copy of the book, visit TheHealingChurch.com. For a FREE copy of the book, go to https://www.signupanywhere.com/signup/hrmupv0t (available to the first 50 people; US addresses only). More Resources:The Victory AppSafe by Nick St

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------“A life unexamined is only half-lived.” -paraphrase of SocratesWe talk all the time in our ministry and on this podcast about men needing to get on a growth mission, especially as it pertains to emotional growth. In today’s episode, Stephen and I get passionate about helping men grasp why it is important to understand yourself and how to learn yourself in a way that leads to greater peace, joy, and love. If you feel stuck or confused about how you fit into God’s great design and plan, you will be encouraged by this episode. You are greatly loved and have a great purpose.More Resources:Growth Map by Stephen CervantesGateway to Freedom 3-day workshopUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithRelated Podcasts:15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggl

Conflict is inevitable in marriage. But often couples assume that all conflict is bad or wrong and believe the goal is to eliminate it altogether. But my guest today has a different approach when it comes to conflict in marriage. His name is Andrew Arthur and he is a mediation specialist with both personal experience and professional expertise in addressing conflict in marriage. In this episode, Andrew helps us to normalize the reality of conflict, gives a simple definition of conflict, how to navigate the needs and interests of both parties in the conflict, and unpacks the 5 specific “conflict styles” and how they intersect in marriage. If your marriage is struggling with conflict and how to resolve it in constructive ways, this conversation with Andrew will help. To learn more about Andrew and the mediation services he offers, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.More Resources:Find a CounselorPrepare-Enrich40 Days of OnenessRelated Podcasts:I'd Rather We Fight than NotHelping Couples Walk the Path of Re

Today’s subject matter is something we rarely like to talk about but is extremely necessary for parents considering the sexualized culture we live in. Our topic is protecting your child from predators. Our guest is Dr. Beth Robinson, a licensed professional counselor, professor, and certified school counselor with over 25 years of experience in caring for traumatized children and educating parents on how to better protect their children from danger. In our discussion, Dr. Beth helps parents deal with their fears around this topic, when and how to talk to their kids about sex and safety, how to choose a babysitter, what to do if parents think their child is a victim of sexual abuse, addressing technology, and more. To learn more about Beth and the resources available to parents who want to better protect their kids, visit KidsCallMeDoc.com. More Resources:Protecting Your Child from Predators by Dr. Beth RobinsonThe Safe Touch Coloring BookCritical Conversations Webinar for ParentsRelated Podcasts: Keeping Kids

A life of peace and joy and hope is intimately tied to one’s ability to connect well in relationships. And when you have experienced trauma or addiction or shame this skill can seem virtually impossible to imagine. In today’s episode, Stephen brings a multitude of comments made by men who struggle to connect well in their relationships. We unpack these comments in hopes of helping you gain insight into your own connecting skills and make appropriate tweaks to improve.More Resources:Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy40 Days of Training for Your SoulRelated Podcasts:15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggle to LoveHow to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Boundaries are essential after betrayal, but few have any experience of knowing what boundaries to set and how to set them.In this episode, Tammy Gustafson helps us navigate this delicate but necessary topic. Tammy is a licensed counselor who is passionate about helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, and betrayal. Boundaries are more than just drawing lines and enforcing consequences when they are crossed. They are about safety, responsibility, self-care, and the building (or rebuilding) of healthy relationships. To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visit BetrayalHealing.com.More Resources:Betrayal Healing CoursesWives Care GroupsFirst 7 Days for WivesRelated Podcasts:The Why and How of Boundaries in a Recovering MarriageBoundaries for WivesMore Boundaries for Wives----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Addiction can be simply defined as a repeated cycle of unhealthy or harmful behaviors that gets worse over time. In order to break free from addiction, recovery must include understanding this cycle and how to respond differently to its triggers.Today’s guest is Vern Tompke, a 30-year pastor, podcaster, and founder of Band of Brothers, a community of men helping men find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors. Vern has developed what he calls the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle as a tool for helping men understand their addictive cycle and how to respond more quickly when tempted to go down old paths of self-destructive behaviors. To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care or Vern's Podcasts.Download the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle DiagramMore Resources: Finding Traction CourseGateway to Freedom Workshop for MenFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of LifeExposing the True Impact of PornBreaking Free with Russell Willingham----------Please rate and

There is an old saying used in Alcoholics Anonymous, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.” Also, you may have heard of a simple statement to describe insanity: “Doing the same thing over and over, but expecting a different outcome.”If you want to be free from destructive and unhealthy patterns in your life, change must happen. But how can you know if change is actually occurring? In today’s episode, Stephen and I will unpack some core principles and practices that will indicate if true change is happening.More Resources:40 Days of Purity for MenUntangling EmotionsFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingHow Do I Know He is Changing? For Men Who Want to Finish Strong----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

For 20 years our ministry has been helping men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors and pursue a life of integrity and purpose. And most of these men are married – all of whom need lots of growth in the area of emotional health and maturity. Today, I get to interview Doctor Marriage. You have known him as my cohort and co-host, Stephen Cervantes. But he is a true expert on the topic of marriage and what it takes for husbands, especially, to revolutionize their marriage by focusing on emotional growth. In this episode, we highlight three of Stephen’s workbook resources to help husbands grow emotionally: 49 Days of Growth: Growing in Emotional SkillsGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy40 Days to Oneness: Start Connecting with Your Spouse To learn more about these resources and how to buy them, visit DoctorMarriage.org.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom workshop for menWives Care GroupsHusbandMaterial.comRelated Podcasts:About Your Emotional Connecting SkillsAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Gro

Many Christian leaders struggle silently with various sexual temptations and sin. And too many never get the help they need to heal and grow in their personal sexual integrity. Today our guest is Jorge Suarez, co-founder of CCI Counseling, a counseling ministry that provides therapy to couples as they overcome infidelity, sexual addiction, a lack of intimacy, betrayal trauma, and intimacy disorders. Jorge especially has a heart for leaders and helping them live out their God-given purpose. In our conversation, we talk about the four key areas where leaders (and anyone, really) need health in order to thrive: EmotionalSpiritualRelationalSexual If you are a leader or want to help Christian leaders in your life, this conversation will inspire and encourage you toward greater health and wholeness. To connect with Jorge for further help, visit CCICounseling.com.More Resources:Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveThe Christian Response to Moral Failure in the Chu

In the best of circumstances, marriage is hard work. But when a couple has histories of brokenness and unresolved pain, it’s even more challenging. Today’s guests are Travis and Adelle Graham, founders of The Noble Marriage, a ministry dedicated to helping struggling marriages discover true intimacy. Travis and Adelle share their broken pasts (even though raised in Christian homes) and how that affected their marriage; how it led them both to build false images about themselves and their relationship. Eventually, their masks were removed in favor of pursuing an authentic relationship with Christ and each other. This is their story and a message of hope for couples wondering if their struggling relationship can be redeemed. To learn more about Travis and Adelle and their marriage resources, visit TheNobleMarriage.com.More Resources:Online Marriage AcademyGenesis Christian Mediation40 Days of Oneness by Stephen Cervantes (paid link)Related Podcasts:The Recovery Process for CouplesGod, Sex, and Your MarriageRebu