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HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Recovery from any addiction is difficult and there are many stages and layers to the process. It is easy to become overwhelmed and wonder if there is any hope and what the ultimate goal is in recovery.My guest today is Zach Ellis. He is the Director of New Programs at The Nathan Project, a ministry whose mission is to engage, equip, and encourage Christian families struggling with pornography, sexual brokenness, and addiction.Zach shares how he got into this space of ministry and some key elements of recovery that are vital for true transformation: freedom, identity, and creativity. He talks of freedom as both a “breaking” and a “building” and how this two-sided aspect of freedom leads to deeper meaning and purpose. He shares of the importance of identity

HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Parenting can feel overwhelming in the best of circumstances. But in today’s world which is awash in all forms of sexual brokenness, it can seem impossible, especially when it comes to the issue of identity. In today’s episode, our guest is Jordan Young. He is a student ministry pastor at Table Community Church in Hillsboro, Oregon near Portland. He has decades of experience in working with students and the various challenges they face in the culture. Our conversation focuses on identity and the confusion many students are experiencing and how the gospel of Jesus addresses this with grace and truth. Jordan and their students read through our Identity book over 6 weeks and it made a huge impact on helping the students better understand what identity means a

HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Infidelity is devastating. For couples who have experienced this deep betrayal of trust, it can be hard to imagine that restoration is possible – and even more difficult to think that they could rebuild their marriage into something better than they ever had before. But this is the story of Steve and Lisa Goldberg’s marriage and ministry.Steve and Lisa are the founders of Side by Side, a ministry to help couples navigate the “unexpected crash” of betrayal and how to restore and rebuild their marriage. In today’s episode, Steve and Lisa share their own story of brokenness and healing and the key elements of restoration in their new book entitled The Journey to Stay. They offer a practical message of hope to couples facing the overwhelming difficulty of unfa

HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Everyone listening to this podcast right now was once a child. Childhood is unavoidable on the journey to adulthood. But none of us got through our childhoods unscathed. And some of the residue of that continues to affect us now as adults.Today we have back with us Dr. Eddie Capparucci to talk about his inner child therapy model and a new resource he has co-authored for women who struggle with love and sex addiction. Eddie’s model is based on the premise that we all have core emotional triggers that impact our inner child based on past wounds, and in order for us to heal and mature we must address these triggers by understanding our inner child and not simply ignoring our past.In our conversation, Eddie defines the inner child model and highlights the 10 s

Screens are everywhere and, while they are not bad or wrong as a tool, the way we engage them and what we allow on them can be negative. So, how can we build better screen time for ourselves and our families? Our guest today is Andrea Davis, the founder and CEO of Better Screen Time, which provides strategies and resources for families to think through how to engage technology and screens for better health and balance in life and relationships. Andrea shares her own story as a parent of 5 kids and some of the challenges and victories they have experienced in working out these strategies in their family. She also shares why cell phone contracts rarely work and better strategies for creating a family tech plan to learn personal responsibility with technology. To learn more about Andrea and the resources she provides, visit BetterScreenTime.com. More Resources:Better Screen Time ResourcesOnline Courses for FamiliesHonest Talk -- The GameRelated Podcasts:Brain Defense Digital Safety for KidsHelping Parents Teach

Men, I’m really excited to bring you today’s program because Stephen and I are going to provide you with some VERY practical help for understanding how to navigate between logic and emotions – and why engaging emotions is essential for maturity. Generally, the majority of men we work with in our ministry are very comfortable when communicating logic and solving problems, but very uncomfortable and unfamiliar with communicating emotion. This often results in them becoming stunted or stuck in their relational skills, especially in marriage. Today, Stephen and I will share with you a story of one man’s journey to get unstuck when it comes to sharing his emotions and the 2-channel system he developed to help with that process. We are hopeful that this conversation will enlighten you and give you the confidence to work on becoming more skilled in emotional sharing and listening.More Resources:49 Days of Growth* by Stephen Cervantes40 Days of Training for Your SoulThe 40 Day Relationship Builder* by Stephen Cervant

For over 10 years we have helped wives heal from sexual betrayal trauma. One aspect of this healing process that simply should not be overlooked is the need for self-care and simply rest. Today’s guest is Christy Jones Jackson. She is the founder and director of The Guest House Project, a non-profit ministry that helps women find hope after betrayal. Christy shares some of her own story and how vital it was that in the middle of her failing marriage due to betrayal a friend took her away for a weekend to pray with her, make her eat, give her gifts, read her Scripture, made her laugh, and reminded her who she was. It was a pivotal moment in her journey to healing and planted the seeds for what would eventually become The Guest House Project.To learn more about Christy and The Guest House Project, visit TheGuestHouseProject.com. More Resources:Winter Respite Retreat Feb 22-25Wives Care Online GroupsBlog: Loving Our Bodies After TraumaRelated Podcasts:Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope

Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” This idea of helping each other get sharper is so common in our work with men, especially in our Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshops. Guys form a bond that is deep and meaningful.In this episode, Stephen and I talk about what can men hope to be saying 6-12 months after they have begun their honest journey toward greater integrity. These insights are coming directly from other men who have traveled this journey and what they discovered on the way. The hope is that these men can help other men to press on and finish well. More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop10 Lessons for Overcoming Addiction (free download)40 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts: Men Helping Men Grow and MatureInsights from a Brother in RecoveryFor Men Who Want to Finish Strong----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases. Support this

What is the difference between alone and lonely? Is there a healthy aspect to being alone and understanding who you are by yourself?In today’s episode, Stephen and I dialogue about the topic of aloneness and why we need to be okay with ourselves – by ourselves. We also talk about the difference between aloneness as a healthy thing and isolation as an unhealthy thing. We explore some questions that help us better understand how to embrace aloneness, such as: What scares you most about being alone? What does it feel like in your body when you are alone?What could you do that would be healthy when you are alone?It’s okay to be by yourself. We hope this episode helps you navigate this topic with confidence and hope.More Resources:Abba's Child by Brennan ManningIdentity by John FortGrace-Based TransformationRelated Podcasts:I Love God (Until it Gets Dark)Understanding AlonenessSilencing Your Inner Critic----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this po

Childhood sexual abuse is not something that only happens to girls. Boys are victims, too. Most of these boys grow up to be men who find it terribly difficult to talk about these experiences. In today’s episode, our guest is Dr. James Reeves, founding pastor of City on a Hill Church in Fort Worth, Texas, and the creator of the Fearless Series for women and men. Dr. Reeves shares how he got involved in helping abuse victims and why the church needs to be a safe place for such victims to heal and belong.The Fearless Series for Men addresses childhood sexual, physical, and emotional abuse men have experienced and the hope possible for not just surviving trauma but finding true healing and fulfillment through the gospel of Jesus Christ.To learn more about Dr. Reeves and the Fearless series, visit FearlessResources.org. More Resources:Facilitator Training for Fearless SeriesRefuge: How Hospital Church Ministry Can Change Your Church ForeverGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menRelated Podcasts:Our Born Identit

Today’s episode may be the most unique program we’ve ever done on our podcast. We are diving into the space of politics and government, and how Christians can engage their local and state elected officials in gospel-centered ways.Our guest is Daniel Degner. He is the director of the Church Ambassador Network for the Wisconsin Family Council. He is going to help us understand the fallacy of “separation of Church and State” and how we can do amazing ministry at the intersection of our Christian faith and government. This conversation is critical as we look forward to elections in 2024, not to promote a specific political party, but instead to educate and inspire you on how to build relationships with elected officials for the sake of the gospel and the good of your community. It makes a difference that your local government officials know who you are and what you believe about God’s design for sex and life.If you would like more info about Daniel and how to get involved in the Church Ambassador Network, visit W

When many parents look across the cultural landscape they can become fearful, especially seeing the trajectory of sexual brokenness and confusion. But is there hope in this midst of the fear? Our guest today, Barb Winters, believes there is. She is the founder of Hopeful Mom and author of the book Sexpectations: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships. In our conversation, she highlights key principles and practices from her book that will help parents (and any caregivers of young people) know how to talk about sexual topics and struggles with clarity, confidence, and hope. Our ministry’s director of training, John Fort, even provided an endorsement of this book, saying, “Sexpectations is a calming voice to parents in the midst of the chaos of trying to talk with older kids about sex… I appreciate how Barb goes beyond just ‘what to say to kids’ but includes work that we need to do as parents throughout this process. Sexpectations is an emotional rock for parents to stand on as they navigate

One of our core values in ministry is story. It is often the primary bridge that connects people adrift in brokenness and addiction to the community of recovery and transformation. In this episode, our guest is Austin Couture, the founder of The Gentle Path Project, which is a place where people can share their stories and be encouraged in their journey to a better life. Austin shares his own story of recovery and growth -- and the challenges he faced and insights he has gained in hopes that it will encourage others to start, or continue, their own pursuit of freedom and joy.To learn more about Austin and his ministry, visit GentlePathProject.com. More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for menIntegrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity online courseRelated Podcasts:From Jew to Atheist to Sex Addict to Freedom in ChristUnderstanding 4 Key Roles in Your StoryOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Supp

When a husband betrays his wife’s trust through sexual acting out, this can cause feelings of deep insecurity to arise in a wife – even to the point of feeling unsafe. In today’s episode, we will discuss the topic of emotional safety in marriage and why this is often befuddling to many husbands (and men in general) and offer a few ideas on how to create safer emotional spaces for the healing and restoration of marriages broken by sexual betrayal. (As a side note, this topic is helpful for any marriage!)This conversation was sparked by a conference Stephen went to by Focus on the Family. They built this topic around the book by authors Paul, Burbee, and Arnzen, entitled Restoring Hope: An Integrative Approach to Marital Therapy (link below).More Resources:Restoring Hope bookHope Restored Marriage IntensiveDoctorMarriage.orgRelated Podcasts:The Need for Boundaries After BetrayalHelping Men Understand a Woman's Grief ProcessHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal----------Please ra

I’m so excited about today’s program. I have written a new book that was released this month. It is entitled Grace-Based Transformation: The 3-Stage Journey to Wholeness in Christ. In this episode, I share what Grace-Based Transformation is and why I wrote this book after 20 years of full-time ministry. It’s really the book I’ve always wanted to write. We will explore what I call the Transformation Pathway and highlight the three key stages on it: Heal -> Grow -> Share. These form the primary indicators of a Christian’s progress. So, if you would like greater freedom, deeper joy, and a more effective impact in your life, I invite you to listen in. To get the book, simply go to Amazon.com or any other online book distributor. More Resources:Bebroken.orgGrace-Based RecoveryMade for PurityRelated Podcasts:How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in ChristHow God Redeems Our Brokenness to Help OthersThe Journey of Transformation----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube c

Betrayal in marriage is a trauma. Many wives have struggled to find healing because the help they have received simply didn’t address the trauma.Today’s guest is Laurie Bryson, a licensed professional counselor who specializes in betrayal trauma healing. She is also certified in Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT) which goes beyond simply “talk therapy” in order to help clients experience deep healing from trauma and other emotional wounds. In our conversation, Laurie shares what ETT is and how it practically benefits her clients and additional ways to help betrayed wives discover breakthroughs that lead to deep and lasting healing. To learn more about Laurie and her practice, visit BrysonCounseling.com. More Resources:Hope Rising ConferenceAffairRecovery.comWives Care Groups (online)Related Podcasts:The Journey of Healing from Betrayal TraumaBetrayal Healing PhasesAffair Recovery Through a Trauma Lens----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this

How did we get to where we are today when it comes to sexual brokenness, confusion, and outright rebellion against God’s design for sex?In this episode, our guest is Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, who is the founder of the Ruth Institute, an interfaith international coalition to defend the family and build a Civilization of Love. Our conversation was inspired after I read Dr. Morse’s book, The Sexual State: How Elite Ideologies are Destroying Lives and Why the Church Was Right All Along. In this book, she provides a timeline that breaks down the sexual revolution into its component parts so that people can better understand how we have reached our current period and respond to it with grace and truth.Dr. Morse shares the three big ideas of the sexual revolution: The Contraceptive Ideology – Society should do everything possible to separate sex and babies. The Divorce Ideology – Society should do everything possible to separate both sex and babies from marriage. The Gender Ideology – Men and women are completely i

Pastors are regular men in a position of great responsibility. They are not immune to sexual temptations. How can the church help pastors recover from sexual sin and strongholds?In this episode, our guest is Robert Posner. Robert and his wife, Judy, are the founders of 2416 Ministries, a ministry based on Proverbs 24:16, which states, “Though a righteous man falls seven times, he will get up, but the wicked will stumble into ruin.” Robert shares his own story as a pastor who fell into sexual sin and his own journey of recovery and growth. We also talk about some of the unique challenges that pastors face due to their often isolated and elevated position. And what pastors can do to guard themselves against sexual misconduct, heal from sexual brokenness, and enter safe places for help in breaking free from sexual struggles and strongholds. To learn more about Robert and his ministry, visit 2416ministries.org.More Resources:1-on-1 MentoringGateway to Freedom workshopThe Christian Response to Moral Failure in Chu

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------Sometimes it takes a lifetime to gain the deepest riches of wisdom. And yet, in much of the Western world, the aged are considered useless and expendable. In today’s episode, Stephen shares words of wisdom from an older friend who continues to be on a journey of learning and growth. He offers simple but deep insights into the struggle within, faith in God, the value of humility, the truth of identity, the true treasures of peace and joy, and a fresh desire to pursue a life of integrity and purpose. No matter your age, this episode will give you encouragement, insight, and hope in your personal pursuit of a life well lived. More Resources: Grace-Based Transformation bookIntegrity Webinar for MenWhy Slow Growth is Better than Quick FixesRelated Podcasts:T

$75K Matching Gift Summer Partnership OpportunityWhen you give any amount to our ministry this summer (before August 31, 2023) your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $75,000. Give now at Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you for your partnership!----------------------------Over the past 20 years, I have heard countless stories of sexual brokenness. Many of these individuals held these stories in secret for years, even decades. They all believed the lie that no one would love them if their secrets came out. But healing and discovering one’s true identity and worth only exist in the light.In today’s bonus episode, we have Randy and Cynthia Lail here to share a very powerful story of abuse, addiction, satanic strongholds, infidelity, and the matchless power and grace of Jesus Christ. If you think no one could understand your brokenness or that you would be utterly rejected if the truth came out, please listen to this episode. There is no one whose story is beyond the reach of God’s rescue and transforming power. Learn more a