Pure Sex Radio

Originally aired on March 26, 2025Watch episode on Vimeo----------In this episode, we dive into the dynamics of "loners" and "connectors" in relationships. Everyone falls into one of these categories. As we explore this topic, my friend and co-host Stephen Cervantes discusses how loners tend to be independent and process internally, while connectors thrive on dialogue and emotional exchange. We examine how these differences impact communication and emotional connection, particularly in marriages. We share insights on personal growth, emphasizing the importance of understanding and appreciating each other's communication styles; we aren’t out to change a loner into a connector or vice versa. We give lots of personal anecdotes and practical advice, aiming to help you navigate these differences to foster deeper connections and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.To read the Thought on Loners and Connectors, go to DoctorMarria

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with the incredible volunteer team behind the Wives Care groups, which is our eight-week online support group for wives healing from betrayal trauma. Together, we walk through the heart and structure of the program, sharing personal motivations and a week-by-week overview of what participants can expect. From emotional care and boundaries to rediscovering identity in Christ, we highlight the power of community, faith, and practical tools for healing. If you’re seeking hope and connection after betrayal, this episode offers encouragement, insight, and a warm invitation to join a caring community.To learn more about the Wives

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and colleague Dr. Stephen Cervantes—Doctor Marriage—to explore the vital roles of empathy, attunement, and responsiveness in relationships. We share personal stories and practical tips for husbands who want to connect more deeply with their wives. Dr. Cervantes explains how empathy means “practicing sadness with someone,” and we discuss how attunement and responsiveness help build emotional closeness. Whether you’re new to these skills or looking to grow, this conversation offers encouragement and real-life tools for nurturing a more compassionate, Christ-centered marriage.To get daily insights from Steph

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, our guest is Amber Albee Swenson—mom, Bible teacher, and author—to talk about her book, The Key to Confidence. Amber shares her personal journey from shame and brokenness to finding true confidence in Christ. We discuss the importance of understanding our identity as God’s children, the power of honest confession, and the vital role of prayer and community in healing. Amber’s transparency and wisdom offer hope for anyone struggling with feeling “not enough.” Join us for a raw, real, and uplifting conversation about grace, faith, and walking confidently in God’s love.To learn more about Amber and her book, visit AmberAlbeeSwenson.org. T

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Sean Maney, director of First Light in St. Louis, to discuss sexual recovery ministry. Sean shares how First Light supports men and women struggling with compulsive sexual behavior through community, therapy, and discipleship. We then explore the importance of holistic healing and transformation, the cultural normalization of pornography, and how the church’s response has changed over the years. Sean offers hope and encouragement for anyone feeling stuck or ashamed, reminding us that real transformation is possible through grace, community, and a multi-dimensional approach to recovery.To learn more about Sean and his mi

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Drew Boa to discuss his new book, Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle. Drew shares his personal journey and explains why traditional purity culture and military-style approaches often fall short. We then explore his compassionate, holistic method that focuses on healing childhood wounds, understanding emotional triggers, and embracing inner child work. Drew encourages viewing relapses as feedback, not failure, and highlights the importance of grace and self-compassion in recovery. If you’re a man seeking hope and lasting change, this conversation offers fresh insight and encouragemen

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year. Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with returning guest Ashley Jameson, a sex educator and author of the new book "Girl Talk." We dive into why it’s so important for moms to have honest, ongoing conversations with their daughters about sex, even when it feels awkward or scary. Ashley shares personal stories, up-to-date research, and practical tips for starting these talks early, addressing common fears, and becoming a safe, trusted source for your kids—especially as they face pressures from peers, social media, and early exposure to pornography. If you’re a mom of a daughter, you won’t want to miss this conversation.For more info on Ashley and the

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Stephen Cervantes to explore why so many of us feel stuck in our personal growth, especially men facing addiction and relational struggles. We share honest stories about excuses, limiting beliefs, and the deep fears that hold us back—like failure, rejection, and not feeling good enough. Together, we unpack how faith, hope, and community can help us move forward, break old cycles, and embrace the growth God has for us. We were created for “abundant life” and this means we all need a growth mission throughout life.To get daily insights from Stephen Cervantes, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Theme of personal growth and overcoming feelings of being "stuck"Emotional, spiritual, and relational growth, particularly for men in recoveryCommon barriers to growth, including self-doubt, compariso

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I reconnect with KathyGrace Duncan, who briefly shares her remarkable journey of living as a man for 11 years before finding transformation and true identity in Christ. The bulk of our conversation focuses on what it means to move from “head knowledge” of identity in Christ to “heart belief,” exploring how God renews our minds and hearts through Scripture, prayer, and community. KathyGrace offers practical wisdom on embracing our true identity in Christ, overcoming old patterns, and living as those who are permanently loved by God. It’s an honest, hope-filled conversation about ongoing transformation and the freedom found in God’s love.For more info on KathyGrace and navigating identity issues, visit PortlandFellowship.com and ChangedMovement.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Testimony of living as a man for 11 years despite being

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Matthew  and Joanna Raabsmith to dive into their “Three Phases of Couple Recovery” model for healing from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Together, we explore the Recovery, Restoration, and Renewal phases—discussing how couples can move from crisis and individual healing to rebuilding trust, intimacy, and shared purpose. Joanna and Matthew share practical tips, emphasize the importance of trauma-informed support, and encourage patience with the non-linear journey of recovery. Whether you’re just starting in recovery or seeking restoration and renewal for your relationship, their insights offer hope and guidance for every step of the process.To learn more about Matthew and Joanna and their marriage resources, visit RaabsmithTeam.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:The three phases of couple recovery: Recovery, Res

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Juli Slattery to talk about sexual discipleship in parenting. Juli shares insights from her new book, "Surrendered Sexuality," and explains how sexual discipleship is an ongoing, grace-filled journey—much deeper than traditional sex education. We discuss the unique role parents play in shaping their kids’ understanding of sexuality, the importance of modeling both truth and grace, and how surrender, not perfection, is the goal. Juli encourages parents to embrace their own growth and trust God’s grace in the process. It’s a hopeful, practical conversation for every parent.To learn more about Juli and get her resources, visit AuthenticIntimacy.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Definition and distinction between sexual discipleship and sex education.The role of parents as primary influencers in their childre

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stephen Cervantes to talk about the lifelong journey of emotional growth, especially for men. We introduce a practical tool—the phrase, “The God in me is bigger than the fear in you”—to help you stay centered and respond thoughtfully when facing criticism or negativity. We explore how compassion and faith can transform tough interactions, and encourage you to make this simple tool a habit for deeper emotional growth. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey. We’re here to support you as we all grow stronger and more resilient, together.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional growth as a lifelong journey, particularly for men.The significance of practical tools for handling criticism and negativity.Introduction of the phrase: "The God in me is bigger

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Garrett Kell, pastor and author of Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God. Garrett opens up about his journey from struggling with sexual sin—even as a pastor—to finding freedom through confession, restoration, and God’s grace. We discuss the biblical meaning of purity, the importance of honesty and community, and practical ways to pursue God’s pleasures over fleeting temptations. Garrett’s story is honest and hope-filled, reminding us that real change is possible when we rely on Christ and walk in the light together.You can get a copy of Garrett’s book, in English, Spanish, or Thai, at Crossway.org or Amazon.com*.Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal journey of faith and struggles with sexual sin, including pornography.The process of confession, restoration, and ministry in pastoral leadership.Importance

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Emmanuel and Samridh, two amazing ministry leaders from India, to talk about their personal journeys of overcoming pornography addiction and how they now help pastors and young church leaders find freedom. We discuss the unique cultural challenges of shame and secrecy around sexuality in India, and how their Celebrate Freedom seminar, which is based on our Gateway to Freedom intensive for men, is breaking new ground by creating safe, supportive spaces for honest conversation and healing. Emmanuel and Samridh share practical insights, stories of hope, and invite anyone struggling to reach out for support and community.To connect with Emmanuel and Samridh, visit their YouTube channel @unaddressed.podcast or Instagram @unaddressed.crew. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal stories of struggle with pornography addictio

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Vern Tompke to discuss the evolving challenges men face in recovering from pornography addiction. We dive into this concept of “edging”—using social media  or other kinds of media for arousal without fully acting out—and how today’s digital landscape complicates recovery. Vern shares his personal journey, practical strategies, and the importance of daily connection and removing triggers. Together, we explore the biological, emotional, and spiritual sides of addiction, emphasizing that true recovery isn’t just about avoidance, but about pursuing a richer, more connected life.To learn more about Vern and the resources he has, visit BandofBrothers.care.Topics Covered in this Episode:The concept of "edging" in relation to pornography addiction and recovery.Vern Tompke's personal journey with pornography addicti

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Tammy Gustafson, a licensed counselor and betrayal trauma coach, to explore two really tough situations wives face after sexual betrayal: the “roommate scenario,” where the husband isn’t working on recovery, and “incomplete recovery,” where progress is inconsistent. Tammy shares heartfelt advice on setting boundaries, focusing on self-care, and shifting attention from the husband’s actions to the wife’s own healing. We discuss the importance of deep character change, not just behavior, and offer practical steps for finding support and reclaiming joy. If you can resonate with either (or both) of these scenarios, we want you to know that healing and thriving are possible, even in the midst of these challenging recovery circumstances.To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visit BetrayalHealing.com. Topics Covered in

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In today’s episode, we welcome back Karla Downing for an insightful conversation about healing relationships. Together, we dive into practical ways couples can improve communication, rebuild intimacy, and navigate challenges like addiction and dysfunctional patterns. Karla shares wisdom on speaking the truth in love, managing emotions, and fostering empathy and curiosity. We discuss the importance of patience, seeking outside support, and grounding our efforts in grace and compassion. Whether you’re facing tough seasons or just want to grow closer, this episode offers hope, encouragement, and actionable steps for building a healthier, more connected relationship.To learn more about Karla and her resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Practical advice for couples facing relational strugglesImportance of communication

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Dr. Steven Cervantes and I explore the lifelong mission of personal growth, blending both spiritual and emotional development. We discuss how a vibrant relationship with God brings peace, rest, and joy, and why emotional health is just as vital as spiritual growth. Together, we unpack the impact of childhood wounds, the roles we play to cope, and the importance of self-care. Our conversation is honest and encouraging, inviting you to embrace growth as a lifelong journey marked by grace, healing, and authentic connection with God and others.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: Exploration of the concept of "mission" in personal growth, integrating spiritual and emotional development.Importance of a relational connection with God over rigid religious structures.Challenges of

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Tabitha Westbrook, a licensed therapist and author, to talk about her book Body and Soul, Healed and Whole. Tabitha shares her personal journey as a survivor and her passion for helping others heal from trauma, abuse, and coercive control. We explore the impact of purity culture, misconceptions about abuse, and the importance of safety and healthy boundaries. Tabitha offers practical wisdom for individuals and churches, encouraging honest conversations and compassionate support for survivors seeking healing and wholeness.To learn more about Tabitha, her counseling resources, and book, visit TabithaWestbrook.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of healthy sexuality after trauma and abusePersonal experiences of survivors and their healing journeysDiscussion of complex trauma, domestic abuse, and coercive cont

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Sam Black, Director of Recovery Education at CovenantEyes, to explore the journey of online accountability and recovery from pornography. Sam shares how Covenant Eyes has evolved over 25 years, shifting from simple filtering to a relational, ally-based approach. We then dive into CovenantEyes’ Victory app and its features, including emotional check-ins, family management, and supportive courses for men, women, and parents. Sam also announces a special book giveaway and encourages listeners to take the next step toward freedom with these practical, faith-based resources.To get access to all of CovenantEyes’ resources, visit CovenantEyes.com. (And use code bebroken to try out their services free for 30 days.)FREE BOOK GIVEAWAY!Sam agree to give away 10 FREE copies of his book, The Healing Church. To get your free copy,