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Today we’re talking about how to have a good life in the new year.  One of the best ways I know to have the best year ever is to mind our “nows”. Every moment is there to be lived fully and savored, but our minds usually get in the way of enjoying life.  We tell […]

You aren’t a victim.  You really and truly are not. In any problem circumstance, the real problem is that you feel you have no control.  You FEEL at the affect of your life and the people “pulling the strings”. But this isn’t really the case.  You are always responsible for how you respond.  There’s always […]

Let it suck.  Just get in the habit of making it mean you need practice and that’s all. In today’s episode we’re talking about sucking and getting better.  I’m talking to new servers, servers who have recently changed jobs, and/or anyone who is practicing anything in life (but still kind of sucks at it!!). Did […]

Alright, this is the final episode of a three part series on making and keeping more money in your life.  In the last two, we talked about making an income and an outgo plan and coming up with a why for our saving efforts.  Then, we discussed evaluating ourselves (rather than getting upset and beating […]

Last week we discussed making a plan and starting small.  Today, in the second part of this series, we’re talking about staying in the realm of things we control, making (inevitable) mistakes, and evaluation of our progress. When we’re trying to work more and spend less, it’s easy to get discouraged.  In the moment it […]

In this episode, we’re talking about making and keeping more of our money.  There are lot’s of reasons why we may want to uplevel our money situation: more financial stability, travel, more shoes…whatever it is.  That’s part of the beauty of serving.  It’s good money and it’s FLEXIBLE. But the flexibility is also part of […]

Today’s cool shit episode features Jordan Peterson!!  Love listening to Jordan Peterson on the Joe Rogan Experience.  I don’t recommend listening to him on The Waking Up podcast with Sam Harris because it’s really hard to follow (and kind of annoying). Dr. Peterson has two books out, one of which is directed at young men […]

Have your emotions become absolutely unbearable??  That’s a really shitty place to be.  And we think no one understands.  We believe that no one feels as much pain as we do.  We think something’s wrong with us and that makes the pain worse. Trust me.  You’re not the only one. In my podcast today, I […]

David Hogg, right after his high school got shot up, said the following, “I thought to myself, if I die today, I want to tell a good story…and to do that I’ve got to take action.”  That’s exactly what he did that day, and that’s what he’s done everyday since. He’s gone all over this […]

I’m putting this out a little early to focus on my Patreon reward podcast called THE UNSTUCK PODCAST which comes out on Saturday–with a sneak preview on this podcast next Thursday!!  ANYWAY… In this episode, we’re talking about writing shit down to change your life.  If we want to add or drop a habit, make […]

The skill of creating a routine is much needed for F&B workers like us who can have some wacky, random-ass schedules!  But (you may be saying) I like spontaneity!  Most of us like some spontaneity, and we don’t have to give it up completely.  But here’s the thing:  if we can automate big chunks of […]

I could talk for ten straight hours about the weeds.  I used to have “waitmares” almost every time I slept.  And there’s so much that goes into it.  How skilled of a server you are, what your kitchen and bar are like, the layout of your restaurant, your clientele, and much much more. But what […]

In today’s episode, we’re talking about accepting “that” customer, you know, that customer who most servers would agree is a total asshole.  This is a topic near and dear to my heart because I wrote a book about a year ago on this topic called Taming the Asshole in your Section (available in electronic and […]

Today we’re talking about an important topic–making the choice between staying and putting up with a situation and moving on to (hopefully) greener pastures. We start by discussing the mental pre-work needed to make a good decision and then go through how to systematically make and evaluate your decision.  Then, we finish with typical thinking […]

OMG how many times can I say STORIES in one podcast. “Cyall meh, tell me your shitty serving stories!!” I’m going to keep being awkward until someone leaves me a voicemail! I promise I won’t answer the phone. (AWKWARD!)  It goes straight to voicemail. (346)268-7833 Today we’re talking about dread, and it’s going to be […]

In today’s episode, we’re talking about accepting that person you work with that just gets under your skin.  Maybe it’s your boss, who talks to you in a derogatory manner, that kitchen guy who always wants to give you shit for any small thing you ask for, or that server who never helps out. Co-workers […]

In this episode, we talk about the lovely queen of Phit-N-Phat, Corinne Crabtree!  She’s a fellow student from the Life Coach School and has been helping women lose weight for over ten years. Her approach is amazing.  Even though weight isn’t a struggle for me, I’ve co-opted her plan to help me get motivated in […]

In today’s episode, we discuss the importance of small changes when attempting to change your job and/or your life for the better. Small changes are important because 1. we need to get good a keeping commitments to ourselves 2. small changes can lead to more small changes which gives us momentum 3. small changes are […]

Today we’re talking about how the ideas of the groups around us affect the thoughts that tend to run through our minds on a daily basis. We need to become more aware of the ideas and beliefs being presented to us. We must be the ones to decide to think them on purpose or discard […]

In past episodes, we’ve discussed acceptance as it relates to things happening to us from “out there”.  Today, we’re going to change it up and talk about how to do something much harder–accept ourselves. To do this, we have to come to grips with past actions and choices and what these choices have created right […]