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You sent in the real questions about sex, temptation, emotional attachment, and dating as a Christian in 2025. And honestly? You are not alone.In this Q&A episode, we answer your toughest, most honest questions about self control, boundaries, ghosting, and what to do when the people around you are making choices you do not agree with.From friends who want a “wild phase,” to catching feelings too fast, to trying to build intimacy without crossing lines, we talk through what Scripture actually says and how to live it out without shame, fear, or hypocrisy.We’ll talk about:How to respond when a friend wants casual sexThe difference between confronting a believer and loving a nonbelieverPractical ways to handle sexual temptation as a single ChristianHow to stop chasing validation and break unhealthy emotional attachmentHow to build intimacy without sexual compromiseWhat to do when someone flirts with you and then ghosts youWhy communication matters more than chemistryIf you have ever felt confused, conflicted,

What happens when Christians share their most unhinged dating stories? We’re back with 10 of the wildest, cringiest, and most unbelievable moments we’ve ever heard on the podcast.In this episode, we blind react to 10 new stories from our listeners. From a guy who said “you’re not that ugly,” to someone finding out they were being pursued by a distant cousin, to a stalker from a Christian dating app, these submissions took us on a rollercoaster.We’ll also dive into:How to tell the difference between red flags and straight-up chaosWhy “God told me we’re getting married” is not a green lightWhy some Christian environments accidentally create fear-based dating habitsWhen someone’s spirituality becomes manipulationWhat healthy pursuit actually looks likeIf you’ve ever walked away from a date thinking “no one will believe this story,” you’re in good company. These stories will make you laugh, gasp, and maybe even feel a little better about your own dating history.

What do you do when you find out the person you love has been hiding something from you?In this painfully honest episode, Jenna Zint sits down with us to talk about discovering her husband’s porn addiction and what actually happens to your heart, your trust, and your identity when the truth comes out.If you have ever been hit with that gut-drop moment where you start thinking, “Wait… what else don’t I know?” this conversation is for you. Jenna talks openly about the messy parts: the insecurity, the anger, the questions, the shame, the hope, and the slow, awkward rebuild that most people never talk about.We talk about:What the first 24 hours after finding out really feel likeThe emotions that make sense and the ones that keep you stuckHow to know if it is a one-time mistake or a patternWhat to do if this happens while you are dating or engagedHow to ask honest questions without turning into the detective girlfriendWhat real freedom from porn actually looks likeRed flags that someone is not ready for marriageHo

What happens when a husband realizes he’s been doing only 30% of his job? In this powerful conversation with author and pastor Danny Silk, we unpack what it really means for a man to protect, provide, and connect—and why so many marriages start to heal only when men stop acting like victims and start taking responsibility.In this episode, we sit down with Danny to talk through the hardest lessons he learned as a husband—from being told he and his wife were “clinically incompatible,” to discovering that love isn’t something you fall into or out of, it’s something you choose.We’ll talk about:What every husband gets wrong about “protecting” his wifeWhy love is a decision, not a feelingHow to break free from blame, fear, and self-protectionThe one mindset shift that can save a marriageWhat it means to be a powerful person in relationshipsIf you’ve ever felt stuck in your marriage, wondered if you picked the “wrong one,” or struggled to love when it’s hard, this conversation will change how you think about covenan

What happens when real people share their craziest Christian dating stories? Buckle up, because these might be some of the most awkward, hilarious, and painfully relatable moments you’ve ever heard.In this episode, we blind react to 10 wild dating submissions from our listeners. From a “prophetic” engagement that wasn’t real, to the guy who said Judas was his favorite Bible character, to a dream that warned someone about the worst date ever… these stories had us laughing, cringing, and questioning everything.We’ll talk about:When “God told me you’re my wife” crosses the lineThe difference between discernment and delusion in datingHow to laugh at the weirdest stories and still have hopeWhy faith doesn’t excuse bad behaviorHow to spot manipulation hiding behind spiritualityIf you’ve ever wondered if you’re the only one with a wild Christian dating story, you’re not. This episode will make you laugh, shake your head, and probably text your group chat immediately.

What happens when real people open up about what they’re walking through and ask for help with love, sex, and dating?WATCH NEXT ➡︎ https://youtu.be/CFjj-HWbrdkIn this episode, Gen Z Christians call in to talk about the things most people are too afraid to say out loud. From wondering if they should make the first move, to battling shame from their past, to struggling with confidence and porn, to feeling stuck between chemistry and conviction, nothing is off-limits.We’ll cover:What healthy pursuit actually looks likeHow to rebuild confidence when you’ve been stuck in shameWhy isolation feeds temptationHow to move forward when your past still haunts youWhat to do when you feel torn between attraction and valuesIf you’ve ever felt alone in your questions about love, lust, or loneliness, this episode will remind you that you’re not the only one, and that God still meets you right where you are. 

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I break free from this?” it’s probably because you’ve believed a lie.WATCH NEXT ➡︎ https://youtu.be/selIu5ifNJ8From “God must be disgusted with me” to “one last time won’t matter,” these lies are the chains that keep Christians trapped in sexual sin. But the truth of Scripture exposes every one of them, and sets you free.In this episode, we’ll break down the 5 biggest lies keeping people stuck and how to replace them with God’s truth.We’ll cover:Why numbing your pain with sin never worksWhy marriage won’t heal your strugglesHow “just one last time” keeps you in bondageWhat the cross proves about God’s love for youWhy confession and community are the only way forwardYou’re not the only one struggling. But you also don’t have to stay stuck. Freedom in Jesus isn’t just possible — it’s promised. 

Pop culture has fed us some wild dating theories, but are they actually true?WATCH NEXT ➡︎ https://youtu.be/Rllscn2lNioFrom Taylor Swift’s “invisible string” soulmate myth to the idea that “if they wanted to, they would,” we’re breaking down 6 of the craziest relationship theories people believe and what the Bible really says about them.In this episode, we’ll uncover which theories hold some truth, which ones are wrecking your relationships, and how to anchor your dating life in wisdom instead of worldly myths.We will cover:The Taxi Cab Theory and whether guys are really just waiting until their “light turns on”Why Taylor Swift is wrong about soulmates and why that matters for your faithThe “If They Wanted To, They Would” theory and whether it’s healthy wisdom or toxic adviceWhy slow-burn relationships often end up the strongestHow your childhood attachment style can impact your dating lifeWhy the idea of multiple soulmates is dangerous for Christian relationshipsIf you’ve ever asked yourself, “Is this dating

Christians really asked these questions about sex… and we actually answered them.What happens when you don’t want sex even in marriage? What if porn is part of your relationship… does that count as cheating? And how do you know if you have formed a soul tie that needs to be broken?In this episode, we are answering 10 of the spiciest anonymous questions Gen Z Christians have sent us about sex, dating, and relationships. Nothing is off the table.We will cover:How to repent and return to God after sexual sinWhat to do if you are married but do not desire sexThe connection between coping mechanisms like vaping or self-harm and sexual temptationWhether porn is “just porn” or actual betrayal in a relationshipHow to navigate friendships with the opposite sex without leading someone onWhat soul ties really are and how to break themManaging sex drive in dating relationshipsHow to leave a relationship well, even when the other person reacts badlyWhy humans and animals are different when it comes to same sex attractionI

AI isn’t just changing technology, it’s changing how you approach intimacy.WATCH NEXT ➡︎ https://youtu.be/YoIHF4Ks65QWhat happens when the porn industry no longer needs human bodies? When desire is shaped by pixels instead of people? And when the first sexual experience for a generation might be with something that isn’t even real?In this episode, we’re tackling one of the most dangerous trends quietly taking over: AI-generated pornography.We’ll cover:Why AI porn is not the “ethical” alternative it claims to beHow deepfakes and generative AI are rewiring sexual desireThe lie behind “it’s better than sinning with a real person”Whether AI porn trains us to fear real intimacyWho, or what, you’re actually worshiping when you engage with itWhat true sexual healing looks like in a world of artificial connectionIf you’ve ever wondered, “Is AI porn really that bad?” or “Does it even matter if no one’s getting hurt?” this conversation is for you.You’re being trained by what you’re entertained by. Let’s talk about what

Media doesn’t just fill your time—it forms your desires.WATCH NEXT ➡︎ https://youtu.be/t26Af-zetBUThere’s no such thing as “just a show.” Whether it’s Love Island, Game of Thrones, or your favorite rom-com, what we watch is shaping what we desire. The real question isn’t “can I handle it?” but “do I want to become someone who’s no longer bothered by what breaks God’s heart?”In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common questions we get: Should Christians watch sex scenes?We’ll cover:How to tell the difference between conviction and legalismWhy “it doesn’t make me sin” isn’t the whole storyWhat Scripture actually says about media, discernment, and transformation5 powerful questions to ask before watching anythingHow to tell if you’re relaxing—or numbing outIf you’ve ever asked, “Is this really a big deal?”, or “Where’s the line between grace and compromise?”—this conversation is for you.You’re being trained by what you’re entertained by. Let’s talk about what that means.

What if the thing slowly killing your spiritual life… didn’t even feel like a big deal?WATCH NEXT ➡︎ https://youtu.be/I9IHtkUBQTsThere’s no such thing as a small sin. But compromise rarely starts with something obvious. It starts with comfort. With convenience. With calling something “normal” that God calls sin.In this episode, we’re talking about the real reasons Christians fall into compromise, and how to get free before it’s too late.We’ll cover:• Why some people compromise and others don’t• What to do when you don’t feel convicted anymore• How to walk away from a relationship that’s pulling you away from God• What Romans 7 teaches us about repeated sin• Why calling something “no big deal” doesn’t mean it’s not deadlyIf you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even feel bad about this anymore,” or “it’s not technically sin”—this conversation is for you.You’re not weak, you’re at war. Let’s talk about how to win. 

What if moral failure isn’t just a personal weakness… but something we’ve helped create?We’ve seen it too many times: another Christian leader falls. Another headline. Another apology video. But what if the root problem isn’t just lust or lack of accountability… what if it’s the culture we’ve built?In this episode, we sit down with Kris Vallotton — a leader who’s walked with pastors, pioneers, and fallen giants behind the scenes — to ask the hard questions: • How do you actually prevent moral failure, not just respond to it? • What are the warning signs no one talks about until it’s too late? • What kind of church culture actually fosters purity and integrity? • And when someone does fall… what does real restoration look like?Whether you’re a young leader, a disillusioned churchgoer, or someone who’s been burned by moral failure up close, this conversation is raw, honest, and necessary.This isn’t about blame. It’s about building a church culture where integrity can thrive before things fall apart.

Is there really one person out there you’re destined to marry? Or is that just something we’ve been told by movies, culture, and even church?In this episode, we take a clear, honest look at the idea of “the one” and where it actually comes from. Spoiler: it’s not the Bible.Questions we’re breaking down in this episode: Can you “miss” your person forever by making one wrong choice? If you married the wrong person, is your whole life off course now?Where did the idea of “the one” even come from?Do arranged marriages disprove the idea of “soulmates”?Why do so many people marry “the one”… and still get divorced?Is “God told me you’re the one” just Christian manipulation?Does God choose our spouse, or do we? And what’s our role in that decision?How do you decide if someone is “the one” for you?You’ll also hear Daniel’s personal story about how waiting for “the one” made this dating life difficult, examples from arranged marriages, and practical ways to shift from chasing perfection to building real connection.If y

Sex isn’t just physical… and deep down, you know that. Let’s talk about soul ties, and how to break them for good.WATCH NEXT ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hZojscaKClg&t=2529sEver felt stuck after a breakup? Like something deeper is still holding on?That might be a soul tie.In this raw and real convo, we unpack what soul ties actually are, how they form (hint: it’s not just sex), and why they can leave you feeling spiritually weighed down.We break down the Bible’s view on soul ties, how the enemy uses them to twist intimacy, and how Jesus brings full freedom and healing.Elles shares her own story of getting tangled in an unhealthy soul tie, and how God broke the cycle.If you're feeling tied to your past, this episode is your sign: God’s ready to set you free.=============================⏰ Timecodes ⏰ =============================(0:00) - Intro(1:51) - Soul ties(3:51) - What even is a soul tie?(4:13) - Souls knitting together(5:23) - The context of marriage(5:33) - Sex means easy access(6:14) - God

Ten episodes. A whole lot of healing.In this final episode of Work Club, we’re looking back on the wild, beautiful journey of unpacking our pain, facing fears, and letting God reshape how we do relationships. From shame to identity, family wounds to freedom—we didn’t hold back.Here’s what stuck with us. What surprised us. What changed us.God didn’t just show up—He flipped the script.Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!=============================⏰ Timecodes ⏰=============================(0:00) - Intro(1:38) - Biggest Breakthroughs from WorkClub(1:49) - Sam: Fear of Success (3:40) - Erin: Getting Rid of Fear (6:00) - Cliff Jumping(7:38) - Daniel Opens Up(11:00) - Sam’s Fear Encounter(13:20)  - Elles & Hard Convos(15:35) - Daniel & Changing the Narrative(21:20) - Ingram & Graduating from Shame(25:40) - God Sees Us as His Children(28:00) - Final Thoughts(28:10) - Compassion & Connection & CS Lewis(30:19) - Hindsight Brings Clarity=============================Miss the first

Joy isn’t just a vibe—it’s a weapon.But let’s be honest: shame, comparison, and pressure steal it way too easily.In this episode of Work Club, we’re calling out the real joy-killers and sharing how we’re learning to fight for joy in a world that pushes quick fixes over deep fulfillment. From “puffy peace” to surrendering our own standards, this convo is raw, honest, and all about choosing the kind of joy that lasts.Because the joy of the Lord isn’t a cliché—it’s how we survive.Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!=============================⏰ Timecodes ⏰=============================(0:00) - Intro(1:07) - Finding Joy and Emotional Balance(1:35) - When was the last time you truly felt joyFULL?(1:41) - Erin the Stylist(2:48) - Ingram: Eye Contact(3:14) - Sam: Starting A Business(4:50) - A DEEP Sense of Fulfillment(5:24) - Building(6:09) - Puffy Peace(9:00) - Good Stewardship Brings Joy(10:02) - Don’t Waste Time Chasing Happiness(10:36) - Happiness is Consumed, but Joy is Created(11:50) - Joy R

If your worth isn’t your talent, your title, or your output… then what is it?This week on Work Club, we’re stripping it all back—the stuff that’s replaced Jesus in our lives, the ways we tie our identity to our performance, and the pressure we put on ourselves to be enough.We’re talking about what’s left when you lose everything you leaned on.About why real self-worth isn’t earned.And about how God calls us valuable—not because of what we do, but because of who He is.This isn’t a quick fix. It’s a lifelong journey.But it’s where real freedom starts. It’s not easy. But it’s real. And it’s time.Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss an episode!=============================⏰ Timecodes ⏰=============================(0:00) - Intro(1:16) - The Grapple: Self Worth(1:35) - Ingram: Knowing v. Experiencing(2:52) - What took the place of Jesus?(4:10) - This is a Lifelong Journey(4:46) - Identity is Relational(7:10)  - Stripped: What’s left when EVERYTHING is gone?(9:48) - How Do We Not Tie Our Performance and Self Worth

We all cope—but not all coping brings healing.In this episode of Work Club, we’re getting brutally honest about the stuff we run to when life hits hard. Because let’s be real: you can’t walk in freedom if you’re avoiding the very thing that needs healing.So we’re going there—into the blackhole.The numb-out habits. The distractions. The survival strategies that feel good in the moment... but keep us stuck.We’re talking about what it looks like to actually face pain—with Jesus, with Scripture, and with people who won’t let you hide.Inside this episode: What Ephesians 4 says about getting truly free How to tell if your coping is healing or hurting you And why breakthrough sometimes starts with two questions: How am I feeling? What do I need?This isn’t just about mental health. It’s about spiritual maturity. It’s about identity. It’s about letting God into the mess—not just after you’ve cleaned it up.This is Episode 7 of Work Club.And yeah, we’re still in process—but we’re done pretending we’re not.Don’t forge

What if the thing you’re avoiding is the key to the connection you’re craving?We all want real connection—but you can’t have intimacy if you’re avoiding conflict.In Episode 6 of Work Club, we’re talking conflict avoidance, peacekeeping vs. peacemaking, and the real cost of staying silent.From fights to forgiveness, we’re sharing the hard convos that brought healing—and why the connection you want might be on the other side of the one you’re avoiding.Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss an episode!=============================⏰ Timecodes ⏰=============================(0:00)-  Intro(2:06) - Sam’s Revelation: Fear of Success(7:55) - Why do we tend to avoid conflict?(8:15) - Conflict Avoidance(10:54) - Avoiding Conflict is Avoiding Intimacy(11:40) - Peacemakers vs Peacekeepers(14:27) - What’s the hardest conversation you’ve ever had?(15:07) - Erin’s Convo (Commitment to connection)(17:35) - Ingram’s convo(18:45) - You can only control yourself(20:00) - Recovering after the convo(21:54) - Daniel’s hard conversat