Achieving On Purpose

Read Blog Post How Do You Get More Self Belief? Today I'm asking the question, what do you do if you're suffering from a lack of self belief? This is something which happens to everybody at some point in their lives. It probably stems back from when we're younger, when we're growing up and maybe our parents and our teachers might have said to us, "don't be silly, you can't possibly be that ballerina or that astronaut", or whatever it is we aspired to be. Of course, they had our best interests at heart. They were trying to protect us when they told us that we wouldn't be able to do that. The problem is that we then grow up with an attitude and mindset that we're not going to be able to achieve our goals and our dreams and that we're not good enough. We have that lack of self belief going forward then throughout our lives. So, what can we do about that? 5 Steps 1. Ask Yourself, "What Might Happen?" There are several things and firstly, I would say, ask yourself, if you do attempt to do whatever i

Read Blog Post Amateur Or Pro? Are you being a professional or an amateur in your business? And heck, what's the difference? Basically, A professional is in it for the long haul. They don't need instant gratification. The amateur expects results straight away, and when that doesn't happen, they get discouraged. A professional still has doubts. They DO feel a little discouraged at times. But they do it anyway. They push through. They feel the fear and the doubts. But they don't let it stop them. They show up day after day. They're consistent. An amateur, however, when the doubts set in, if they're not getting instant results, they let it paralyze them. They might not do any work that day. They might not do any work for the week. Their own self doubts limit them. There's a really cool book by Steven Pressfield called The War of Art. In it he says, "the professional masters the how, and leaves the what and why to the gods". An amateur on the other hand is obsessed with the details. T

Read Blog Post What Do You Want Out Of Life? Hey, Carole Wildman here. I'm a Certified High Performance Coach, and also a Certified Canfield Trainer in the Succes principles. I'd like to ask you a question, if I may? Are you feeling truly happy with where you are in your life right now? Or do you feel that there's more out there for you and that you could be achieving so much more? Do you even know what you want?  Maybe you're searching for your life purpose and you don't quite know what it is or how to get it? Maybe you want advancement in your career and your job or maybe you want a total change and you're not quite sure what? You might want to get healthy and fit but you lack motivation. You might want better relationships. Maybe you want to make a lot of money and you don't know how? Maybe you just want to feel happier than you do right now? I've felt all of these things at various points in my life and I didn't like feeling like that. What Is High Performance? When I was first introduced to h

Read Blog Post Is It All Hype? Are you sick of all the hype and everything that you hear about being positive?  Positive thinking, the power of positive thinking, is it all just mumbo jumbo? Well, if you're a pessimist and you think it is, it's good news for you because studies apparently have found, (and this is according to Tony Robbins), that pessimists are apparently a lot more realistic! Tests Tony Robbins is, of course, a great inspirational, motivational coach and life coach and in the video I'm talking about he explains how pessimists are more likely to be right when you give them certain tests. When pessimists are asked how things in general in their life are going right now they're very likely to get it right. Optimists, on the other hand, are much more likely to overestimate how well they're doing and think they're actually doing better than they are.  So well done pessimists. The Bad News The bad news, however, is that pessimists are actually&

Read Blog Post Are You Consistent? Are you consistent in most things, in your life, in your business, and  in your life in general? If not, are you wondering why you're not achieving the success you so desire? Consistency really IS the key to success. Whether you're trying to lose weight, build your business, strengthen a relationship; whatever it is, consistency is the key. If you can learn just this one thing in life, then it is probably one of THE most important things you'll ever learn. This may sound a little dramatic but it's actually true, for it's the little things that you do, day after day after day that shape your life, your business, everything.  The Slight Edge I've been reading a book recently called 'The Slight Edge', by Jeff Olson and I highly recommend it. He talks about the power of doing consistent things, day after day, and how much it can change your life by producing a compound effect, and adding momentum to your life, and to your business. If

Read Blog Post Why Prepare to Fail? This may seem a strange question because obviously none of us are going to prepare to fail on purpose. However, by not preparing ourselves, there's a saying isn't there? "fail to prepare, prepare to fail". If we have big dreams and goals and we're not preparing ourselves to achieve them, then we are preparing to fail. Whatever your dreams and goals are, whether they're small or large, you need to break them down into bite-size chunks and you also must know what you need to do every step of the way in order to eventually achieve that goal. If it's a five year one, you need to break it down firstly into years, and then into months. Then you need to break it down into weeks and ultimately into days. Failing Quickly We all want to move forward quickly yet this is a mistake a lot of people make as they soon run out of steam and ultimately motivation. In preparing your day by knowing exactly what you're going to do to take steps towards achieving your goal, you k

Read Blog Post Should You Be Investing In Yourself? The quick answer to this question is yes, you most certainly should be investing in yourself and I'll tell you why. If you're in any sort of business, whether you're just starting out or whether you're trying to get it off the ground, if you have the mindset that you're not going to spend any money and you're going do it all on the cheap, and you just don't want to invest in yourself, then I'm sorry to tell you but you're not going to be successful. Consistent Growth Whatever business, whatever niche you're in, you need to be learning constantly. You can invest in books for a good starting point as this doesn't need to cost you a lot of money. Personal development books are good whatever niche you're in, and if you're in internet marketing, I know some great books I can recommend for you. You probably need to be getting courses, certain ones, but, choose wisely, as you can't buy everything yet you do need to learn. Follow Successful People If

Why Are We So Afraid? Read Blog Post Why do we so often feel afraid when we really want to do something when we often know it will ultimately be beneficial for us? I'm not talking about real fear like when your life is in danger or that of a loved one - the FEAR I'm talking about here is the perceived fear so many people have when they want to do something to improve their lives which may take them out of their comfort zone. One of the main reasons for the fear most people feel is that they fear "loss pain".   What Is Loss Pain? An example of loss pain could be if someone wants to lose weight they may fear the pain of not being able to eat their favourite foods any more, and they tend to focus on the loss rather than focusing on the positive outcomes that losing weight will bring. They may also fear that they will not have sufficient willpower to lose the weight or that they may regain it again even if they do manage to lose it. If they were to focus more on the

What is Success? View Blog Post Success quite simply cannot be defined as it means different things to different people. Traditionally one is seen to be successful if one has achieved a certain 'status'; be it financial or fame based, however we all know that many rich and famous people have turned out to be very unhappy – some have even taken their own lives. Could this mean, therefore, that such things as happiness, contentment and satisfaction play a part in the definition of success?  For me it most certainly does mean this. How can someone be living a successful life if they are unhappy inside? NB. If you need more happiness in your life and/or suffer from negative beliefs then jump straight here.   Success, quite simply, is defined by each of us as an individual. Broadly speaking I would say that to most people a successful life would contain one or more of the following concepts and words; Being happy Feeling fulfilled Having purpose Achieving goals Free from financial burden Being heal

Read Blog Post Here Making Choices Is it Ever Too Late To Make New Choices? Have you ever looked back to a time in your life and wished you had done something differently, or you wish you'd made a different choice? I'm sure you have - I know I certainly have. Our whole lives are made up of a series of choices; we make them each minute, each hour, day, week, month and so on, and our lives are shaped by these choices. It's so easy to look back and wonder what might have happened if we had done things differently; maybe our lives would have been better, and maybe they wouldn't? The thing is that no matter what choices we have made in the past they cannot be undone, and it is only in the NOW that our future can be shaped, and that is decided by the choices that we make NOW in the present moment. Sometimes people need help; if someone is in a really bad situation - maybe they need therapy or counselling for some trauma, then they can make a decision now to get the help neede

Read Blog post here The Power Of Our Beliefs If I were to ask you what are some of the beliefs that you hold about yourself,  I wonder how many you could come up with? Even more to the point, how many of these beliefs which you hold about yourself do you actually KNOW to be true? "Change your thoughts, Change your beliefs, Change your life". Apart from beliefs which have been indoctrinated within us since childhood due to our family's religion or culture or whatever, - most beliefs we hold as adults are simply thoughts which we tell ourselves over and over again - until they become so deeply rooted within us that we believe them to be true.  But just because we tell ourselves something over and over each day are those thoughts and ultimately beliefs always true?  And are they kind and loving ones?  What kind of things do we say to ourselves out of the 50 – 70,000 thoughts we all have each day? Are they empowering thoughts? – Well, interestingly, it seems not. Appar

Read Blog Post 3 Types Of Happiness In his course 'The Happiness Project', Robert Holden talks about the 3 types of happiness. 1. The first type he describes is pleasure, which is a sensory feeling of happiness. Examples of this are many. What do we find pleasurable? This will of course differ for everyone but generally certain types of food or drink are 'pleasurable', certain smells or sights, experiences, music. The list is endless. We all like pleasure! The only downside to pleasure is that it is dependant upon a stimulus and a response; there is a limited timescale, - when the stimulus is gone the pleasure soon dissipates.  There is an opposite to pleasure also which is pain.   2. The second type of happiness Robert describes is satisfaction, which is circumstantial. This type of happiness is based on desire, and getting what you want. There is always a 'because' or an 'if' or a 'when' attached to it.  For example, I'll be happy 'when' I get my new house, job, lover etc

Read Blog Post Have you ever wondered why people fail to achieve the goals they set themselves? The main reasons why people don't achieve their goals is that they go about it in the wrong way. What do I mean by that? Decide On Your Goals A goal can be anything from deciding to lose weight, get fitter, improve a relationship, get a better job - or A job, start a business, buy a house.  Clearly it can be any number of things.   Whatever it may be, there are 5 steps which must be followed in order to give any goal the best possible chance of being achieved. So what are the 5 steps? Step 1. Become crystal clear of exactly what you want and believe that you CAN do this.           How much weight do you want to lose?           How much salary do you wish to earn?             How much deposit do you need to save for that house?  Become crystal clear about what it is you want to achieve, writ