Power For Positive Living

Your host completes a trilogy of visits with "Hello, Henry" on WBT, AM 1110, in Charlotte, NC.   This broadcast also completes the series of interviews to promote personal retreating with Friend Ship at Sea and was done after the KGBC production of Power for Positive Living. In addition to an active conversation on various aspects of wellness psychology, your host and Henry pose many questions and answers for listeners to consider as they face issues in their lives.   One caller's inquiry allows the discussion of where do each of us seek the answers to the questions of life.   Do we tend to seek "the answers" from outside sources or do we tend to believe that we that we can discover answers only within ourselves?  Or do we tend to see life as "a gift we have only to receive" and not spend time with introspective exploration.   The concept of "degreeism" returns with an approach of finding ways to avoid either/or responses and then seek to learn from a merging of po

Can I Help Others With Their Needs, Not Mine? Your host pays a repeat visit to "Hello Henry" on WBT, AM 1110, in Charlotte, NC, before his move to the Atlanta area in Georgia.    This conversation with Henry Bogan is primarily responding to individuals who call into the radio station to share their questions about relationships with others.   One question encourages a person to ponder their own reasons and needs when they plan to 'help' others who have declined an offer of assistance.    It is often difficult to effectively and positively relate with others until we have learned to relate healthfully with ourselves.  As is frequently the point within wellness psychology, the challenge remains for each of us to learn from one's own inner voices (values, beliefs, experiences, etc.) rather than rely so heavily on the what others tell us is the 'best' for us on how to think, feel and behave as we choose how to live life.    

Pricing My Life Choices   This interview allows each listener to consider knowledge and life options presented from a different point of view.   Your host is interviewed by Henry Bogan on WBT-AM in Charlotte, NC, on Friend Ship's focus on wellness psychology.      Together they explore the basic concepts of emotional pricing that each of us pays when we make our individual choices interacting with ourselves and other people.  There are no freebies!  Callers join in for a portion of the discussion on how to understand and implement the giving and receiving of emotional pricing. 

Expectations and Stress One life challenge that tends to remain the same over the years is the decisions that one makes in how he/she chooses to manage the many expectations and stresses of various holiday periods.    This brief radio interview has your host offering some factors for choosing options on WGBR, Goldsboro, NC, during the Christmas season of 1992.

  Your host brings his listening ministry from Galveston, Texas to Goldsboro, North Carolina.  In this interview from WGBR AM 1150, he discusses the connection between Wellness Psychology personal-retreat principles and those used in clinical private practice counseling. Dr. Hughey firmly believes that caring to actively listen is the primary foundation of personal and professional counseling relationships.

As the Power for Positive Living radio series moves on from KGBC broadcasting, the focus turns toward what your host has personally learned from his experience and adventure of offering wellness psychology concepts to others.    Any life experience is open for one to learn.  What each of us chooses to learn from whatever happens along our Life Journey has been and will continue to be a personal decision.  Change continues in our lives and each retains the power to choose our individual responses.   Power for Positive Living has been an effort to share what your host has learned over the years. Each listener is encouraged to consider this knowledge and utilize any relevant portion of it within their own individual lives. 

Using various emotional tools like a positive-view camera or a positive magnifying glass, we each make choices on how we see various aspects of our world and the people in it.  What we choose to see generally will translate into the attitudes we develop.

  There can be times when we need an objective, competent and caring person to listen and offer guidance for the many and varied stresses of living.   Sometimes we need more than we can receive from family and friends.    Choosing a counselor is a very personal decision.  One may be lucky with the first choice they try or they find that finding the right person can be a long and challenging road.  Like many significant life choices, it helps to do extensive research on options that match one's own unique personality.

  Wellness psychology accepts that basically healthy people frequently have needs for assistance from others to better understand themselves and others.   About one in four persons will need some type of psychological assistance from another during their life journey to make healthy mental health choices.   Mental Health is defined on Friend Ship Radio and at the Personal Retreat Center as: positive interaction with life to the benefit of self and others.     Various mental health myths are discussed.  Our society often has difficulties with individual differences.  We like persons to be "individual" as long as they are also "normal".

  One of the cornerstones of wellness psychology is acknowledging the power of choice that each of us has with personal prejudices. A key to a better understanding of who we are is learning how we choose our personal attitudes and expectations.   Your host discusses how specific perceptions of mental illness create our prejudices. Over the decades there have been myths that mental illness is caused by factors such as emotional weakness, bad parenting, sinful behavior or that the individual actually brings their mental illness on themselves.

  Who am I?  How did I develop into the person I am?  Who were the people and what were the major events that led me to make healthy and unhealthy choices which bring happiness or sadness into my current life?  Am I ready to study and understand the internal compass that guides me when I enter the emotional fogs of daily living?   How can I understand myself better and explore/experiment by choosing different emotions and/or behavior?   Wellness Psychology encourages the exploration of diverse characteristics in ourselves as we choose who we wish to be.  One is encouraged to choose the role of being the author of one's life rather than choosing to be a victim of life.   Experiencing a personal retreat is one way for an individual to focus on four major aspects of life:  emotional, physical, social and spiritual

  Who am I?  How did I develop into the person I am?  Who were the people and what were the major events that led me to make healthy and unhealthy choices which bring happiness or sadness into my current life?  Am I ready to study and understand the internal compass that guides me when I enter the emotional fogs of daily living?   How can I understand myself better and explore/experiment by choosing different emotions and/or behavior?   Wellness Psychology encourages the exploration of diverse characteristics in ourselves as we choose who we wish to be.  One is encouraged to choose the role of being the author of ones life rather than choosing to be a victim of life.   Experiencing a personal retreat is one way for an individual to focus on four major aspects of life:  emotional, physical, social and spiritual

Wellness Psychology encourages each of us to more fully understand and appreciate the choices we make in developing and implementing our own individual self-esteem beginning as a child to becoming a senior citizen.   Special interest is paid to the emotional cancer of perfectionist tyranny and the ways we can re-decide to promote healthy self-esteem for ourselves.

Wellness Psychology encourages each of us to more fully understand and appreciate the choices we make in developing and implementing our own individual self-esteem beginning as a child to becoming a senior citizen. Beginning with words from the Book of Proverbs, "As he thinks in his heart, so is he", various approaches are presented to understanding the choices our heart implements during our daily living.  "Love thy neighbor as thyself" is another guideline for study with emphasis on the last two words.  Honesty is often defined as the ability, to tell the truth to others.   Maturity is the ability, to tell the truth to ourselves and, therefore, often tends to be more challenging for many.  Maturity becomes a major goal of the personal retreating process.  Jim Cole's book Facades is used to demonstrate that healthy self-esteem needs a sense of belonging, having worth and value as well as having some competency. Development of our self-views is characterized by "children are the

Understanding Defense Mechanisms Your host discusses the following:  * What is a defense mechanism? What role do they serve? * What is a reaction formation? * What is projection? We strongly condemn in others what we can't admit about ourselves. * What is rationalization and how can we recognize it? * Is there a difference between a "good" reason and the "real" reason?

In this episode, your host explores eight traits commonly found in successful entrepreneurs and offers practical ways to better understand yourself. 

  Each of us has the ability to receive many viewpoints from others as we create and define our personal self-esteem.   During this broadcast, your host contrasts his views with those of John Leo to illustrate there are many ways for us to perceive the same thing.  Believing that no one-size-fits-all, listeners are encouraged to seek many different sources as they develop their individual path to see and value themselves.

Our friendships are often the most important aspect of our personal mental health system.  Friends are the family that we choose for ourselves as we compose our Life Story and journey through life using the concepts of wellness psychology.  An awareness chart is offered for each of us to better understand our own unique personal 'Friend Print'.   This broadcast is one that allows an individual to learn and personally grow after the program is completed with techniques one can complete on their own.

  Our friendships are often the most important aspect of our personal mental health system.  Friends are the family that we choose for ourselves as we compose our Life Story and journey through life using the concepts of wellness psychology.  Our friends tend to be a reflection of how we see ourselves.   We tend to be selected as a friend to compliment others self-perceptions.   Constructing, understanding and learning from our friendship mirror allows us to be healthier human beings and can be one of the most important aspects of our personal growth.   Our friends tend to mirror who we are and we can offer back the unique gift of reflecting how our friends see themselves.

One way we each can create loving friendships is by giving the gifts of listening hospitality.  When we love a person to the degree that they can truly be themselves without the burdens of perfectionism, we encourage the mutual gift of friendship.  This attitude of listening with others also allows us the opportunity to build a strong, positive and loving friendship with ourselves.