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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Lifestyle Stories EP215 – Playroom Etiquette, Grey Areas & A Hotwife Onboard the Bliss Cruise In this episode, we dive into a lifestyle topic that sparks massive debate: playroom etiquette and the “grey areas” that aren’t written in the rules. We share a real experience from Fata Morgana (Netherlands) where another couple began having sex very close to us (around 20cm) in a small open playroom. No rules were broken, nobody touched anyone… but the vibe shifted fast, mainly due to proximity and intense watching. That led to the real question: When something is technically allowed, can it still be socially tone-deaf? We also share highlights from the Reddit discussion (yes, some people roasted us), unpack the difference between rules vs social awareness, and give practical advice for navigating open play spaces when everyone’s boundaries are different. Plus: Cate’s upcoming Bliss Cruise hotwife adventure, and our latest attempt at making new local lifestyle frien

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Lifestyle Stories EP214 – Swinger Cruises: Inside Bliss Cruise with CEO Russell Stephens In this episode, we’re joined by Russell Stephens, CEO and part owner of Bliss Cruise, the world’s largest and most influential lifestyle cruise brand, for an unfiltered conversation about the past, present, and future of Bliss Cruise. Russell shares how Bliss Cruise was acquired, why the ownership structure changed, and how decisions are actually made behind the scenes. We talk candidly about community concerns, guest privacy, pricing, drink packages, sponsorships, and the realities of working with major cruise lines while protecting a sex-positive lifestyle experience.   Join Cate on Bliss Cruise – April 2026 Cate will be sailing on the April 2026 Bliss Cruise, including the beach parties in Jamaica and Cozumel. Book here to join Cate and receive exclusive cashback: https://wanderlustswingers.com/bliss-cruise-april-2026/ - $750 cashback for international guests - $300 cashba

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Lifestyle Stories EP213 – Sexual Wellness, Performance Anxiety & Pleasure Products for Better Sex in the Swinger Lifestyle (Promescent CEO) Sex toys, delay sprays, arousal gels, performance anxiety, libido, orgasms, and why using sexual wellness products does not mean you’re “bad in bed.” In this episode, we’re joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, one of the world’s most trusted sexual wellness brands, to talk about the real science, real psychology, and real-world use of pleasure products — especially in the swinger and non-monogamous lifestyle.   Premature Ejaculation Spray, Delay Wipes, Arousal Gels & Sexual Wellness Products with Promescent Get 15% off using code wanderlust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26   We dive deep into premature ejaculation, the arousal gap, performance pressure, female pleasure, and why the best lovers in the world use tools. We also explore the incredible backstory of Promescent, including clinical trials, urolo

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP212 – Hot Takes: The Hotwife Boom – Trend, Evolution or Opportunism? (Bonus Episode) Hotwife is everywhere right now, searches are rising, events are multiplying, creators are rebranding, and porn studios are showing up in lifestyle spaces looking for “talent.” So is this a genuine shift in the lifestyle… or is porn culture and trend chasing bleeding into swinging? Our Hottakes bonus episode, we unpack what hotwifing actually is (and isn’t), why the label is suddenly trending, and whether separate play dynamics are becoming more normal at couples events, or if it’s mostly just branding and algorithms.   In this Episode: What hotwifing means (and how it’s different from cuckolding and “just separate play”) Why “hotwife” searches spiked in 2024–2025 (Google Trends nerd moment) The rise of hotwife-specific events, hall passes, and separate-play meetups Are we seeing more hotwifing in real life — or just more people using the label? Porn s

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP211 – Club Rejection, MFM Lessons & Lifestyle Drama at a Swingers Club What happens when you get rejected from a swingers club, have an MFM at home that doesn’t quite land, and then walk into one of the most chaotic club nights you’ve had in 10 years? In this episode, we kick off 2026 by unpacking getting denied entry to a Belgium club, lessons from a recent MFM, and a wild swingers club night that included a consent violation, staff intervention, and a serious conversation about safety and responsibility in lifestyle spaces. And wrap up with a quick 2025 recap, 2026 goals, and why “approaching the unapproachable” (and being the ugliest one in the orgy) might be the new vibe. In this Episode: Getting rejected from a swingers club (and what photos clubs actually want) MFM lessons & why home play can be harder than hotels Condom fit issues & why your hoe bag needs options Dressing down at clubs without killing the vibe A cons

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP210 – Inside a Swingers Hotel Takeover: Real Couple Stories, Playroom Nerves & First Timer Tips What really happens inside a swingers hotel takeover? In this episode, Cate sits down with multiple attendees from our recent Libertine Events takeover to share raw, funny, and deeply honest stories from inside a lifestyle weekend. You’ll hear from brand-new swingers, long-term lifestyle couples, empty nesters, solo explorers, and couples still finding their dynamic — all discussing their playroom experiences, nerves, sexy wins, confidence breakthroughs, and what they wish they’d known before their first event. Expect heartfelt conversations, hilarious confessions (including an accidental cock-block and a 12-hand massage), and genuinely useful advice for navigating hotel takeovers with confidence, clarity, and connection. In this Episode: Real-life swinger stories from a full hotel takeover Relationship dynamics & long-term lifestyle

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP209 – Londons Hottest Halloween Swingers Party – Le Boudoir Swingers Club London What really happens inside a Halloween swingers party in central London? In this episode we share our two-night Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club. From Friday’s single-male night to Saturday’s couples-heavy chaos, plus a very hot dungeon “wine cellar” soft swap. We talk club vibes, playroom etiquette, and the not-so-sexy realities (hello BV) that can kill the mood, along with practical tips for getting more out of your swinger club nights. In this episode: - Our Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club London, logistics, location, and first impressions. - Friday single-male night vs Saturday’s more couples-heavy energy. - Dungeon play: a sensual, soft-swap session in the catacombs and how we navigated boundaries. - Why dress down rules and playroom etiquette matter more than most people think. - Dealing with vibe-killers (like BV and fully

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP208 – Are Dirty Vanillas a Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic? (Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties) Bonus Episode: HotTakes with Wanderlust Swingers Are “dirty vanillas” ruining swinger parties… or are we just old and grumpy? In this HotTakes bonus episode, we unpack the rise of sexy parties vs swinger parties — couples who love the lingerie, lights, drugs and dance floor, but have zero intention of swapping or playing. From empty playrooms at Dutch “takeovers” to US events that feel more MDMA than moaning, we ask: is this evolution, dilution, or just a different lane of fun? Dirty Vanilla 101: what the term actually means (monogamous couples who love the vibe, flirting, lingerie, but don’t play) and why it’s often used as a slur in the lifestyle. Marketing or Epidemic? Swinger events advertised as “dance parties” on TikTok/IG and “swinger parties” on dating sites – who’s actually to blame: the crowd, or the promoters? Sexy Parties vs Swinger P

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP207 – How to Not Get Laid at Swingers Events (aka: are you “social-sexual”ing your way out of play?) Ever left a lifestyle party with a sore throat from talking…and nothing else? In this episode we unpack why being a charismatic, chatty social butterfly can accidentally cock-block your own fun. Social sexual vs. DTF energy, how mixed signals stall momentum, and the exact moves to shift from talk to touch, without being creepy. Yes, there are wombat and platypus facts. No, we’re not sorry. Social V's Sexy: why holding court makes you look “unavailable,” the “talk block,” and how intent signals attraction better than endless banter. 6 Social Archetypes that Miss the Moment: the MC, the Talker, the Broad Flirt, the RBF, the “One More Drink,” and the Ghost Poll Results: 47% chat and forget to switch to play; 47% sometimes drift that way From Flirt to Close: specific lines that move things forward (“Are you free later?” vs. “Wanna go now?”)

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP206 – Cap d’Agde & Recent Swingers Parties Is Cap d’Agde still the planet’s wildest swingers playground… or did we just hit it on extra-chaotic mode? In this on-the-road episode (recorded from a very “upgraded” Las Vegas suite), we recap our second 2025 run at Cap d’Agde — from Babylone poolside antics to a Le Glamour Beach foam party so packed you could crowd-surf — plus two very different European events: Flamigo Events in Belgium and the SDC 25th Anniversary World Party in the Netherlands. We talk wins, fails, costs, dress codes, and why playrooms (or the lack of them) can make or break your night. Cate also shares a real-life health check-in on managing recurring UTIs in the lifestyle and the impact on travel, play, and partnership. What You’ll Hear in This Episode Cap d’Agde, Round Two: language barriers, daytime soloing while your partner works, poolside flirtation, and making the most of peak-season crowds Babylone Pool P

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP205 – Sexual Health Awareness Month: STI Testing for Swingers with STD Hero (and why “safer sex” beats “safe sex”) Is oral sex “low risk”? How long should you wait to test after a hotel takeover or cruise? And what’s the real deal with HSV and HPV in the lifestyle? We brought receipts—and two experts. Today we’re joined by Alan Brock, founder of STD Hero, and Dr. William Budd, CEO of Alliant Lab Consulting, to talk real-world STI testing for swingers, myths that need to die (no, you can’t blame a truck-stop toilet seat), incubation windows, oral vs. penetrative risk, site-specific swabs, and why regular screening plus straight-up conversations make play hotter and safer. Sponsor (and a Perk for You) STD Hero — discreet, at-home STI testing built for the lifestyle. Use code Libertine for 10% off: https://mybls.com/Libertine Segments: Myth Busting 101 – Toilet seats, “clinic tests are the only real tests,” and the HSV antibody red-X pro

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP204 – Cap d’Agde Swingers Vacation 2025: Champagne Pussies, Foam Parties & Beach Orgies Is Cap d’Agde still the world’s most infamous swingers paradise — or is it just overpriced rosé, half-empty nightclubs, and sunburnt nudists with GoPros? We’re back from France with 69 sexy humans in tow, ready to spill the champagne (literally) on what really went down at Europe’s biggest lifestyle playground. From Paris club nights to poolside anal, missed connections, VIP beach beds, and a finale party involving German neighbors, cheese, and pop rocks blowjobs — this trip had it all. Stick around for the segments: Paris Stopover Shenanigans – Les Chandelles on a Sunday, Darrell’s multi-orgasmic play, and why our group rocked the dress code fit Babylone Nights – The champagne pussy, Cate’s open-crotch challenge, and poolside daisy chains Pool Parties & Orgies – Floating blowjobs, public anal, and our DIY beachside orgy Foam Party Madness –

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP204 – Cap d’Agde: A UK Swingers Experience Is Cap d’Agde the ultimate swingers paradise... or an overhyped nudist town with overpriced rosé and questionable club decor? We’re diving into France’s infamous "Naked City" with first-timers Ben & Kate from the UK—sharing what it’s really like to strip down, party hard, and play freely in one of the world’s most iconic non-monogamous travel destinations. From body confidence wobbles to naked grocery runs, group foam party flings, and boundary-testing solo play, this episode is equal parts hilarious, sexy, and honest AF. Stick around for the segments: Hot Seat Quickies – foam or finesse? Nudity or nightlife? Sexy surprises and flirty regrets. Guess Who: Cap d’Agde Edition – is that a mesh thong and too much cologne, or are we imagining things? Prison Wallets & Pool Parties – yes, that’s a thing. Yes, we explain it. No, you won’t forget it. The Moose Party & Babylon Vibes – what to

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP202 – Solo Hotwife Play Date: From Lingerie Nerves to a CU-soaked Finish Welcome to a juicy bonus episode of Wanderlust Swingers! In this unscheduled, unfiltered conversation, Cate takes us behind the scenes of her most recent solo hotwife play date—a sexy, nerve-wracking, pounding-filled night that left everyone hot, wet, and just a little bit awkward. From lingerie mishaps to ben wa balls, awkward flirting to explosive orgasms, this episode is a raw (sometimes hilariously chaotic) look at what it’s really like to go on a solo hotel date with a single guy. Darrell weighs in with his thoughts on compersion, the thrill of being included before and after, and what it's like when your partner comes home smelling like someone else’s cologne. Plus, a listener question dives into whether solo play still counts if it's only with people you've previously played with—and how to handle that tricky dynamic when it feels like freedom with limitatio

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP201 – Swinger Event Hosting Isn’t for the Weak Ever wondered what it really takes to host a swingers lifestyle event? From clogged toilets in lingerie to DJ sets soaked in sweat, this candid crossover with Mickey & Mallory from the Casual Swinger Podcast exposes the highs, lows, and hilariously gross realities of being a swingers event host. We’re pulling back the velvet curtain to share our wildest stories from hosting major lifestyle takeovers like Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Jamaica and Libertine Events Miami. You'll hear about guests gone rogue, glow-stick overkill, questionable hotel staff, and the unexpected emotional weight of managing relationship drama at sex-positive parties. Stick around for the segments: Top 5 Unsexiest Things We’ve Done at a Sexy Event What’s in Our Swinger Event Survival Kits? True or Trope? — a rapid-fire myth-busting game about lifestyle stereotypes If One More Person Asks Me To… (You kno

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP200 – Hotwife Glory Hole Experience & 3 New Swingers Clubs in 3 Weeks In our 200th episode, Cate and Darrell reflect on a decade in the lifestyle — and ask: can old swingers learn new tricks? From awkward dress-downs and single-guy overloads to sexy vibes, secret blowjobs, and diverse party crowds, this one is packed. We hit up three different swingers clubs in three weeks, including CitySwingers in Copenhagen (a real let down), Party Players in the Netherlands (a sexy swingers club but not a swingers event), and finally the X Club in Toronto — where a hotwife glory hole scene played out in real-time. You’ll also hear about: What makes a club feel sexy (or not) Swingers vs. sex clubs: what’s the difference? Party diversity, drug culture at events, and the illusion of no-phone policies Cate’s secret hotwife escapade: from business-bitch lingerie to anonymous cock sucking Plus, we tease what’s ahead for Cap d’Agde, share a m

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP199 – Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire in the Swingers Lifestyle In this episode, Cate and Darrell dive into the psychology and practicality of spontaneous vs. responsive desire — and how this can make or break your experiences in the lifestyle. Whether you're the one who’s ready to go at the first flash of lingerie or someone who needs the right mood, connection, or even lunch before feeling sexy, we explore what it all means for swingers navigating clubs, hotel takeovers, and multi-day events. We also update you on the notorious dildo from the last episode — yes, Cate used it. Was it sexy? Science-y? Did it cause a UTI? (Spoiler: yes to all of the above). Plus, you’ll hear about Cate’s surprise visit to a Canadian club, her puffed-up chipmunk face courtesy of the Dutch healthcare system, and a viral Facebook video that got her slapped with a ‘bullying’ violation. You can’t make this stuff up. Finally, we tackle a fantastic listener q

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP198 – Cap D Agde Desires, What’s in the Box and How to Small Talk Cate’s fresh back from Miami (just her this time!) and while we only touch on that wild weekend, we’re diving deep into what’s really heating things up: our return to Cap d’Agde in 2025, a brand new sex toy, and Darrell’s spicy fantasy. In this episode, Darrell receives a mystery box that leaves Cate both suspicious and very curious. Spoiler alert: it’s a new toy — but it’s not one we’ve ever used before. Unboxing it live kicks off a conversation about impulse sexy buys, techy pleasure, and how this toy might play into fantasy fufillment. We’re also answering a great listener question from a hotwife couple in New Zealand: How do you make small talk in the lifestyle when talking about work and kids feels out of place? From flirting in loud clubs to deep connection at weekend events, we’ve got practical tips, sexy one-liners, and a few hilarious fails to share. And finally

How does sexual trauma affect your lifestyle journey? Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of sexual trauma, abuse, and emotional triggers. Please take care while listening. In this vulnerable and powerful episode, Cate is joined by trauma-informed coach Meshai from Expansive Connection to explore what happens when past trauma meets lifestyle play. Cate also shares her personal experience with sexual trauma — opening up publicly for the first time. Whether you’re navigating your own healing, supporting a partner, or just want to be a more compassionate and informed member of the lifestyle, this conversation is essential. What we cover: ✔ What sexual trauma looks like in lifestyle spaces ✔ Common triggers during play or events ✔ What partners and playmates need to understand ✔ Cate’s story ✔ How to create trauma-aware swinger environments ✔ Supporting survivors without needing every detail ✔ Why trauma must be part of the conversation ✔ Real tools for safer play and stronger connections   Resourc

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Cate and Darrell revisit soft swap play for the first time in seven years — and it happened at none other than Fun4Two, the iconic swingers club in the Netherlands. What started as a night out turned into a wildly sensual experience filled with connection, chemistry, a six-handed massage… and yes, some cum on the floor. We explore the dynamics of soft swap play, the assumptions people make about it, and whether full swap couples are missing out by skipping over these intimate encounters. Cate also makes a hilarious faux pas, and offers a boss-level club tour move, and together they reflect on how chemistry can totally eclipse categories. Here’s what you’ll hear: