Divorce Conversations For Women

In this episode, we discuss: Five things you need to know before you start working from home. What does it take to be successful working from home? What are the biggest mistakes people make when starting to work from home? About our guest: Lesley Pyle is the founder of HireMyMom.com, a boutique service connecting Entrepreneurs and Small Businesses with top-notch Virtual Professionals across the country. She began her work-at-home career in 1996 with the launch of her first website: Home-Based Working Moms. She has a Master's degree in Public Relations from the University of Stirling, Scotland while on a full academic scholarship and as an Ambassador of Goodwill for Rotary International. She also has a BA in Journalism / Public Relations from Texas State University. Pyle has been featured in numerous publications including Forbes, Entrepreneur, Wall Street Journal and USA Today. She and her husband live in Texas and have four children.   Rhonda: Thank you so much for joining us! I am really excited to be

In this episode, we discuss: The importance of having a vision and writing it down Hire a coach to help you! Surround yourself with the BEST people! Rhonda: I am so excited to be joined today with my friend, Stacy Kaat. And she's not only a number one bestselling author, a speaker and also personal brand coach, she's also a woman who has gone through divorce and knows what many of you who are listening today are going through, what you're feeling like, some of the challenges you may be experiencing. And Stacy and I met several years ago, and it felt like we had known each other for a long time and I'm so grateful that we have had the opportunity to stay in touch. Thank you for joining us today. Stacy: Well thank you for having me, Rhonda. I haven't really publicly spoken about my divorce, so this is kind of fun and a little bit scary. Rhonda: I know that there's an element of vulnerability that comes with sharing our stories. I just want to say; you are welcome to share as much or as little as you want here

In this episode, we discuss: Why divorced women should talk to their parents about their parents’ finances How to start the conversation and what to gather   Rhonda:               All right. I am so excited to be able to interview today, Cameron Huddleston. She is the author of Mom and Dad, We Need to Talk: How to Have Essential Conversations with Your Parents About Their Finances. She is an award-winning personal finance journalist, and life and money columnist for GoBankingRates. So, thank you so much for joining us today. Cameron H.:        Thank you so much for having me on your show. Rhonda:               So, this is a topic that anybody who's had any conversation with me or seen some of the things that we've been doing here at the Women's Financial Wellness Center, I have been a champion for having the conversation with our parents about money. Some might think, "Okay, Rhonda. Well, I thought this was a podcast about women going through divorce." Yes, it is. You're in the right place. But I also fe

Melissa Davis, an affair survivor, joins us today to talk about healing after an affair. It is never an easy conversation and a lot of women are facing this subject. Being able to heal through the affair is so crucial for women. Carrying unhealed wounds is trauma – a big thing in your life that you have to deal with, or it will keep coming back up. Your body and mind must deal with it so breathing through it helps it. If you do not make the choice to heal, then you are just going to carry around this heavy weight that you do not want to have with you. It comes down to choices. A strong, fierce woman who can handle everything or hold on to it and become bitter and resentful. In order to move forward with other relationships, we need to go through the healing process. It’s not easy – it is painful, yes, but necessary. Allow yourself as many ugly cries as you must in order to heal and move forward.   When we choose to be mindful and pay attention to our thoughts, that really starts to help us realize the truths

Beth Ruthmansdorfer, Attorney with Moertl, Wilkins & Campbell, S.C., joins us to discuss the various ways that setting up authority in your Financial Power of Attorney (POA) is beneficial to you including your business, pets, children, and other assets that you have especially while going through and post-divorce. Assigning authority within your Financial POA is important because it gives you control over where your assets go in the case that something happens to you. The 5 items that every newly divorced woman needs in her POA are:   Beneficiary designations – this is important because if an accident happens and the estate plan is not done yet you need to have your agent have the authority to be able to add the beneficiary on those assets to make sure the plan works (i.e., life insurance and retirement accounts). There is still a lot of clean-up to do post-divorce. You want to make sure your ex-spouse is not listed as a beneficiary on your accounts and assets. Creating and Funding Trusts – making sure t

Women, in general, are natural givers especially when they are empowered and confident. During divorce, especially during the midst of divorce, confidence can be impacted by what you wear, your financial situation and even the people that you surround yourself with. There are things that you can do that will boost your confidence and help you to move forward.   Heather Schaefer, Personal Stylist and Chief Team Builder, is passionate about helping people to be difference makers. Her mission is to empower women to be confident in their own skin and become difference makers in their home, their workplace, and their community. In this episode, she explains that the common thread amongst women is that we like to look good. Not for other people but for ourselves. When we put on our super suit, that first layer of clothing, it helps us work better, be kinder, our attitude shifts, and our posture changes. Dress with confidence, it helps you feel like you can take on the day!   When it comes to financial confidence,

Car buying can be very stressful especially while going through divorce but with the right techniques, it can be easier. Tina McKandes, Director of Internet Operations at Boucher Automotive Group, has been in the industry for 25 years. Helping women find their perfect vehicle fit resonates with Tina having been through the divorce process herself. She knows the importance of educating yourself enough in order to make informed decisions. In this podcast, she expresses the importance of doing your research, knowing what features are important to you, and having confidence and flexibility in expressing your needs and timeline.   “Be armed with information, regardless of what it is.” – Tina McKandes   98% of people do online research prior to coming into a dealership. The customer journey starts and stops at various different areas depending on what your situation is. The approach that Tina takes is providing the guest with all of the information. They first evaluate your needs. It’s important to be willing to b

What is your cash flow going to look like post-divorce? This is a common question that most women going through divorce have. Whether you are going back into the workforce or if you need/want to make changes in your career, Kathryn Sollman of 9 Lives for Women discusses the 6 different types of flexwork that can better blend your professional and family life. You have many options to work. You can define what success is. You have a voice in what you want to be doing in your next chapter. The six different types of flexwork are: Professional full-time – today these can be flexible in terms of where you work and what your schedule is Flexible part-time – you can also work in a more mid-to-senior level in a professional way Telecommuting – working from home or even a co-working space Job Shares – less frequent than other options but are still growing, you share a job with someone who has complementary skills and together you share the responsibility of one full-time employee Freelance – independent work, on you

You all know that inner voice that tells you that you are not good enough in one way or another. That voice that is inside your head that is constantly beating you up that makes you feel guilty, less than, and underperforming all the time. It is like having a really bad roommate. In this episode, Dr. Diane Garrison, a licensed psychologist and a women’s empowerment coach, discusses how we first need to recognize that we internally talk to ourselves in a mean girl manner, then finding the understanding that you are not flawed. This type of thinking is something that was programmed into you when you were a kid. Society has led women to believe that they need to work harder and longer in order to prove that they have even half the value of men. Women have been taught that feelings are weaknesses and therefore are taught to be cast aside in order to get things done.   Giving yourself compassion when you are hurting is a skill that can be learned. “It is a part of me but it doesn’t have to run me.” The center of t

In this episode, Pam reminds you to live your life on purpose and to not be driven by the circumstance in your life but remember that those circumstances are your hinge points in order to get to your purpose. It is part of your journey. If you know what your purpose is, it is easier to get through the circumstances. You need to take the emotion out of decision making and part of that is allowing yourself to let go of the physical things that may hold sentimental value. Things that you just place on a shelf but are not going to use. Pam tells us a great way to hold on to these emotional keepsakes without carrying the baggage with you. When going through a major life change, we tend to hold onto the guilt that is associated with it, remember that it is a fresh start. Move forward and let go of the rest. When we are going through changes in our lives, part of the process is knowing who we actually are. Who we are and how we show up today is going to affect the person that we will ultimately be in the future. Tak

“I was suffering in my marriage and I believe my partner was too. However, when I would talk about leaving, it was so scary to imagine what life would look like in the future.” Have you had a partner that would make you feel like you would not be able to financially support yourself and/or your kids if you left them? “I never imagined when I got married that it would end in divorce.”  You just don’t know what your future will look like and having the facts helps you make decisions for your future. Finding happiness in the core of who you are, allowing yourself to grieve through the process, and allowing yourself to find joy and a healthy mindset will pave the way to building your confidence. Women are good at making decisions if they have all the facts. Sometimes we feel it must be so terrible that we have no other option before we leave, but that is not always the case. We have choices. In this episode, Julie talks about her journey of making the tough decisions in order to take back control in her life. By

As an adult woman, we are kind and clueless. Clueless in understanding the boys and men in general. Often we wonder why they bottle up their emotions and avoid eye contact. But when we try to understand how males prefer to communicate, that allows us to adjust our expectations. Boy expert Janet Allison is a former teacher and a mother of girls. She founded Boys Alive, an organization that advocates for boys. Teaching parents how males and females learn, interact, and interpret the world differently. She wrote  Boys Alive! Bring Out Their Best and has collaborated with many international experts to create virtual educational summits, interviewing experts and sharing wisdom with thousands of parents and teachers. In this episode, you’ll learn more about men and boys. Why they act the way that they do and what can you do about it. Anger is a big topic of concern for parents of boys. Opt-in to claim a free audio report on Boys & Anger and how you can help him manage this big emotion! Claim here   In This Epis

So you finally realized that he left you. Now what? What's your game plan? How do you begin when there are so many obstacles to overcome? Jenna Whitehead is an everyday woman. She’s a Realtor in the area of Dallas, who unexpectedly was hit with a divorce. Her husband has become a person she doesn’t recognize anymore. Her experience led her to write a book entitled “He Actually Left Now What?” designed to heal women from the pain of divorce. A book that helps you move on from your horrendous past with him. Listen on as she shares helpful advice to help you move past your divorce slump. Just because he left, doesn’t mean it’s over. For listeners who would like to receive a free copy of this ebook, please email jenna@jennawhitehead.com, using the subject line "Wellness Center Podcast"   In This Episode We Discuss: The knowledge that women aren't alone How social media groups played an important role in her healing journey Practical ways of healing through journaling Getting into the space of acceptance Putting

What does it take to truly succeed in life? How do you stand back up when you're experiencing something traumatic? Jennifer Leigh is a self-made entrepreneur, a mother of twins and an intuitive. She has a background in crisis management, serving as a consultant to companies, organizations, and people who’re going through a crisis. In this episode, Jennifer shares her story, from being on top of her game when she started her company to hitting rock bottom when she was going through a divorce. Amidst all the challenging things she has experienced, she learned to be more resilient, more resourceful. She learned to have more faith and belief that she will come out stronger after the storms of her life. In This Episode, We Discuss: Being resilient during tough times Resourcefulness and thinking outside the box Reshaping your life using your mind Women judging other women Compartmentalizing your feelings Love Languages Speaking words of affirmation to yourself as a form of self-care Recognizing the power of vulner

Divorce is an emotional roller coaster ride. If you’re in the early stages, you’re probably thinking about what to expect - How do you go from feeling small to feeling big and confident in a good way? Julie Rothamer Cruz, a woman who's currently going through the divorce process is here to share her story and help you create your puzzle piece and play it big again! She's a Health and Energy coach, and a Certifies Integrative Nutrition Health Coach who helps women and individuals with health transformations. As she rides the roller coaster of divorce for a second time, she wanted to help more women feel empowered as they go through and after their divorce. Visit https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/JHLQCR to schedule a free, 30-minute Empowered Woman consultation with Julie and get started in celebrating you as you create a new life vision for yourself.   In This Episode We Discuss: Divorce as a roller coaster ride The grief and support of the divorce process It's okay to say "I'm not fine" Creating your n

Divorce is painful but it doesn’t have to be a disaster. Societal standards hinder us from having a good divorce. People shy away from this notion because they think it’s uncommon. Having divorce doesn’t mean you’re happy to have it. It also doesn’t mean you’ve failed or you did something wrong, but what does a good divorce really mean? Dianne Mader is an attorney who has practiced divorce law in Wisconsin for more than 30 years. She has also mediated divorce cases for 25 years. Through the years of working with divorce clients, she’s gained deep compassion for women going through a divorce. Her commitment to making divorce a transformative experience for women led her to train as a certified life coach. Ever since then, she has used that opportunity to coach women before, during, and after their divorce. Dare to have a good divorce as you listen to today’s episode!   In This Episode We Discuss: Divorce as a future-focused planning process What a good divorce means The practice of affirmations Forgiveness. I

In the process of divorce, the most important part is the very beginning. If you’re planning to leave your spouse because it’s unfair, suffocating and toxic to stay in a relationship with him, then it’s time to plot out your exit strategy. Today, we have Kristie Dye who was married for 15 years until she got divorced. She’ll be sharing helpful tips and strategies to make sure you are prepared before you leave your partner. In This Episode We Discuss: Kristie Dye’s story with her narcissistic ex-husband How Kristie handled being in an abusive relationship Tips and strategies before you go through a divorce Strategic exit plan ideas Helping women understand their strength when children are involved Managing narcissistic behavior Abuse is far more than somebody hitting you Why Kristie choose to have divorce Being kind to yourself Don’t be afraid to ask for support Knowledge is power "Good parents give their children roots and wings" The best thing that you can do as a mother for your children is showing them h

When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world. — Eckhart Tolle Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt powerless, you lose yourself in the process? Don’t do this, don’t do that. Rules keep adding up one after another. You’re not happy anymore. You want to break free and be you again. But how do you do that when you have children, bills, rents, and life, in general, to think about? In this episode, Liberty, a multipotentialite creative, maker, and an artist, shares her story on how she got out of a relationship where she didn’t feel safe to make her own decisions without repercussions. Now, she’s happier and more connected with herself as she makes art that gives people hope and inspiration. Fill yourself with the hope that better days will always come as you listen to her story in today’s episode! In This Episode We Discuss: Liberty’s married life story with her strict husband Women’s tolerance for pain How your identity is not tied to a person, object or even your career The

There is so much trepidation for a woman going through divorce alone. Half of the battle is getting the right people in the right place at the right time. It's hard to trust anyone (even your attorney) - and it gets tough when you don’t have the support of the ones you consider close to you. Nancy Towle is a licensed health insurance agent with HealthMarkets insurance agency. She helps individuals and families find the best plan for their budget, providing objective guidance and solutions. In this episode, Nancy shares her story about how she didn’t have anyone to run to during the days of her divorce. She was a victim, trapped in a relationship where she was made to feel useless. But despite all of the hardship, Nancy managed to get through it. She’s a great example of what it’s like to be on the other side. In This Episode We Discuss: Getting the right people to help you navigate through the divorce process The importance of having someone to support you in your battles Opportunities can arise even in unce

Science shows us that heartbreak and mourning have neurobiological evidence of stress similar to someone who's been tortured as a prisoner of war. In most studies, women have the highest rates of depression. To cope with pain, women adjust. But how do you heal through all the hurt that you've experienced? Monica Rodriguez is a licensed Mental Health Therapist and also the owner and founder of On Purpose Psyche. She is very passionate about helping people, fostering them to grow in their mental health. In this episode, Monica shares the importance of a story - the idea of telling ourselves stories to help us navigate our way through life. We like to project and personify unto other people. But know that you are writing your own story. How you re-write it in order to be happy and live your purpose is up to you. Monica is offering a FREE initial consult for listeners of Divorced Women Conversations Podcast. In This Episode We Discuss: Helpful advice and tips for women who are going through a divorce The importa