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Talking points: discipline, mindset, attraction, relationships Title says it all, team. A lot of men simply aren't that disciplined when it comes to their sexual energy, despite the fact that being disciplined has some pretty immense benefits. Here's a look at why that is. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:12) - A potential major cause of insecurity in a partner(00:02:41) - Why women are attracted to sexual discipline(00:04:33) - It creates security and safety(00:06:12) - Do this for YOU because a) it’s hard, and b) most men aren’t disciplined—at all(00:08:13) - Your sexual body can be THE training ground for discipline Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a revi

Talking points: grief, trauma, needs, resentment, relationships Dr. Nicole is one of the rare three-peats on my podcast, and she always delivers! Fresh off the tour for her new book, we dove straight into the heavy stuff. This is a great episode to listen to if you're wanting to take a closer look at relationship issues, modern dating troubles, and navigating all the emotions those bring. (00:00:00) - Intro, the book tour, and navigating grief and joy at the same time(00:08:10) - Why we isolate ourselves when we actually need community(00:15:47) - What do you feel has shifted in modern-day relationships?(00:23:12) - What does it mean to “be the love that you seek”?(00:28:05) - So how do our early relationships inform our present-day ones?(00:32:18) - Our earliest attachments did more than condition our behavior(00:38:17) - How early unmet emotional needs impact our present relationships, and how we identify them(00:44:32) - What do you say to men who claim they shouldn’t have emotional needs?(00:50:28) - Wh

Talking points: middle age, mindset, death, nice guys I've worked with legions of middle-aged men. As of 2023, I'm one of them. It got me wondering why so many of us radically change (or catastrophically implode) our lives in our 40s and 50s. Here's what I've seen, where I think it comes from, and where to begin ensuring it doesn't happen to you. (00:00:00) - Intro and why I call it the “middle passage”(00:02:52) - The biggest reason men go through a midlife “crisis”(00:06:59) - Pleasing Syndrome, and how to fix it(00:10:26) - Fear of our own depths(00:13:29) - The collapse of the illusion that right action leads to right outcome(00:17:34) - What do you actually do with this info? Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world.

Talking points: redpill, dating, relationships, mindset, culture, attachment Adam's been making waves recently with his no-nonsense yet deeply considerate approach to the insanity that is modern relationships. This convo was centered around Adam's expertise in attachment theory—aka the way you as a child learn to get safety and love. You can probably guess that it's kind of a big deal. Dig in, team. (00:00:00) - Intro and Adam’s defining moment(00:03:07) - What drew Adam to attachment theory(00:06:16) - Adam’s definition of attachment, and why it’s important for individuals(00:10:10) - The signs of secure attachment in men and women (00:16:34) - More insight on anxious and avoidant attachment styles(00:19:42) - Where do Nice Guys fit on the attachment spectrum, and how do they move towards secure attachment?(00:29:47) - The sad and dysfunctional truth about how some men get out of anxious attachment(00:36:33) - The mess that is modern dating, seen through the attachment lens(00:44:19) - MGTOW and avoidant a

Talking points: mindset, life hacks, culture The list of things I've tried to get over procrastination is so long you could wrap a town's worth of Christmas presents in it. But there is ONE thing that's actually helped. It's pretty counterintuitive, but it seriously has worked every time I've used it. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and how I’ve battled with procrastination for a long, long time(00:04:20) - Procrastination: what it’s actually trying to do (00:08:22) - The one counterintuitive thing that worked for me(00:11:44) - A side effect you’ll need to look out for(00:14:46) - We have a very anti-boredom culture Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a

Talking points: anxiety, bipolar disorder, culture, tribalism, climate, society There aren't many out there with as wide-ranging knowledge and experience as Sarah Wilson, so I was thrilled to sit with her and dig into some of the heavier stuff. From practical tips for managing anxiety to collapsing neoliberal systems to the Dutch practice of "dropping", this interview has a bit of everything. Strongly encourage you to check this one and share, especially if you're interested in mental health or where our culture's headed. (00:00:00) - Intro and Sarah’s defining moment(00:03:54) - What are “diseases of despair”?(00:07:29) - What’s causing the rise of these kinds of deaths?(00:11:32) - The loss of “discerning moral discussions” in the education system(00:16:56) - Sarah’s take on collapse theory and its impact on mental health(00:26:36) - How do we deal with the fracturing of dialogue and society?(00:34:54) - It’s not an anxiety epidemic, it’s a lack of resilience epidemic(00:44:44) - What are some practical

Talking points: mindset, relationships Title says everything, friends. Here are a handful straightforward things you can start doing to attract higher quality women. Caveat: these aren't Jedi mind tricks, they'll benefit you even if you're already in a relationship, and probably will help the dating scene be a little less chaotic for everyone. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:18) - Face your fears and be honest about the red flags you’ve ignored(00:05:42) - Confront your fears relationally, emotionally, and sexually(00:07:37) - Work towards your idealized self(00:10:33) - Get in shape; the benefits are enormous (00:17:02) - Be able to regulate your nervous system(00:18:42) - Know what you will tolerate in relationship and adhere to that(00:20:45) - Get offline This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bund

Talking points (and content warning): masculinity, suicide, domestic violence, patriarchy, politics, culture Whew. This was quite the conversation. I've been following TheTinMen for a while now and am continually inspired by his passionate yet levelheaded approach to what is (unfortunately all too often) wildly charged conversations. This is a heavy one, team—and deeply important. (00:00:00) - Intro and why "TheTinMen"? (00:04:17) - George’s defining moment(00:08:40) - How do you approach the topic of domestic violence, and it's biggest causal factor(00:12:00) - What factors into domestic violence outside power and control?(00:21:38) - George’s take on the patriarchy(00:28:04) - How do you engage people who think all men are evil?(00:33:22) - In the UK, fathers are legally second-class parents(00:38:41) - The misconceptions around male suicide(00:46:34) - What are men saying to George directly about suicide?(00:46:34) - How does the epidemic of male vacancy play into the challenges young boys are facing?(00

Talking points: mindset, goals, direction If there's anything you should be prepared to talk about with a partner, this is it. I think men underestimate how potent it is, how attractive it is, and how beneficial it is for themselves and for everyone else... What's your vision? (00:00:00) - Intro and the Question(00:02:43) - Your vision helps women understand you better—and it’s attractive(00:03:29) - Purpose comes FROM vision(00:05:47) - There’s aliveness when working on your vision, but it’s easy to get stuck on what’s not going well(00:09:35) - Why depth is my direction Want to go deeper? I encourage you to check out ManTalks' Black Friday sale. Get 20% off all our courses (or 30% if you grab all three)! The Shadow Course, Relationship Mastery, and the Porn Detox Program are all available: https://mantalks.com/blackfriday/ This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of

Talking points: fatherhood, attachment, communication Back in August, I had this gentleman on, and we covered some deep ground. In part two, we end up looking at a present struggle, fatherhood, and how it both connects and is separate from old patterns.  This is an excellent episode to check out if you’ve been curious about what shape repeat sessions can take, and how we can use what we’ve learned about ourselves not just to overcome our own obstacles, but help others too. (00:00:00) - Intro, recap, and an update(00:05:49) - We tend to overlook the healing and focus on what’s still going wrong(00:09:56) - The challenges helping and managing an adopted son, and the fear of being unable to help(00:18:21) - Similarities between what’s being experienced now and what was experienced as a child(00:20:29) - What it’s like trying to connect with a son and not feeling like it’s happening(00:28:24) - “What feels familiar between the relationship you have with your son and the relationship that you as a boy had with

Talking points: culture, relationships, systemic issues 66% of young men are single, fewer and fewer men are graduating college, boys are disproportionately punished in school, there are fewer male teachers and therapists than ever, and millions of men aren't even listed as unemployed because they're simply not seeking work. Something's going on. (00:00:00) - Intro and some stats(00:04:17) - I’m not going to sit here and blame men OR women(00:06:30) - Social reasons men check out(00:09:45) - The definition of a good man is almost entirely up to women (00:12:06) - Structurally, men aren’t being incentivized to go into higher education(00:14:59) - I think that support networks for men and boys are collapsing or are not male friendly(00:16:57) - Men generally aren't finding resonance in the therapeutic industry, nor can they find male therapists(00:19:41) - There’s been a significant decline in the number and diversity of male relationships(00:22:30) - Where do we go from here? This episode is brought to you

Talking points: breathwork, neurophysiology, fear I know many, many people whose lives have been profoundly changed by getting into Wim's style of breathwork, myself included. This was one of my absolute favorite interviews, and Wim's fierceness and passion for helping people is absolutely mind-blowing. If you're looking to understand a little more about what breathwork can do, this is THE episode for you. (00:00:00) - Intro and what happens when men gather(00:03:56) - One of Wim’s defining moments: trapped under the ice(00:06:14) - Wim’s journey with fear (00:11:13) - How do we begin using our breath to confront fear, and some of the science behind breath work. (00:20:38) - On how breath helps regulate the nervous system(00:28:07) - Why breath work and cold therapy? (00:31:57) - Are there any similarities between deep breath work and psychedelics? (00:36:48) - Does breathwork behave similarly to DMT?(00:42:23) - Why do some people get tingly or see shapes during breath work?(00:49:00) - Are inflammation a

Talking points: potential, growth, mindset We all have images of who and what we're capable of. Flashes of motivation and inspiration based on what we know deep, deep down to be true of us. Getting from images to reality, from dreams to concrete fact, is the battle. The best one you'll ever fight. The following are simple (but not easy) steps based on years of work with men, endless hours of study, and mentorship with some amazing people. (00:00:00) - Intro and where the challenge lies(00:03:37) - Develop skills that matter to you, will improve your life, and improve others’ lives(00:05:32) - Know (and take) the risk(00:08:04) - Connect to your direct, felt experience(00:12:40) - Express and transmit what you’re experiencing(00:14:17) - Realize what it is you want, but pay attention to what life is saying you need(00:15:27 ) - Pursue your fears and discomfort(00:16:48 ) - Pay attention to your own darkness AND learn what it’s trying to teach you  This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured o

Talking points: psychedelics, therapy, culture, interdependence, history, materialism It's been several years since I last talked with Paul, and he's been busy. We branch out into a number of ideas, all centered around what psychedelics have done, are doing, and COULD do for humanity. If you're looking for thoughts from an expert on where the therapeutic industry might be headed—and what's needed from all of us—this is the conversation for you. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and Paul’s defining moment(00:06:02) - Why do you think psychedelics were so villainized back in the day?(00:11:29) - Would you say that part of the psychedelic experience is interaction with the unconscious?(00:15:16) - Did psychedelics influence Jung’s “Red Book”, and how can psychedelic use actually improve mental health?(00:24:11) - Psychedelic use should also assist collective mental health, not just individualistic goals(00:29:42) - What is the recipe for a bad trip, and the importance of preparation and post-trip integration(00:3

Talking points: domestication, culture, biology To be clear straight out the gates, I don't think there's some vast conspiracy to weaken all men. But there are certain aspects of our culture, our food, and more that have a synergistic effect. One that's messing with men on multiple levels. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and the ways men are becoming domesticated(00:03:18) - Masculinity and what it means to be a good man is now almost entirely defined by women(00:05:40) - A narrative that men are essentially defective women, or unwanted, or automatically at fault(00:10:42) - The simplification is also biological, through microplastics, additives, and more(00:13:59) - Stress and distraction levels are through the roof(00:17:03) - So…what do we do?(00:20:04) - Life isn’t supposed to be easy all the time This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience.

Talking points: trauma, culture, collective healing Wow! Very grateful to have had the opportunity to sit with Thomas recently to discuss not just his book, but his vision and mission for people everywhere. This was a deeply moving conversation; Thomas' perspective on how trauma forms and how it needs to be healed will be resonating with me for a long, long time. Check this out. (00:00:00) - Intro and Thomas’ two defining moments(00:06:41) - How trauma reorients your perspective towards safety (00:10:37) - What is “attunement”?(00:23:10) - Tension is reduction of emotion (00:30:55) - Where does polarization fit into all of this?(00:40:23) - How do we start dealing with this?(00:45:53) - What's covered in Thomas' new book Thomas Hübl, PhD, is a renowned teacher, author, and international facilitator who works within the complexity of systems and cultural change, integrating the core insights of the great wisdom traditions and mysticism with the discoveries of science. Since the early 2000s, he has led large

Talking points: anxiety, insecurity, mindset Ever do research on a topic and realize most of the stuff on the internet is...pretty worthless? Yeah me too. This week, a look at what really causes insecurity, and some things you can do that will actually help. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:03:05) - Defining insecurity(00:04:53) - What makes this reframe interesting, and 3 ways insecurities are formed(00:09:09) - So what do we do? Because there’s no quick fix(00:11:18) - You cannot affirm your way out of insecurity(00:13:22) - Pursue your fears(00:15:38) - Focus on the intersection of self-compassion and self-mastery Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/ This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order he

Talking points: couples therapy, emotions, modern culture, empathy Delighted to have the wit and wisdom of Figs O'Sullivan to content with once again. It's been too long! We cover a lot of ground, specifically around couples therapy, so I encourage you to check the timestamps and listen in. (00:00:00) - As people learn more “therapy-speak” and watch more TikTok “experts”, how is that filtering down into relationships? (00:06:50) - Why do some people default to blaming their partner when things don’t go well? (00:12:57) - Why talk about diagnosing partners yourself is so difficult, and how competency can actually, sometimes, make you IN-competent (00:18:24) - What’s your opinion on modern therapy infiltrating culture the way it has? (00:22:49) - Is modern therapy set up well enough to truly help men? (00:30:25) - Why do couples fight over and over—and what do they fight about? (00:30:25) - The emotional pursuer and emotional withdrawer dynamic (00:41:25) - What are some ways out of that dynamic? (00:46:17) - W

Talking points: porn, attachment, relationships Title says it all, friends. I genuinely don’t see very many people talking about porn from this angle. Which is kind of surprising, but here we are. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and some of my own story around porn(00:03:49) - What nobody else seems to be talking about(00:07:57) - And THAT is why porn can be hard to let go of(00:10:32) - Reorienting yourself towards other relationships Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/ This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/me

Talking points: adversity, disability, resiliency vs anti-fragility, growth, mindset Everything about this convo was enjoyable, but I think what I appreciate most is how pragmatic and straight-up grounded Tom's insights are. It makes for highly effective advice you can work on right away. Bonus: he's a great storyteller. This is a great episode to dig into if you're looking for inspiration towards a different approach to things, especially hardship. (00:00:00) - Intro, and the importance of living in a place you don’t always like(00:07:00) - Tom’s defining moment(00:09:43) - What Tom gained from intense physical hardship(00:15:52) - Reorienting yourself instead of the problem, and post-traumatic growth(00:20:05) - Is resiliency born or revealed by hardship, and have people treated you differently?(00:23:25) - How do you approach problem-solving itself, and how Tom became a DJ(00:34:10) - Tom’s definition of anti-fragile and resiliency(00:50:06) - Did therapy help? Quadruple amputee and DJ, Tom Nash exerci