Leadership Podcast with Dylan McCabe | Leader Journey

"A cheerful hart has a continual feast." Here's 90 seconds on Gratitude. May we lead well and enjoy the daily journey!

Everyone wants happiness. But happiness doesn't always come natural. That's why it's important to build good habits that promote good emotional health. One of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to make someone else feel better. You must be a blessing to be blessed. That's where encouragement comes in.  In this episode, we look at the power of encouragement. You'll also learn a practical way to encourage others.   

Feel Good Friday! Yes I got that from NBC. Got something to feel good about? You have to name it! Positive or Negative, which will you choose? We were made for work - to cultivate and be productive. But sometimes work gets us down! Perspective is everything! "It is the working man who is the happy man. It is the idle man who is the miserable man." -Benjamin Franklin http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_work.html I'm very thankful for my job. Here's why: Flexibility with time and schedule Freedom to be entrepreneurial Sales gives me the opportunity to raise my pay quickly Help other business owners Help other entrepreneurs Solve problems Think strategically Bosses with similar values In an industry on the rise Landon, Ryan, Rick, Jeff, thanks! What about you? What's one thing you are thankful for in your work? ===>>Send me a tweet @dylanjmccabe #leaderjourney ***Use the "but-positive" technique if you need to.

"Never use a hammer to swat a fly off someone's head" - John Maxwell   John Maxwell gives tips on how to react in tough situations. This episode is adapted from John Maxwell's book Winning with People. Question: Would others say I overreact to small things in a relationship? Personal story on marriage - Just this morning...how we react to one another is the key! Four T's to remember:   Total Picture (ask questions and listen) DON'T JUMP IN! Timing: When to say or not say something is key Tone: How you say what you say makes all the difference "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"(Proverbs) Temperature: Avoid raising the temperature in a conflict - the 30 second rule   Here's a few tips on how to use a velvet glove rather than a hammer:   Let the past stay in the past. No History majors please. Ask yourself: Is my reaction part of the problem? Remember that actions are remembered long after the words are forgotten (graduation commencement speech, wedding vow

Mr. Narcissistic responds to "How to be a great listener." An amusing take on this critical leadership skill. 

Abraham Lincoln, George Washington, William Wilberforce, Mother Teresa - all exceptional leaders we admire and respect. We stand on their shoulders for insight. We read about their feats of courage and care. We gain inspiration from their examples. Can we make a life changing impact the way they did? Or, did they possess some untouchable set of skills and personality reserved for a chosen few? After reviewing a list of history's great leaders, I've compiled a set of unique attributes shared by all. Here's a list of the top leadership traits that the world's top leaders demonstrated. Reputation: What other people think about you matters - if you want to influence them. Faithfulness ( in marriage): Devotion to leadership in the home for the good of the family. If someone can't uphold a faithful relationships with their spouse, why should anyone else trust them? Loyal: Faithful to one's oath, commitment, or cause. Temperate: Moderate or self-restrained. Not given to extremes in opinion or behavior. Honest:

Three Leadership Lessons from The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand Leadership depends on individual thought. Creative thought. Directive thought. Leadership depends on people who think differently, cut through the confusion, and take a course of action that's different than the crowd. Ayn Rand, in The Fountainhead, creates a stirring story of two young architects who set out to build their lives. Peter Keating and Howard Roark represent opposing views of society. Peter Keating lives for the approval of the people. He aims for fame and recognition. He maneuvers his way through the social elite to gain status and acclaim. Keating is a "second-hander." A man who lives off of what others think of him. Howard Roark builds buildings for the sake of building great structures. He's a creator, an individual. Howard Roark could not care less about what others think. He lives for the sole principle of building something great. Not great as defined by popular thought. Greatness according to his own style and building p

When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation. We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.--That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, --That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely

In this episode I interview the "Narcissistic Leader." He responds to one of the most popular episodes "How to Apologize when  you Hurt Someone."  To listen to the original Episode click here.   Listen in for his response. Comments welcome.  

Check out my full article on a Conservative Response to the Gun Control Debate. In summary I believe we should: 1) Refine our gun regulations. Why? So that only responsible Americans can buy and carry fire arms. I share my story in the podcast. 2) Carry a fire arm. It's our right and responsibility as Americans. I believe in the 2nd Amendment.  3) Get trained on how to deal with a shooter. I show a video in the full blog post.  Bottom line, it's out responsibility as leaders in our families and our society to plan out a response. If we fail to plan, we plan to fail. And in the case of an active shooter, we plan to die. 

Leadership Skills For Success *From the Book The Leadership Moment by Michael Useem 1) Decision Making Skills "A leader's credibility can be defined as the authority to make binding decisions based on a record of having made them well before." - Michael Useem Dodge made the decisions on where to land, how to approach the fire, and to drop supplies. His decisions led the men to approach, change course, then flee. By the time he made a decision that could have saved their lives, it was too late. Take away: If you have a track record of making poor decisions, be prepared to have your leadership questioned. Make informed choices (Do your research) Leverage others 2) Communication Skills "Probably most damaging to Dodge's credibility was a management style that fostered little two-way communication. Wagner Dodge was a boss of few words, a person who neither expected much information from his people nor gave much in return." - Michael Useem Take Away: "If you want trust and compliance when the need for them c

John Maxwell: The Lens Principle "Who We Are Determines How We See Others" John Maxwell gives great insights on winning with people. This principle comes from his book, Winning With People. Who you are determines what you see Who you are determines how you see others Who you are determines how you view life (Story of children who put Limburger cheese under Grandpa's nose) Who you are determines what you do Five things that determine who we are: Genetics Self-image Experiences in life Attitude and Choices About those Experiences Friends "We have only limited control over what we experience. However, we have complete control over our attitudes. Whether our outlook is up or down, expectant or reluctant, open or closed is completely our choice. I may not be able to change the world I see around me, but I can change what I see within me." - John Maxwell   "The difference between who you are today and who you will be in five years will be the people you spend time with and the books you read." - Charl

Leadership Skills: Three Unique Ways to Apologize when You Hurt Someone How to Apologize: Deny it "I Don't agree that I did anything wrong." "I didn't do that..." "That's not what happened." (Lying) How to Apologize: Defend it "I did X because you did Y." "You..... (The blame game)." "Is it my fault if I did X?" (Am I my brother's keeper?) - Cain "Nobody's perfect." Key Point - You don't have to defend loving behavior How to Apologize: Own It! Admit - "I'm sorry" With humility A stiff apology is a second insult... The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt. - G. K. Chesterton Ask for Forgiveness Appeal to Love Appeal to Mercy Finishing Thought : Marriage Example Call to Action: Go apologize if you need to. It may save a relationship. Like what you heard? Subscribe and rate on iTunes by clicking here!

Inspirational Leadership Quotes from Braveheart Child Wallace says, "I can fight." His dad turns and says, "I know you can fight. But it's our wits that makes us men." William Wallace to Scottish army: "Sons of Scotland….I am William Wallace. And I see a whole army of my countrymen here in defiance of tyranny. You've come to fight as free men. And free men you are. What will you do without freedom? Will you fight?...we will run and we will live. Ai. Fight and you may die. Run and you will live at least for a while...the chance to tell our enemies they may take our lives, but they will never take our freedom!" Wallace to Robert the Bruce "Our people know you. And if you would just lead them to freedom they would follow you. And so would I" Wallace to the Princess of Wales"I don't know why I tell you now except that I see her strength in you…"   Wallace to Robert the Bruce. "Now is our chance. If we join we can win. If we win, well then we'll have what none of us has ever had before...a country of our

All Successful leaders have mentors   Alexander the great was mentored by Aristotle Plato was mentored by Socrates Thomas Jefferson was mentored by George Wythe Warren Buffet was mentored by Benjamin Graham AND Luke Skywalker was mentored by Master Yoda   Problem - You don't know everything about entrepreneurship, real estate, getting promoted, public speaking, raising a family, etc…We all have blind spots!   Solution - There's people with wisdom and experience who can help you. And they actually enjoy it!   Relationship Biblical method (older teaching the younger) Trades method (iron smith) Books versus learning from a master Today - scuba diving, Jui Jitsu, Flying a plane, piano, etc Retention (True learning) Expertise (Buying a rental property) Experience (Scuba Diving) Example (spending time together) Reproduction Paying it forward Servant Leadership at it's core   Article in Forbes on leadership and mentorship : http://www.forbes.com/sites/sujanpatel/2014/11/12/

Leadership Podcast Show Notes: Be Concise If I ask for the time, don't tell me how to build a watch If you do I'll avoid you and ask someone else If you do I'll get lost in the details If you do you might waste both of our time... Be Clear Toss someone a soft ball, not a thousand grains of sand Use concrete language Use analogies, stories, or comparisons Be Compelling Character We don't trust novices - Don't claim to be an authority when you're not We don't trust hypocrites - make sure your manner helps your message It's not what you say, it's how you say it... Competency - know what you're talking about Call to Action Ask me what you think I should do Tell me what you suggest

Leadership Podcast Show Notes: Opening Story...   Visit the optometrist - "you don't have confidence in someone who doesn't diagnose before he or she prescribes"   Points:   We have a tendency to rush in with our advice "Seek first to understand, then to be understood" Communication is a skill for life People get training on how to speak, but not how to listen! Influence depends on me trusting you. I don't trust you if I don't think you understand or don't care. Both of which depend on listening EMPATHIC LISTENING We typically seek first to be understood "I know how you feel!" Then we read our biography We project our own experiences When we listen we usually ignore, pretend, or listen selectively Empathic listening means understanding feelings, heart, the person Empathic listening is powerful because it gives you data to work with   For Practice as a Leader:   Practice empathic listening make some one on one time with your spouse, a close friend, or you

Leadership Podcast Show Notes: Nave SEAL's learn "mental toughness" during BUDS training. Positive self talk Goal setting Visualization Deep Breathing What's the secret to a SEAL's success? Mental conditioning. Self-leadership.

Show Notes Are you taking time to Be Still? Do you make it a practice to Reflect? We live in a culture that's too busy We live in a culture that's focused on entertainment rather than great thought As Leaders, it's our responsibility to take time to be still, reflect, and build a truly good life