The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In the final episode of the podcast, Natalie is joined by her husband Em where they chat, answer listener questions, and say goodbye to this show which has been such a huge part of her life.  The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want is out now. Purchase it from your favourite bookseller. 'Reclaimed' membership | Work with me | Baggage Reclaim | Shop | Sign up for my newsletter Leave a voice note | Support the podcast and leave a tip    Shownotes  

Natalie shares some of the realisations she's made after making a big decision. The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want    'Reclaimed' membership | Work with me | Baggage Reclaim | Shop | Sign up for my newsletter Leave a voice note | Support the podcast and leave a tip   

In the final episode of 2022, Natalie shares a deleted chapter from her forthcoming book, The Joy of Saying No. She breaks down how, to escape the chains of the roles we play and trying to keep up with our and other people's often unrealistic expectations and projections, we might act out behind the scenes, go rogue on the version of ourselves that people have come to expect from us, lash out, or experience the toll of the chronic stress of our people-pleasing habit. Pre-order The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want in audiobook, hardback, and ebook formats. https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/joy-of-saying-no-book/ Not sure what "pre-order" means and why it matters? Check out my handy video.

Natalie explains why our biggest imperative post-breakup isn't to be bosom buddies with our ex and how we don't need to force ourselves to be friends if we're not ready yet or we don't *want* to.

Natalie shares an exclusive excerpt from her forthcoming book The Joy of Saying No.  Pre-order your copy in audiobook, hardback and ebook formats. 

Natalie breaks down why saying we're harsh/hasty/hypervigilant/picky leads to us ignoring, dismissing and overriding ourselves.

Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between anger and disappointment to take better care of ourselves and start moving forward. Pre-Order The Joy of Saying No.  Bookshop.org | Amazon  

Some of what we force ourselves to do, silence and tolerate are forms of insane politeness and toxic professionalism. Natalie breaks down what these are, why we do it, and why we've got to stop harming ourselves in the name of these social masks.

In the first episode following Natalie's summer break, she talks about knowing when it's time to fold on a relationship that isn't truly right for us. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In this replay episode, Natalie explains why those habits that leave you doubting and disliking yourself and breaching your boundaries are a sign that you're over-responsible.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In this replay episode, Natalie breaks down why repeat frustrations and challenges occur and shares three key questions we can ask ourselves to break the cycle.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In this replay episode, Natalie delves into what it means to outgrow a friendship, why it happens, and also why we need to be careful of assumptions and judgements that might cause us to end a friendship unnecessarily.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In this replay episode, Natalie examines our relationship with rest because so many of us have internal debates about taking time off, whether for a break, pleasure, or to allow ourselves to recover from illness and burnout.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie shares her thoughts on love, loving yourself, and why we don't need to have good thoughts and feelings *all the time* or be 'healed' to experience more loving relationships. This episode was recorded at The International Women's Podcast Festival in partnership with Pinterest on June 18th, 2022. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

A big part of being more boundaried is knowing the difference between doing things from a place of desire versus doing them from a place of obligation. Natalie shares the insights she learned from a recent decision where she's deviated from her own and other people's expectations. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie shares what she's learned from a recent 27-day rollercoaster ride of anxiety and worry about a family member's health. 

Natalie talks about the importance of representing yourself--showing up, speaking up and stepping up for who you are. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie explains why our need to be perceived as 'good' and even beyond reproach creates problems for some of the people around us.   Book your tickets for the live show of the podcast on Saturday, 18th June.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

After receiving a lot of requests for her to talk about the topic, Natalie delves into why affairs happen and the importance of challenging some of the misconceptions about affairs that tend to assume that a person only cheats because their partner and relationship aren't 'good enough'.

Natalie talks about how dropping hints about our discontent with someone by making a statement with our behaviour tends to lead to that person not picking up on our message and creates more problems than it solves.