The Angry Therapist Podcast

Today, John and Vanessa unpack the lesser-known 'fawn' trauma response and how it often shapes adult relationships through people-pleasing and self-abandonment. They emphasizes the transformative power of setting boundaries, reclaiming one’s voice, and embodiment (the practice of reconnecting with the body to better understand our needs, emotions, and desires). Find out more about Vanessa ⁠HERE⁠ Follow Vanessa on Instagram ⁠HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John unpacks the concept of unpossessive love — a love rooted in freedom, presence, and gratitude rather than control. He invites listeners to reconsider what it means to truly love someone, and how letting go can sometimes be the most loving act of all. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John opens up about authenticity, vulnerability, and why men need real conversations. From childhood wounds to mental health, he dives into the power of sharing your story—and breaking the silence. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores how being fully present can reshape the way we experience life. He reflects on the power of awareness, self-acceptance, the role our thoughts play in shaping reality, and how to deepen connections. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John and Vanessa explore how intimacy, connection, and personal growth evolve in modern relationships. They discuss celibacy as a tool for self-discovery, shifting love languages, the balance between creativity and emotional needs, codependency, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Find out more about Vanessa HERE Follow Vanessa on Instagram HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John unpacks the emotional weight of breakups — the doubt, the grief, and the loss of an imagined future. He explores the importance of self-reflection, emotional awareness, grieving with intention, and distinguishing between true longing and mere loneliness. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John talks about being in the midst of a 30-day celibacy journey, exploring what it means to redirect sexual energy and embrace intentional living. He reflects on balancing masculine and feminine energies, deepening self-awareness, and the spiritual growth emerging from this bold experiment in self-discovery. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John gets real about body image, masculinity, and self-love. From battling body dysmorphia to breaking cultural norms, he shares raw insights, hard truths, and how vulnerability led to healing. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John debunks the myth of emotional suppression—aka the "soda can effect"—revealing that holding in emotions leads to burnout, not strength. Through personal insights and practical tips, he promotes healthy emotional expression as key to self-care, strong relationships, and a balanced life. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares how an MDMA experience transformed his outlook on life, love, and personal growth. He reflects on living more presently, setting boundaries, finding deeper connection through everyday joys, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John explores why people are drawn to unhealthy relationships and how to break the cycle. He emphasizes the role of upbringing, the importance of self-awareness, the need for a corrective love experience to build healthier connections, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John unpacks the pivotal moments that reshaped his life — from a house fire and turning 52, to a powerful medicine journey. He shares how these events sparked a deeper commitment to honesty and emphasizes the value of auditing your commitments, embracing discomfort, and choosing change as a gateway to a more meaningful life. I'm running a private, intimate weekend retreat May 23 weekend in Idywilld California. A small group medicine journey. No big productions, no ego. Just realignment. Self-love. Shedding what no longer fits. You don’t need to hit rock bottom to evolve. Seats are very limited. Find out more HERE or email John at theangrytherapist@gmail.com Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John opens up about his healing journey through an MDMA-assisted medicine ceremony. He shares raw reflections on shedding past identities, facing repressed emotions, and the intentional path to self-discovery. He also explores the role of solitude, presence, and emotional honesty—not just in healing, but in creating more authentic relationships. This is a vulnerable, eye-opening episode about what it means to truly come home to yourself. This is an invitation to a private, intimate weekend retreat. A small group medicine journey. No big productions, no ego. Just realignment. Self-love. Shedding what no longer fits. You don’t need to hit rock bottom to evolve.  May 23 weekend in Idywilld California.  Seats are very limited. Find out more HERE or email John at theangrytherapist@gmail.com Find out more about Sarah Williams and her work HERE Follow Sarah on Instagram HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Fin

Today, John shares how to love without control—whether in relationships or parenting. From seeing love like a sunset to letting kids grow into who they are, this episode is a heartfelt reminder to let things be beautiful, not perfect. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John shares a powerful story about a tense Uber ride that became a lesson in compassion. He explores how we can break free from old patterns of reactivity, respond with intention, and lead with love—even when it's hard.  Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John flips the breakup script, showing how to see endings as beginnings. He shares how reframing relationships as “expired” (not failed) can spark healing, growth, and real self-discovery. Feeling stuck, heartbroken, or just over the same old patterns? Join 7 Days to Reclaim Your Singlehood— a 7-day, $7 challenge to help you stop spiraling, reconnect with yourself, and build real momentum toward the life (and love) you actually want. Through daily prompts, mantras, and mindset shifts, you'll move from feeling stuck or heartbroken to grounded and empowered. Each day unlocks a new emotional breakthrough: Day 1 – The Mirror: Get honest with yourself and assess where your self-connection stands. Day 2 – I Am Not Lonely, I Am Becoming: Reframe loneliness and see it as part of your transformation. Day 3 – Redefining Self-Care: Strip away the Instagram fluff and find what true, nourishing self-care looks like. Day 4 – Detach to Connect: Identify and interrupt distorted thought patterns holding you

Today, John explores the concept of suffering and emphasizes that it’s often tied to resistance, attachment, and a lack of self-awareness. He also discusses how to shift from suffering to a more fulfilling life, highlighting the importance of self-discovery, pursuing dreams, and engaging with the world around us. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, John gets real about loss, growth, and the ticking clock on his 52nd birthday. With raw honesty, he reflects on what life has taught him—and why waiting for “the right time” is a trap. This episode is your invitation to live boldly, chase what matters, and stop hitting pause on the life you want. Feeling stuck, heartbroken, or just over the same old patterns? Join 7 Days to Reclaim Your Singlehood— a 7-day, $7 challenge to help you stop spiraling, reconnect with yourself, and build real momentum toward the life (and love) you actually want. Through daily prompts, mantras, and mindset shifts, you'll move from feeling stuck or heartbroken to grounded and empowered. Each day unlocks a new emotional breakthrough: Day 1 – The Mirror: Get honest with yourself and assess where your self-connection stands. Day 2 – I Am Not Lonely, I Am Becoming: Reframe loneliness and see it as part of your transformation. Day 3 – Redefining Self-Care: Strip away the Instagram fluff and find what true, nourishing self-c

Today, John breaks down the difference between loneliness and solitude, revealing how true connection starts with yourself. He unpacks the pressure society puts on us to "be okay" and shares practical tips to navigate loneliness, build meaningful community, and grow from the inside out. Feeling stuck, heartbroken, or just over the same old patterns? Join 7 Days to Reclaim Your Singlehood— a 7-day, $7 challenge to help you stop spiraling, reconnect with yourself, and build real momentum toward the life (and love) you actually want. Through daily prompts, mantras, and mindset shifts, you'll move from feeling stuck or heartbroken to grounded and empowered. Each day unlocks a new emotional breakthrough: Day 1 – The Mirror: Get honest with yourself and assess where your self-connection stands. Day 2 – I Am Not Lonely, I Am Becoming: Reframe loneliness and see it as part of your transformation. Day 3 – Redefining Self-Care: Strip away the Instagram fluff and find what true, nourishing self-care looks like.

Today, John gets real about his journey of healing and growth. He talks about his childhood, what it was like navigating his cultural identity, and how past trauma shaped his idea of home. He shares the lessons he's learned along the way and why creating spaces for healing really matters. Feeling stuck, heartbroken, or just over the same old patterns? Join 7 Days to Reclaim Your Singlehood— a 7-day, $7 challenge to help you stop spiraling, reconnect with yourself, and build real momentum toward the life (and love) you actually want. Through daily prompts, mantras, and mindset shifts, you'll move from feeling stuck or heartbroken to grounded and empowered. Each day unlocks a new emotional breakthrough: Day 1 – The Mirror: Get honest with yourself and assess where your self-connection stands. Day 2 – I Am Not Lonely, I Am Becoming: Reframe loneliness and see it as part of your transformation. Day 3 – Redefining Self-Care: Strip away the Instagram fluff and find what true, nourishing self-care looks li