The Angry Therapist Podcast

In this episode, John talks with Colette, a professional dominatrix, and discusses her work and the world of BDSM. She shares her definition of being a dominatrix and explains that her clients come to her to explore surrender and alternative sexuality. Colette also shares her immigrant story and how her upbringing influenced her career choice. She also discusses her journey into the dominatrix world, the evolution of her work, the difference between her professional and personal life and how she craves a different dynamic in her personal relationships. Colette Pervtte is an Educatrix. Colette has been a professional Dominatrix for 19 years. She also holds a PhD in Education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on misconceptions and conceptual change. Through her teaching and writing, she dispels misconceptions about kink, sexwork and alternative sexuality.   Colette is the Creatrix of MistressClass, a Dominatrix training course where she guides women to find and cultivate their personal power by teac

In this episode, John introduces his series where he reads excerpts from his book 'Single On Purpose' and provides commentary. He explains that the goal of doing this series is a commitment to engage with his audience and not 'sneak out the back' like he tends to do. John shares his personal experiences with loneliness, rejection, and losing oneself in relationships. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about how codependency impacts our relationships with others along with the relationship we have with our selves. They talk about what codependency and enmeshment looks like in our relationships, how attachment styles come into play, and how they have healed from their codependency issues with each other and others. Want to dive more into these topics as a couple? John and Vanessa are hosting an in person couples retreat in Idyllwild, CA April 19-21st! You can find more information and sign up here: https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/c/inmiy-retreat-mainfeed/ Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Jo

In this episode, John talks about how love evolves and changes as we grow older. In our 20s and 30s, love is about late-night conversations, romantic gestures, and finding self-value in another person. In our 40s and 50s, love becomes more about creating a shared space, being non-possessive, and prioritizing each other's well-being. He also talks about how the millennial generation is redefining love and relationships, prioritizing honesty, growth, and individuality. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/t

On this real couples session, Brianna and Tanner come back to discuss the changes in their drinking habits and the positive impact it has had on their relationship. They express their desire to work on individual goals, such as better communication and overcoming fear. They explore the importance of taking a beat before responding and understanding each other's triggers. They also discuss the weight of not wanting to screw up the relationship and the fear of losing each other. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrythera

In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss various aspects of relationships and provide insights and strategies for building healthier connections. They draw from their personal experiences as licensed marriage and family therapists and individuals who have been in multiple relationships. They also cover topics such as codependency, loving without past baggage, attachment styles and love languages, fighting without fighting, and creating new experiences in relationships. Want to dive more into these topics as a couple? John and Vanessa are hosting an in person couples retreat in Idyllwild, CA April 19-21st! You can find more information and sign up here: https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/c/inmiy-retreat-mainfeed/ Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his

In this episode, John talks about how how our hearts are always competing with our brains (logic). He also dives into how important living a heart centered life is, what that looks like in your every day, how to start living a heart centered life, and why you should stop holding in your pee (stop settling for discomfort). This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/angry and start building a better relationship with yourself. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.c

In this real couples session, Brianna and Tanner discuss their communication challenges and the activations of their childhood wounds in their relationship. They explore how Brianna struggles with feeling heard and Tanner struggles with effectively communicating his feelings. John highlights the importance of taking ownership, creating a safe space, and self-soothing in order to overcome these challenges and build a stronger relationship. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/angry and start building a better relationship with yourself. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his priva

In this episode, John shares his priority list for 2024. He discusses the importance of living on a higher frequency and practicing positive thinking. He emphasizes the power of belief and the impact it can have on achieving personal goals, the significance of taking a beat before responding, continuously proving oneself wrong, the importance of getting stronger, seeking more adventures, and loving one's partner in new ways.  This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/angry and start building a better relationship with yourself. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communit

In this real couples session, John speaks with Bri about her on-and-off relationship with Doug. They discuss their trauma bond, the challenges they faced, and the possibility of giving their relationship another chance. Bri expresses her desire to heal past hurts, build trust, and set boundaries. John emphasizes the importance of open communication, understanding triggers, and creating new experiences to lay the foundation for a healthy relationship.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text Lear

In this episode, John talks about negative thinking and gives examples of the different types of cognitive distortions everyone has, or have experienced. He also talks about his own experience with them, and gives tips on how to catch yourself spiraling down certain cognitive distortions and what to do to stop the spiral.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John brings on his old friend, Sam Louie, to discuss the topic of shame. They share their personal experiences growing up with shame, including racial discrimination and cultural differences. They also discuss the impact of early exposure to pornography, the coping mechanisms they developed, the role of shame in their adult lives, particularly in the context of divorce, and discuss strategies for working through shame and the importance of sharing one's story.   Sam Louie has a private practice specializing in multicultural issues, trauma, and sex addiction.  Prior to receiving his Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology, Sam worked more than twelve years as a television journalist where he researched, produced, and reported on a number of stories related to psychotherapy, relationships, and recovery. He garnered two Los Angeles Emmy Awards. Sam is the author is Author of: Passport to Shame: From Asian Immigrant to American Addict and Spoken not Broken: Healing through Poetry. You can find ou

In this episode, John interviews Alexis, the host of the podcast 'Do You F*ckin' Mind?' They discuss Alexis' journey of personal growth and overcoming heartbreak. Alexis shares her struggle to switch off and find peace in her daily life. She also emphasizes the importance of managing social media use, being intentional about where we place our attention, and highlights the value of purpose, encouraging listeners to find small ways to make a positive impact on others. You can find more information about Alexis on her website: https://www.dyfmpod.com or follow her podcast on Instagram @dyfmpodcast Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join h

In this couples session, John talks with Laura and Martin have been together for 22 years and have faced multiple betrayals and traumas in their relationship. Laura has been unfaithful on multiple occasions, while Martin had his own secret infidelity. The couple has spent years in secrecy and deception, leading to a lack of trust and respect. They are now working on rebuilding their relationship and changing their behavior. Laura emphasizes the need for Martin to prioritize showing respect and kindness, while Martin acknowledges his past mistakes and commits to improving his actions. Both partners are focused on personal growth and self-care as they strive to create a healthier and more fulfilling relationship. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his jour

In this episode, John answers and gives advice on two listeners' questions: how do I stop being sexually mad at my partner, and should I tell her before we go on vacation? And how do I let go of a break up that I can't get over? Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks about how you can bring more to the table in your relationships by knowing what your love patterns are. He also talks about how loving with our past creates unhealthy behaviors and can subtly destroy our relationships, how to resolve conflict, and whether you're holding or grabbing in your relationship.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this powerful conversation, John does a live couples session with Jenny and Sean and discuss the challenges they face as parents and partners. They explore topics such as struggling with identity and grief, balancing work and parenting, communicating and resolving conflict, past trauma and insecurities, the impact of previous relationships, the desire for appreciation and validation, recognizing each other's needs, improving communication and understanding, feeling invisible and overlooked, seeking acknowledgment and respect, creating space and showing appreciation, and prioritizing each other. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join

In this episode, John talks to Tanya Antonio, and they discuss the process of letting go of a passion and finding new paths in life. They also give advice on how to cope with a breakup, building chemistry in relationships, the importance of embracing new experiences, and being open to unexpected opportunities.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John and Dr. MC McDonald talk about how to heal from your trauma by trying to find all of the tiny little joys in your life. They give examples of what that looks like, and talk about how looking for the positive in our every day lives can help rewire our brain and heal from our traumatic experiences.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John does a half century life check in inside of a sauna. He talks about the evolution of social media, how far he's come since writing his first Angry Therapist blog post titled "My F*cking Feelings," how therapeutic writing on Tumblr was for him, what he's currently struggling with, and how he continues to share his truth and state without any edits.  Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.    Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com  Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home  Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices