Brojo Online Podcast

We've all felt loneliness at some point in our lives. Some people even experience it on a frequent, long-term basis. What we all have in common is the unhelpful belief that loneliness somehow relates to how many other people love us. But what if there's another reason...

Have you been consistently mistreated or had negative experiences with women? Are you starting to feel resentful and bitter about your love and dating life so far? Are you finding it hard to respect women or see them as equals? I know how you feel, and I understand. In this special episode, we explore where this comes from, how it holds you back, and what you can do about it (without any feminism required!)

You hold back and avoid taking risks because you're scared of losing something, aren't you? Approval and friendship. Money and property. Status and reputation. Muscles and fitness. These are all things that you might sacrifice your integrity just to hold onto a little longer. If that might be you.. listen to this.

I used to suffer from depression... or at least I thought I did. Many of my coaching clients also have this complaint. Even people who have gone through years of therapy, meditation and even medication still can't seem to win their fight with depression. Through combining the principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Stoic acceptance of pain and taking responsibility for emotions, I've developed a new way of looking at depression. This will go AGAINST most of what you've heard. If you're still struggling with depression, then you've probably never tried this before.

I'm scared to post this one! I wish feminism did what it's supposed to do - empower women. But unfortunately it now does the very opposite of that, whilst increasing the disconnection between men and women. In this kamikaze podcast, I talk about my perspective on the current feminist movement and why we need to let it die.

He doesn't really mean that, does he? Yes, he does. Ever wonder why improving yourself always just ends up with finding more weaknesses to work on? Is there no end? Hear about my discovery into a healthy alternative to self-improvement that won't leave you wishing that one day you'll finally be good enough!

Dozens of the people pleasers and Nice Guys I've coached over the last 5 years believe it's good to be an "easy going" person. So many people are raised to believe it's bad to rock the boat or otherwise make other people feel emotionally uncomfortable. In this episode I challenge the concept that being easy going is either good or helpful, and open up the idea that it could in fact be the biggest problem both in your personal life and in the world generally!

Dan and Mike - the founders of Brojo - discuss the painful lessons they learned from 2017, the year of hard knocks, and how they discovered the secrets to self-acceptance.

This survey was conducted over the months of November-December in 2017, as part of market research for my new coaching program The Honesty Effect: 3X Your Social Confidence to Free Yourself from People Pleasing in Just 12 Weeks. Over 100 people responded to the survey, and I’ve analysed the results with my feedback here. If you identify as a People Pleaser, or care about someone who does, you’ll want to check this out!

Someone asked me what I do in conversations that allows me to connect with people deeply. It took me a while to figure it out, but I've broken down the common mistakes I see people make, and what they can do instead, so you can practically apply these learnings to increase your connections with friends, family, co-workers and lovers.

You're a good person, right? You're trustworthy and generally an honest person too, correct? In that case, you should be experiencing a fulfilling and open love-life, social life, and career. So what does it mean if you're a good honest person but you're NOT being rewarded for it? Well, maybe there's something you're not seeing...

Do you believe you're less powerful and free than other people on this Earth? Why? Maybe you think it's because they have more money, strength, political influence and popularity, health or skills than you. The dark truth is that you're as powerful as any of them, you just don't realise it. If you don't feel 100% free in your life, you need to listen to this.

People pleasing is common and massively detrimental to both self-confidence and connection. It creates loneliness, frustration and missed opportunities. But there's more than one way to be a people pleaser, and until you know which type you are, you won't know what to do about it. In this podcast, we explore the 4 types of people pleasing and what to do about each of them.

Whatever you chase will run away from you. That's why most people dating these days are struggling to find a long-term loving relationship. They scare others away with their neediness and desperation. Why? Because they're chasing the wrong target. Imagine if instead of needy chasing, you focused on connecting in the moment, with no expectations. It is possible... and a much more successful approach!

You see others doing it, but for you it's impossible. Maybe it's starting a business, or asking out your crush, or losing 50 pounds. We each have that thing that defeats us, no matter how hard we try. Well, there's a good chance your real issue is your own self-sabotage. In this episode, we explore why you get in your own way, and how to both recognise and remedy this very human tendency.

We all have it. Every time you anticipate failure or embarrassment, this voice in your head starts doubting you, insulting you, and punishing you. Why do we beat ourselves like this? What's the point? Well, that's the question. In this episode, we'll explore the dark truth behind the Not Good Enough script you're so attached to, and discover what's hiding behind it.

Do you ever beat yourself up for having an emotional reaction that you think is "inappropriate" or irrational? Maybe it's stagefright, unexplained depression, random anxiety, or pointless anger. You look at a situation and know how you SHOULD feel, then all of sudden you're having a completely crazy emotional reaction that just doesn't make sense. Today, we'll make sense of this craziness and look at how dogs can teach us to manage our emotions better.

An heartwarming exploration into how to find a reason to get out of bed each day when you know that ultimately humankind is doomed and everyone will die and everything you do is pointless. A dive into the Philosophy of Pessimism and how living with integrity is the secret to giving meaning to a life without needing a higher purpose or God.

We spend a large portion of our energy trying to keep others from feeling painful emotion, by trying to make them happy, or by calming them down. But why do we do this? What's wrong with being sad, angry and afraid sometimes? Let's explore the burden of trying to make others happy, and what you should do instead.

So many of us have been trained to believe that confidence means winning, looking good, controlling people and outcomes, seeking popular approval and love, and being emotionally unaffected. I believe these are all harmfully inaccurate definitions of confidence that lead to breaches of integrity and deep insecurities. I'd like to present a new definition, based on having integrity and living by your values.