Sex Chat For Christian Wives

Have you heard it said that sex is a need? We have too. Quite a few people talk about how a spouse can and should meet their mate’s sexual needs. Today we’re addressing that underlying assumption: Is sex a need? Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Strong Wives - Bonny Burns' Coaching Site. Also sponsored by Married Dance, a Christian, marriage-focused sex toy store. From the Bible And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:19 Resources Q&A with J: Sexual Wants Vs. Needs - Hot, Holy & Humorous THE INTIMACY PYRAMID - Home What Is Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: "He Wants It Every Night...Several Times" - Hot, Holy & Humorous Leviticus 15:19, 28 - 14-Day Break around Menstruation Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode In this episode, we're responding to questions from listeners about touching yourself during sex, whether it's okay to have sex just for fun sometimes, and why a young husband might struggle to maintain an erection. Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Strong Wives - Bonny Burns' Coaching Site. From the Bible A cheerful heart is good medicine... ~ Proverbs 17:22a Heal me, Lord, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise. ~ Jeremiah 17:14 Resources Solo Masturbation? - The Forgiven Wife Masturbation: Hands On or Hands Off? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Sex Should Be Hot, Holy, and Humorous - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Sex a Spiritual Experience in Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dealing with Erection Problems - The Forgiven Wife Searchable Database for Certified Sexual Addiction Therapists (CSAT) Covenant Eyes Blog - information on pornography addictions and sexually problematic behavior Hope For Wives: Overcoming the Im

When we started podcasting in February 2017, we didn't know whether we'd get through one year, much less five years. But here we are, celebrating this amazing milestone with a bit of reminiscing, some bloopers, and our wishes and hopes for our fabulous listeners!  Sponsor Visit Married Dance Shop From the Bible She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. - Proverbs 31:25 Resources Hope for Wives Podcast Strong Wives - Bonny's Coaching Practice Healthy Life Toolbox - Gaye's New Site Honeycomb & Spice - Chris's Site Higher Desire Wives - J's Community Webinar Shop Page Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode This is a time of year when a lot of people are talking about taking better care of themselves—things like eating healthier, starting to exercise, getting more sleep, setting goals, or setting boundaries in their lives. But self-care, even though it sounds like a good thing, can be a touchy subject in some Christian circles. Let’s talk about self-care and what role—if any—it should play in the lives of Christian women. What is self-care? What does that term mean to you? Should Christians practice self-care? Did Jesus practice self-care, and what does the Bible say about it? What kinds of self-care should we engage in? What kinds of activities are likely to promote real joy, peace, and health in our lives? What kinds of activities are unlikely or less likely to promote those things? What is something you’re doing to practice self-care this year, and what would you say to our listeners to encourage them to take care of their bodies, minds, spirits, and relationships this year? Sponso

We’re back! It was an eventful December and early January for us and will share what we have been doing. Today, we’re talking about a new sexual you. What does that mean? What does it look like? And how can you achieve it? What does it mean to have a new sexual you? Are we saying just more sex or something else? What would it look like to make goals for improving sexuality? What kinds of goals can wives set for themselves and their marriage? Once you’ve set some goals, how can you track your progress? What even counts as progress? Let’s wrap up with each of us giving our listeners a word of encouragement. What would you like to say to wives wanting this to be the year they embrace healthy and holy sexuality? Sponsor New Year Sale: Save 13% storewide using coupon 2022! Click HERE to visit Married Dance. From the Bible "Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grow

About this episode We can’t leave off the year without providing another wonderful gift guide! We’ll link to others in the show notes, but today we’re focusing on gifts that speak not only to marital intimacy but specifically our five senses. This idea made us think of the song "Twelve Days of Christmas"! Instead of five golden rings, we’re addressing our five golden senses. Sponsor GET THE CARDS!   Also sponsored by Share the Soap. And by Strong Wives. From the Bible What does the Bible say about gift-giving? Later on, during the wheat harvest, Samson took a young goat as a gift and visited his wife. – Judges 15:1 (Do not—I repeat, do NOT let your husband give you a goat for Christmas! Good heavens. ~ J) "They were to be days of feasting, rejoicing, and of sending gifts to one another and to the poor." – Esther 9:22b. (This verse refers to Purim, but shows the same generous spirit we want to have at Christmastime.) Resources Some of the links below are affiliates, m

What are the best things about sex? We compiled a list of ten and hope it will inspire you to pursue better and deeper intimacy in your marriage. Sponsor Black Friday sale: 13% off store-wide! Visit Married Dance HERE. Also check out Make My Own Soap! Use coupon code 10off for $10 off the one-pound loaf starter kit. Use coupon code 20off for $20 off the LOAF starter kit. From the Bible What does the Bible say about the best things about sex? I belong to my beloved,   and his desire is for me. – Song of Songs 7:10 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. – Ephesians 5:31-32 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. – Genesis 2:24-25 Resources 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex (webmd.com) Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christi

We want you to understand that sex is for you too! This is an idea we discuss frequently in our episodes, but today it is our focus. Why do we even need to have this conversation? Why do so many women struggle with the idea that sex is for them? Is it okay for sex sometimes to be primarily for one spouse? If so, when and how would that work? What can you actually do to make sex for you as well? Sponsor Use coupon code 10off for $10 off the one-pound loaf starter kit. Use coupon code 20off for $20 off the LOAF starter kit. Click here to visit the sponsor. From the Bible What does the Bible say about sex being for you too? Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you—     if you find my beloved, what will you tell him?     Tell him I am faint with love. – Song of Songs 5:18 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,     let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards     to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened,     and if the pomegranates are in bloom—     there I

About this episode 1 Thessalonians 5 tells us to rejoice always, pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances. Today we're going to talk about what this means in relation to sex. How can we pray about sex or during sex? Some wives may think it seems a little weird to be thinking about prayer and sex. Why is that? What does the Bible say about prayer and sex? How can we help ourselves get more comfortable talking to God when it comes to sex? What are some ways we can pray ABOUT sex? What can we pray about DURING sex? Sponsor Enter discount code FCWSPECIAL for 10% off! Visit Share the Soap From the Bible He I came to my garden, my sister, my bride,     I gathered my myrrh with my spice,     I ate my honeycomb with my honey,     I drank my wine with my milk. Others Eat, friends, drink,     and be drunk with love! ~ Song of Songs 5:1 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And

We are down one host with Chris out today, but Gaye, Bonny, and I are here to answer your questions. If you have a question that you’d like us to address, head to our website, click the Ask a Question tab, and shoot us an email. While we cannot respond to all of your questions, we try to cover a lot of ground and answer what we can. Be sure to go back through our older episodes as well to see if we might have covered a topic you’re wondering about. "[My husband] continues to look at other women and images that are so easily available outside our home. My question is; Am I wrong to be upset by this habit? Are my expectations too high? How do I learn to trust when I feel so betrayed when I see him look? Do I need counseling to truly move past this?" "My husband and I have a great sex life… The problem is that I want sex with him AND I fantasize about other men too.” AND “I have struggled in that last few years with other men popping into my mind during sex… I sometimes just don’t know how to handle a quiet min

Today we’re going to give you a little update on what’s happening with us, talk about what might be happening with you, and then discuss what that might mean for your sex life and your marriage. Sponsor Try discount code 4CW at checkout. From the Bible What does the Bible say about when life is overwhelming? When I said, “My foot is slipping,”   your unfailing love, Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me,   your consolation brought me joy. – Psalm 94:18-19 But now, this is what the Lord says—   he who created you, Jacob,   he who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;   I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters,   I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers,   they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire,   you will not be burned;   the flames will not set you ablaze. – Isaiah 43:1-2 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." – Matthew 11:28 Cast all your anxiety on him because

About this episode We are going to discuss practical ways to help you discover fun and playfulness between you and your husband. We talk a lot about being lighthearted during sexual intimacy, and today we want to spark your creativity. What are some obstacles you can think of that would hinder playfulness in a married couple’s sexual relationship? What would you say to a friend who sees playfulness as a challenge to incorporate into her sexual relationship with her husband? What are some practical ideas to find light-heartedness or create playfulness during intimate moments? What does the Bible say about fun? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about positions? So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. – Ecclesiastes 8:15 (NIV) A merry heart does good, like

About this episode Today’s episode has a tantalizing title, but what we’re really talking about are positions that work especially well for a wife, ones that don’t work, and positions might give you a better opportunity to orgasm. Let’s revisit some basic concepts first and discuss why sexual positioning matters. What are some of the more comfortable or pleasurable sex positions for the wife? Now how about what Bonny has called #positionfail? That is, positions you or others have tried that Did Not Work Out? What are some sex positions that could provide a good way for a wife to reach climax? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say about positions? His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. – Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 Resources Episode 2: Sex Positions Episode 57: Listener Questions (includes thoughts on positions) Episode 87: Trying New Sex Positions Wedge Pillow – Married Dance (affiliate link) Why You Should Try This Sex Po

Today, we discuss a question that a reader submitted recently: How far is too far? How much do I compromise? I know I'm not perfect. I know I could have showed up more in the bedroom and have said as much. But I do try. It's hard as a woman, wife and now mother of 2. He says I don't listen and no one ever listens. So, he demands I do things I do not like. At times, it's not so bad. I can't handle it when he is angry. He gets rough. And then when I ultimately refuse he is so fed up and angry he leaves me feeling like I just will never be able to make him happy. I am feeling hopeless. And I struggle with knowing if I really need to be doing more or if I'm over compromising. I love my husband. We have been together almost 9 years, and I consider him my best friend. However, at times I wonder if we can ever get past this to live a happy marriage. Sponsor Click HERE to Learn More And check out Bonny's STRONG WIVES website! From the Bible What does God have to say about this topic? The husband should fulfill his m

About this episode Today we’re talking about feeling comfortable in your body. This is a struggle for so many women, and it affects every area of our lives—inside and outside the bedroom. So, ladies, when we say “getting comfortable with your body,” what does that mean? And why is it so hard to do? What are some of ways that body discomfort shows up in women’s lives? And, of course, feeling uncomfortable with your body tends to show up with a vengeance in the bedroom. Why is that the case, and what impact does body discomfort have on women’s sex lives? What are some things women can do to begin that process and start moving forward? Sponsor Click Here to Shop at Infinite Moon From the Bible What does God have to say about getting comfortable with your body? So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. - Genesis 1:27 For you created my inmost being;   you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I

What do we do in our beds besides sex? Sleep, of course! Today we’re going to talk about the relationship between sex and sleep. A recent study of over 3,400 women noted that those “who did not routinely get restful slumber were nearly twice as likely to report sexual problems, such as lack of desire or arousal.” While researchers don’t know which came first—poor sleep or sex problems—their study provides food for thought. How might poor sleep impact our bodies and thus our sexual functioning? How can regular sexual intimacy promote better sleep? Some people fall asleep right after sex, and some don’t. Which type are you and why do you think that is? It’s not always easy to secure enough sleep! Given the importance of quality sleep for our sexual intimacy and overall health, what tips do we have to help wives get a better’s night sleep? Sponsor Click here to find your next pillow or sheets! From the Bible What does God have to say about sleep? There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for

Today we are exploring the term “sexual self.” Your sexual self is an unfolding aspect of who you are, woven into the fabric of your being. What is identity and how would it relate to a sense of a wife’s sexual self? Or in other words, how does your sexual self fit into the whole of who you are as a woman? What affects how comfortable you are with accessing this part of yourself? How do we integrate biblical principles into our sexual selves? What can a wife do to discover or rediscover her sexual self? Sponsor Click here for quality sheets at a great discount! Click here to visit Faithful Counseling and connect with a fellow believer online within their network of licensed, professional therapists. From the Bible What does God have to say about your sexual self? For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. - Psalm 139:13-14 So God created mankind in his own image, in

About this episode Today we’re going to talk about what prioritizing sex means, what it doesn’t mean, what gets in the way of it, and what it might look like in the lives and marriages of busy women. What does it mean to prioritize sex? And is that the phrase you think we should use, or should it be something broader – like prioritize sex and intimacy? And why is it important? Or is it important? On the flip side, what doesn’t it mean to prioritize sex? It’s fairly typical for sex to become less of a priority as a couple moves beyond the early years of marriage. When that happens, what’s typically going on? What are some of the things that get in the way of making sex a priority? What might “making sex a priority” look like in the marriages of busy wives and moms? And what are some of the things they can do to make that a reality in their lives and marriages? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More!   Click here to visit Faithful Counseling and learn about getting matched to an licensed online coun

For many years, there were very few resources for Christians who wanted to learn how to have a healthy sex life. Now Christians can find more and more books, courses, and videos to help them. It's great to have choices, but sometimes it's hard to know whether or not a particular resource is good. Today we're joined by Phylicia Masonheimer. She encourages women to discern God's truth and live out their faith boldly in every area of their lives—including the bedroom. We talk about why it's difficult to discern which resources are biblical and helpful, what to consider when evaluating a resource, and whether to use a secular resource and then share a few recommendations. Sponsor Click here to learn more about Revival AI's investment opportunity. From the Bible Ephesians 5 NIV What does God have to say about evaluating resources? The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; all who follow his precepts have good understanding. To him belongs eternal praise. – Psalm 111:10 In fact, though by this time you oug

About this episode The marriage relationship overall can impact a wife’s sexual interest. Having a good marriage with intimacy in many areas can make it easier to want and enjoy sex. In this episode, we’re going to talk about things you can do in the area of nonsexual intimacy that can have a positive impact on your sex life. Sponsor Click here to learn more about Revival AI’s investment opportunity From the Bible What does God have to say about improving your marital relationship? Two are better than one,     because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,     one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls     and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.     But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered,     two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Resources Praying Together for Your Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous Could You Use Some Marriage Humor? |