Sexual Addiction:strength/hope/recovery

For the last ten years, Brianne, had a secret she  kept from all but a handful of people — I'm a recovering sex and love addict. When she learned to to share her secret, she has been able to change my life and, in the process, help other people to find peace in theirs. 
In March, Brianne Davis,wrote her  first article for the HuffPost; I'm A Sex And Love Addict. Here's How I Realized I Had A Problem. That came on the heels of writing her  first book on the same subject called Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict. She reports,  "That's when the idea for the Secret Life Podcast was born. By sharing my stories, my secrets, I see that I can help others to not feel so alone. It has been such a freeing experience to connect with others while trying not to take myself so damn serious!" Tonight, She will talk with Carol the Coach about her lmy journey as a sex and love addict and how I’ve used her experience to find a creative way to help other people with her writing and most importantly her podcast.

Men are not the only ones who struggle with addiction and other sexually destructive behaviors. Women struggle, too. And in recent years a growing number of women are struggling with online and sex addiction. Often it is harder for women who want help with these struggles to find it. Most resources seem to be geared towards men, so even seeking help adds a distinct type of “shame” for women who want help. Tonight, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jonathan Daughtery of Be Broken Ministries who, along with Kimberly Johnson have developed an online course for women who struggle with online addiction. He wants to offer several insights to women in the audience who are struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. He wants to offer hope that your story matters and we are all more alike in our brokenness than different. He wants to offer truth that you are “fearfully and wonderfully made” and eternally loved by your Creator. And he wants to talk about the concept of surrendering to your higher power or God to prov

Tonight Carol the Coach will be interviewing Rich Badami who will be talking about how mindfulness, meditation and breathwork can calm anxiety and stress. She has an event called "Freedom From Trauma - Powerful and Profound Practices to Heal Trauma and Consciously Create the Body, Mind, Spirit You Truly Desire. Listen in as we discuss the power of thought and how it can transform trauma.

There are many helpful treatments that can alter the urges and cravings of a sex addict. Concurrently, hypnosis has been used as an adjunct therapy for the limiting belliefs that both addicts and their partners have as a result of the sexual addiction, Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews Elena Mosaner MS who is a certified hypnotherapist, ICF certified coach, author, and member of the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH). She  has been working with clients to rid them of their limiting beliefs which contribute to their addictive tendencies. She would also like to discus how the Coronavirus pandemic, is creating unique anxieries and she is offering the public free downloads on her Stress Reduction Audio set which includes three recordings. The set is available on www.elenamosaner.com. Listen to determine if hypnosis might be right for you!  

Sexual betrayal trauma is devastating and takes a long time to recover from.  Couples can survive infidelity, sex addiction and betrayal trauma.  As you know Carol the Coach believes that here are certain things that the person who did the betraying must do to help his or her partner heal and there are tell-tale signs of recovery that the partner can look to help build trust and help him or  her to heal. Tonight, Carol will be interviewing  Heidi Kinsella who will be discussing what it takes to achieve long term sobriety and what recovery signs partners need to look for to see that their sex addicted partner is truly recovering from this addiction.  She will also discuss what partners need to do for their own recovery to enhance healing. 

It is mindboggling to know how to talk to kids.The parent child relationship is an intimate one, and as a clinician that works with families impacted by sex addiction, Dr. Piper Grant will discuss the importance, and how to talk to your children about sexual addiction. She will discuss what factors will need to be considered in order to assess appropriateness of a disclosure, how to have the conversation based on the age of children, how parents can prepare for it, and address common concerns.

The body and the brain want to heal.Many times talk therapy is not enough to heal the trauma that may have resulted in sexual addiction or trauma betrayal. Tonight, we will look at a documentary following two people using two different somatic therapies, EMDR, and transromational bodywork to overcome their past traumas.The Light, a documentary produced and directed by Bradley Mason features fellow colleague Wendy Conquest who explains how to create new neuropathways by using trauma treatments that heal the brain.

Carol the Coach interviews Carl Thomas who believes we need to reframe our conversations around the issues of addiction and focus more on the importance of healing the individual rather than the “evils” of and the sex industry. Over 8+ years of experience in this field and he has never seen a man find true & lasting freedom simply by controlling his environment. He believes that all the filters, all the parental restrictions, all the legislation, all the censorship… none of that is going lead a man to freedom. Because at the end of the day, is not the problem. We are. Carl recognizes that is not a good thing and creates many problems for men, he doesn’t see as an “enemy” we must fight; but rather a distraction or an urlnhealthy option that we need to learn how to manage and avoid if we want to live with maximum effectiveness, purpose, and joy.  use is simply a choice. We just need to choose better. He believs that  this is a large reason why we have focused on community and connection as an avenue

There is a new therapy model that is taking the country by storm. In her new book, Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy, Jenna Riermersma helps clients to make sense of their pasts. Jenna explains that "IFS is a way of understanding ourselves that takes into account that we all have different parts." IFS helps us relate to our parts more effectively which teaches us to cope differently. It gives people practical tools to improve mood, decrease maladaptive coping, increases resilience and uncovers a deeper spiritual journey.

  Hilarie Barry will be talking about her mission to, along with her husband Joe, talk about the courageous decision to share their story of infidelity. She will be talking about the pain of discovery, the emotional rollercoaster of partner betrayal and PTSD. She will also be sharing with Carol the Coach the realization and understanding that her husband wanted to get well, and he needed her help! Together they have helped men and women struggling with sex addiction betrayal and they have shared these life lessons to give marriages hope.  

This is a repeat of a show I did in 2018 talking  about what exploitive sexual addiction.d

Sexual addiction afffects marriages and can result in therapeutic separations and divorce. In reality about half of US marriages fail and most of them involve children. One-fourth of those children of divorce are traumatized by the continual acrimony between their parents. Tonight, Carol the coach will be interviewing Dr. Larry Walman Ph.D. who is a clinical, forensic psychologist, consultan and author of 7 bookds including "Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your EX." He will be talking about how you can survive the trauma of an angry spouse.

Johua Nichols believes that in the early stages or recovery, unfaithful partners experience hostility or aggression from their injured partners primarily because (1) they don’t trust new experiences or behaviors from their partners; and (2) they are tired of hurting.  But, “reflection aggression” isn’t really seen until after the crises have settled down and the addicts are gaining momentum in recovery.  The primary purpose for this type of hostility is because the injured partners don’t want their wounds to be revealed. Partners are afraid that they will be hurt again so theycan resist trust resulting in the partners needing the addcit to remember that he is the sick one so they agress against them to avoid vulnerability. Listen as Carol the Coach finds out more about this phenomena that interferes in true recovery,

Is there a difference between men and women who suffer from sex addiction? Tonight, Carol Sheets is interviewing Amy Smith, the founder of Worth Recovery. She started podcasting about her experiences in sex addiction recovery in January 2016 and has hosted full day workshops for women in recovery in Salt Lake City, Seattle, Atlanta, and Buffalo. She offer supports groups and additional educational offerings for women as well.She knew there was a lack of resources for women, but what she thought was a small hole, turned out to be a gigantic chasm.  Below are some of the resources I offer for women:   Worth Recovery Podcast - Available anywhere you listen to podcasts Women's Stories Series - The episodes where I'm curating women's stories in sex addiction and recovery. The Worth Circle - a paid online, moderated Facebook group where women can get support and maintain their focus on recovery.  

goCarol the Coach will be interviewing Beronica Valli who is the Creator of the Soberful Program. She believesing to be talking about the Soberful program and The Five Pillars of Sustainable Sobriety. The five pillars hold up our sobriety- they are personal development for sober people.  the five pillars are: Movement, Connection, Balance, Process and Growth. We practice these in our lives as our addiction (no matter what that addiction is) is an external manifestation of an internal problem.

Carol the Coaach will be interviewing Tim Stein who serves the sex addiction population in a myriad of ways. Tim and his business partner created an on line course for Sex Addiction and Partner Betrayal to help this population understand the trauma that typically accompanies this condition. He wanted this community to have a "go to" that would normalize the  process of addiction and help the community to understand the compulsion as well as the Partner Betrayal Trauma that accompanies i. Tim also worte "Gifts of Recovery: Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery from Sex Addiction."

  Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Carol Clark who is a Clinical Sexologist and runs a training program for professionals who work in the field of addiction. She wrote a book on skills and tools that people find really helpful in their daily lives called My Pocket Therapist:12 Tools for Living in Connection.  She believes that what gives people hope and strength is to learn to live more fully in connection with themselves, with others, and with their spiritual connections. Therapists help remove the barriers to connection that we all develop to some extent from the moment we enter the world and also provide tools for maintaining a more connected life and this book keeps it simple in teaching you how to stay connected.  

Carol the Coach is interviewing Jennifer Irwin who wrote the novel, A Dress the Color of the Sky. This book reads more like a memoir and shares one woman's battle with sex addiction to cope with childhood trauma. It is a riveting story and it helps the general publiic understand the dynamics behind why a woman would use sex to medicate. Her premise is that for too many years, Prudence Aldrich had been numbing the pain in her life with random sexual encounters. Her marriage to cold, self-centered Nick is, not surprisingly, on the rocks. But after several dangerous experiences with strangers, Prudence finally realizes she needs therapy to stop her self-destructive behavior, and so she checks into the Serenity Hills rehab center. Prudence blames herself for her irresponsible behavior and is filled with self-loathing. She’s convinced she is completely at fault for Nick’s manipulative attitude and believes with therapy, she can return their relationship to its idyllic beginnings. However, her therapist and the oth

Tonight Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Stefanie Carnes about her new book entitled, "Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal". Couragious Love is a book for couples who would like to work together to save their relationship, following an experience of betrayal. In the book, Dr. Carnes discusses betrayal trauma, and educates couples about normal responses to betrayal and how couples can work together to help repair the relationship. She shares the best strategies for cultivating honesty and talks about what couples can do to rebuild their relationship and redindle their intimacy.

Covid-19 has created some challenging circumstances for people who need counselling and yet it has also afforded us increased ingenuity. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Samantha Ammann who is going to explain how you can do EMDR virtually. She has a wealth of knowledge and wants to share it with our listening audience so you can continue your trauma work during Covid-19.