Speaking Of Sex With The Pleasure Mechanics

You spend a third of your life in bed. Two of the most important activities for your wellbeing – sleep and sex – happen there. So when is the last time you thought about your bedroom and if it is meeting your needs? In this episode, we explore ideas to make your bedroom into a […]

If you find yourself too stressed out for sex, or know that sex gets in the way of your sex life, this episode is for you. Part of our podcast mini series inspired by the book Burnout, this episode explores the crucial step of completing the stress cycle so it doesn’t interfere with your life […]

Do you ever feel like the daily grind is grinding you down? Burnout – the feeling of never enoughness, of being locked in a non-feeling state of perpetual motion, of feeling like there is no candle left to burn from either end – is the lived experience of so many of us. Burnout is real […]

Are you ready? Wet and ready? In this podcast episode we debunk the myths about vaginal wetness, arousal and female engorgement. Get ready to pull apart wetness, arousal, sexual excitation and other important facets of female sexuality (and other vulva owners and those who love them!) Want to get started implementing our proven strategies for […]

We all know communication is essential for healthy relationships and great sex – but how do we begin to level up our erotic communication skills? How do we break through the fear and shame to start talking openly about what we want in bed? Sex coach and author Stella Harris joins us to explore the […]

Your erotic desires may be far more vast than can ever be met in your lifetime. What do we do with desires unfulfilled – so that we can be free to pursue more erotic fulfillment? In this paradox there is a rich terrain of both personal and relational exploration – so you can figure out […]

You have a unique constellation of pleasures, desires and interests that make you who you are. How well do you know your own pleasure constellations? What are the brightest stars that are easy to go after and express, and what pleasures might be dimmed by shame or fear? This episode was inspired by the responses […]

What is attachment theory? How do different attachment styles show up in our most intimate relationships and in our sex lives? Therapist and social justice consultant Aida Manduley joins us to discuss attachment theory and how we can learn about ourselves and our relationships with this powerful tool. Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Wired for […]

If you love when we dive into big ideas about pleasure, sexuality and love, join us for a magical 10 day experience: the Explore More Summit. Enrollment is FREE and we will be right there with you, basking in the brilliance of the 26 other amazing speakers and sharing thoughts on the private Facebook group. […]

The sounds of sex range from the sweetest of moans to the cacophony of bestial bodies banging the bed into the wall. Making noise during sex is one of the primary ways we communicate with our partner, and one of the most essential embodied skills for more sexual pleasure. Making noise is as important to […]

What if we could all be a little kinder to our bodies? Rebecca Scritchfield believes in the power of self kindness and self compassion to change our lived experience in and with our bodies. Check out Rebecca Scritchfield’s book Body Kindness: Transform Your Health from the Inside Out–And Never Say Diet Again and online resources! […]

After our recent conversations on the emotions of erectile dysfunction, we wanted to continue into what is often uncharted territory: the erotic pleasures of the soft penis. The penis is not only sexy or worthy of pleasure when it is fully erect, and pleasure can be found in all states of erection. Going beyond the […]

Erectile dysfunction is more than a physical experience – it is an emotional and psychological experience with far reaching impact. On past episodes, we covered Performance Anxiety and performance pressure. Performance based erectile dysfunction is a very common sexual experience – but often leads to emotional responses that can slip into downward spirals, sometimes even […]

Movement can be a great source of pleasure, joy – and even wisdom. But most of us think about movement only in terms of exercise – at best a chore to complete, at worst a punishment for not being in the “right” kind of body. Jane Clapp is a powerful teacher who guides us in […]

Love is a verb – an action we must practice in an ongoing way. But “love” is also kind of vague, and the daily act of loving another human being is really a symphony of verbs that is constantly changing. So how do we get more specific about HOW we love and what actions are […]

As we all head towards the end of 2018, we sign off for a holiday break, announce our end of the year sale and reflect on our recent time at the Zen monastery.  Get started with our FREE online course: PleasureMechanics.com/Free All of our online courses are 33% with the code JOY until the end […]

Cannabis, in and out of the bedroom: here’s what you need to know! Now that cannabis is legal in many states for both medicinal and recreational use, and legal in Canada as well as other countries around the world, it’s time to refresh your knowledge about cannabis and all the ways you can use it […]

The Resilient Edge of Resistance is a concept that guides how we approach massage, erotic touch and even relationships! The Resilient Edge of Resistance is all about finding that magical place of “just right” – in touch, in sex, in love. It means using not too much force and not too little, offering full support […]

Arousal is not something that happens TO you – it is something that YOU generate. Your arousal is your own – so OWN IT! In this episode we explore the nature of sexual arousal, and why we all need to stop waiting around hoping to get turned on! Arousal is an internal process that we […]

What would it mean to bring more reverence, awe and wonder to the bedroom? What does it mean to worship the genitals rather than degrade them? What are the implications of bringing more reverence to sexuality? We explore all this and more in this heartful episode. First, we explore the standard definitions of cock worship, […]