Unscrewed

Men write Jaclyn letters -- and they're good! Plus advice for a listener who hates being called a "late bloomer," and repro rights rockstar Renee Bracey Sherman helps us look past November 8 to the abortion & birth control fights we need to be ready for next year and beyond. All in one jam-packed quickiesode.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Just because you've heard enough from the orange fascist doesn't mean you're ready to vote. There's a lot at stake up and down the ballot for sexual and reproductive freedom, so Jaclyn caught up with repro rights rockstar Renee Bracey Sherman to shed some light on some key fights involving sex ed, abortion access, condoms, porn, the minimum wage and more.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Advice about making meaning out of a dumpster fire full of flaming poop, and advice about learning to love using a vibrator during partnered sex! Featuring the return of the Reality Bytes dynamic duo, Stephanie Beatriz and Courtney Kocak.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Don't freak out, but Stephanie Beatriz (Brooklyn Nine Nine's Rosa Diaz) and her bestie Courtney Kocak (writer on Amazon's Danger & Eggs) are Jaclyn's guests on a show about everything: when size actually does matter, why they love and loathe the same things about dating in the age of Tinder, the importance of the female gaze to a rape scene, plus some gratuitous plugs for their favorite places to eat in LA. It's all to celebrate the launch of their sexy and smart new podcast, Reality Bytes.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What do people mean when they say "bisexual"? What are the class implications of shaming trainwrecks? What does Trump not realize he told you about himself? It's all in this Spare Parts quickiesode, along with some advice for a listener whose partner is being way too careful with her in bed.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Don't look away: it's the Trainwreck episode. You know the type: Britney Spears shaving her head. Whitney Houston saying, “crack is whack” Amy Winehouse dying in front of millions. Jaclyn catches up with Sady Doyle, whose new book is all about women who behave "badly" and why we so love to hate them.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Like, what do words mean anyhow when it comes to sex and gender? Transgender artist and educator and all around delightful person Rebecca Kling joins Jaclyn to answer a listener’s thorny question about how any of us know what it feels like to be a woman, what sexuality & gender ideas we wish there was better language for and which words we love the most, That’s What She Said jokes, pudding, and more.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

No, that's not an oxymoron. Jaclyn's joined by legendary sex educator and feminist pornographer Tristan Taormino to talk about what's in their own personal spank bank, why the policing of women's fantasies won't die, the fine line between breaking the taboo on rape fantasies and promoting rape, and what happens when you ask a panel of porn producers, performers and scholars what they watch to get off. Oh, and we get a little meta.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

United Nations trainer and MTV host Francisco Ramirez travels the globe making the world safer for sexual pleasure, then (once he explains the numerous dildos in his bag to customs) dispenses free sex advice in NYC’s parks and streets. In this rewind episode, Jaclyn talks with him about making the impossible possible, misinterpreting the hanky code, how he became the hero he needed, and the deep magic of being vulnerable with strangers.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

From cartoons depicting Sanders spanking Clinton to the slut-shaming of Melania Trump, this election cycle is Exhibit A in the ways women in the political eye are sexualized in the service of electoral leverage. Jaclyn is joined by writer and media critic Soraya Chemaly, and they get into everything, from the revealing political preferences of PornHub users, to the real-world electoral impact of Who's Nailin' Paylin, to the shock of Michelle Obama's sleevelessness.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How young is too young to masturbate? Scarleteen's Heather Corinna helps a listener and in the process pulls back the curtain on what really happens at naptime. Plus, inspired by feedback on last week's All The Parts Are Good Parts episode, Jaclyn shares resources for adults who want to teach the young people in their lives well about sex. And: we're going on a summer vacation!  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Won't someone think of the children? Heather Corinna will. The founder and proprietor of Scarleteen.com joins Jaclyn to talk about the good kind of entitlement, how we should be thinking about sex ed for 6 year olds (and every age), the time when sex saved their life, and what's new in the new edition of their book, S.E.X.: the all-you-need-to-know sexuality guide to get you through your teens and twenties.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this quickiesode, Jaclyn explains why banning rape porn is wrong, weighs in on whether or not you should pee before sex, shares some thoughts about Jewish hair, beauty, politics and romance, and then slips you a hilarious outtake from the Sex Object episode. All in under 15 minutes!  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How do we get through tragedy and horror? Jaclyn takes Mr. Rogers' advice and looks for the helpers in Orlando and the Stanford rape case, in order to find some hope. Then she's joined by Tristan Taormino to help out a listener whose friends are definitely not helping when it comes to her polyamorous relationship.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What does it mean to live every day as a woman in a world that hates and objectifies women? That's the question at the heart of Jessica Valenti's brave, raw new memoir, Sex Object, and it's the subject of this intimate conversation between Valenti and our host, Jaclyn Friedman.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should you ever work for your rapist? What if you already are? Dr. Brittney Cooper's on hand to help out a listener with that question. Plus all the bloody details on period sex, and a call for your Unscrewed book recommendations — all in another jam-packed quickiesode.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Can a single woman in the Black Church get some and also get to Heaven? That's the question Dr. Brittney Cooper set out to answer for herself a few years ago. What she found -- and what she wrote about it -- has sparked a national conversation at the intersection of sex, shame and Sunday sermons.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Vibrator reviews, advice on how to reclaim masturbation as "real" sex, and a media criticism mea culpa, all in this Spare Parts quickiesode. Plus: find out what reduced Dr. Joycelyn Elders to tears on her first day of college...  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Why is masturbation still considered taboo or less-than-sex more than 20 years after Dr. Joycelyn Elders was forced to step down as Bill Clinton's Surgeon General after suggesting we should tell young people that solo sex was a great way to be sexual without getting or giving HIV? Jaclyn asks the legendary woman herself that very question, and lots more. Dr. Elders' answers will surprise you, make you laugh, and make you angry, in all the right ways. Plus there's watermelon.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Asexuality, open relationships and mismatched libidos collide in this week's listener advice question. Plus a defense of Sex and the City that didn't make last week's Sex and the Single Ladies episode, and some Purple prose: all in the quickiesode we call Spare Parts!  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.