Craft Of Charisma

Guest Introduction: Thomas M. Sterner is the founder and CEO of The Practicing Mind Institute, and an expert in Present Moment Functioning. He is also a coach and speaker who works with high-performance individuals, helping them to operate effectively within high-stress situations so that they can break through to new levels of mastery. Top media organization such as NPR, Fox News, and Forbes have sought his advice. Tom is the author of two books, including the best-seller “The Practicing Mind,” and his more recent book, “Fully Engaged.” Interview Summary: In this interview, Tom first explains what Present Moment Functioning is, and how being present improves performance levels. We ask him how people can develop this skill and implement it in their lives. Tom explains how to remove ourselves from a stressful situation and become an observer. He describes thought awareness training, and talks about what people might notice when they first start practicing. Tom and Chris also discuss the overstimulation in t

Guest Introduction: Dr. Jennifer Verdolin is an animal behavior researcher specializing in social and mating behavior. She is currently an Assistant Professor at the University of Arizona, as well as an Adjunct Professor at Duke University. Jennifer is the author of two books: “Wild Connection: What Animal Courtship and Mating Tell Us About Human Relationships” and “Raised by Animals: The Surprising New Science of Animal Family Dynamics.” Jennifer was also a long-time featured guest on the popular DL Hughley Show, where she dished out relationship advice. Interview Summary: In this interview, Jennifer opens by talking about first impressions, and how humans and animals assess a potential mate based on appearance. She describes specific physical traits that different animal species look for, and reveals the similarities in humans. She discusses how factors such as symmetry and smells influence attraction. Jennifer also talks about the ways that humans try to manipulate these factors in an attempt to be more

Guest Introduction: Scott Schimmel is the President & Chief Guide at YouSchool, a business dedicated to helping people discover themselves and build a plan for their future. YouSchool has developed developed a reputation for helping people to find, define, and unleash their true selves. Interview Summary: In this interview, Scott begins by revealing the common themes that he's found among today's young adults, and why this inspired him to start YouSchool. We ask Scott how we can recognize if our life is out of alignment. He walks us through the six life questions that all YouSchool students address when they start the program. He describes the process that helps people gain clarity, which includes a lot of introspection and consulting with a trusted figure. Next, Scott goes more in depth on the YouSchool process. He shares an inspiring story of a YouSchool student who completely transformed his life. Scott offers advice for people who have ambitious goals, but they seem out of reach or unattainable at the

Guest Introduction: Dr. Jack Schafer is a psychologist, professor, intelligence consultant, and former FBI Special Agent. He spent 15 years conducting counter-intelligence and counterterrorism investigations, and seven years as a behavioral analyst for the FBI's National Security Behavioral Analysis Program. Jack is currently a professor with the School of Law Enforcement and Criminal Justice at Western Illinois University. He is also a contributor for Psychology Today, and has authored/co-authored several books, including his most recent release, “The Like Switch.” Interview Summary: In this interview, Jack first discusses what he learned about body language and human behavior during his time in the FBI. We ask Jack how people can build a connection. He talks about nonverbals, and walks us through the three basic friend signals: the eyebrow flash, head tilt, and smile. Then he talks about the verbals, including empathic statements and flattery, and provides some examples. Jack also reveals the golden rule

Guest Introduction: Jay Papasan is a bestselling author, executive, and corporate speaker. He serves as the vice president and executive editor at Keller Williams Realty International, the world’s largest real estate company. His most recent book, "The One Thing," co-authored with Gary Keller, has made over 500 appearances on national bestseller lists, including #1 on The Wall Street Journal’s hardcover business list. Interview Summary: In this interview, Jay starts by discussing the main theme of "The One Thing," and the story behind the idea for the book. We ask him how someone who's feeling overwhelmed can start to cut through the clutter. Jay talks about the power of saying no, which comes from clarity of what you're saying yes to, and relates this to Pareto's 80/20 principle. He offers strategies for how people can determine their top priority and achieve more by doing less. Jay then talks about how to achieve better results in less time. He emphasizes the importance of focusing and concentrating you

Guest Introduction: Ted Ryce is a fitness expert, high-performance health coach, and host of The Legendary Life Podcast. He helps his clients develop and stick with high-performance habits that help them manage stress and adversity and lead more successful lives. Ted has worked with Fortune 500 CEOs and celebrities, including Richard Branson, Ricky Martin, and Robert Downey Jr. Interview Summary: In this interview, Ted begins by talking about some of the personal tragedies he's experienced, and how fitness helped with the healing process. He discusses the connection between physical and mental health, and how we can influence the way we feel through our physiology. He explains why aerobic exercise and meditation are great for calming the body's stress response, while anaerobic exercise isn't as effective. We ask Ted how he might work with a client who is under an immense amount of stress and feeling hopeless. Ted emphasizes the importance of changing our perspective and accepting adversity as a part of li

Guest Introduction: Dr. Thalma Lobel is an internationally recognized psychologist, and a professor at the School of Psychological Sciences at Tel Aviv University, where she is the director of the child development center. She has been a visiting professor at Harvard, and a visiting researcher at Tufts, the University of California San Diego, and New York University. She is also the author of the book “Sensation: The New Science of Physical Intelligence.” Interview Summary: In this interview, Thalma discusses how our senses affect the way we think, feel, and act, and references a number of fascinating scientific experiments. She first talks about how temperature and texture affect us. Thalma explains why holding a warm object can increase feelings of likeability and trust. She also explains why holding a rough object versus a soft object can make us perceive the same interaction as more argumentative or more cooperative. Thalma then talks about how the color red impacts us. She describes how seeing red te

Guest Introduction: Dr. Nick Morgan is one of America’s top communication theorists and coaches. He is a former Fellow at the Center for Public Leadership at Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government, and the founder of Public Words Inc, a company dedicated to developing master communicators. Nick is also the author of several books, including “Trust Me,” “Power Cues,” and his latest book, “Can You Hear Me? How to Connect with People in a Virtual World," which will be released on October 30th, 2018. Interview Summary: In this interview, Nick starts by describing what it means to be an intentional communicator. He talks about the two components of communication: content and intent, and explains why our body language always trumps our words. Nick reveals the first question we ask ourselves when we meet someone new. He explains how nervousness affects body language, and talks about mirror neurons and how emotions are contagious. He also discusses the evolutionary origins of emotion sharing. Chris and Nick then

Guest Introduction: Fran Greene is a nationally renowned flirting, dating, and relationship coach. She runs a private practice working with singles who want to maximize their social lives, and with couples who want to improve their relationships. Fran is also an accomplished online dating coach, helping singles find their perfect match via the internet. She is the author of “The Flirting Bible: Your Ultimate Photo Guide to Reading Body Language, Getting Noticed, and Meeting More People Than You Ever Thought Possible.” Interview Summary: In this interview, Fran begins by discussing what flirting entails. She talks about how to reframe fear of rejection, as well as the importance of faking it until you make it. Fran also offers advice on how to ask the right questions to find out if a woman is single or in a relationship. She then walks us through some of her top flirting tips, including starting conversations, listening, making warm eye contact, and complimenting. Next, Fran discusses the art of small talk

Guest Introduction: Darius Foroux is an entrepreneur, writer, and podcaster who focuses on topics such as productivity, habits, decision making, and personal finance. Since starting his blog in 2015, his articles have been read by over 4 million people. He has also written several books, including “Do It Today,” “Think Straight,” and “Win Your Inner Battles,” and he hosts his own podcast, The Darius Foroux Show. Interview Summary: In this interview, Darius starts by talking about how to deal with tough times. He describes how changing his perspective and looking at situations with a helicopter view had a major impact on his life. We ask Darius why thoughts are so important and influential in our lives. He references a personal tragedy that woke him up and pushed him to start living with more purpose and meaning. Next, Darius discusses the importance of self-awareness, and how journaling has helped him become more self-aware. He also talks about how music sparked his interest in reading, and how reading th

Guest Introduction: Dr. David Lewis received his doctorate in psychology from the Department of Experimental Psychology at the University of Sussex. He is the founder and director of research at Mindlab International, which specializes in brain research and neuroscience as applied to consumer behaviour and decision-making. Dr. Lewis has spoken at conferences, workshops and seminars around the world on topics including stress, memory and mind enhancement, decision making, neuromarketing, and techniques of mind control. He is also the author of several books, including “Impulse: Why We Do What We Do Without Knowing Why We Do It.” Interview Summary: In this interview, David begins by talking about his background and how he got interested in psychology. He then delves into the topic of impulse, and contrasts the two extremes of a very logical mind and a very impulsive mind. We ask David to explain the science of what's happening when someone feels an impulse. He describes different parts of the brain and how t

Guest Introduction: David Allen is widely considered to be the world’s leading expert on personal and organizational productivity. He has more than 30 years of pioneering research and experience as a management consultant and executive coach to some of America’s most prestigious organizations, such as New York Life, the World Bank, and the U.S. Navy. David is the author of 3 books, including the international best-seller "Getting Things Done," which TIME magazine called “the defining self-help business book of its time.” He is also the founder of the David Allen Company, an executive coaching firm using his "Getting Things Done" work-life management methodology. Interview Summary: In this interview, David walks us through his five-step GTD methodology: capture, clarify, organize, reflect, engage. We ask him to provide some examples of how he uses GTD in his daily planning. David reveals common mistakes that people make when trying to apply GTD. He talks about the importance of being specific in defining yo

Guest Introduction: Diane Windingland is a professional speaker at Small Talk Big Results, where she gives keynote and motivational speeches for business organizations. She is also a speech and presentation coach at virtualspeechcoach.com. Diane is the author of several books on speaking and communication, including her most recent book, “The Respect Virus: How to Create a Contagious Culture of Respect.” Interview Summary: In this interview, Diane begins by walking us through the essentials of small talk: listen, learn, and like. She describes an effective three-step process for breaking the ice, known as O.R.A: observe, reveal, ask. Diane talks about the importance of asking clarifying questions, and gives some examples. She also explains how to recognize different communication styles, and how to change your conversational approach depending on whether someone is more introverted or extroverted. Next, we ask Diane how people can become more effective and engaging networkers. She talks about knowing what

Guest Introduction: David Wygant is a world renowned life changer, social strategist, and dating and relationship coach. Through his live workshops and online content, he has helped millions of men and women improve their lives over the past 20 years. David has been featured on numerous major media outlets, including AskMen, Cosmopolitan, New York Times, NBC, and MTV. Interview Summary: In this raw and honest interview, David opens with the story of how he got into dating and relationship coaching. He stresses that there are no shortcuts to developing great social skills; you have to commit to taking consistent action everyday. David describes the initial process he would go through with a new client. He talks about sharpening your observation skills, owning your words, and stepping into a woman's reality in order to connect. David then discusses how mindset affects us, and why it's important to lose attachment to outcome and be present in social interactions. He explains why trying to create attraction d

Guest Introduction: Dr. Stan Beecham is a sports psychologist and leadership consultant, and is the founder of The Leadership Resource Center, based in Atlanta, Georgia. His work with collegiate, Olympic, and professional athletes from many sports has afforded him insights into the minds of great competitors. He has taken his wisdom into the business world, creating leadership development programs for corporate clients. He is also the author of the book “Elite Minds: Creating the Competitive Advantage.” Interview Summary: In this interview, Stan begins by discussing how much innate talent and training contribute to a person's accomplishments. He distinguishes the difference between thoughts and beliefs, and talks about how beliefs affect performance. Stan outlines the two core beliefs that we need to be aware of in order to perform at a high level. He also explains why it's so important to believe we are good enough, and how a constant desire to improve actually undermines our abilities. We ask Stan to pr

Guest Introduction: Graham Stoney is a trauma therapist and coach, as well as a comedian and musician, based out of Sydney, Australia. He is the founder of The Confident Man Project, which is dedicated to helping men heal from unresolved childhood trauma and regain their natural self-confidence. He is also a therapist and coach for artists, helping them to overcome performance anxiety. Graham’s main focus is working with men who have experienced emotional abandonment and enmeshment with their mothers. Interview Summary: In this interview, Graham first discusses his background and he got into therapy and coaching. He talks about his difficult childhood, where emotions weren't handled well in his family, and he often was unable to express himself. We ask Graham to describe the process he went through to become more assertive and expressive. He explains how he learned to release feelings of fear and be more honest about his emotions. Graham talks about how music and comedy can help with externalizing pain an

Guest Introduction: James Tripp is a UK-based and internationally recognized and respected transformative coach, people developer, and teacher of Hypnosis and Influential Communication. He is also the developer of the critically acclaimed Hypnosis Without Trance approach to hypnosis. Interview Summary: In this interview, James opens up about his struggles with intense anxiety as a young man, and how he dug himself out of it and turned his life around. He contrasts the victim mindset with the owner mindset, and offers strategies on making the shift from living as a victim to living as an owner. Next, we ask James what people can do to get out of their heads and into the world. He walks us through how to identify and eliminate fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs. He emphasizes the importance of letting go of our past, and realizing that our thoughts are not reality. James then explains how to cultivate higher and more resourceful mental states. He talks about how to overcome anxiety by imagining ourselves

Guest Introduction: Gary Wilson is the founder of the website yourbrainonporn.com, which focuses on informing people about the effects of internet porn on the brain. He is also the author of the book, "Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction." Interview Summary: In this interview, Gary starts by clarifying the difference between masturbation and porn use. He explains why porn has become such a big problem for a lot of young men in today's society. Gary talks about the concept of novelty, how it activates the reward system, and how the internet takes advantage of the reward system. He also discusses the conflict between the two human needs of sexual novelty and pair bonding. Gary then goes into some of the ways porn affects the brain, and describes the similarities between behavioral and drug addictions. He explains how the increase in access to internet porn in recent years has contributed to the rise in porn-related problems. He cites a number of fascinating studies

Guest Introduction: Dr. Joe Luciani has been a practicing clinical psychologist for more than 35 years. He is the internationally best-selling author of the Self-Coaching series of books, and offers free self-coaching advice on his website self-coaching.net. Interview Summary: In this interview, Joe begins by discussing his struggles with anxiety in his adolescent years, and how it influenced him to become a psychologist. We ask him how his coaching approach differs from other self-help methods. He explains how he combines motivational psychology with the more traditional cognitive-behavioral approach. Joe then talks about how negative thought patterns and habits can lead to chronic anxiety and depression. He offers advice on becoming more aware, catching ourselves, and breaking out of destructive patterns. He also discusses why over-control causes stress, and how to let go of trying to control outcomes. Joe emphasizes the importance of self-trust, and explains how to strengthen our self-trust muscle in o

Guest Introduction: Robert Schwenkler is a Warrior of Love, Healer, and Leader in Men’s Work. He is the founder of the Brotherhood Community, an organization dedicated to the development of Integrated Male Leaders – men who embody their power and sensitivity, and who are committed to thriving in all aspect of life. Robert also does individual coaching, where he blends deep coaching, spirituality, and somatic healing to help clients open up emotionally. Interview Summary: In this interview, Robert begins by describing a dark time earlier in his life, when he experienced deep emotional pain and depression. He reveals some of the drivers behind this, and explains why it's important for men to build community. He discusses how men's groups have enabled him to find greater connection and support and helped him recover. Robert's group, The Brotherhood Community, operates under the paradigm of Integrated Male Leadership. He talks about what this means, outlining the qualities of the stereotypical alpha and beta