Deeper Dating

How do I know if I am in the right relationship? Should I be looking for another relationship, or should I be working on this one? Ken Page takes a deep dive into how you can answer these life-defining questions. He explains what it takes to get out of deal-breakers, how to communicate your deepest desires in a non-violent way, and why “good fights” can lead to stronger relationships. Stop trying to figure out if you are with the right partner and start doing the work to discover it yourself.If you love the Show, please Subscribe, Rate, Review and Share on Apple Podcasts, or your favorite Podcast Platform! Click here to learn how.Listen For13:06 – How To Identify Deal Breakers And Get Out ASAP19:06 – What Feels Good And Right In Your Relationship?22:28 – What Feels Wrong And Missing In Your Relationship25:58 – Am I Being My Truest Self With My Partner?31:02 – Why Cohabitation Often Leads To Divorce33:23 – What You Should And Should Not Do37:44 – Helpful Pieces And Information On Finding The Rig

What’s one of the best ways to find love in this challenging time in history? In this important episode, you’ll learn how to find love and make a real difference at the same time.If you love the Show, please Subscribe, Rate, Review and Share on Apple Podcasts, or your favorite Podcast Platform! Click here to learn how. Listen For01:09 How can finding love heal your life in the process?02:53 What is the quickest and wisest way to find love?07:39 Why is it important to remember what matters most to us?11:39 Why do we need to look for people who share your values?14:56 How do you bravely communicate with people and build connections? Important LinksGet a copy of Deeper Dating by Ken PageJoin the Coaching and Mentorship Intensive with Ken PageConnect with us on InstagramLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! http://deeperdatingpodcast.com

In this rich and moving episode, I talk with therapist and upcoming author Colette Jane Fehr, whose book The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love offers a compassionate roadmap for the moments that test — and ultimately strengthen — our relationships. Whether you’re in a relationship or seeking one, this conversation will give you tools to show up more bravely — and more lovingly — in the places that matter most.If you love the Show, please Subscribe, Rate, Review and Share on Apple Podcasts, or your favorite Podcast Platform! Click here to learn how. Listen For03:19 Why is it important to have the hard conversations?06:27 Why do we need to understand our fears and what’s happening inside of us?12:10 How do you have assertive communications without being “aggressive”?20:09 What is self-connected communication and why is it important?34:21 What are the benefits of building your confidence and finding and using your voice? Imp

There is a psychological key that shapes your future in love, and it’s called your self-state.In this episode of the Deeper Dating Podcast, I’ll help you discover the self-states you’re living from — and how to shift into one that leads you to deep love, self-honoring, and grounded hope. Listen For::00 What is a self-state and how does it shape our relationships?4:08 What is the “gift zone” and why is it key to deeper intimacy?7:40 What happens when we’re dating from a diminished self-state?12:32 How does our self-state affect our sex life and boundaries?23:11 How can we use visualization to shift out of self-doubt? SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click CONNECT WITH KEN:Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | XStop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

In this episode, you'll learn each of the four steps of Deeper Dating®. Together, these steps have the power to transform your entire journey to deeper love.Listen For:3:50 How do you discover your core gifts?14:50 Why do we keep choosing the wrong people in love?17:22 How can you date bravely without losing yourself?20:35 What should you do when someone good actually likes you?SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click CONNECT WITH KEN:Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | X

If you know that devoting 10 minutes a day could change your future in love, would you do that? In this episode, I'll teach you practices that truly have that power. Listen, try...and see what I mean.  Listen For::10 What if 10 minutes a day could change your love life?3:00 What two things helped Ken go from chronically single to happily partnered?7:00 How can the “Inner Mentor” practice transform your search for love?12:30 What is Ken’s life-changing spiritual ask—and how did it shift everything?18:20 What one question can realign your heart in tough relationship moments? SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click CONNECT WITH KEN:Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | X

Deeper Dating has changed the lives of so many single people, but these ideas have the power to transform relationships as well. In this episode, you'll learn to use the skills of Deeper Dating and the power of your Core Gifts to create connection, intimacy, safety and joy in your relationship. Listen For::34 What are the four stages of Deeper Dating and how do they apply to relationships?7:19 How can you discover your Core Gifts through what delights and wounds you?12:23 What happens when your generosity goes unnoticed in a relationship?15:37 How do you make an emotional "ask" in a way your partner can truly hear?17:51 What changes when you share the most tender parts of yourself? SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click CONNECT WITH KEN:Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | X

A research-based way to transform your search for love and deepen your own self-love? Yes, please! In this episode. I’ll teach you a process — and guide you through it — that can bring hope, resiliency, and wisdom to your search for love. I think you’ll love it! Listen For::34 What is EFT and how can it transform your dating life?3:35 Why is discouragement such a powerful block to love?8:10 What should you know before trying tapping for emotional healing?11:07 How do you do the EFT setup statement for dating challenges?16:53 What does a full tapping sequence for dating struggles actually sound like? SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one clickCONNECT WITH KEN:Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | XStop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

In this episode, I share some of the dating stories that have touched and taught me the most. These are real love lessons, right from the trenches, to inspire you in your own journey. Listen For:1:21 How Self-Love Shapes Real Relationships7:55 Recognizing and Changing Attraction Patterns16:22 Building Authentic Connections That Last19:58 How to Rewire Your Relationship Patterns for Love SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click CONNECT WITH KEN:Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | XStop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

There is a North Star question that is the single greatest key to find lasting love. In this episode, I'm going to teach you that North Star question.   I show you how to use it, and I'll explain how it will speed your path not just to love, but the kind of love that can truly last and feed your heart and soul.     Listen For: 1:59 What is the North Star Question that changes everything about dating? 4:25 Why does asking “Do I feel safe and seen?” lead to better love? 6:41 What if you're not inspired by the person in expected ways? 13:24 How does being your true self become your dating superpower? 18:38 How can asking this question heal anxious or avoidant attachment styles?     SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS   Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click   CONNECT WITH KEN: Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | XStop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free p

Self-abandonment is one of the most powerful ways we lose love and sacrifice self-love in our relationships. In this episode, you'll learn a truly inspiring process to stop self-abandoning. Join me as I interview one of the most inspired teachers I know: Dr. Margaret Paul, co-creator of Inner Bonding. This process has changed the lives of countless people, myself included.   Listen For: 4:57 – The Four Pillars of Self-Abandonment 11:04 – Need vs. Neediness: The Hidden Trap in Relationships 16:43 – The Six Steps of Inner Bonding Explained 25:50 – The Art of Making a Self-Loving Ask 30:49 – What to Do When Your Partner Isn’t Open to Learning Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

There are 7 indicators that prove you are speeding your path to the kind of love that can last and grow.    In this episode of the Deeper Dating Podcast, you'll learn what those seven signs are, and what you can do to make them happen for you.   Listen For: 3:03 Trusting Your Body’s Wisdom in Dating 8:25 Letting Go of Shame to Find Real Connection 10:31 When Toxic Stops Being Attractive 12:51 Discovering the Power of Inspired Attraction 16:06 How Friends Can Help You Break Love Patterns   Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

Are you ready to learn what might be the most powerful hack for upleveling your entire search for love and deeper intimacy?  In this episode, you'll learn what that is and how to do it!   Listen For: 1:49 Why Upleveling Your Love Life Changes Everything 5:22 The 4 Fierce Questions That Will Change Your Dating Life 9:35 The Friend Who Called Him Out (And Changed Everything) 11:31 His 96-Year-Old Mother’s Life-Changing Metaphor 15:34 The Inner Mentor Practice That Bypasses Your Inner Critic   SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

What happens when you leave a narcissist, and then go back?  The level of danger escalates profoundly.   We may have seen this in the lives of people we love, and all of us are seeing this in our country as we have re-elected Donald Trump.   In this episode you'll learn what to look out for, how to protect yourself and how to create change on a personal level, in our communities, and our nation.   Listen For: 4:23 Narcissistic Abuse Cycle Explained by a Psychotherapist 6:46 Why Returning to a Narcissist is More Dangerous Than Ever 9:26 How Narcissism Fuels Racism, Prejudice, and Dehumanization Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

This is an episode first published in October 2024. It’s one of our most popular.   Your sexual Core Gifts are the language of your true sexuality.   When you can name, claim, and embrace them, your sexual experiences will become so much more amazing, connected, and filled with love and excitement. In this episode, you'll learn how to discover your own sexual Core Gifts.   Listen For: 2:34 Sex as a Mirror of Your Life 7:00 The Hidden Power of Shame 12:56 What Makes You Feel Safe 18:58 Finding Themes in What Moves You 23:37 Naming Your Sexual Core Gifts Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

If you want to supercharge the intimacy in any relationship, think about the asks that you don't ask.   In this episode, I will teach you how to name those asks, how to deshame them, and how to present them in a way that leads to greater closeness with your friends, with your family, in your love relationship, and with yourself.   Listen For: 01:59 Asking as an act of self-love 09:25 How unspoken needs harm connection 16:15 Self-honoring exercises you can try 20:45 Why big asks reveal relationship truth 21:52 Awkwardness, risk, and intimacy growth   SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

The biggest study of the American single experience just came out.   In this episode, I interview one of its key authors; Dr. Amanda Gesselman, Director of Sex & Relationship Science at Match and a Research Scientist at the Kinsey Institute.    Get ready to hear some really fascinating things about what's happening for single people in America. Sex, love, dating, AI; it's all in this report!   Listen For: 4:21 Turning the Tables: Singlehood as Empowerment 9:34 The Emotional Disconnect Between Men and Women 17:56 Intentional Dating The 30-Minute Rule 23:16 Attraction vs. Attraction Patterns 30:35 The Silent Epidemic Miscommunication in Dating Intentions 39:52 Gen Z aStop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist Ken Page. Book a free private session at DeeperDatingIntensive.com.

Are you chasing love that leaves you feeling unworthy or uplifted? Ken Page reveals the two pivotal questions that can revolutionize your search for love and shield you from unnecessary heartache. Drawing from four decades of psychotherapy and personal growth, Ken explores the profound difference between "attractions of deprivation"—those intense, addictive relationships that mirror old wounds—and "attractions of inspiration"—connections rooted in mutual respect, safety, and emotional integrity. He also unpacks how asking one soulful question—“Do I feel safe and seen?”—can fast-track your journey to secure love and deepen your own self-worth. Listen For: 03:23 What Is an Attraction of Deprivation 07:11 Personal Story The Relationship That Nearly Trapped Ken 09:37 Why Deprivation Feels Like Home 13:10 The Three Cs of Choosing a Partner 15:34 The Second Key Question Do I Feel Safe and Seen Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led pe

Can a broken road really lead you home to love? Ken Page shares the raw and profound story of how he finally found real, lasting love—by embracing his deepest fears, honoring his longing, and listening to the gentle whispers of spirit. From navigating intimacy during the AIDS crisis to forming a heartfelt support group of “chronically single shrinks,” Ken weaves a touching narrative of heartbreak, healing, and joy. His journey leads to adopting a child from Cambodia, launching his Deeper Dating movement, and marrying the love of his life just before his father’s passing. This is a story about trust, transformation, and the sacred, messy path to authentic love. Listen For: 0:43 Embracing Neurosis: The Gifts Hidden in Shame 8:18 The “Wave” of Repulsion and How It Sabotages Love 11:30 The Secret to Overcoming the “Ick” 14:41 Realizing He Wanted to Become a Father Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led personally by psychotherapist

What happens when the search for love pulls you away from your soul—and how do you find your way back? Ken Page shares the deeply personal next chapter of his emotional, spiritual, sexual, and romantic journey in the second part of this series. From navigating New York’s vibrant and chaotic gay underground of the 1980s to an unexpected spiritual reawakening in the Wind River Mountains of Wyoming, Ken opens up about his struggles with love, addiction, loss, and the journey toward self-acceptance. Through heartbreaking stories and soul-shifting insights, he reveals how he began to integrate his sexuality with his spirituality and laid the foundation for his life’s work. Listen For: 6:32 Discovering the gay cultural renaissance in NYC 10:12 Fitting in with the beautiful and unattainable 13:28 Launching a therapeutic practice and gay men’s groups 16:43 A dream that revealed the truth about love Stop repeating old patterns and learn the deeper skills of real intimacy in a small, handpicked six-month group led per