Break The Cycle With Dsd

Are you constantly made to look like the “uncooperative” parent while your ex plays the perfect one on paper? You’re not alone. In this video, we dive deep into what it’s like to co-parent with a toxic or narcissistic ex who manipulates perception, weaponizes cooperation, and uses your kids to provoke emotional reactions.

If you’re co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic or BPD traits and you’re in a 50/50 custody situation, this podcast is for you.A listener asked: “My son is 3.5 years old—do I say anything about his mom, or just keep her out of my house entirely?”In this podcast, I dive into:How to talk to a young child about a toxic parent (without causing damage)The mistakes I made early in my divorce—and what I’d do differentlyWhen to speak, what not to say, and how to create emotional safetyGroundhog Day syndrome and how to stop itWhy your home must become your child’s emotional anchorTips for neutral transitions, boundaries, and avoiding triangulation

After years of surviving family court, toxic co-parenting, and the emotional warfare of dealing with a narcissistic ex, the day finally comes—your child turns 18. The court orders stop. The forced contact ends. You’re finally free. But what happens next?In this video, I reflect on my own journey and what it feels like to finally cross the finish line. I talk about:The countdown to 18 and how fast it really goesWhat it really means when court oversight endsHow to emotionally process your new freedomTips on creating a clean break from your exWhy letting your children lead matters post-18Protecting your peace and rebuilding your lifeHow to become a guiding light for others still in the stormWhether you’re just starting this battle or nearing the end, this video offers support, perspective, and hope.

In this impromptu test livestream, I dust off the setup, tackle some technical hiccups, and get back into the groove of live streaming! Together, we revisit the heart of this channel: creating a safe space for honest conversations about recovery, relationships, and overcoming narcissistic abuse. I field live calls, including one powerful story of perseverance and healing through a challenging family dynamic. If you’re struggling with toxic relationships, recovering from a divorce, or navigating complex emotions, this is a community for you. We also cover topics like setting boundaries, finding clarity, and learning to advocate for yourself in difficult situations.

In this podcast, I tackle a powerful viewer question: “Do you know of anyone who, after divorcing a narcissistic spouse, went on to remarry, build a new family, and live a healthy life?” This is such an important topic, and the short answer is: YES, it’s possible—but it takes work. I’ll share key insights into what’s required to break the cycle of toxic relationships, including: ✔️ Doing the inner work to heal and grow. ✔️ Setting and maintaining firm boundaries. ✔️ Learning to trust your gut and recognize red flags. ✔️ How healthy relationships can feel “off” at first due to past trauma. I also share inspiring stories, including insights from Eric Carroll (Dad Talk Today) and my own experiences, to show you that healthy love is attainable after narcissistic abuse.

Listener asks the question of do I take her to arbitration again on minor stuff or just save my money? Show Notes Duane discusses a question a listener asks about when to go to court and when to fight the battle? He covers the topics of what do you really hope to accomplish? Will this action “move the needle”. You have to take a hard look at the reality of the situation and what is the perception of other people involved. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Father’s always seem to be rejected by children, we discuss the reasons and how to cope. Show Notes A common problem people experience in high conflict narcissistic divorces and custody is being rejected by your children. This is a very painful thing to experience and it is very hurtful when you feel your own children “rejecting” you. In this episode Duane discusses the reason this occurs and ways to help you cope with the frustration and disappointment when your children are used as weapons. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Slower learner | Take your life back after narcissistic abuse Show Notes DSD discusses the reality of it taking time to learn how futile it can be struggling to make a different in your life with a narcissistic ex. Duane shares how he continues to see people struggling with this concept. You get stuck in the mode EXPECTING justice and accountability. He shares how he hates to see people only learn this lesson after losing in court and then questioning why they even fought for it. Ultimately you have to take things slow and give yourself time to accept and see the reality of your situation. In the end focusing on your children and the relationship you have, and are building with them, is the key! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents  00:00:00 - Start 00:01:49 - New Topic 00:

Taking care of yourself | hobbies are important! Show Notes In this episode Duane talks about the importance of having a hobby or something that you enjoy doing. He also talks about the struggles when you are down, depressed, and beaten with ways to push yourself to break yourself out of that downward spiral. He then fields questions from others on silver bullets, narcissists seeking control, being forced to spend time with the ex, and finally an update on his current medical situation. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents  00:00 Start 02:55 - Welcome to the livestream 06:04 - Finding some positive to do hobbies 17:19 - Advice on handling message about school 21:20 - Narc fishing for control 29:57 - Supervised visits and lashing out 36:14 - Having to spend time with the ex

Dealing with the pain is the only way to get through this Show Notes In this episode DSD starts with a clip from Brad Pitt talking about his experience of running from the pain and ultimately how he worked through it to take his like back! Duane has a discussion with the audience about their experiences and ways to approach things Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents  00:00 Start 03:24 New Topic 11:46 New Topic 28:56 New Topic 38:06 New Topic 43:07 New Topic 01:04:26 New Topic 01:10:17 New Topic 01:14:23 New Topic 01:16:18 New Topic 01:22:34 New Topic

A deep dive discussion on the struggles of letting go with an update and review of the redacted Order Sustaining Demurrer on my civil case. Show Notes In this episode DSD talks about the struggles and importances of learning to “let go”. We discuss how difficult it is to actually do, being forced to learn the “lesson”, recognizing when you’re being pulled back in, and notice when you are stuck in the rumination cycle. Duane then shares how things really start to change ONCE you accept the situation and allowing yourself to “move on”. He also shares that unfortunately this process takes a LONG time and for some even years. DSD shares that it took him about 2 to 3 years for it to really sink in. Duane then provides an update with a reading on the final Order Sustaining Demurrer that was finally sent and signed by the court. This leads into a discussion on various aspects of court. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at

A discussion on how difficult it is to let of the past Show Notes The Healing Path: Navigate the path to healing with practical tips and strategies. Discover effective coping mechanisms and self-care practices to nurture your mental and emotional well-being. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Alex on the news again & dealing with the stress of family court Show Notes Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Anxiety is a slow killer in narcissistic abuse Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about the effectives of the constant anxiety and stress these situation put you under. He covers different techniques he has used to help him and other in dealing with this reality. Later in the podcast he takes a caller working through severe parental alienation and we discuss techniques on dealing with his minor and adult children. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Showing up is more important than you realize! Show Notes Although these situations are very complicated, stressful, and more frustrating then they really should be it is important to show up and be there for your children. In this podcast we discuss some examples of this with callers sharing their stories. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Handling when older kids are alienated Show Notes In this podcast DSD continues yesterday’s topic discussing the ways to deal with older children who are in the throws of parental alienation. He also takes the same caller to deep dive in his situation and talk through scenarios and ways to help his children Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Don’t fall for the narc daughter-in-law’s trap! Show Notes Don’t fall for the narc daughter-in-law’s trap! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Can you “disarm” a narcissist? Show Notes In this podcast DSD tackles the question of HOW to disarm a narcissist or if it is even possible. He covers the blame shifting, understanding their “motivation”, no engaging and other techniques to minimize the effect of narcissistic attacks! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Starting 2024 strong when dealing with Narcissists! Show Notes Duane starts the new year with a BANG covering topics on perspective, getting them out of your mind, removing chaos in your life, using exercise to minimize stress, focusing on where you want to go and building your support network! We Also have a few callers talking about their experiences and perspectives! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Dodging the narc rocks & taking your life back! Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about how toxic narcissist person will continue to find ways to throw “rocks” at you and drag you back into the drama. It is important to recognize what is going on and to find ways to minimize the damage. Ultimately the best course of action is taking your life back and protecting yourself from their drama and chaos! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents