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Jordana is on maternity leave, so Jared Fried is joined by BETCHES’ Jack Maloney to break down a second date disaster featuring aggressive tongue, a “breast exam” style titty grab, and whether bad kissing is an ick or just picky. They share exact language to use in the moment like whispering “slow down” and how to reset physical chemistry on date three. Jared tackles a listener’s breakup after a layoff where an ex is telling people she only dated him for money, and he explains why the dumper is always painted as the villain and the one text to send. Plus, they answer a vulnerable email from a trans woman who feels invisible in dating and unpack how straight men think about attraction, fear, and identity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yamaneika Saunders joins Jared Fried while Jordana Abraham is on maternity leave, and nothing is off limits. She breaks down dating at 47, hooking up with a 33-year-old Pisces, and why she refuses to “debate” her worth! They get specific about sexual chemistry, age gaps, and why synergy in bed matters more than body count. Then they tackle a 29-year-old gamer whose girlfriend hates his Fortnite obsession, a woman posting flyers to “curse” her ex in South Philly, and whether walking a kitten in a stroller is a red flag or secretly hot. Yamaneika says hot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's Friday Feels, Jared Freid is joined by BETCHES' own Maddie Mahoney, tackling cheating exes, pyramid scheme drama, and the first date red flags that say everything about a person. A listener discovers her ex had a secret girlfriend for nearly a year while they were together, so was getting him uninvited from a wedding petty or prudent? Then a husband asks how to tell his wife that Arbonne is a scam without blowing up their marriage. Maddie also shares her genius gift-giving hack so you will never forget a loved one's gift again! Lastly, Jared breaks down why when hearing "my life is a sitcom," you should expect them to follow up with "all my exes are crazy" and "I don't wait in lines" and end the date early. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is everyone obsessed with Heated Rivalry? Jared and his friend from the stand-up comedy world, Matteo Lane, kick things off by unpacking the hype around the viral hockey romance before diving into a chaotic round of red flag or dealbreaker. They debate whether a boyfriend kissing his girlfriend every single time she gets in the car is romantic or suffocating, react to the shock of a surprise giant tongue ring mid-dating, and argue over a man who feels “betrayed” after learning his girlfriend had a nose job at 19. The episode spirals into celebrity look-alike delusion (strong Joey Tribbiani energy), plus why everyone can’t stop talking about The Golden Bachelor! It's a modern dating drama, cosmetic surgery disclosure debates, and maybe too brutally honest relationship takes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is celebrating Valentine’s Day a basic expectation, or optional? Jared and Matchmaker Maria unpack a petty or prudent situation where a woman uses an entire couples spa gift card on herself after her boyfriend refuses to acknowledge Valentine’s Day at all. J & MM break down how attitude is everything in dating and why showing up authentically matters, especially for Gen Z. They also share what to do if you’ve been seeing someone for one day versus a few months for Valentine’s Day. Then, a listener asks how to tell a guy she wants to wait to have sex, without killing attraction, right before their first Valentine’s Day together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared is joined by original U Up? co-host Sami Sage for a fun episode that kicks off with body image, Ozempic shame, and why vulnerability isn’t owed, but it does matter. They unpack a listener’s dilemma about dating a woman who may have lost weight on GLP-1s and whether hiding old photos is a red flag, a boundary, or none of his business. Then they review texts from a guy who gives his date the ick by editing his messages multiple times, one edit should be the max! Sami and Jared also discuss what women should actually get men for the upcoming Valentine’s Day. Lastly, they dig into two red flag deal breakers: staying close with an ex-wife and being single at 33 – is that a red flag? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared is joined by VP of BETCHES, Bryan Russell Smith, to kick off a Friday Feels episode that starts with a funny discussion about watching Heated Rivalry and why women are loving this show so much! Bryan shares how he met his now-husband at a bar after losing his coat, their age gap, and what Jared thinks straight dating could learn from gay dating honesty. They then dig into an icky or picky email where a listener gets dumped for loving Beyoncé, Taylor Swift, and Sabrina Carpenter instead of indie rock. Jared and Bryan answer a Valentine’s Day gift question, revealing why Valentine’s Day cookies aren’t just treats, but a way to show where someone really stands in a relationship. Finally, they answer a vulnerable email about disclosing STI on a first date, and if sharing an educational podcast is the way to go? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared welcomes Vivian Tu (@your.richbff) as the first guest during Jordana’s maternity leave, and the conversation focuses on one of the most emotional topics in relationships: money. Vivian shares why she left Wall Street, how she became a personal finance creator, and why it is important to talk about money with your partner, even on date one. They tackle a real rent divide dilemma, breaking down how splitting costs “equally” can quietly build resentment when incomes are not the same, and why a fair, proportional split matters more. They unpack a prenup panic email, where a boyfriend wants a prenup because the government already has one on your marriage, making refusal to discuss one the real red flag. Vivian also drops a hard truth: a guy can be rich on paper, but if money is all he brings to the table, he is actually poor where it counts. Be sure to check out Vivian’s new book: ⁠Well Endowed⁠, out everywhere now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Jordana’s last episode before maternity leave but you can still catch episode with Jordana on their latest Benefits episodes

Jordana is getting ready to have her twiblings, and she and Jared talk about childhood memories and how they were raised! Then they jump into emails, starting with a listener in an ethically non-monogamous relationship wondering if she accidentally sent a hookup coded message when setting up a first date. Next, they offer thoughtful advice on when and how to bring up losing a family member while dating without scaring someone off. Then they dive into an icky or picky where a listener’s boyfriend spits loogies and snot rockets on walks, is it just “man behavior” or a real turnoff? Lastly, J&J get into red flag or dealbreaker, covering dating a great guy with a kid and a difficult ex, partners who speed through 2- to 4-month relationships, and a date who picks up their plate and licks off what’s left at the end of a meal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are joined by celebrity hairstylist Chris Appleton, known for styling Jennifer Lopez and Kim Kardashian, to talk about hair, confidence and dating as a dad of two. Chris explains how hair can empower you, help you see yourself clearly, and change how you show up in dating and life. He opens up about his past relationship with a woman, raising children together, and navigating marriage and divorce in the public eye. Chris also shares how discovering his sexuality later in life helped him gain a deeper understanding of himself. Lastly, J&J and Chris answer a listener's question about an open relationship that’s getting difficult because one person caught feelings! Be sure to check out this episode and Chris’ new book Your Roots Don’t Define You, out now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J touch on the Ashley Tisdale friend-group drama and how being quietly dropped by friends feels a lot like modern dating, where things just fade out instead of ending with an honest conversation. J&J dive into listener emails, starting with a listener wondering if dating someone with zero social media in 2026 is normal or a red flag? They debate a messy breakup dog custody case in a classic petty or prudent, breaking down responsibility, fairness, and post-breakup guilt. Advice continues with how to deal with single friends who complain about dating but refuse to actually go on dates?! They end the episode with some fun red flag or dealbreaker about eating fries with a fork, to splitting a pricey bottle of wine and giving big birthday gifts too early. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared’s making new friends in Florida-until a toe gets a little too friendly with his knee, sparking suspicions that one new pal might be part of a swingers couple. J&J dive into a first-date email from a woman whose date keeps a solo, youthful photo of his mom as his iPhone lock screen - sweet, or deeply unsettling? Next, they tackle a listener question about navigating the ticking biological clock on dating apps and whether it’s fair game to talk kids on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J dive into New Year’s resolutions and float the idea that partners should choose each other’s goals, mostly because Jordana would like to veto Mike’s marathon plans. They get into listener emails, including one from a woman confused about being instantly unmatched for not sharing her number, and Jared explains why jumping straight to “Can I text you?” can backfire. In Petty or Prudent, a listener wonders if she may have crossed a line after throwing a situationship’s forgotten car key into Lake Ontario. Oops! Inspired by Tell Me Lies season 3, Jared and Jordana debate a Red Flag or Dealbreaker where a man performs a song about his ex—while his new girlfriend watches from the crowd. They also unpack a nine-year on-and-off relationship that ends in an engagement ultimatum, and what it all says about boundaries, timing, and whether a relationship is actually right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Friday Feels episode opens, Jared and Jordana get into Jared's very Florida Christmas and whether he really deserved getting called out for taking selfies in public. They dive into whether Happy New Year” is a criminally lazy dating-app opener, how late is too late to send it, and the exact moment “HNY” becomes unforgivable. Then, a listener questions whether her husband’s friends are genuinely uncomfortable or just chaotically harmless, and how much nonsense you’re actually expected to tolerate at the beginning of a relationship. Finally, J and J wonder if a listener should 'tolerate' or 'tap-out' – debating whether it’s worth pushing for a second date or if rejection is just the universe telling you it was never a match to begin with. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana kick off the episode virtual and fully locked in, watching a viral TikTok text where a man ghosts after a great first date, then comes back claiming he was overwhelmed by how good it was. What?! Next, J&J dive into a Petty or Prudent email featuring a cheating fiancé, screen-recorded Instagram DMs, and the very real question of whether exposing him to friends and family is justice… or too far. The episode wraps with rapid-fire red flag or dealbreaker emails—from entitled travel meltdowns to lopsided housework and a boyfriend who treats law school acceptances like a relationship ultimatum. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy 2026! It’s the New Year where it is peak breakup time and peak dating app download, and J&J are breaking down why January is when relationships end and downloads surge. They explain Divorce Day, Dating Sunday, and how the fresh start of a new year pushes people to rethink their love life and get back on the apps. Since this is the biggest dating app week of the year, they share their top tips for building a better dating profile, including first photo rules, prompt mistakes, and how to get better dates, not just more matches. The two then review two dating app makeovers, common profile red flags, and advice for starting the year strong on the apps to find love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s New Year’s Eve, and J&J are ringing in the new year with bold and actionable personal dating and relationship resolutions. Jordana and Jared dive into listener emails about a NYE kiss ruined by strict no-PDA rules and jealousy over an innocent peck on the lips from a gay best friend. They also break down a listener’s New Year’s Eve ‘petty or prudent’ move, where she secretly canceled her ex’s reservation after a three-year situationship ended. Comment below telling us your favorite part or your dating or relationship resolutions! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared talk about the strange week between Christmas and New Year when time feels fake, routines disappear, and the pressure to reinvent your life creeps in too late. Jordana’s growing baby countdown is upon us and Jared reacts to becoming an uncle and jokes about parenting prep and unrealistic TV labor scenes! Next, they react to a viral dating influencer who claims his high standards are why he is single, breaking down why the take feels insecure, manipulative, and driven by rage bait. Finally, they debate an icky or picky email about a date who joked that his dog was his child and why the timing made it more uncomfortable than funny. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Merry Christmas Eve from your friendly elf and what seems to be Jared as sexy Santa? Jared talks about a potential gym flirting moment that leads into a deeper conversation about dating burnout, emotional self protection, and why avoiding risk can start to feel safe but sad, with comparisons to Leonardo DiCaprio style dating rules. They break down listener emails about bringing a boyfriend of two years to a family Christmas party, asking when it is actually the right time to include your significant other in family holiday gatherings. J&J read a petty or prudent about getting Christmas ornaments back, an email about a gifting fight over a valuable sentimental book, and multiple fed flag or deal breaker stories involving Christmas cheer, cultural gift rules, and whether believing in Santa at 21 is sweet or concerning. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices