Dear Men

Do you ever find yourself minimizing your own needs, and/or feeling responsible for others' emotions?Do you tend to stay quiet to keep the peace, or freeze during conflict?Have you ever struggled with boundaries or wondered why standing up for yourself feels so hard?Here we explore a family dynamic that can be just as damaging for what doesn’t happen as for what does. If there was a volatile parent in your house and a more passive one (or if that's the dynamic you're in as a parent right now, with your own children), you'll want to hear this.This conversation goes beyond obvious abuse and into the invisible wounds: the confusion of not knowing who will protect you, the way your body learns to brace, appease, or disappear, and how those early patterns quietly follow you into adult relationships.We also explore what healing can look like — not through blame, but through awareness. How do you grieve the protection you didn’t receive? What does it take to stop replaying the bully–bystander dynamic