Transforming Your Life With Dr. Malaika

Join me and my friends as we talk about some hot topics impacting how we interact with and treat one another. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Instead of getting visibly angry, some people express their hostility in passive-aggressive ways designed to hurt and confuse their target. Most people will have to deal with passive-aggression from others in their personal and professional lives at one time or another. Let’s talk about it! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Being a control freak seems to be annoying yet harmless, but that isn’t the case. Control freaks experience consequences ranging from constant irritability to uncontrollable anger. In addition to wreaking havoc on your mental health, being a control freak also wastes time and energy, both of which are finite resources. Let’s identify the symptoms and talk about ways to improve. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Do you know a toxic person? Even if you don't now, at some point in your life you're bound to have come across a person who fits the description. Dealing with such an individual can be difficult and draining, to say the least. In fact, it may challenge what you know about yourself and push you to the limits. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

In everyday life, we all wear masks. It’s part of the reality of living that we have different “masks” or personas we project to the public. But what’s important is having some conscious awareness of what we’re doing and being able to see if the masks we wear interfere with healthy living. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

The rise of social media has meant that we as a global population are more connected than we have ever been in the history of time. However, our reliance on social media can have a detrimental effect on our mental health, with the average person checking their accounts a minimum of 28 times per day. Let’s talk about how this impacts mental health and changes that can be made. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

The untimely and tragic death of philanthropist, activist and rapper Nipsey Hussle has caused widespread grief for many who did not know him personally, not had a connection to the area he was from. Today we talk about him and the concept of mass grief, also known as mourning sickness. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” — Lewis B. Smedes Forgiveness does not erase the past, but looks upon it with compassion. To withhold forgiveness keeps alive emotions of hurt, anger and blame which discolour your perception of life. To forgive, avoid ruminating on thoughts of being wronged. Rather, trust the power of forgiveness to heal the hurt and pain. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Addiction is usually associated with excessive and harmful behavior or substance abuse. The word addiction conjures up weakness and dependency. And the same can be said about emotional addiction. An emotional addiction, not only colors our world with its shades, but can also be our crutch. So it’s crucial to our mental and emotional wellbeing to examine how we feel most of the time and assess our negative emotional dependency. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

"Victims" deal in judgments and "shoulds" in interactions with others. They operate on the basic assumption that the world should be fair: "I should have been loved by my parents." "My children should call me or write to me." "After all that I've done for her, the least she could do ..." This type of preoccupation with "rights" and "shoulds" is irrelevant to the real problems that we are all faced with. Let’s talk about ditching the victim role and playing the victim game and becoming accountable and adaptive in our behaviors. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

No matter how big or small, almost all of us experienced some kind of trauma as children. Inner child work is a vital component of inner work because it reconnects us with a wounded element of ourselves: the child within. When we reconnect with this fragmented part of ourselves, we can begin to discover the root of many of our fears, phobias, insecurities and sabotaging life patterns. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

‘Practice makes perfect.’ ‘If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.’ There are so many more quotes that make us believe perfection is attainable but as Voltaire said ‘the best is the enemy of the good.’ Aiming for or expecting perfection is a trap with serious emotional consequences. Let’s discuss how to get out of or avoid the perfection trap. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Who is there for the friend that is always there for everyone else? How do you know when they even need help? Let’s talk about how to support the strong friend in the group and maybe even give some strong friends advice on when they need to seek support. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

When did telling the truth become a lost virtue? It seems like in this country honesty is no longer respected or better yet demanded. What changes need to be made to get back to living in truth in real life? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Many don’t understand why blackface is such a big deal. About 1 in 3 Americans surveyed stated that blackface is always or sometimes acceptable. Let’s discuss the real issues around this controversial topic. Are we hurting one another by ignoring the impact of this practice? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Many have expectations and ideas about what a relationship should or shouldn’t be. Join me and my special guest, my husband Sharod, as we tackle some of those beliefs and have a little fun while talking about relationship good, bad and ugly. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Love is a good thing right? Can there be too much of a good thing? There can and we are going to talk about it and gives some tips and making necessary changes as we talk about love addicts. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

For over four decades, research has been done to try an identify if racism stemmed from a mental illness. Recent events bring this question back around again. Let’s explore and discuss if racism is in fact a mental illness. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Self-esteem is a good thing right? Is there ever a time when it is a negative? Have you experienced a person using their self-esteem against you? Let’s talk about it! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

The current political climate has dictated socially how we treat one another on an individual level. Let’s examine the impact of Trump Syndrome on our everyday interactions and mentality. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support