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Perfectionism.  Most would agree that this personality trait is not great.  BUT, if you are a perfectionist, you secretly, sort of, like being this way.  It’s kind of like being a “workaholic.”  We say we don’t like that aspect of our lives yet are inwardly proud of how much we can accomplish.  Perfectionism is, not only, bad for us as an individual, but can be devastating in our home.   ----- PROBLEM: See it in: Kids- upset if not perfect, performance anxiety Mom/Wives- Clean house, fixation on kid’s performance, behavior, and dress, can’t leave work at work Dad/Husbands- How things look, Sports, irritation as substandard behavior/dress… Hold double standard You're constantly evaluating yourself, and not living up to who you believe you could be. This induces shame.  Procrastination can simply be thought of as insecure perfectionism on steroids.  SOLUTION: To want something is good.  To NEED it is not good. Embrace and sit in uncomfortable, unpleasant emotions By grace saved, not of good works Acknowl