Metta Hour With Sharon Salzberg

For episode 284, devon and nico hase return to the Metta Hour to speak with Sharon about their new book, This Messy, Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership. devon and nico serve as guiding teachers of the online dharma community Refuge of Belonging. They teach at the Insight Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, and other centers, offer online and in-person retreats, and speak with students in one-on-one sessions. Their first book How Not to Be a Hot Mess, came out in 2020 and their 2026 release, This Messy, Gorgeous Love, is now available in paperback and audiobook formats. This is devon and nico’s second appearance on the Metta Hour.In this conversation, devon, nico and Sharon speak about:The motivation for the new bookAfter the “happily ever after”Approaching relationship as practiceThe healing of deep listening Common myths of relationshipsBuddhist personality typesDukkha (suffering) in a relationshipImpermanence informing connectionForgiveness practiceDifferent conflict stylesLearnin