Annmarie's Breaking Ground Podcast Show

We've been told that letting go is a feeling. A decision. A moment of peaceful release. It isn't.Letting go is a system upgrade. It happens in the body before it happens in the mind. It shows up not in moments of grand resolution but in ordinary moments — a comment in a bar, a boundary held without explanation, a quieter walk home than expected.In this episode, Annmarie goes deeper than the valve analogy. She talks about what it meant to grow up in the Bronx in the eighties — where sensitivity was a liability and suppression was survival — and how that conditioning doesn't disappear just because the environment changes. She names what chronic suppression actually costs: our precision, our intimacy, and eventually, our health. And she introduces the concept that changes the whole frame: the valve has a lifespan. If the underlying pressure never changes, the valve wears out. That's not a personal failing. That's a systems problem. And systems problems require engineers. In This EpisodeWhy suppression in communi