Shedding The Bitch Radio

What does it take to shift from goal-driven leadership to identity-led leadership? In this episode, we sit down with Bianca D’Alessio — star of HBO Max’s Selling the Hamptons, top-ranked real estate broker, and author of Mastering Intentions: 10 Practices to Amplify Power and Lead with Lasting Impact. Bianca shares why ambition isn’t the enemy — misalignment is, and how setting intentions (not just goals) transforms your confidence, leadership style, relationships, and long-term success. Timestamps00:00 Intro: Goal-driven vs identity-led leadership 01:15 Why Bianca felt successful… but not aligned 03:10 The real shift: “Who am I becoming?” 05:00 Reframing failure into growth + resilience 06:20 Why Bianca seeks failure (and what it unlocks) 07:45 Perfectionism kills creativity + connection 08:30 Leading with vulnerability vs being “stoic” 09:20 How to know you’ve hit a growth ceiling 11:00 Work identity vs personal identity (and why it causes crisis) 12:10 “If you don’t want to be a people person… don’t be a m