Be Deliberate

I recently found this article: http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/05/why-self-compassion-works-better-than-self-esteem/481473/ through the wonderful Kamin Samuel (http://kaminsamuel.com/) So, when we have self-compassion, when we fail, it's not "poor me," it's "well, everyone fails." Everyone struggles. This is what it means to be human. And that really radically alters how we relate to failure and difficulty. When we say, "Oh, this is normal, this is part of what it means to human," that opens the door to then grow from the experience. If we feel like it's abnormal, this shouldn't be happening, then we start blaming ourselves. Some of the most real, honest, vulnerable and yet comforting times in my life are when my coach, friends and even people I have never met on the internet let me know that what I am going through has happened to them, sharing stories of their experience which help me to realise that I am not alone or crazy in what I am experiencing.