Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, Research-based Parenting Ideas To Help Kids Thrive

    Are there parts of yourself that you don't share with other people?   Things that you think: "If people knew that about me, they wouldn't love me / they'd think I'm a terrible person / they wouldn't even want to be around me"?   When you mess up, does it seem like it's not that you did a silly/bad thing, but that you are a stupid/bad person?   If your answer to any of these questions is "yes," then you're experiencing shame.   Almost all of the parents I work with are ashamed of some aspect of themselves...but not Dee.   That's not to say that Dee never struggles - far from it. But her struggles seem to feel more manageable to her, and she has a sense of 'right'-ness about her.   If Dee recognizes that she has a need, it never occurs to her to not ask for help from others in getting that need met.   How did this happen? What implications does it have for how we can raise our children so they don't experience shame?   In this episode, Dee