Beyond Abuse, Beyond Therapy, Beyond Anything

What are the energetics of violence? It's everything you believe to be true about yourself and that is living within you. It’s the armor - how you wear it somatically. Your body forms into the violence – and the abusive relationship becomes the externalization of that internal relationship. Internally, it’s the anxiety, nervousness, or doubt you wear. Externally, it’s in the fat or clothes you wear. All this is how you’re creating the dying that you’re choosing. You have to “die” in order to harbor the internal energetics of violence. It’s not a natural state. Your body reactions reflect how your inner world, your inner reality, is set up and the belief systems you hold about yourself and the world - biting your fingernails, eating when you’re upset, drinking, shopping, watching TV, anything that’s getting away from what’s actually happening. The signs to watch for are important and they usually come early. We have to give these signs a language – a name.