Hack Your Emotional Intelligence

Have you ever wondered what Mindset Training looked like? Well today you're able to view Online Coaching in a live call!  You'll learn about: how to set goals without fear how to reduce anxiety during interviewing how to start building up momentum each day

Everyone wants to be independent but only a few people ask, "What is independence?"  Sadly, this question often sparks a pointless debate about terms, what is the independence definition? Or more specifically, the free will versus determinism debate... To much chagrin, I've concluded that these debates will never be solved ... People simply can argue definitions for eternity! So today we talk about three techniques you can use today to become more independent! I bring up some doubts about actually being free, like dealing with the responsibility of choice ... How do you live a meaningful life if you are independent? If we have used psychological techniques before, how can we prevent these from feeling stale? How can we live free from stress? Paul and I sit down and explore the different ways you can see yourself and change your perspective. One of these techniques involves imagining yourself as a big redwood tree, so go ahead and listen!

Are you the type of person who gets consistently offended by your coworkers and boss? You may be the victim of an unfortunate situation - but you may not. You may be the type of person who creates havoc wherever you go ... If you create havoc wherever you go, you're in the right place. First, props to admit you might have an anger problem. And yes, there are some of you reading who do not have anger problems. But ... some of you reading don't know you have anger problems and you do. So there's no judgment here, congrats if you have the balls to admit anger gets on your nerves. This post is in response to anonymous survey feedback we received. At our career advancement workshops we ask people what types of topics they would like to focus on. Last week, I got a response that said "addressing conflict". To help give useful information about "addressing conflict" I've prepared a podcast. Here's some cool stuff you'll learn today: The #1 Obstacle To Overcoming Consistent Temper Tantrums The Secret Anger Patterns

Surrender Meaning The real surrender meaning, of total surrender, is profound. In this podcast we discuss the difference between relaxation and surrender as well as the various types of surrender. As Paul says, the meaning of surrender is "cheerfully giving something away." Listen for more info! How To Total Surrender In this podcast Paul goes over the difference between relaxation and surrender. Relaxation involves bodily relaxation.  For example, you relax your shoulders.  Surrender, on the other hand, is something else entirely.  Here's a guided spiritual surrender contemplation about FALSE - Fears, Attachment, Limiting Belief, Self-Identity, and Human Experience: Surrender To God What is surrender to God? I brought this up to Paul in our conversation because I had associations to Christianity. So I asked Paul, "Do you mean surrender in the religious sense?" Paul replies, "Well, sorta!" And I go on ... And I speak about my thoughts on the difference between surrender and relaxation.  Sw

Jared and Paul talk about the Four Types of Meditation: Guided Self-Guided Focused Attention Observation Paul describes each of them and gives examples so you can pick the one that is just right for you!

Overcoming Feeling Disappointment You do not have to be disappointed. You can how to overcoming feel disappointed with life. This podcast episode outlines the most important key to overcoming disappointment. The solution is having a growth mindset. In this podcast episode Paul and I outline: How you can overcome failures in your career How you can bounce back from interviews How you can overcome rejection, fear and pain Disappointment Quotes I've always been a fan of quotes. Since we are writing about disappointment, let's talk about disappointment quotes. So I want to share with you 3 quotes on disappointment that will help put things in perspective: Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it. — Eliza Tabor "We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment."― Jim Rohn"  "The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream;

How To Pitch Perfect Facebook Live Stream Podcast You can watch our Facebook Live replay about How to Pitch Perfect on Youtube here: Pitch Perfect Examples: While you listen or watch the episode, notice how Paul uses this framework. While this example pertains to our company, hopefully you can fill in the blanks with your organizations details and come up with a better, more impactful pitch! Broad description: We are a training and coaching firm. More detail: we provide Emotional Intelligence training More detail: We provide world-class Emotional Intelligence training to Silicon Valley and Beyond More features: We provide individual and group coaching. Our flagship product…. Impact: We help professionals become stronger leaders Emotional Intelligence Training Impact: We help professionals land and keep a job they love. Value: We help people reduce stress and improve their personal and professional relationships so they can lead a healthier and happier life. Value: We help people advance in their careers and

You can become an authentic, highly effective leader your boss respects without making your coworkers jealous. But you need to defeat the endless cycle of Silicon Valley stress. Every Friday at noon Paul and I host a Question and Answer live stream. You can ask your questions too! People have asked all sorts of questions about: - how to handle relationships at work - how to make sure their message is understood - how to negotiate for a pay raise - how to get great peer reviews for performance reviews Watch our live stream on facebook and ask a question! Every Friday at noon go to facebook.com/prostarperformance and ask a question!  

We all know Silicon Valley is a unique place, brilliant and competitive place.  These pressures to have unique innovations, be brilliant like your peers and survive the intense competition around performance reviews and interviews create 4 common problems: - anxiety before big presentations or meetings - unable to fit in to peer group at work - stress causes people to yell at each other - and self-sabotage, Impostor Syndrome, etc In this episode Paul and I sit down to discuss these issues people brought to us. We take a unique approach to addressing these problems by giving context. So many programs and self-help books give out pieces of advice that work but are too simple. For example, a person may be told to meditate, or talk a certain way to their boss.  We give our thoughts in a structured 4 step format. First, self awareness (red). Then self mastery (blue), followed by Social Awareness (yellow) and finally Social Mastery (green).  A key step in development of this process is first giving a

When you think of profits, you might think profits are bad. "Corporations are greedy" you might think. I can see you point if you feel that way. I used to feel deeply that way too. Yet after this interview, I realized that the most profitable companies in the long run were doing something different. Frank Connolly, a serial entrepreneur, has some unique perspectives you have to hear.  He has something to say about business, and what corporations do right. See, the best corporations are being emotionally intelligent. They are developing their employees. They are caring about the environment. They are truly being a positive force in the world. They are practicing conscious capitalism.

The hard part isn't promotion or the idea of gender equality. No, the difficult part is actually having conversations which stir up emotions. In this podcast Dr. Shawn Andrews and I have a lovely, real and sometimes heated conversation about the power of perception. In this podcast you will learn incredible information about the massively large gender divide and how companies can radically increase profits by promoting more women to leadership positions. Dr. Shawn Andrews also elaborates on: Why taking time off is crucial to your long-term success The 3 causes of the leadership divide Surprising information on the power of informal networks Connect more with Dr. Andrews at drshawnandrews.com and support her new book release "The Power of Perception" - one of first books in the world to incorporate multiple perspectives on the gender divide while details strategies to approach equality (and increase profit).

Jeff's story from debt-ridden uber driver to earning over 100K is one I'm sure you can personally relate to on some level. Jeff even lifted himself out of the ditches by using fairly ordinary self-help techniques that you have probably heard of before. However it's Jeff's mistake filled entrepreneurial journey which you'll learn the most from. See, Jeff set a huge vision for himself and life threw him to the ground with challenges and even betrayals. Yet with some basic attraction and gratitude techniques, along with an unstoppable will, Jeff's "mistakes" turned out into the fuel of his massive life transition. Listen and learn: The simple and incredibly power Gratitude Focusing technique How Jeff was betrayed, fell into debt, and how to avoid a similar mistake The #1 life lesson Jeff would recommend to all entrepreneurs

In this digital age there is a phrase "Engagement is King" because you can produce great content, but if nobody is listening then it really doesn't matter. While marketers, small business owners, and brands respect the power of engagement, many are stuck wishing they could get hundreds of comments on their posts. Unfortunately, many people and large companies resort to using controversy to get attention. Yet they do so unethically and this often makes people ignored and angry. In this podcast Brit shares how he uses "ethical controversy" to get hundreds of comments on his Facebook posts. I strongly feel this is far different from your typical controversy and even would go so far as to say you have an obligation as a thought leader, influencer or brand to use this strategy at some point. Some specific tactics you'll learn in this resource include: How you can back down without appearing weak and gain more followers at the same time How to take a stand by carefully weighing your options How do deal with intern

I've known Bri for 2 years and recently she helped me rediscover the energetic power of "flow".  We were sitting on the couch talking about the values of the online yoga community Bri leads. Bri mentioned how yoga means "to yolk" and we realized yoga is perfect for engineers and other logical people because of flow. Flow is the secret to yoga. With flow you can alleviate anxiety, stress relief, and depression. Flow is how you get out of your head and into your body.  Listen to Bri and I flow and then check out her on instagram @brianadeckard, which is all about yoga flows and more.      

From working at Starbucks to running his own business, RJ is a family man who is always on the lookout to add value. What's remarkable about RJ is how he continually focuses on adding value and now has accomplished 3 remarkable achievements: 1. Helping People 2. Making good income 3. Be happy at the end of the day RJ is a fantastic man, and is great at establishing relationships and even lists activities you can do to build yours. You can use the link below to contact RJ on his LinkedIn profile or Instagram@rj.t.wfg  https://www.linkedin.com/in/rjtolosa/

Want to "read" someone in less than a minute? Chris Golis has a useful way reading people based on science. In this episode Chris reviews the 7MTF model of personality and shows how you can make a high probably estimate of a person's personality in under 1 minute. At first I was a little doubtful, but that was before I talked to Chris. Chris went over the history of personality testing and really helped me understand why most personality tests fail. First, most personality tests fail because they are too complex and second, most personality tests can't be applied to real life. Having a master's degree in psychology and having been exposed to personality tests before, this new take on personality was incredibly refreshing. To this day I find myself thinking in terms of the 7MTF model and give Chris all the credit. If you want to connect with Chris and learn more about the 7MTF model, please visit: http://emotionalintelligencecourse.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisgolis/

Want to laugh and learn how you can increase your health and productivity at the same time? The key is to manage your energy instead of being totally focused on your time. In this podcast episode you'll learn learn managerial health principles from wellness thought leader Laura Putnam and discover how health can benefit you NOW. Laura is funny too and a vivacious presence! While talking with Laura I felt a great sense of energy and loved her incredible stories, like hearing about Laura's life purpose. What's even cooler is how Laura before speaking will do a few exercises to remain calm even while in front of thousands of people – I promise you'll be amazed! What I found most useful was the idea that a high performer should alternate between rest and productivity. Did you know that alternating between proactive Type B restful activities and productivity Type A activities will increase your net productivity? This means you can reduce stress, lower blood pressure and stay in good shape all while becoming a top

I was taken back by Steve's warm energy and feel incredibly thankful to Director of UCSB Mindfulness Center. In this episode Dr. Steve Hickman goes over the revolutionary practice of self-compassion. In this podcast you'll learn how compassion is different from empathy and 3 steps to self compassion. Dr. Hickman also provides a spontaneous, live guided self-compassion meditation. In this podcast you'll also learn how to prevent burnout from your career. You'll also be able to begin facing and alleviating your suffering, especially if you have an inner critic or even view your suffering as inconsequential. Finally, you'll learn the power of the word "ouch" and how simply admitting your pain can be the key to freedom.

We don't usually associate ambition with mindfulness. Generally mindfulness is thought of as inner peace, nature, yoga and meditation. It's almost heresy to pair mindfulness and ambition together, yet that's exactly what Patrick has done.  Patrick Buggy at mindfulambition.net believes mindfulness and ambition go hand in hand in fuel each other. He believes mindfulness can enhance ambition and vice versa. For example, mindfulness can help people identity time management priorities and focus without distraction. Ambition can likewise fuel the concentration necessary for a mindfulness practice.  This interview contains detailed time management exercises as well as the unique philosophy of mindful ambition. Enjoy!  

​ In a bizarre moment our Skype call is interrupted by a ringing phone. However, minutes beforehand we had discussed how to handle annoying phone call without getting upset!   This was a huge test of my patience. I end up getting frustrated and laughing at the same time.    It turns out handling your reactions to something small like a phone call can not only be important to advancing your career but  a spiritual practice as well.    Listen to Paul's unique spiritual take on ordinary things and how you can walk your own journey towards success as however you define it.   For more info about Paul, please visit www.Paulhoyt.com