Divorce Conversations For Women

In this episode Rhonda welcomes Stephanie Shaw, the founder of Leigh & Ollie. Stephanie is a health and wellness coach and a Certified Holistic Nutritionist and Nutrition Strategist. According to Stephanie, you need to look at the bigger picture, not just how to lose weight.  Here are some of her tips: Meal prepping – make sure that your metabolism maintains consistency throughout the day and that you are getting good carbohydrates, fats, protein. You want to make sure that you’re eating that balanced diet.   If you look at your cycle, the four different phases of your cycle, each of them will tell you when you should be making certain decisions.  Put your oxygen mask first – if you don’t take care of yourself, then you can’t take care of your children, of your finances or your career.  Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Stephanie Shaw. Stephanie Shaw is the founder of Leigh & Ollie.  She took the strategies she implemented to recover from a two-year illness and turned it in

In this episode Rhonda welcomes Barbara Huson. Barbara is the leading authority on women, wealth and power. Barbara shares several tips on how to change our mindset and deal with that resistance that keeps us from making that change. The ideal way to work with resistance is to explore it – to ask yourself some really deep questions and think it through: what am I afraid of; why am I afraid…. When you look at your resistance and you explore it, it is amazing what happens. It’s quite simple to rewire for wealth. It’s only three steps: recognize your negative, unhealthy, or unwanted thought; reframe it, and respond differently. It is not about the money. It’s who you have to become in order to attract, to sustain and to grow your wealth. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Barbara Huson (previously known as Barbara Stanny). She is the leading authority on women, wealth and power. As a bestselling author, teacher & wealth coach, Barbara has helped millions take charge of their financ

In this episode Rhonda welcomes her friend and a fellow podcaster Kimberly Warner. Kimberly shares about her experience of going through divorce after 19 years of marriage, dealing with attorneys and the importance of asking the right questions, even if your process is amicable. Here are some of Kimberly’s thoughts on the subject: It does take time, and I think you have to do something for yourself. Pick up a new hobby, or a new habit, or something that you really want to do to start healing. You have to be authentic and honest with yourself and know that you deserve more – and be strong enough to ask the questions and to say what you want. Figure out who your tribe is, the people that can support you, and stand there and hold your hand through it. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Kimberly Warner. Kimberly has a podcast called Fearlessly Authentique. She is also a boutique owner, and also owns a candle factory. Here’s how Kimberly describes herself: I’m a mom to two wonderful chil

On this episode Rhonda introduces Nathan Astle, the founder of Relational Money LLC. Rhonda and Nathan talk about financial therapy, the goal of which is to change the way people think, feel, and behave with money. Through several examples and exercises, Nathan shares where and how financial therapy can make that change and increase the person’s wellbeing. According to Nathan, money is emotional. If financial wellness is difficult for you in the process of a divorce there are reasons behind it, and it can be a lot of different things, like your family, or your relationship with your ex-partner. Here are some of his advices: As much as possible give yourself space and allow yourself room for growth and improvement. There are tools and baby steps you can take along the way. As you are learning more about different financial choices you have, learn to, as much as you can, acknowledge and to regulate your own emotions Try to be open and to see a couple of different types of therapists if the first one is not set

On this episode Rhonda talks to Dera Johnsen-Tracy, an Estate Planning Attorney and a partner at Horn & Johnsen SC. Dera law firm, about the importance of Estate planning. Dera’s message for us today is: Getting started on your Estate plan, or even getting a plan in place, gives you a sense of control. You can decide, even if your divorce is not final yet, who is going to make financial decisions for you if you cannot do that for yourself; your healthcare decisions; who is going to plan your funeral… Here are some of Dera’s recommendations: Staff happens. For your own peace of mind, and for those who you leave behind, it is much better to make sure you have a plan in place. You have to make sure your divorce attorney and your estate planning attorney are working together to make sure that you will have the authority to take care of things the way that you want. Take back your power. The best way to do it is to get started, take control of your own assets, take control of your own decisions; it really doe

On this episode Rhonda talks to Rachel O’Connell, founder and CEO of Pinnacle Parent and Divorced Family Coach about the choices that make a difference in life and parenting. Rachel’s message today for our listeners is: You will get through it; you are going to be OK, and you will probably be better than you could even imagine. Here are some of her recommendations: Accept and own the choices you have made, and you’ll be able to grow and move through them and make different choices in the future. Everything starts with the parents. We have to address what’s going on internally. We have to get in touch with our authentic self. Accountability, support and a safe space are important for you as well as for your children. Create the space in your home where your children are experiencing the safety of being able to have conversations with their parent. Heal stands for: H – honoring the space and the place you’re in E – expanding yourself A – affirming your new identity L – live Healing is important. Choose to hon

In this episode Rhonda talks to Jason Jendrach, a CPA and owner of Jendrach Dobogai Lindseth inc., about the importance of having right information regarding finances, especially while going through divorce. Our guest shared some important information about debts, bad tax issues, MSA, innocent spouse, how to get copies from IRS, tax refund splitting, tax table changes and business valuation. Here are some of his recommendations: Do not be afraid to ask questions. Do not hesitate and reach out, it is to your benefit. The more planning and the more you can put in on the front end the better off things are going to be at the back end. With right data you’ll be able to make right decisions. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Jason Jendrach, CPA at Jendrach Accounting & Professional Services LLC. Jason has years of valuable experience as an IRS registered tax preparer, and he assists taxpayers and small businesses with taxes. Website | Facebook | LinkedIn | Email  __________________

In this episode Rhonda talks to Paula Rauenbuehler, an International Coaching Federation Certified Associate Coach, about Emotional intelligence. Paula shared about emotional intelligence assessment, self-awareness, mindset and dealing with emotions in a stressful situation, such as divorce. Emotional intelligence assessment is behavioral in nature – it is about where are you right now, where do you want to go, and what behaviors are needed in order for you to get there. Here are some of her recommendations: Self-awareness is about finding out what is behind the emotion, what caused the reaction. Take time to see what’s really going on. Any life changing experience is emotional and stressful. When in stress, we are in fear-based mindset. Ask yourself – what else might be going on here. It is important for people to use the mindset and awareness to make some decisions and do some discerning of who are they now and who they want to be after all of this. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today

In this episode Rhonda talks to Vicki Vollweiler, the Founder of College Financial Prep, about plans and strategies on saving money on the cost of college when parents are separated or divorced. According to Vicki, it is possible to save money on the cost of college, but it takes some planning and strategizing. She talks about developing a college list, merit and need based scholarships, filling financial aid forms, filling appeals due to separation and divorce, custodial parents, and student loans. Vicki recommends to start developing a college list by high school sophomore/junior year, and by the end of junior year to have a list of 30-40 schools to research. Lot of information about that can be found online, but it is also important to go to college fairs and to talk to the admissions representatives. Contact Information and Other Resources Vicki Vollweiler, Founder of College Financial Prep is a divorced mom of two children who understands the financial complexities of sending a child to college. Her work

In this episode Rhonda talks to Shannon Vick, Personal Trainer and the Owner of Iron Fist Fitness, about fitness and taking care of your body in order to stay healthy and ready for the challenges throughout the stressful period of divorce. Shannon points out that working out and taking care of your body is no longer an option, it is an absolute must, just like eating, drinking water or taking a shower. His recommendations for women are: Find your reason and find out your why – Figure out what you want to do and why you want to do it, and put together a plan that will take you to your goal. Focus on your inner being, focus on doing the things that you want to improve. Take small steps. Focus on a new day, on what you can accomplish on that day – take each day at the time. Shannon gave few tips on how to stay healthy, especially in a stressful period, such as divorce: First thing in the morning - drink water, to upstart your metabolism, Take proteins to maintain your muscles, Take multivitamins to have enoug

In this episode Rhonda talks to Chidima Anusiem, a Best Selling Author and a Divorce Coach, about abusive relationships and how to find true freedom and joy. Chidima shares several tips to get through a divorce You have to know you’ve made the best decision for yourself and your family Stand up for yourself and make your own opinion about yourself Lean into your pain. You’ll find some jewels there. You don’t deserve to be abused. You’re already everything you want to be. Just know you’re originally who you are, and you’re beautiful that way - a diamond in the rough. Maybe you don’t see it right away, but diamond is formed under pressure. Make the best out of a bad situation because divorce is an opportunity for self discovery and loving yourself. Loving yourself is one of the greatest things you could do. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Chidima Anusiem, a Divorce Coach and CEO of Change Heal Inspire (C.H.I.) LLC. And a Best Selling Author. She leverages her 15 years of leadership

In this episode Rhonda talks to Cyrina Talbott, the Owner of The Mindset Transformation Company, about improving the mindset when it comes to false beliefs around money. Cyrina recommends to let go of false beliefs like: Man make the money, women don’t Money is available for other people, but not for me Money is evil Money is a big deal. It reflects our values, status, comfort, and our security. Don’t let these false beliefs stop you from the actions you need to take. What’s the best for me, my future, and my kids? Ask these questions and be “bitchy” about it if needed - regardless of how it affects your ex. Doing what’s right for you is your responsibility, but it’s not your responsibility how it affects other people. If our #1 priority is making everybody happy, it’s not going to be good for us. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Cyrina Talbott, a Rapid Transformational Therapist, getting to the root of issues that hold people back and helping them get their life back. Her journey

In this episode Rhonda talks to Lisa Zeiderman, a Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP. They are discussing some of the less obvious financial issues you should consider when looking at your and your spouse’s financial assets in a divorce. Key takeaways from this conversations are: Staying on course through the litigation process is important. Divorce process is a marathon. Aim for the long run, and make sure to get to the end that works for you and your children. What you say to your therapist is not necessarily private during the child custody dispute. Marriage is a financial partnership, and it should be viewed as such during a divorce. Your job for the next year is to actually engage into divorce. Get all the information necessary to make the proper decision - it is crucial. Focus on taxes and tax return documents. Sometimes the biggest financial pitfalls are with the tax issues that people usually don’t consider. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Lisa Zeiderman, , a Managi

On this episode Rhonda talks to Elise Buie, an Attorney/Guardian ad Litem at Elise Buie Family Law group. Elise shares her story how she overcame obstacles, so the listeners could not only just get through, but to thrive through their divorce. Elise shares advice to women going through a divorce: Don’t be afraid to “dig under the rug” and look at your finances Find an emotionally intelligent attorney who can see your potential You are so much more capable than you allow yourself to believe Elise is empowering and reassuring women that they are capable of thriving after divorce, in every single way: personally, professionally, mentally, and financially. Divorce is a story of adversity, and her strength is helping people find and call upon their strength in times of adversity to transform themselves and their lives into something better. Contact Information and Other Resources Our Guest today was Elise Buie, Founder of Elise Buie Family Law Group, PLLC, a Family Law Attorney, Guardian ad Litem. She’s a passio

In this episode Rhonda talks to Consuela Muñoz, CEO & Founder of Own Your Confidence, about identifying your strengths, so you could see them in action a lot more often. Taking the assessment can give you a boost to your confidence, and using your strengths with purpose can turn the volume down on the self-doubt. Also, it helps you focusing on the things you’re good at, so you can practice and get great at them over time. Consuela shares some advice to women contemplating or going through a divorce: Every event in your life is an opportunity Divorce journey is a great opportunity for women to get reconnected with who they are Once you identify your strengths, you’ll see them in action a lot more often Gallop Poll Strength Finder: The Strengths Finder assessment tool helps identify the areas where you have the greatest potential for building strength. It measures recurring patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior. Reading your strengths talents in black and white is powerful at confirming what you alre

In this episode, Rhonda talks to Marco Munoz, Co-Founder of DComply, about making your post-divorce life simpler with an amazing tool that provides a better process for working with an ex on shared parenting expenses. Marco recommends: To have a process when it comes to finances Stay out of court The biggest challenge around variable expenses is communication followed by administration. DComply App will help you with both of those challenges so you can avoid paying more for expenses than you should. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Marco Munoz, Co-Founder of DComply. Marco is a divorced father that ended his marriage in 2005. From 2011-2016, Marco and his ex-wife relitigated his divorce over “phantom expenses” that his former claimed in order to dramatically increase child support. The experience taught him that family courts are ill equipped to adjudicate these decisions. Divorced parents bring their own stories to court and judges don’t have the time or tools to sort through the

In this episode, Rhonda talks to Seth Nelson, a Managing Partner of Nelson Koster Family Law, about knowing the questions to ask regarding parenting and financial issues women are facing during divorce. A message from Seth to women going through divorce: Breathe - as easy as it sounds, remember to breathe. Realize that this is a legal process and you’re going to get through it Live your life, not your divorce Focus on what you’re getting instead of what you’re losing PEACE stands for:         P - Parenting         E - Equitable distribution         A - Alimony         C - Child Support         E - Everything else Preparing on time and asking the right questions makes divorce process much faster. PEACE provides the subject matter of those questions. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Seth Nelson, a Managing Partner of Nelson Koster Family Law and Mediation. Seth has been practicing law for over 20 years and have focused exclusively on Family Law for over a dozen years. He has been ve

On this episode Rhonda talks to Elizabeth Ann Atkins, a best-selling author, actress, TV host and award-winning journalist. Elizabeth shares her terrible divorce story and how she endured through vicious verbal abuse, to finally forgive herself and her ex, and find peace after 16 years of conflict for the sake of their son. Elizabeth’s message to other women going through a divorce focuses on: Forgiveness Living bigger, better and bolder Find your inner Goddess Use your divorce experience to create the best version of yourself Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Elizabeth Ann Atkins, Emmy award nominated TV host, Bestselling Author and CEO of Two Sisters Writing & Publishing. Her new book is Boss Up, Goddess: Start Living Your F*ing Potential, and she has a YouTube show exploring the contents of the book that aim to empower women. She writes and publishes books and cohosts an Emmy-nominated TV show that focuses on mental health. In her career she has written more than 30 books. E

On this episode, Rhonda talks to Ashley E. Lillesand, a Managing Partner at Lillesand Law LLC, about estate planning women should do right after a divorce. Ashley shares tips on how to get through a divorce and estate planning: It gets better The guardian and money handler for the children can be, but they don’t need to be one and the same person Do not be scared of the process Estate Planning Basics:         - Writing a Will         - Naming Beneficiaries & Guardians         - Financial Power of Attorney         - Health Care Power of Attorney         - Living Will         - Trusts Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Ashley E. Lillesand, a Managing Partner at Lillesand Law LLC. She focuses her practice on Medicaid Planning, Estate & Trust Administration, Guardianship and Probate. Additionally, she receives appointments as a Guardian ad Litem in Milwaukee County for Guardianship and Probate cases. She is a member of the Milwaukee Bar Association and the State Bar of Wisconsin

In this episode, Rhonda welcomes Laura Mael, Director of Talent and People Development at Pareto’s Talent, about the DISC assessment as a tool for determining personality styles. Laura shares several tips on better communication: It will be ok. You will get through this. The most important thing is to be aware of during this time is how you are communicating. Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. Communication is all about energy and the amount of energy it takes to communicate is enormous. DISC stands for:         D - Dominance         I  - Influence         S - Steady         C - Correctness Understanding DISC allows you to determine your personality styles and personality styles of those around you so you could: Understand how people are different Develop confident self-awareness Modify your behavior based on the other person’s style Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Laura Mael, Director of Talent and People Development at Pare